View Full Version : Am I really that boring?
RoseLeigh
11-01-2007, 04:59 PM
Astrology isn't scientific, and it isn't reliable, but in my case it's spot on.
Libras need balance. Spending hours on end with boring, superficial people trying to impress you with banal small talk means you need quiet time away from superficial bullshit. Like with a great book, or doing something creative, for instance.
Exaaactly. Libra or not, you need downtime Cally. You're not there to entertain other girls! They need to learn to book with someone they know, or deal, because I'd imagine at least 50% of the time they're with someone 'old and boring'. ;)
lestat1
11-01-2007, 10:17 PM
I found the Myers-Briggs test to be freakishly accurate for me, as did my friends. I'm an INTJ.
Djoser
11-02-2007, 02:02 AM
I've notice bored people are often boring.
Verily, it is so--there are few things more boring than someone who is bored.
Unless, that is, you consider those individuals who insist on prattling on endlessly about incredibly boring topics, even when their audience has indicated a singular lack of enthusiasm (or perhaps even mild irritation) at the endless discourse on these subjects, which are neither impressive, inspiring, or remotely interesting to the audience.
Feedback such as glancing at the clock, stretching, yawning, rolling of the eyes, leaping up suddenly and pretending to have to call your lawyer--all of it useless. You simply must hear yet another tiresome, lengthy description of the last thing in the world you care about.
These type of people make me very sleepy with amazing rapidity, which could be useful if I was suffering from insomnia, maybe. But I'd rather read a good book, anyday.
But this entire thread is becoming tiresome. I find myself getting increasingly sluggish as I type these insipid, trite, dull observations.
Cally herself might be moved to monumental indifference and lethargy, while reading about what kind of people bore us, or why we aren't boring while everyone else is.
Callyish
11-02-2007, 02:08 AM
*blinks and pries eyes back open*
This thread is still going? LoL
Djoser
11-02-2007, 02:13 AM
Yeah, and it's your fault, LOL!
Moments later--how absurd. Of course it's not your fault. This thread has taken on a tedious and somnolent life of its own
Callyish
11-02-2007, 02:25 AM
LoL I have to say it was really interesting with all the theories n stuff...
Djoser
11-02-2007, 02:28 AM
So you are waking up and are suddenly feeling vivacious, energetic, and charismatic? Give that girl that was bitching about you a snort of this shit, maybe she'll catch a buzz off it.
Callyish
11-02-2007, 02:30 AM
I think she would be too dumb to understand lol.
Djoser
11-02-2007, 02:35 AM
What if intelligence and/or the ability to command the attention of any audience, anywhere, could be synthesized and made into a consumable product? A drug, of course.
Would it be better than blow? More expensive than extacy? More addictive than crack?
Callyish
11-02-2007, 02:37 AM
:rotfl: Come on we're talking about a dumb stripper.... she wouldn't be able to understand the concept of intelligence in a pill... unless its a pill we can slip into peoples drinks... hmm...
Djoser
11-02-2007, 02:43 AM
Listen, much as I respect your opinion, if you offered the kind of girl I think she is a phenomenal, brand new drug that had an amazing effect and would make people want to listen to her for hours, she would be putty in your hands. You might want to tone down the 'intelligence' bit, though--that scares some people.
Callyish
11-02-2007, 02:47 AM
LoL very true Djoser!!! I really like that idea! Hmm... now to make said pill... We need cyanide in it for sure... just a little bit for that extra kick ;)
Djoser
11-02-2007, 02:59 AM
What the fuck was it they gave Rasputin, trying to kill him with enough to take out a dozen ordinary men? All it did was make him high...
lgrant98001
11-02-2007, 08:31 AM
I don't see any excitement in hanging around in a loud bar with people hitting on you. The bar scene really bores me and irritates me.
My girlfriend always liked going to gay bars. She says she liked them because she could dance, and have fun with the gay guys, without having guys hitting on her. [The dancing part might not be so interesting to you, since you dance for a living.]
She said she went to a straight bar with a friend, and was appalled by all the guys the had to peel off her. She said she had forgotten how bad straight bars were.
There is another thing to consider with regard to the party girls who say you are boring. Alcoholics, or people with other addictions, will try to get you to do what they are doing. I think this is in part to justify what they are doing. If you are not getting drunk on your ass every night like they are, you are a constant reminder to them that they are addicted and you are not. If they can bring you over to their side, then you will be like them and not a reminder of their problem.
A less sinister way of looking at it is that perhaps all they know how to do is party, and that is the only way they can relate to people.
And remember, boring is relative. For example, I find die-hard sports fans boring. And they find me boring, too.
In any case, from what I've seen on SW, you're not boring.
Be well...
Lynn
Joplin
11-02-2007, 09:14 AM
I'm 18 and am just like you. Except I will admit I don't read, Id rather just zone out (usually planning something like finances or scedual, I'm a dork) or just look at Mags. I was actually surprised I didn't like the clubs because I had always been really into dancing but the loud music and people usually trying too hard...bleh not my idea of a fun time.
That why i like stripping, i get to fulfill my desire to dance and the money makes up for having to be social :)
Jessica Lords
11-02-2007, 11:49 AM
Cally I would love to work with you sometime!! Maybe we could start a book club for strippers!!!LOL
Callyish
11-02-2007, 12:48 PM
Cally I would love to work with you sometime!! Maybe we could start a book club for strippers!!!LOL
Ahaha sweet!! Stripper book club would kick ass! LoL.
Hmm I swore I would never return to Edmonton but id do Nisku with you :D
KatGrrl
11-02-2007, 06:34 PM
I imagine you are probably more 'sensible' than most girls (& strippers!) your age, but sensible does not equal boring. I wish i was more sensible!
Lysondra
11-02-2007, 06:45 PM
You kidding, I spent my vacation either boringly bugging your away message, reading a book about an 11 year old prostitute (A Piece of Cake - so good!) and watching the last season of 6 feet under. I got two gigs of music during a big download and just CHILLED. I only went out to eat and that was it. Everyone thinks I'm so boring. It's okay, because I usually think they're just dumb. ;)
Bridgette
11-02-2007, 07:23 PM
I love how people make so many assumptions about others just because they like to do things you don't. People who like to party are mostly just more SOCIAL than those who don't. It doesn't mean all party people are idiots with drug and emotional problems - it means they're more extroverted. Kinda like strippers generally have a few personality traits in common but it's not that we're all crackwhores ::)
Get over yourselves.
I predict five responses will be overturned because of the above post.
Sheeperweb
Callyish
11-02-2007, 07:32 PM
I love how people make so many assumptions about others just because they like to do things you don't. People who like to party are mostly just more SOCIAL than those who don't. It doesn't mean all party people are idiots with drug and emotional problems - it means they're more extroverted. Kinda like strippers generally have a few personality traits in common but it's not that we're all crackwhores ::)
Get over yourselves.
I didn't see where anyone was saying that there is anything wrong with people who like to party.
All that was said is they're more social and extroverted.
Oh wait sorry I guess I did say I don't understand how girls can do it. ::)
Callyish
11-02-2007, 07:36 PM
You know this fucking pisses me off.
We finally had a thread where there were different opinions that didn't turn into a flame fest then you came in Bridgette and started getting snotty and bitchy about it.
Your one to talk when it comes to telling people to get over themselves.
Sorry not everyone is made of money, sorry some of us enjoy staying at home and don't really understand the thrill of blowing our money on alcohol and drugs.
People are different, not everyone is the same.
I do have to add. I like you Bridgette I really do. Just sometimes you damn well rub off the wrong way :rotfl:
Edited again because Kat made a valid point. I was not stating that I think all extroverted people spend their money on drugs and alcohol lol. I was just using it as an example because thats where I was coming from when I made this thread. As it was dancers getting frustrated with me because I wouldn't go out drinking and shit with them.
Okay im done editing and adding lol. I just didn't want to offend anyone *sigh*
xdamage
11-02-2007, 08:24 PM
You know this fucking pisses me off.
I kind of feared this thread was going to turn into this...
Cally, and DJoser... this is why I posted about the difference between Introverted vs Extroverted personalities. Yes, I know, it's boring as hell, it's not about nothing, or trying to get some, or emotional, but ... nevertheless, our society places a lot of emphasis on extroverted people (not all societies do) and often, introverted people, of which Cally might be such a type, end up feeling like they are boring.... except....
They are not... and what they need is some re-assurance, that it is OKAY to be introverted. Okay to like some down time. Okay to like being in a one on one situation vs being in a large group. Not only is it OKAY, but it's entirely normal, healthy, and necessary that some people are so.
My point was, those of you who are introverted, there is no shame, and in fact it's a wonderful AWESOME personality trait. But then likewise so is Extroversion. In our society one is valued more then the other, but in other societies, Introversion is valued more. There is no absolute right or wrong... you know you, and be who you are, and if anyone doesn't like it.. then they should F-off.
Callyish
11-02-2007, 08:58 PM
Oh xdamage I found what you said to be rather interesting actually.
Im just trying to figure out where Bridgette is getting the idea that we're flaming people who are extroverted. All I said is I can't understand how they can do it. It doesn't mean I have anything against people who are extroverted, I just don't understand them. As they wouldn't always understand someone who is introverted.
This thread was going great until someone took it out of hand.
Its stupid shit like this that is making me start to really grow a distaste for SW.
I'm an extrovert, but it doesn't mean I like to party, party, party nonstop. I go through my phases, of course...and it also depends on where I am and the people I'm with. Maybe in Vegas things would be different for me, but I really think I would tire very quickly from that lifestyle... and trust me... I've done some pretty HARD partying in my years! I get paid to party now. On my downtime I want to chill, relax, surf the net, watch movies, and BE BY MYSELF! I'm sure my "party-hard" phase will come back, though-- it always does. http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/images/icons/icon10.gif
Triton
11-02-2007, 09:22 PM
I'm a recovering addict/alcoholic and a very introverted person.When I was out doing whatever would I have thought someone who wasn't doing or didn't want to do what I was doing boring?Yeah in that environment but that doesn't mean they were boring people.When I was in a bar,whether it was as a customer or working did I want to be around those people?Not really but that didn't mean I didn't like them,or they made me feel bad about what I was doing we were just on different levels.I had a bass player that could be at a bar for hours and have 1 maybe 2 beers the whole time and swore he had just as good a time as I did and I was always jealous of that.He didn't need to drink or do whatever to have fun,he was very estraverted and comfortable in his own skin.......and unlike me he wasn't hung over the next day and remembered the nite before.I understand wanting to get along with the people you work with but if it doesn't bother you than it's their problem and it doesn't mean you're a boring person.Since I've been in recovery I've developed diff interests and I now find bars and people that party alot boring and they'd find me boring......in that enviro.That doesn't mean I think they're bad people we just have different interests.
lestat1
11-03-2007, 12:43 AM
Can I get an Al Bundy-esque: "whoooooah Introverted People!"
scarlett_vancouver
11-03-2007, 02:22 AM
My girlfriend always liked going to gay bars. She says she liked them because she could dance, and have fun with the gay guys, without having guys hitting on her. [The dancing part might not be so interesting to you, since you dance for a living.]
I don't think I know a dancer who doesn't love to dance! And yes to gay bars, they rock. Cally, we're going to Celebrities (http://www.celebritiesnightclub.com/)when you're in town. Tell the boy. It's happening. :D
Callyish
11-03-2007, 02:24 AM
LoL no way in hell I could get the boy to go to a gay bar but i'll go with you for sure!! I don't like to dance though i'll just kind of hide in the corner sipping on my soda since I don't drink ::)
scarlett_vancouver
11-03-2007, 02:28 AM
You will dance
Callyish
11-03-2007, 02:33 AM
You will dance
Bwahaha good luck getting me to dance. Many have tried.. many have failed lol.
Corgan
11-03-2007, 02:59 AM
^ from what i understand that's one of the best clubs in van.
i'm not a clubber so i didn't go. but i hope yall have fun!
Djoser
11-03-2007, 04:11 AM
The best dance club in Austin was a gay bar, except on weekends there were probably more straight people there than not. They played the best music, that's why my girlfriend and I went there to dance. No one ever hit on me that I remember, except one hot girl when I was there by myself one night, but it's been a few years.
You should dance, Cally, you might like it.
I am an extreme extrovert, but I also love to read and engage in activities such as art which can be done quote comfortably in complete isolation (though it is a lot of fun to paint with other people!).
Ironically enough, I got into stripclub DJing to get away from my drawing table when I was doing shopping center design and architectural illustration. It drove me batshit trying to draw for hours on end, even with the music cranked up at top volume.
Now I tend to become a temporary and extreme introvert when I am off, except by the second day I am usually ready for a drink and/or a bit of weed in a social setting.
I see where B is coming from, though I don't recall opening myself up to criticism in that regard. Maybe I did, I am too tired from work and lazy from the wine to go check. God knows I've probably done as many drugs as almost anyone in this forum, and no doubt I will do some more, too. But I stand by my assertion that Cally isn't boring because she doesn't want to do the same drugs at the same time as the dancer that was bitching about her.
B is fun to be around, and challenging as well, the kind of person I prefer, even if we occasionally butt heads. I will never forget the big argument we had way the hell back about the dancer I posted about fucking, LOL!
Callyish
11-03-2007, 04:27 AM
Oh I agree Bridgett is a totally fun person to be around and she is the total definition of extrovert lol. Hell she managed to pull me out of my shell in Phoenix without even trying to lol. Being around her is a total natural high. She just radiates energy and personality. I may not always agree with her and her ways but I don't hold that against her.
Now i've done drugs(nothing really heavy but i've done them) and I had my drinking phase where I was pretty much an alcoholic so I have no right to judge anyone for any of that. Which is why I got really offended by her post.
I really am just not an outgoing person in the party way. I would rather hide in my room and be anti social lol. I also don't like people in my space.
Anyway I think this topic has been beaten to death from every angle now lol.
alenadowns
11-03-2007, 08:20 AM
Cally...you are far from boring!! You lived in my house periodically for a year!
You are COMPLETELY capable of being an out of control extrovert.....maybe that is why you choose not to walk that path again! You did learn!
Celebrities ROCKS!!! I love that bar! Wish I could come with you guys!
I am an Aries...extroverted as they come...never partied...love my weed, occasionally drank..but never went out after work.
I had responsibilities over and above my work..If I partied...no chance of taking care of the responsibilities! That was my opinion!
Other people's opinions of you really dont matter....now do they? All that matters is that you are happy and feel like you are fulfilling your life! You do your job the best you can...make your money....and GET OUT!
If you partied..wasted your money...cause it's NOT free...you are not succeeding in your goal...to get ahead in life!
It is all about priorities, and personal choices! I know you have yours! :)
Luv Ya......and Miss Ya Too!
DylanAngel
11-03-2007, 11:31 AM
Definitely not boring; just different priorities is all.
Those girls should've seen you being chased out of a NYC Firehouse after working their pole or the pic of us flashing on a NYC street.
That would shut their dumb asses right up!
Katrine
11-03-2007, 11:54 AM
The best dance club in Austin was a gay bar, except on weekends there were probably more straight people there than not. They played the best music, that's why my girlfriend and I went there to dance. No one ever hit on me that I remember, except one hot girl when I was there by myself one night, but it's been a few years.
Aaaaah, Oilcan's. Its pretty much the only gay bar left on 4th st. The yuppies have taken over. But there's also Charlies and the "Chain Crank". Or is it "Chain Yank"? Oh, I got it, "Chain Drive!" Good place to pick up rectal herpes. :O
Bridgette
11-03-2007, 01:18 PM
Well Cally my post wasn't really directed at you but if my comments pissed you off that much, clearly I hit a nerve.
Anyway I was talking about the general implication (or outright statements) that people who like to party are somehow less mature, emotionally stable, etc than those who don't. Such as:
The funny thing is, I listen to these girls who party all the time and hit the bars every other night, and THEY seem boring to me! Try having a conversation that goes beyond "What did you do/snort/smoke this weekend?" with them....it' gets b oring pretty fast.
Because EVERYONE who likes to party is a stupid crackhead.
Bingo!
I spent a week at a marketing conference around a group of very loud, type-a personalities, and honestly I found them to be boring as hell, even though they seemed to entertain each other and themselves. What works for them doesn't work for me and vice-versa. On other hand, an intimate talk and sharing a bottle of wine with a kindred spirit rejuvenated me, and the conversation was far more exciting to me because we talked about things that really mattered to us vs just random ass stories and jokes.
Like, extroverts don't have intelligent or meaningful conversations. Ever. We only have our random ass stories and jokes.
I imagine you are probably more 'sensible' than most girls (& strippers!) your age, but sensible does not equal boring. I wish i was more sensible!
So liking to party (drugs/booze aside) is equal to NOT being sensible? Sure. Ok.
Like seriously your at work all night with drunk assholes groping and fondling you and listening to loud annoying music.. then go out and do it for fun as well? How is that fun when you can go to work and get paid for it? As if we'd really let a bunch of drunk assholes grope us just for fun ::) That's quite a silly assumption.
And then there's this little gem:
There is another thing to consider with regard to the party girls who say you are boring. Alcoholics, or people with other addictions, will try to get you to do what they are doing. I think this is in part to justify what they are doing. If you are not getting drunk on your ass every night like they are, you are a constant reminder to them that they are addicted and you are not. If they can bring you over to their side, then you will be like them and not a reminder of their problem.
A less sinister way of looking at it is that perhaps all they know how to do is party, and that is the only way they can relate to people. Yeah. All people who like to party are drug-addicted jerkoffs.
THIS is the kind of stuff I was referring to when I said "get over yourselves". Only one who got upset by it, apparently, was Cally. Excuse me for daring to post MY opinion in YOUR thread. ugh
Callyish
11-03-2007, 01:25 PM
Well Cally my post wasn't really directed at you but if my comments pissed you off that much, clearly I hit a nerve.
Anyway I was talking about the general implication (or outright statements) that people who like to party are somehow less mature, emotionally stable, etc than those who don't. Such as:
As if we'd really let a bunch of drunk assholes grope us just for fun ::) That's quite a silly assumption.
You hit a nerve because it clearly felt like you were attacking me or anyone else who doesn't like to party.
As for the comment about gropping. My personal experiences going to clubs(and I did it every damn night for 2 years before I started dancing) have been that you are constantly swatting off drunk assholes who are hitting on you and trying to grope you. Obviously some people enjoy that, but personally I do not and I have a hard time understanding how people can enjoy that.
Bridgette
11-03-2007, 01:35 PM
You hit a nerve because it clearly felt like you were attacking me or anyone else who doesn't like to party.Nope. That was just YOUR very foggy assumption. I seriously have no idea where you got that idea unless you're that annoyed at the fact I had something besides "of COURSE you're not boring" to say. The entire thread was basically dedicated to how Cally is un-boring and how extroverts are so superficial etc.
My point was that yall are negatively stereotyping extroverts, partyers the same way society negatively stereotypes strippers. Seems a lil silly huh?
Callyish
11-03-2007, 01:40 PM
LoL okay so maybe im just irritated as fuck because of this girl i've been with this week lol. Im over sensitive and over emotional damnit!! I need to get out of this town!!
Okay anyway I am sorry if it seemed like I was trying to negatively stereotype extroverts. Its not something I meant to do, so if I did I am sorry.
ExoticEngineer
11-03-2007, 01:51 PM
Okie dokie....so I guess my first post wasn't very clear. No problem. I was under the impression that we were talking about Cally's FIRST post, regarding "partying"(NOTE: partying in the context of someone who is using drugs to enahnce the ocassion), not JUST going out and having a good time. Really....would I assume that every girl who likes to go out on a weekend and have a good time is a crack head? NO, I wouldn't. Because that would be stupid.
I was talking baout the girls who "party" as in use their drugs and drinking as the crux of their weekend. Simple enough.
And yes, I do get bored talking to girls about what they did to get high last weekend, especially when it is the same conversation I've had with them over and over. It's not my thing, soI have no interest in it. I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling that way.
But I am pretty damn sure I never said that girls who go out and party are stupid crackheads. Double checking, yep, pretty sure.
Bridgette
11-03-2007, 02:02 PM
^EE, it was just an example among several to point out the way the tone of the thread was going. I am quite sure you understand the difference between people who party and people who "party" but everyone in the thread was talking as if they're all the same. There was also the side implication that extroverts are basically just superficial shitheads. I only quoted some examples to explain with certainty to Cally that I was not personally attacking her with my comments because apparently my first explanation was not good enough.
And hell yeah I like to party. But I don't "party" and I would be flatout shocked if anyone thinks I am either superficial, stupid, immature, insecure or a crackhead. LOL! And what some of you seem to be missing is that extroverts DO have and enjoy meaningful conversations in one on one settings - they just have fun telling random ass stories and jokes in groups too :P
Once again Cally, my comments were sent out IN GENERAL to the thread, not to you or anyone specific. The tone of the whole thread.
Gays bars are good for certain kinds of dancing.
I like dedicated house or techno clubs, or hip hop clubs that have real djs instead of the top 40 on autoplay.
Some girls were in Heat here yesterday wearing gladiator like sandals and they looked like centurions themselves. not cute.
I do believe flames were added at specific people, myself included, such a the whole "people keep talking about the same thing despite obvious discontent of the listeners" bla bla bla. Djoser has been making it very clearly in the recent threads he has posted in he is tired of hearing males brag about women, or whatever the fuck. MAN UP NIGGA.
Why does art appreciation or creation have to be an introverted activity? Extroverted does not equal party either. It just means outgoing. I'm outgoing in a cafeteria or a night club.
Don't confuse extroverted with out of control party animals going "woooooo!" all the time. Those people are usually introverts who are drinking so now their inhibitions are gone.
The main problem with this thread was the block of posts trying to equate introverted with "deep" and "sophisticated" but that quickly flip-flopped,as I predicted, once Bridgette starting posting because people are nut riders.
It's possible to go to a night club and not get groped. Some clubs are worse than others, for sure.
lgrant98001
11-03-2007, 02:26 PM
On a slightly different note, did I miss the post where you reveal the story behind your sig block picture, and how you happened to be dancing in a trash can? Cool picture, in any case.
Callyish
11-03-2007, 02:31 PM
Ahaha its a feature show. My pussy cat show involves a trash can and melted ice cream heh.
Search Miss Nude Quebec in pic post and all the pictures are there lol.
DJ Maimed
11-03-2007, 03:35 PM
Considering how many E-shots and interweb-Scoobysnacks we've shared in the wee hours....I couldn't call you boring. Now I can say you aren't as immature and dramatic as;
MAN UP NIGGA.
Clearly such a being such a world renowned drama queen as this;
just doesn't seem to interest you and thats fine by me!!
Bridgette
11-03-2007, 04:00 PM
WTF is a nut rider??? LOL
TheSexKitten
11-03-2007, 04:01 PM
WTF is a nut rider??? LOL
your mom