Anyone Have A Sugar Daddy?

MoneyLover · **Posted**: 09-30-2006, 03:52 PM #1

Just wondering who likes to benefit from sugar daddies? Had any really good experiences, and really bad experiences. Would love to hear about any relationships you've had with sugar daddies. I am currently dating a few and seeing where things lead. I'm looking for a daddy that will not only spoil me, take me shopping, traveling, but will actually give me cash. I've found a few good ones on sugardaddyforme.com.

Please PM me with your email and I can refer you as a friend on that sugar daddy site so you can get 7 days free, if you're interested in trying the site out!

Emily · **Posted**: 09-30-2006, 04:12 PM #2

I got too old for that.. It's really a better deal for him than you.

Think about it...he's got a lot of money, so spending a little doesn't really affect him. All you have is yourself.

And you are essentially selling yourself. I don't mean the sex (but often it is, and if it's not, you have to deal with him trying to get it all the time)...but I'm talking about the fact that he can reach you 24/7. He can unload his problems on you and you always have to be there for him. You have to deal with him prying in your personal life and getting upset if (gasp!) you want a real boyfriend. Traveling with a sugar daddy isn't vacation....it's work because you're his muse. And everyone knows it. When you go to a party with a rich, old dude, people will get a kick out of it and ask you a million questions because they know what's up.

It's humilating and degrading and the money he gives you isn't usually that much consider what you'd make if you were working the same amount of time at a club. And then you break up and all you have is some cool shoes and some lame memories to show for it. Although, I admit, I would love to be able to say a guy paid for my tits.

ashley123 · **Posted**: 09-30-2006, 05:03 PM #3

That's so true. I've never been able to do the whole sugar daddy thing, it's just not for me. I agree with Emily 100%

teeth_of_the_hydra · **Posted**: 09-30-2006, 05:53 PM #4

I had a sugar daddy, and I got really bored of it. We didn't have the traditional sugar daddy/baby relationship because he was old, like dessicated, geriatric, essentially crippled old, and kind of a shut-in. It was easy work, but very dull and ultimately quite gross. I just went to his house, put on some stupid costumes that he'd order for me off the internet, and listen to him whine about his kids while he grunted and gave me the pervy eyes and said things like "nice gams". He always gave me cash, and he'd let me keep the stupid costumes. I eventually ended it because he started asking me to help him with his old-man problems, i.e., mix up epsom salt and hot water so he could soak his diabetic feet, rub his lower back where the pin was put in, prepare a hot-water bottle for his neck, bandage the cut on his foot because he was too stiff to reach it. He got VERY insulted when I wanted to wear latex gloves. That was the end of it. Granted, I would have been paid better than the average home nurse, but I wasn't into it. Body stuff isn't my thing.

Katherine · **Posted**: 09-30-2006, 10:18 PM #5

I did. He was a client from when I was a dominatrix. He didn't live in NY. He'd come by a few times a year. We didn't 'session' (S&M- NO SEX!!) when he'd be in town. More escort type deal. He'd bring me to this or that function where there'd be a fancy dinner, or we'd go to a fancy dinner and show. If he had time we'd meet for lunch. We'd talk 2-4 times a month.

I'd usually get slipped a 'gift' of hundreds of dollars. Once he gave me a 1000 dollar gift card to bloomie's in addition.

But, as with teeth of the hydra, it wasn't a traditional rel. It was actually an enjoyable evening that I had to looks foward to every so often.

My ex-best friend had a sugar dady. He paid all her bills for her (rent, car lease, phone, utilities) plus gave her a debit card that he would put 500 a week on. He would stay with her three nights a week at the apartment. They would occasionally go shopping, but nothing high end. Steve madden shoes here and there. A coach bag every few months.

I personally thought she was really stupid about it. She didn't work or do anything. She figured that all her expenses were paid why bother. She blew her 500 a week on her 'actual' broke ass boyfriend, too. So that was that.

We don't talk anymore, but I've since heard that he stopped seeing her and she's had to move back home after not being able to pay for anything.

I couldn't pretend with someone to the degree that the 'traditional' relationship goes. My few times a year, one evening, no sex escort type thing was great for me. I still talk to him, unfortunately he now has a girlfriend who travels everywhere with him. So I suppose he's now a traditional full time sugar dady for her, huh?

mblank · **Posted**: 10-01-2006, 09:02 AM #6

Sugar Daddies are too controling. I agree with Emily, it's better to just get out there and earn the money yourself.

Jo Weldon · **Posted**: 10-01-2006, 09:35 AM #7

I've seen exceptions, but this has been the basic gist: even the ones with a money-spending fetish eventually get resentful (and usually pretty quick). The more accommodating you are, the less they respect you. And, they'll buy you a $500 pair of shoes, but they won't want to give you $100 to go to the dentist.

Needless to say, this isn't how they see themselves at all, so when they make offers, they usually sound genuine and full of sincerity because they believe their own hype.

I believe lots of men have the flip side of the coin when it comes to the "white knight" fantasy. They'd LOVE to be a white knight. But they usually don't really have it in them.

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Originally Posted by MoneyLover

Just wondering who likes to benefit from sugar daddies? Had any really good experiences, and really bad experiences. Would love to hear about any relationships you've had with sugar daddies. I am currently dating a few and seeing where things lead. I'm looking for a daddy that will not only spoil me, take me shopping, traveling, but will actually give me cash. I've found a few good ones on sugardaddyforme.com.

Please PM me with your email and I can refer you as a friend on that sugar daddy site so you can get 7 days free, if you're interested in trying the site out!

Jenny · **Posted**: 10-01-2006, 09:56 AM #8

I don't know - say everything goes according to plan (I did seriously consider this at one point, because I had a very nice offer. I received very valuable advice, telling me, essentially that it would be a much better deal for me overall to do a pay for play) think about it - you are being, in a nutshell, a professional girlfriend. Think for a second about how many hours a day you put into being a girlfriend. It's a lot. You don't think about it because you like your boyfriend/girlfriend and you want to do it, and you enjoy it, etc. But translate that into a job - a job you may enjoy sometimes, but a job. You're giving up your whole life, generally for a not very well defined remuneration (essentially for whatever generosity he feels like dispensing any given week). It is not really such a good deal when you really start dissecting it.

Chrissy68 · **Posted**: 10-01-2006, 11:53 AM #9

i have a sugar daddy, and i play mind games with him in order not to lose his business. (such as "oh (name) i miss you! it's been a while, and i totally was thinking about the last time we were in the VIP, and how you blha blah blah") but the good thing is, he is in florida and i am in philly. so there really is no normal sugar daddy behavior. when he comes into town it's on business and we usually get together for dinner and *conventiently* i have to work right after. so there's no time for any funny biz. and when he comes in i make sure he knows that i cant just sit and chat because im at work and i have to make money there. and if he's not spending it i have to sit with someone else because "i have my mortgage to pay," or "car payment is due monday". the idea that he wont be spending the evening with me will snap him back to stripper customer mode and out of i give you my time on the phone for 5-10 a day for free mode.

also, when i broke my foot and wasn't dancing i "didnt have enough money for bills" and he would send me checks. but this situation is rare. very rare. i have had other sugar daddies and in the end they want sex, so i just tried to make it last until that point.

Bella21 · **Posted**: 10-01-2006, 12:28 PM #10

I have a couple of sugar daddies. I don't have sex with them but it's a pain to keep putting them off. One is much easier to be around than the other. It's exhausting. In order for some "time off" you need to come up with some story (sick, out of town, etc.). On the other hand, it's always nice to know that money's there for you. I've been to that sugardaddy website but... I guess I'm just too paranoid to meet them off the internet. I've met mine at clubs.

laplover69 · **Posted**: 10-01-2006, 12:34 PM #11

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chrissy68

i have a sugar daddy, and i play mind games with him in order not to lose his business. (such as "oh (name) i miss you! it's been a while, and i totally was thinking about the last time we were in the VIP, and how you blha blah blah") but the good thing is, he is in florida and i am in philly. so there really is no normal sugar daddy behavior. when he comes into town it's on business and we usually get together for dinner and *conventiently* i have to work right after. so there's no time for any funny biz. and when he comes in i make sure he knows that i cant just sit and chat because im at work and i have to make money there. and if he's not spending it i have to sit with someone else because "i have my mortgage to pay," or "car payment is due monday". the idea that he wont be spending the evening with me will snap him back to stripper customer mode and out of i give you my time on the phone for 5-10 a day for free mode.

also, when i broke my foot and wasn't dancing i "didnt have enough money for bills" and he would send me checks. but this situation is rare. very rare. i have had other sugar daddies and in the end they want sex, so i just tried to make it last until that point.

Unless a "sugardaddy" has an endless supply of $$$, it is very rare that he won't feel used after a certain point in time UNLESS he is fine just spending platonic time with you and or you are fine with sleeping with him for $$$. Santa Claus only cums along once a year (if you are lucky)! ha.

Paisley · **Posted**: 10-01-2006, 04:15 PM #12

I feel like it is too easy to become "dependent" on a sugar daddy. And if the situation changes it can be difficult to get back into the non-sugar daddy mode of thinking.

**Posted**: 10-01-2006, 06:19 PM #13

Once I was very tempted to do so. But i decided against it. I tend to have an addictive personality, so getting addicted to getting stuff from a sugar daddie would only make me dependent on him. No thanks!

Katrine · **Posted**: 10-01-2006, 09:22 PM #14

I have a prospective sugar daddy. My friend has one and his friend is interested in me. He had a russian girl he "helped" out before she moved, and is looking for another similar arrangement.

Here's the thing, these other girls can maintain such an arrangement because they aren't particularly financially successful and they are also single mothers. Me, I always want to present myself in the best possible light in order to pick up valuable clients. I don't have serious debt, or inability to pay my bills. Those guys want their sugarbabies to play the victim.

Personally, I'd rather have straight-up sex, or give lapdances for immediate cash.

BrainyDancerGirl · **Posted**: 10-01-2006, 09:33 PM #15

I have a "sugar daddy" so to speak, but not really. It is an extremely untraditional relationship.

I am given a pretty decent degree of financial assistance while I am in school. What he gives me combined with what I have left from loans and scholarships enables me to not have to work while in school. I have a certain amount of dependence, that's true. However, that dependence will be short lived. I have several white collar professional job offers for next summer which will pay several grand a week

I have a huge amount of freedom with regard to how often I see him. I see him, MAYBE once or twice a month. And when I go on a trip with him, I virtually always have close to half a day each day to myself to do whatever I want.

However, here's where it's really different - I really truly care about this man and he cares about me. I consider him one of my closest friends. We sleep together, but it isn't a deal breaker. If I am having a hard day or a rough time, he doesn't care if I don't want to have sex. Nor does he even care to talk about sex when we are apart. He's much more interested in how school's going for me and how I'm getting along outside of school. And when it comes to dating - he consistently gives me the following advice, "If you meet someone, and you fall in love, leave all of this, and go for it. That's the kind of thing that matters."

Take away the money and the sex, and I've still got someone who I will be close friends with for a very, very, VERY long time.

But my relationship is by FAR the exception and NOT the rule. Most "sugar daddies" that I know of are like the ones mentioned above.

Tina · **Posted**: 10-02-2006, 10:05 AM #16

There is no set answer to if it is good or bad. Guys are all so different. Some guys like this you can keep around for a long time without sex demands ending the relationship. And others won't last because they want a woman at their beck and call constantly because they feel they are "paying you" to be with them.

MoneyLover · **Posted**: 10-03-2006, 09:18 AM #17

BrainyDancerGirl sounds like u have a nice arrangement. I would like to find a sugardaddy that im actually attracted to, or that can be my potential boyfriend or more. It does happen. I love the movie pretty women.
Until then I still hustle this men, and if ur not attracted, if ur good u can still hustle the men.

Emily · **Posted**: 10-03-2006, 10:45 AM #18

if you're going to model your life around a fictional character, why a hooker?

BrainyDancerGirl · **Posted**: 10-03-2006, 11:20 PM #19

^^Agreed. "Pretty woman" is fantasy, and a bad one at that. He never really accepts her for who she is, and ultimately she is still controlled by his money.

MoneyLover, that is one of the differences with regard to my relationship with this man. It isn't simply an "arrangement." The man doesn't do things for me to get sex from me (cuz let me tell you, due to the distance and our schedules, it does NOT happen that often). He does them because he has come to sincerely care about me as a person and wants to see me do well.

Yes, there are wealthy, generous men out there who are looking for someone special to settle down with. However, marrying a sugar daddy is highly unlikely (considering that most of them are married already). Furthermore, single guys who have the means and desire to be a sugar daddy often aren't the best prospects. One of the main reasons why a single guy wants to be a sugar daddy is so that it can be NO STRINGS, re: he doesn't want a real relationship. His gifts and money pay for the fact that he's not emotionally available. Also, some single guys looking to "take care" of a pretty young woman with their money can be very controlling. They think that because they have "bought" you, that they ultimately "own" you.

Yes, there are men out there like the guy that I have, but they are RARE. I consider myself exceedingly fortunate to have met him.

kikiwiki · **Posted**: 10-06-2006, 02:55 PM #20

My ex boyfriend basically became my "sugar daddy" without me even trying. He was very controlling and still is hard to get back on my feet without his monetary help. There were other men in my life that were sugar daddy-like, but they are only good for a minute. My advice: take advantage of it as long as you DONT give up anything that will make you dependent on them, example: DONT quit your job, DONT have sex with them, or DONT even care for them in any way. Remember they are giving you things to control you. Play their game too. Control them by not giving them everything that they want. They're not going to give you everything you want such as thier heart, honesty, and faithfulness.

BrainyDancerGirl · **Posted**: 10-06-2006, 09:42 PM #21

Honestly Kiwi, if the guy is controlling, then the best route is just to COMPLETELY AVOID HIM AND FORGET ABOUT IT. Dealing with controlling men can lead to very ugly situations. Prior to knowing my friend, I met a lot of men who promised me the world - as long as I forgot about myself and would cater to them...oh, and I couldn't date or have a boyfriend.

To that, I said a big FUCK YOU.

While my "sugar daddy" does help me very much with my finances, I would be perfectly fine without him. I could easily hustle up some money and not just by dancing (part time work in a firm, tutoring, bartending, etc). He's just there to make life easier...not to completely freakin' take care of me.

The best advice that I can give on the subject - if he doesn't care about you and allow you the freedom to be and grow, then FORGET ABOUT IT. Consequently, this means that about 80 to 90% of the men who offer to be your "sugar daddy" will have to be dropped to the wayside.

Lena · **Posted**: 10-06-2006, 09:53 PM #22

No, but I have a shopping bitch. LOL

clelie.cutie · **Posted**: 10-06-2006, 10:07 PM #23

I'm not in the position where I can be a full time "sugar baby" because of school. So as much as I would like to travel, whatever, it's just not reasonable. I've contacted a couple and initially I suppose it sounds like a good deal. But there was this local guy who wanted to see me once a week. But then it turns out that he wanted like 4-5 hours each time and was bitching wearing condoms for oral, so that ended right there. It would have worked out to $200/ hr which to me just isn't worth it.

Then the other dude I started talking to wanted like a night a month, lived 2 hours away, wanted "3 holes" and suggested $200 was a fair price. Are you f*ing kidding me? So yeah, I'd much rather just stick to the taking my clothes off and pretending while we both still have clothes on. Because it's always about sex. And sooner or later (unless you honest-to-god dig the guy) you're going to get the short end of the stick.

FBR · **Posted**: 10-06-2006, 10:57 PM #24

Im pretty content with my sugarbaby. She's in my same socioeconomic class and is hot as hell physically and educationally. When she gets her phd I may become chumpchange at that point but I'll deal with it then.

FBR

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Katrine · **Posted**: 10-07-2006, 01:32 PM #25

My new potential sugardaddy wants to fly me to Mexico in the new few weeks for a vacation. He assumes I work 5 days a week 9-5, I wish! Apparently, from what his former sugarbaby says, he isn't that generous, but he will pay for any time taken off of work to travel. Hmmm....I work on mostly on commissions and consulting fees, so every day could be different. What should I suggest he pay me for missing work? I submitted 5 grand this week, but I don't get all of that (company's cut of course).

Any ideas?

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