View Full Version : Sometimes they say no...
Jenny
10-20-2007, 12:57 PM
Kat - you're still my stripperweb hero. But maybe you need to think about what exactly you're winning by convincing a guy to cheat on his wife. And of course the balance in the rest of the universe when you consider the gratification you get from that "winning" against the pain and betrayal she would (likely) feel. Still my stripperweb hero, but I think your sponsor might have a point.
jhuka
10-20-2007, 01:00 PM
I understand all of this, Katrine. I'm spinning at the tail end of a passionate relationship and even though it is gone I can't seem to let it go, and I keep falling into behavior that threatens to sabotage all my other ambitions...I think it is pretty natural to have this happen: your identity was involved here and you feel that whatever is desperate in you is visible. I'm not sure it is: more likely there were many other complicated reasons why you didn't get the reaction from these various men that you wanted. No matter: Cameron and some of the others are the wise ones here in suggesting that you not fall off the twelve steps, even if you stumble once and a while. This faith in yourself is much more important than the attention of people who--as Farrah says--would not have been helpful to you anyway. Go back to your center and your faith in yourself, and do what is right for yourself.
DylanAngel
10-20-2007, 01:19 PM
Kat, it's a tough position to be in. So much sexiness to give and no outlet for it. Going to work in an office might be great for stablity, but it's hell on the self esteem. I'm in this position everyday.
Is it not possible for you to do a cameo at a club every now and then or find some other outlet for your sexual prowess?
Also, the drinking might be giving you false libidinous thoughts. Maybe when you're lonely, you should go it sober. Easier said than done, I know.
Good luck sweetie and hugs.
Blade
10-20-2007, 01:31 PM
I know, that's what I was saying! Sometimes we women DO have it like guys do. Certainly not as often. So I can empathize with the plight of men. I'm more like a guy in many ways as is. Not physically, just in my personality (very aggressive, etc...)
I need to call my sponser but I don't want her to be dissapointed with me. She already let me go once over a year ago when I was only half-assedly trying to stop drinking. I was under the impression that my issue was drugs. But its booze too, for sure.
I am such a crappy drunk. Last night I was crying in a bar, and I have NO idea why!
Oh, and in the end, I did get the married boy to respond to me. I like to win. We didn't do anything though, we just grabbed each other for a minute, not even making out.
Then I got the convention lesbian to respond, as per the boy's challenge the previous night. So I got what I wanted, which is stupid fucking sexual attention. Its pathetic how I play this game with ppl. Fortunately, no one got hurt, all just flirtation. This is why I was such a great stripper, I am so persistent! :-\
And I fooled around with a SINGLE boy from Connecticut. No sex though, no condoms. Argh!!!!Well there's a married boy from Connecticut in Arizona waiting on ya, lol.
If you're having problems with recovery pm and i'll give ya my number so you have someone other than a sponsor to call.I've been down the backslide road and I know what it's like to beat yourself up about slipping.
dmwatts
10-20-2007, 02:05 PM
To all you fucking douchebag pathetic mens out there.
Guess what?
3 men said no to me? Well, none of them said no. But their overwhelming indication was NO!
To THESE tits!
Seriously, I'm going gay. I feel like a rejected piece of shit. No matter who you are, others can smell the desperation on you......
i just want to know: what would you have done if I had said yes?
lizlizliz
10-20-2007, 02:28 PM
erm...
DylanAngel
10-20-2007, 04:29 PM
i just want to know: what would you have done if I had said yes?
Nice first post.::)
And totally uncalled for. And not funny. And just douchey.>:(
lwtex52
10-20-2007, 04:34 PM
Katrine, you just point 'em out to me, and I'll hire a couple of wranglers from Fort Worth to hogtie their sorry asses and leave them outside a redneck bar wearing nothing but a jock strap and a t-shirt that says "John Wayne was Gay!"
Katrine
10-20-2007, 04:58 PM
So I found out why I was crying at the bar last night? Some local douche says this to me in front of ALL of my colleagues from around the country:
"You look like a girl who loves it in the ass."
Wow.
NOT the place to call me out like that, it was very cruel and hurtful the way he said it. And I had blocked it out until someone reminded me. My colleauge didn't even want to tell me what that guy said, but I got it out of him.
I mean, I do love it in the ass, but he stated it in a way that effectively said, "you're a piece of crap."
Thanks arseholes. :(
Well fuck that. When I come out to Austin in the near future, just point him out.
Don't forget who it was and you KNOW I will do something to him. Revenge is fun dear.
And we still love you and don't think you're crap.
Bleh still in minn? Well, we'll get there some day too. Don't forget who it was. Write that shit down.
lwtex52
10-20-2007, 05:34 PM
No doubt about it....he's another graduate of the Mike Tyson School of Charm.
Bridgette
10-20-2007, 05:38 PM
Shouldn't we be applauding these guys for not cheating on their partners?
What would this thread have read if they had said yes and then cheated with Katrine behind a significant other's back?
I gotta agree. Kat hun, you're going for the wrong guys. It's a good thing when the wrong guys reject you - as Farrah says it's protection for you ;D
jaizaine
10-21-2007, 04:27 AM
^^^
yep. I dont know why nearly everyone on here is calling the guys idiots or douches. I mean they remained faithful to their partners. So what if they were presented by a hot woman, there are plenty of hot women around and cheating on your partner just coz someone is physically attractive is not cool.
Katrine, I hope you're feeling better.;)
xdamage
10-21-2007, 03:58 PM
Guys say no for various reasons including (you don't have to like them all, and this list is not all inclusive):
1.) On rare occasion, we actually do consider the possibility that we'd rather take a risk on a long term relationship vs short-term get it on session. Short term boobies/sex is not necessarily the best path to a long term bond.
2.) Some women appear to be insane.
3.) Some women come across like one way or another, it's going to end badly for the guy (we can pick up on this vibe even if we can't vocalize it). Coming across badly could be as simple as no matter what, she is going to be un-satisfied.
4.) There are simply too many good looking women out there, and I fear guys are increasingly comparing women they meet with porn-star, air-brushed, expectations that few (although some can) real women can live up to.
5.) Some guys have GFs/SOs and want to do the right (cough) thing.
6.) Some times guys just want to hang with the guys and not let women and women chasing come between them.
Katrine
10-21-2007, 05:10 PM
2.) Some women appear to be insane.
I think that might have been a strong contributor. I'm back in Texas now and just want to put the last few days behind me. Apart from the social aspects, it was a good time and very educational.
I'm making peace with my colleague. We have to cross paths regularly and I just want to keep positive vibes between us.
Thank you for your support.
xdamage
10-22-2007, 04:00 AM
Katrine,
It's also possible that the guys are gay. Nothing wrong with that, but it's not always obvious. Some gay men keep it fairly well hidden.
Ferret
10-22-2007, 04:59 AM
Kat, you may not be getting sexed up but at least you are enjoyed here in the forum. I can't offer any solution but I find, and I assume others feel the same way, that I want you to be happy living a life of having magical cats and no booze again.
Katrine
10-22-2007, 12:54 PM
Katrine,
It's also possible that the guys are gay. Nothing wrong with that, but it's not always obvious. Some gay men keep it fairly well hidden.
Not gay. Married. Both were wearing their rings a few days later. No big deal, I whipped their asses at dodge ball on the last night.
I have Costcoboy coming over for sexing later. And I'm going to see Gogol Bordello tonight.
If Eugene would have me, I swear to god and guardians above I will NEVER EVER EVER complain about lack of cock again!
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