Djoser
11-11-2007, 03:01 AM
You have to realize and truly believe that you do not have to have a man in your life. When you become truly happy on your own and truly confident that you can be on your own forever, they'll start flocking.
Truer words have never been spoken...
The only thing I would add to this would be to say who cares if they come flocking or not? Of course we don't want to live in isolation, and affection from the opposite sex is quite enjoyable, to be sure. But people who want you because you don't care if they want you or not are a dime a dozen.
Only the weak will use this sort of attention to pump up their fragile egos. Just as only the weak will resort to contrived games to win over the attention of those equally weak (and gullible) members of the opposite sex, instead of choosing those who are confident, and therefore automatically eschew petty games.
I have the same contempt for the shallow, vapid women that use The Rules to manipulate men, and the equally pathetic men who play Pick Up Artist games. Ironically enough, they each feed the need to play shallow, manipulative games with the other sex.
Let me hasten to assure you, Lioness, I am not criticizing you--I am most impressed with your insight and maturity. You have chosen your name well, it would seem.
And not all guys are scared off by women who have had a kid. For a number of reasons, this will actually make a woman more appealing.
Truer words have never been spoken...
The only thing I would add to this would be to say who cares if they come flocking or not? Of course we don't want to live in isolation, and affection from the opposite sex is quite enjoyable, to be sure. But people who want you because you don't care if they want you or not are a dime a dozen.
Only the weak will use this sort of attention to pump up their fragile egos. Just as only the weak will resort to contrived games to win over the attention of those equally weak (and gullible) members of the opposite sex, instead of choosing those who are confident, and therefore automatically eschew petty games.
I have the same contempt for the shallow, vapid women that use The Rules to manipulate men, and the equally pathetic men who play Pick Up Artist games. Ironically enough, they each feed the need to play shallow, manipulative games with the other sex.
Let me hasten to assure you, Lioness, I am not criticizing you--I am most impressed with your insight and maturity. You have chosen your name well, it would seem.
And not all guys are scared off by women who have had a kid. For a number of reasons, this will actually make a woman more appealing.