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Dottie Rebel
11-18-2007, 01:44 AM
Honey, you do NOT want to fuck around with klonopin addiction. Benzo addiction is seriously one of the worst addictions you can have. If it ain't helping, flush it. Seriously.
A hug to you :)
cameron_keys
11-18-2007, 10:29 AM
Honey, you do NOT want to fuck around with klonopin addiction. Benzo addiction is seriously one of the worst addictions you can have. If it ain't helping, flush it. Seriously.
A hug to you :)
If this was directed towards me...I JUST started taking it. Dr. keeps telling me that this is the best thng and I just have to wait until we find a dose that works.
Dont worry. I never get addicted. Thats wierd to say..but I dont. I dont have an addictive personallity...thank goodness. Doesnt mean it is impossible I know...but I'm not worried about it and neither is my Dr.
stellaforstars
11-18-2007, 10:35 AM
^^I was just prescribed Klonopin as well and I'm terrified of it. I don't want to become addicted. I'm supposed to be taking 2 to 3 per day and I'll maybe take 1 every two days or so in reality. It makes me feel so good...But addiction isn't worth it.
Cam, I hope you find the right dosage.
End threadjack. Seriously this time.
Sauske, it sounds as though you're making the right decision ending things with him. I know it's hard, but I imagine you'll be far happier in the long run. If you get too depressed about it...Just think about how fun dating is for a 21 year old!
I'm sending love and support your way.
cameron_keys
11-18-2007, 10:37 AM
SO not to threadjack..I'm going to revive my klonopin thread because i have a question
Sauske
11-18-2007, 01:54 PM
now his exwife/baby momma is leaving comments on his myspace saying "i like myself a classy ho"
i guess i should be flattered? uhh?
Christany
11-18-2007, 02:04 PM
sigh. again. I appreciate all this and I am mulling it over. he has always treated me right and now i told him I thought our relationship was toxic and now he sends me these texts:
"the toxic shit is in your head, it's getting old"
"have fun playing your fucking games with someone else then, I hate to say this cause it hurts me but this is what you've wanted, im dead to you"
"think what you want, problem is that you're thinking way too much about a myth"
i see it as he keeps turning my problem with him around and projecting it on me. it makes me feel bad and guilty like ive done something wrong. i dont really know how to build myself up . i love him so much and just feel so weak and blah blah blah. :( klonopin isnt helping and i really dont want to get addicted.
There was just another thread where I mentioned this book, but have you ever read Toxic Parents? This just so reeks of everything they pinpoint about toxic parent/child exchanges. But I found this book to apply to all sorts of social relationships. Even if you have read it, maybe you could skim over it a bit again if you feel like you need some reinforcement or motivation. I've done that before and it helps so much.
Christany
11-18-2007, 02:24 PM
now his exwife/baby momma is leaving comments on his myspace saying "i like myself a classy ho"
i guess i should be flattered? uhh?
At least if someone is going to be throwing word darts like "ho" around, at least you're classy. :D (Hoping I can get you to laugh)
Never mind her comments, because from what I've read of the exhanges you've had with this man, you've handled yourself with grace and dignity. In the time when he came clean about his lies, you even handled it with maturity as to trying to explain truly why you were upset. Sometimes men claim they don't understand when women react emotionally, and that they need logic and reason verses emotions. But since you spoke to him about the situation using both of those skills, and he is trying to manipulate and revert you into a emotional response, then clearly he is the one with the problem. Because by getting you to react in this way, he can pretend in his own head, that his actions are justifiable. Clearly, they aren't, because honestly, given all his problems and baggage, what makes him desirable? What does he even have to offer? Nothing. Deep inside, he knows this, which is why he tries to demerit you as much as he can. Because if you were "allowed" to have confidence (as he mistakenly perceives to be under his mandate), then you would realize that he is the disposable, and like you said, replacable one in the relationship. ...And he is
I am not saying its ok, but if there was COMPLETE trust, you would have no reason to snoop. So obviously, something was tipping you off.
I would try to end it hon. There is no reason to be with someone who lies about shit like this. ANd the fact that it is his ex/baby's mom...forget it. She will forever be in his life.
PM me if you just wanna vent. :(
I disagree. There are snoopers who just snoop. That's what they do. Then there are women who get a sense something is wrong and they investigate. If your man/woman is all on the up and up, you won't find anything and you knw you're paranoid and perhaps snooping for snooping's sake. If you find something untoward, you were justified, IMO.
EXACTLY!!!!
AlexxaHex
11-18-2007, 06:41 PM
That is so weird - your situation is almost exactly like the one I went through. If your dude was a little older I would question whether it was the same one!
He also got very defensive, lied and tried to turn it around on ME and saying that I was just JEALOUS. It wasn't a jealousy issue at all. If he had been up front with me from the start and said he wanted to date other women I would have been cool with that. But instead, he lied and hid things from me. THAT was why I broke up with him. If you ask him though, he'll say that I cheated on HIM and that he broke up with ME. ::)
So I completely understand what you're going through.
Kaiyla
11-18-2007, 08:05 PM
This guy sounds like trouble all the way and from everything you've said, sorry, he does not seem like he is worth the trouble.
Every time I am about to leave a relationship, I get all caught up in the reasons why I *should* stay (good sex, he treats me really well, he does this/that for me, etc), but everytime I enter a new relationship, all of that good stuff is there and MORE! You get to enter your next knowing what you will and will not tolerate from future boyfriends, and you will have that. You enter a new relationship that is not toxic -a clean slate! You are so young and you have so much time to grow and have new experiences. If you can, try to see leaving this relationship as an advantage. ;D Even if you are grieving at the moment, try to focus on all the positive things that will come out of kicking this dirtbag out of your life. You don't need this, and you certainly don't deserve it, so do yourself a favor and keep walking and don't look back! Good luck!
Sauske
11-19-2007, 11:03 PM
ok last time i will bump this. (i swear) but im kinda freaking out a little.
he always told me if he lost me he would have nothing to live for, and i do believe he would do something stupid like kill himself, even though he has kids. well- he called me while I was trying to study for a huge exam at about 5:00pm and we were basically screaming/fighting/arguing whatever you want to call it. I ended it by saying I really couldnt deal with it right now and had to end the conversation.
he begged me to call him after my exam around 8pm and I said I would if I could.
ok, so I didnt- I just saw on the news that a pedestrian walked out into the high way and was hit by 3-4 cars and was pronounced D.O.A. the only reason im putting 2+2 together is it was the highway exit right by his house. they havent released the name or anything but I havent heard from him and maybe im just freaking out over nothing.
its probably just a coincidence...but...still...?
Sophia_Starina
11-19-2007, 11:26 PM
Yikes!!! It's probably a coincidence. Work on getting in touch with him....
LoveSexMoney
11-20-2007, 07:34 AM
^fuck that! it's probably a coincidence but IT'S NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY IF HE THREATENS TO TAKE HIS OWN LIFE BECAUSE YOU LEFT HIM!!!!!!!!! That is a classic controlling ploy and clearly he has major issues. Ugh, I dated somebody like that way back in the day. Yup, would say he would kill himself if I left. Well, then it escalated to he'd kill ME if I left. "You're MINE till death do us part" and "If you ever leave me, I'll kill you" he'd say. wtf? To make a loooooong story short, I took him to court, obtained a restraining order and NEVER TALKED TO OR CONTACTED THE MOTHER FUCKER AGAIN! EVER!
Amber_Sparxx
11-20-2007, 08:44 AM
Sauske, any word yet? Remember that you cannot guarantee anyone else's happiness, and if he threatens (even attempts) suicide, that's his OWN bag of problems, and you cannot solve them for him. In fact, I don't think a relationship is advisable for him at all as long as these problems are so glaringly apparent. Best case scenario, he is immature and using this to manipulate and get attention from you. Worst case scenario, this guy needs professional help(and if he's serious about getting treatment, he'll realize that it's imperative to success that he focuses all of his available efforts on treatment and not be distracted by the demands of a relationship). Your primary responsibility is to take care of yourself, period. Time for some personal development and growth, girl! YOU CAN DO IT!!!! WE BELIEVE IN YOU!!!!
ExoticEngineer
11-20-2007, 08:51 AM
Stay strong Sauske.
The girls are right. Using suicide is a terrible form of control. He is keeping you tied to him bound by guilt. Not love. A person who cares about you would NOT use this against you!
You can't control him, just like he can't control you. And always remember to turn it around in your head, would YOU say something/do something like that to someone YOU cared about? Probably not!
I really hope that wasn't him on the news, and my gut says it wasn't, but even if it were Sauske, it's not your fault, problem or choice. The only person who has total control over themselves is in fact themselves. :hug:
Sauske
11-20-2007, 10:38 AM
ok it wasnt him. part of me wishes it was. then i wouldnt have to deal with this bull shit. (does that make me a horrible person?) oh well. im so over this. Im just done. uggghhh!! My friend is trying to hook me up with a very hot bullrider..
yes please!
thank you ladies, for everything. seriously. *bighugsssssss*
Sophia_Starina
11-20-2007, 02:17 PM
I'm glad your ex is alive, I'm also glad that you're okay. Oh and... yeeeehaw!
:)
Crow2
11-20-2007, 02:22 PM
Ride a cowboy, save a horse! :D
Sauske
11-20-2007, 04:13 PM
save a horse ride a cowboy? lol!!! ok I just want to post this veryvery hot picture of my future cowboy husband whom Ive never met. just click the link and it's picture number 2 (bottom left). cant see his face but ummmm jaw...leather gloves...teeth...hat.....wantt....must have......
http://www.sportsshooter.com/members.html?id=6851
ExoticEngineer
11-20-2007, 04:18 PM
Gahhhhhhh, I sure do love cowboys. MmmmHmmmm. I don't know what it is but they make me crazy!
leilanicandy
11-20-2007, 05:25 PM
Stay strong Sauske.
The girls are right. Using suicide is a terrible form of control. He is keeping you tied to him bound by guilt. Not love. A person who cares about you would NOT use this against you!
I could not agree so much with this statement. Dont let him play on your emotions and nerves. You are worth so much more! I know when someone say hey I am going to kill myself. We are suppose to take the seriously. Not just reguard it! What you should know is a lot people use that statement to control you! Like exotic Engineer said if you love a person you dont bound them by guilt. I am so glad you got out of that situation. I have kids by my ex husband. I do not send him pictures of me in the nude. He is the ex, and that where I left him. His baby mama sounds really getto!
Dont worry when you ride that cowboy. You will be riding farway from this situation.
Crow2
11-21-2007, 02:39 PM
Just make the boy keep his spurs at home - thoes things are rough on sheets! :D
LoveSexMoney
11-21-2007, 09:22 PM
speaking of cowboys, the latest National Geographic has an article complete with picture layout of modern day cowboys (called 21st Century Cowboys). It's really cool, the photos were taken with tin-type photography so they look very circa 1800's wild west. Very hotttttttttt. :bullwhip::cow:
kitty69
01-04-2008, 05:49 AM
I have got an elderly friend in hospital ( she is 86) who nearly died on Christmas day. As I sat there watching her wondering if this was her 'time' I realized that life isn't a practice run or rehearsal this is it, you get one shot so don't have any regrets and do what makes you happy, this is your life you are living not his. My nana also told me after a very bad break-up with my daughters dad (who was abusive) that it just wasn't meant to be and things happen for a reason. I try to remember that and sometimes it helps. I am 31 now and much happier than i ever was in my 20's with a sexy boyfriend (6 yrs younger) who loves my kids and worships me so i guess she was right. I am sorry if i intruded on your thread i just wanted to offer some hope that you will feel better in the future. ( I was on Prozac for 18 months when me and the other guy split up so you can make progress) *hug*