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Vyanka
01-09-2008, 11:33 AM
I don't want to date for a long ass time. I just broke up with someone who I loved very much about two months ago, and that shit hurts...

So in the mean time i'll just flirt here and there, that's it. I don't want to fuck anyone either, at the moment.... I need to get on BC pills to kill my libido a little bit. lol.

TigersMilk
01-09-2008, 11:50 AM
I really don't date STILL because I'm crazy. *nervous laugh*

anomar
01-09-2008, 11:24 PM
I think I'm going to meet up with this guy I found on craigslist. The only problem is that he implied in this email that he doesn't have a car. That can't be a good sign, since he lives all the way out in the sticks.

Aaah, I suck at dating... even though we've been having an awesome email conversation and he looks cute in his pictures, I'm so sure I'm going to fuck it up. Sigh! I'm hella nervous about this. *thinks* Actually, I've done this sort of thing before, but not in... years! And now I'm really cool! Crap!

TheTempest
01-10-2008, 04:54 PM
I've been trying a few methods of dating for a while. I am just getting out of two back to back relationships, one that lasted three years and the other that lasted one. Both of them were really mentally, emotionally and financially draining so I'm taking some "me" time.

Lately I've been meeting people through collarme.com, friends, out at the bar and just any way I can. I keep things pretty casual for the most part but at the same time I'm getting bored. I'm tired of dressing up, putting my make up on and going out to spend a few hours with someone who I'm just not all that crazy about.

Who knows, maybe someone will come along and change my mind but there are so few people that I feel like I'm willing to go out of my way to spend time with nowadays. I just prefer to be alone half the time.

I think part of that has to do with being a dancer though (at least for me). I spend so much time being sexy and attractive that I just don't feel like putting forth the effort outside the club.

GoldCoastGirl
01-10-2008, 06:30 PM
I'm being a 'man' about all of this... yeah I still have my moments where I am lonely, where I want that special someone to meet me at the airport after one of my work trips, have someone "miss" me, have someone say to me "I love and adore you Vanessa", where I have someone to call "boyfriend".... yet... you know what?

I have found keeping MYSELF busy doing things I WANT TO DO is helping heaps with keeping my loneliness at bay. Working at the shelter is one of the best things I ever did for myself... spending that time around the animals as well as people who adore animals as much as me... what loneliness?

The Fireman is purely a fuck. I call him up and when our schedules match.. have some fun. Sometimes we can have some decent time to have some fun ... other times it is just a quickie... regardless he serves his purpose well. We get along however I realised a long time ago I would never actually want to DATE him.. he's great for a fuck that is all.

As for the Policeman. We actually didn't have sex until just recently... we had been frisky and everything however no actual sex. It took three months before we finally did the deed. I'm not going to get serious with him for a good legitimate reason. I'm having fun. He treats me well, I feel comfortable around him however I do not love him. I fancy him, I like him, however no love. I'm just enjoying it for what it is.. and nothing more.

I don't know. I would so love a "boyfriend" and someone who doesn't mind me calling him my boyfriend... yet.. ultimately... whatever... still plenty of time for that... so I busy myself with my life until that time.

I know I'm worthy of love.................... yet I'm also worthy of a sex life. So whilst I go looking for something that gives me both love and lust... I give myself love and fulfil my lust with The Fireman and The Policeman.

anomar
01-10-2008, 07:53 PM
^^Nice; bagged yourself an astronaut yet? :)

GoldCoastGirl
01-11-2008, 02:56 AM
No :( I'm working on getting a Paramedic if at all possible then I will do the armed forces ... done Army... just need Navy and Air ... hahaha! ;D

Hey, why the hell should the men have all the bloody fun?!

(oh.. and the Paramedic, Navy and Air do NOT have to be male... hehehe :devil: )

TheTempest
01-11-2008, 01:14 PM
No :( I'm working on getting a Paramedic if at all possible then I will do the armed forces ... done Army... just need Navy and Air ... hahaha! ;D

Hey, why the hell should the men have all the bloody fun?!

(oh.. and the Paramedic, Navy and Air do NOT have to be male... hehehe :devil: )

Been there and done that with the Navy and the Army. My advice - they're all pretty damn crazy. My ex-husband was Navy and he read me off some of the incident reports from the ship. It wasn't too reassuring.

Army boy was sent to Iraq and started telling me he loved me and would kill himself if I didn't date him. Yeesh.

Maybe I just attract nutjobs though. :(

GoldCoastGirl
01-11-2008, 10:40 PM
Well, I'm not necessarily want something on going with any of them... just one great night stand is all I'm asking for and have done with at least an Army guy. He's involved in a relationship now anyway.. so it was just a great one night stand as such, nothing more. We are still good mates.

Well, cops can be pretty crazy as well from what Pat was telling me. Pat's not crazy (hopefully).

Let's just say I'm in a stage of my life where I feel pretty good about myself... I have friendship from other people so I don't need that from the opposite sex as such.. so I use the men just as much as they use us at times... why the hell not? It isn't hurting me .. I am having fun with it.

madmaxine
01-11-2008, 11:00 PM
Let's just say I'm in a stage of my life where I feel pretty good about myself... I have friendship from other people so I don't need that from the opposite sex as such.. so I use the men just as much as they use us at times... why the hell not? It isn't hurting me .. I am having fun with it.


Word, bird!

& I'd bet you money that as soon as you get comfortable with your freedom, you will have smitten suitors...It happened to me. The Law of Attraction works backwards for me.

GoldCoastGirl
01-11-2008, 11:09 PM
& I'd bet you money that as soon as you get comfortable with your freedom, you will have smitten suitors...It happened to me. The Law of Attraction works backwards for me.

I don't think it is working backwards. It is more like it is working like it has always worked in a way........... aren't we all some way attracted to that which we can't have ?? Thus if we appear like we don't NEED a man.. that we are fulfilled enough as it is... then we appear "taken" or at least "out of their league"... thus a challenge... I don't know.

Let's just say that I still have moments of loneliness just not as much anymore. I've found what seems to work for me.

Mily
01-11-2008, 11:12 PM
I still feel the same as my original answer, LOL.

madmaxine
01-11-2008, 11:19 PM
I don't think it is working backwards. It is more like it is working like it has always worked in a way........... aren't we all some way attracted to that which we can't have ?? Thus if we appear like we don't NEED a man.. that we are fulfilled enough as it is... then we appear "taken" or at least "out of their league"... thus a challenge... I don't know.

I've had many guys say, "Why do you wanna be with ME?" Which is really self-defeating for them. (My current asked me if he was "fucked up" because I claimed to always get with guys that were "fucked up." LOL)

I'm too selfish now. I've had too many relationships to want any more. IMO men get more out of stable monogamous relationships than women do (She is not free to use her feminine wiles to advance in life, she bears children, cares for them, is dependent on him, etc.) WHY would I willingly undercut my earnings potential to ride the same "merry go round" I've been on several times....?

leilanicandy
01-12-2008, 02:24 AM
For the record I do not think you are selfish. There is adouble standard at play when it come to the male and female. Until men stop this double standard thing.
I can say it dose sound like a shitty deal. Especially when you add the numbers of fuck up lives. The number of divorces, can you really question why you would want to leave your lives in the hands of a man.

TheTempest
01-12-2008, 02:41 PM
For the record I do not think you are selfish. There is adouble standard at play when it come to the male and female. Until men stop this double standard thing.
I can say it dose sound like a shitty deal. Especially when you add the numbers of fuck up lives. The number of divorces, can you really question why you would want to leave your lives in the hands of a man.

Personally, I want to be selfish right now! I want to date and play the field. Sometimes I have moments of loneliness that don't really work with that... but the dating field is hard.

And one night stands with military men, GoldCoast, are amazing. Go for it!!

madmaxine
01-12-2008, 03:26 PM
why you would want to leave your lives in the hands of a man.

That's exactly it...Whatever he has to offer me has to balance out in dollars what I'm giving up (in dollars) to be with him.

It's loyalty TO options, since men are only AS loyal as their options....