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Djoser
11-11-2007, 03:01 AM
You have to realize and truly believe that you do not have to have a man in your life. When you become truly happy on your own and truly confident that you can be on your own forever, they'll start flocking.

Truer words have never been spoken...

The only thing I would add to this would be to say who cares if they come flocking or not? Of course we don't want to live in isolation, and affection from the opposite sex is quite enjoyable, to be sure. But people who want you because you don't care if they want you or not are a dime a dozen.

Only the weak will use this sort of attention to pump up their fragile egos. Just as only the weak will resort to contrived games to win over the attention of those equally weak (and gullible) members of the opposite sex, instead of choosing those who are confident, and therefore automatically eschew petty games.

I have the same contempt for the shallow, vapid women that use The Rules to manipulate men, and the equally pathetic men who play Pick Up Artist games. Ironically enough, they each feed the need to play shallow, manipulative games with the other sex.

Let me hasten to assure you, Lioness, I am not criticizing you--I am most impressed with your insight and maturity. You have chosen your name well, it would seem.

And not all guys are scared off by women who have had a kid. For a number of reasons, this will actually make a woman more appealing.

Sindi
11-11-2007, 10:59 AM
Like, in your date example, once he started getting "pissy" and pressuring you for sex, that's a big red flag. No partner should ever get mad at you for not doing something sexual with them immediately since it's a consensual thing. Then he wouldn't take you to your car, which he said he would do. I have to wonder why you "really liked" this guy...

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I didn't like him AFTER this point . Yes I know I still had sex with him but I am human and he was ...ummmmm , well endowed ;D

Once we got back to his house I was fairly disenchanted but still hurt that it went from good to bad that fast .

Sindi
11-11-2007, 11:00 AM
Men; if we can't eat it, fu&% it, or kill it, we don't care about it....:O


Too funny ! Scary , but funny .

Will
11-11-2007, 11:03 AM
Too funny ! Scary , but funny .

And generally true, thus my lesbian comment...:O

Sindi
11-11-2007, 11:21 AM
:P OK I HOPE EVERY ONE READS THIS BEFORE POSTING . Now while I appreciate all the advice and support I think my initial post is getting way misinterpreted . I have dated ALOT , I have been engaged , I have have one night stands , I have had booty calls , I have had short live relationships , I have had bad dates that don't get to sex .......that example I gave was ONE guy out of maybe 100 and it was 3 years ago . I am not sure why I used it as an example other than the fact that I was trying to communicate my feelings to the thread TITLE .

He was cute and nice and we had fun , if it had been just about sex to him and he had been honest with me , like more touching or suggestions during the date then I would have gladly had sex with him and made plans for more sex ......except he was too big for me :O

Mainly my issue here is that some guy will flirt his little pants off with me online and make the point that he really likes me and then forgets my name in a couple of weeks . Thats why I said misleading , ok ?

The misleading also occurs on dates and relationships . I had a guy a dated for 4 months invite me over his house and when I would get there he would have invited 10 of his friends over to play video games ....knowing all to well how much I hate the fact that my 27 yr old BF plays video games and ignores me .....all the while apparently he was trying to get me to break up with him ....Misleading . Why even invite me over why not just NOT make plans ...that would have worked faster with me , I would have moved on . I really loved him though , right away I thought he was a good one . *sniffle*

So thats what I meant about misleading and basically the whole thing that started this was some guy who lives far away from me acted like he really liked me ( even though I don't date and live far away it was nice so don't criticize) and then *poof* he stops talking and is always busy , too busy for me . So what was he just bored ? It wouldn't really bother me but I see it all the time and I think its LAME , ok ???

Also not dating DOES NOT make you bitter , I think there is a fine line between being bitter and just knowing that you are better off . I know that I am better off for the most part . I am bitter about my past , yes but not about my future xoox

I feel like Jessica Rabbit , I am not bad I am just drawn that way ....its like because you hot guys think sex and nothing more ....shouldn't you keep the hot ones ? :'(