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ahmeerah
11-15-2007, 10:51 AM
^^^haha. I think that's what it is.

Jenny
11-15-2007, 11:02 AM
This thread is making me want to watch The Breakfast Club all over again.
When I was a kid and watched the Breakfast Club it seemed absolutely obvious that at the end they all became friends and the high school divisiveness that so obviously carried over to adult stereotypes would be healed and fixed and that they were all whole again, etc. etc.

Now when I watch it, it seems perfectly obvious that it was one day in which "they came to terms with things" but which would not likely be repeated, and that when they said good bye it wasn't just until the following Monday, but it was a good bye to open, vulnerable selves they had shared, and that they were, as the Molly Ringwald character said, going to go back to the exact roles they formerly occupied.

Does anyone else have that experience?

StuartL
11-15-2007, 11:04 AM
Re ^^^ it is a pleasure and an honour to be quoted in your sig file Ahmeerah. I'm touched.

I think francescadubois has it right though - being picked on builds a certain inner toughness and drive to get ahead and prove something to the world. As much as we hated it, it may be 'the making' of us.

Since we are on this topic, if you do not already have them, you girls should hunt out:
1) Awaken the giant within by Tony Robbins
2) Think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill
3) a Freemason as a boyfriend - did you know that freemasonry is all about self improvement? They just do it on the quiet.

PS - to Francescadubois - shouldn't we get to know each other a little better first ;-)

Darcy Foxx
11-15-2007, 11:10 AM
You know what I just realized? That maybe the fact that most of us were ostracized (to whatever degree) during those very important years shaped us into fierce individualists who weren't necessarily afraid to get into an industry like stripping. It's not like we were accepted in the first place, so it kind of gave us that blessing in disguise "fuck it" attitude as adults.

I really appreciate that. :)

that is quite possibly the truest thing i have ever read on here. i've always felt that a big reason i was drawn to stripping was the fact that i was never accepted anyway and was always an outcast, so i might as well do whatever the fuck i want since everyone already hates me anyway.

kaiarose
11-15-2007, 11:10 AM
I was a total nerd in highschool! It's such an ego boost when someone I went to school with comes into the club and is like "Omigod! Melina??" Yep, asshole couldn't look twice at me in highschool, but now he can't take his eyes off of me! ;D

ahmeerah
11-15-2007, 11:25 AM
^^^^ how do I find a Freemason boyfriend? ;-)

Brendita
11-15-2007, 11:47 AM
DOrK in high school. *punk rock, always shaved/dyed hair, shy, came off as arrogant.

DORK now. I don't care. I'm happy with who I am.


I think the whole "look at me now, I'm hot," reeks of our culture's sick obsession with looks and the insecurity endemic in that. It took me a while to come to this conclusion, and live it, but I'm content to let other people be fat or skinny without judgment by me. It has nothing to do with who they are, or in that vein, who I am. My self worth is not determined by other people.

I :heartbeat zxcire.
Honestly, I haven't noticed much of a change in the popular kids. They are still hot. I am only 23, so I am sure that will change, though. Either way, stripping will keep me thin and no kids will keep me youthfull, so I am all set!

Taylorlila
11-15-2007, 12:00 PM
I just love how all the girls that were awful to me and told me what I slut I was are all knocked up at 19 and 20 years old.

Djoser
11-15-2007, 12:09 PM
Hey, if you ever drive by Mahoney Jr High or South Portland High School, please flip them off for me, lol!

I was pissed when I saw Breakfast Club the first time. Partly because it brought back bitter memories, and partly because there's no way those kids would have opened up like that to each other, so I thought, and it seemed really contrived. Especially when the wrestling guy starts crying about putting whatever it was in the guy's jockstrap--no fucking way.

I still think it's unlikely they would open up that much, that quickly--even if the movie was showing it as a temporary thing, but what the hell, it's Hollywood (or was--that's a fucking old movie, haha).

There's no question in my mind that I would have been an independent kind of person, but yeah going through that shit made me much more so.

ArmySGT.
11-15-2007, 02:35 PM
http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j218/ArmySGT_photos/Smileys%20and%20toons/worthlesswithoutpics.gif

StuartL
11-15-2007, 02:35 PM
My latest thing is salsa. I have started taking lessons to learn how to dance. Right now, my standard has improved from 'worst in world' to plain old 'bloody useless'. It is fun though. And yet, the people I tell about it just make fun non-stop.

Isn't it amazing how just about everyone finds it a challenge that we try to improve ourselves? They get upset, argue, complain and cause all sorts of drama because you pull away from the pack they are in. Almost nobody is actually pleased for you and the progress you make. That is both curious and sometimes upsetting.

Is it jealousy? I don't know. Is it because it highlights things that they could have done but did not? Why is it that family members are often the least proud?

Of course the real answer is:

'Who gives a crap! I just do what I do.'

G-Real
11-15-2007, 02:56 PM
just cuz I haven't seen it I'll post the opposite:....there was a kid/jock picked on me, etc in school 5-senior year.....anyways we graduated and I never say anyone from school for over 3 years....

1 day I was volunteering and directing traffic when he and his ?wife? waks by pushing a stroller.....the guy comes right up to me, shakes my hand, asks how I'm doing, all the pleasantries.....he was the last person who I thought would change....it was rather nice to see that somepeople do end up growing-up

Danielle_
11-15-2007, 04:53 PM
MySpace has put my in touch with lots of people from Jr. High/Highschool.

Today I hear from someone and I look through her pictures. Am I wrong for being happy that she's fat?

I swear all the cool and/or exclusive kids are now fat with boring jobs. Or there's something else about them that makes *my* life seem all that more appealing.

It's motivating. ;D I feel bad thinking this way but then, I get motivated again. Makes me want to do more. Not to "show them." But, maybe that IS part of it.

I'm 31 btw. I'm the same size as I was in highschool.

Anyone else experience this?

I don't go out of my way to look for those people on myspace, but one day I came across a myspace page of a girl who used to be my friend, but then turned into a total bitch. Man she's a total loser now & yes it did make me feel better.

I was also unpopular in school. I wasn't rich or thin, which was how the popular kids were. I also wasn't really fat or ugly (although I thought I was) but I was different. I've always been creative, including how I dress. Plus I didn't feel like being someone's little lap dog & doing what ever they told me so, I was very much a loner. And yes I've seen some of these people end up being huge or ugly or whatever. But the most surprising thing to me is when I run into one of those people & they try to talk to me. I don't understand why you want to talk to me now, when we didn't talk then, just cause you recognize my face.

RoseLeigh
11-15-2007, 05:02 PM
DOrK in high school. *punk rock, always shaved/dyed hair, shy, came off as arrogant.

DORK now. I don't care. I'm happy with who I am.


Yay for dorks!

Djoser
11-15-2007, 05:10 PM
http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j218/ArmySGT_photos/Smileys%20and%20toons/worthlesswithoutpics.gif

Haha! I don't really think you want to see the pics of me, but yeah I look way, way better now than I did then....

Casual Observer
11-15-2007, 05:40 PM
Now when I watch it, it seems perfectly obvious that it was one day in which "they came to terms with things" but which would not likely be repeated, and that when they said good bye it wasn't just until the following Monday, but it was a good bye to open, vulnerable selves they had shared, and that they were, as the Molly Ringwald character said, going to go back to the exact roles they formerly occupied.

Does anyone else have that experience?I did, the first time I saw it. Quite a bit of truth there.

Can't say I had a bad time being a dork in high school (computer kid, played Dungeons and Dragons, didn't play any sports whatsoever, zero fashion sense, bad haircut, etc.) but that was mostly because I just didn't give a flying fuck. I just wasn't interested in being social with a bunch of shallow losers that thought the microcosm of high school was the apex of one's existence; I knew three people in a class of 250. I knew my life wasn't going to begin until I got the hell out of there anyway, so I had no attachments.

Fast forward about fifteen years. I'd since been overseas in the military and across the country for undergrad after that, and while visiting my mother one trip, I'd called a tow truck to drag my car (broken wheel bearing) to a garage. Turns out the wrecker driver went to my high school...with me. I had no idea who he was, but he knew who I was (not sure how). Anyway, during the drive to my mechanic's garage, he starts regaling me with his Glory Days stories from high school and his time on the football team. He just went on and on and on about high school. I felt bad for him, really, since he wasn't looking like a football player anymore, and he never seemed to have done anything outside a 100-mile radius from where he was born. His time in high school was the best time in his life; everything after that was downhill.

We all know people like that wrecker driver, and I know it gave me some renewed perspective about the less-than-orthodox path I'd taken in my own life. No regrets here--still waiting for the peak.

:)

madmaxine
11-15-2007, 05:48 PM
This thread brought back bad, sad memories...So all I want to say is living well and happiness is the best revenge. & What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

(I'd also like to mention not all the popular kids were horrible. 2-3 of the coolest kids in middle school never stooped to picking on the geeks, at least within earshot of others. It was often the hangers-on who knew they couldn't be on top so they had to find ways to feel like they were by hurting others. Similar to "Lord of the Flies.")

TheSexKitten
11-15-2007, 05:56 PM
I'm going to try to find my 7th grade yearbook picture. My best best best friend who is sweeter than sugar and more tactful than a diplomat busted out laughing and pointing at the picture while we flipped through my yearbook for the first time. Then she realized it was me and went quiet. :(

ColetteCalahan
11-15-2007, 06:04 PM
oh god 7th grade... i think that's the year fashion looks back on me and runs screaming for the hills... 8th grade i'd gotten it together. high school i dressed like a daria character. haha.... goodwill t-shirts, miniskirts, doc martens. eh, i think i pulled it off. or is that some absurd sense of denial i've got going on.... ;)

Jenny
11-15-2007, 06:37 PM
Can't say I had a bad time being a dork in high school
I know. I think my pals and I had the lone experience of what they tell you in the after school specials... some time around 11th grade we actively decided that we were cool. We didn't change a damn thing. It worked out well for us. Everyone seemed to believe it on the sheer force of our conviction. And if they didn't... well, we were oblivious.


high school i dressed like a daria character. haha.... goodwill t-shirts, miniskirts, doc martens. eh, i think i pulled it off. or is that some absurd sense of denial i've got going on....
Oh baby, no, don't say that. I've totally never gotten over grunge.

gingerlee
11-15-2007, 08:48 PM
that is quite possibly the truest thing i have ever read on here. i've always felt that a big reason i was drawn to stripping was the fact that i was never accepted anyway and was always an outcast, so i might as well do whatever the fuck i want since everyone already hates me anyway.

Get out of my head Darcy!! I've thought thoughts just like that when thinking about my teens years leading up to stripping.

Wait, you're hot. You can stay. :P

Darcy Foxx
11-15-2007, 09:10 PM
Get out of my head Darcy!! I've thought thoughts just like that when thinking about my teens years leading up to stripping.

Wait, you're hot. You can stay. :P

*sets up camp in ginger's head*

ahmeerah
11-15-2007, 09:14 PM
http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j218/ArmySGT_photos/Smileys%20and%20toons/worthlesswithoutpics.gif

Picture this as my *before*: Jerry curl, acne, and a girl-mustache. :-[

*After*: I'm not showing my face on this board but - the thighs in my avatar are mine! No more Jerry-curl, acne or girl-mustache!

Darcy Foxx
11-15-2007, 09:21 PM
http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j218/ArmySGT_photos/Smileys%20and%20toons/worthlesswithoutpics.gif

i'm game.

you'll probably say i don't look too bad in these photos, and looking at them now, i guess i don't. but i was picked on horribly for the entire duration of my schooling years for being ugly and fat and just generally awful looking.

my 15 year old self.... as a blonde (my natural colour, hah), and during my angry goth phase.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v11/candycane/photo.jpg http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v11/candycane/red3-1.jpg

i hope someone else posts pics now!

ahmeerah
11-15-2007, 09:23 PM
Darcy, you were cute!

britt244
11-15-2007, 09:23 PM
high school wasnt that bad for me. i wasnt one of the "popular" girls but i was friends with them. i was friends with a lot of people. i'd say my group of friends was kind of like the next in line under the popular ones. that sounds so bad lol but i dont know how else to describe it. middle school and freshman year, though.. i had braces, didnt wear makeup, was chubby, and had big glasses. october of my soph year i got the braces off, got contacts, blonde highlights, started wearing makeup, and joined the dance team and lost weight.

ahmeerah
11-15-2007, 09:39 PM
Highschool wasn't bad for me either. It was really just 5th through 7th grade. 8th grade I infiltrated the popular crowd then it changed in 9th grade when I was put in all advanced classes and didn't see any of those kids anymore.

I was an outcast and then a girl accused me of trying to steal her boyfriend. I stayed home, scared to go to school because I'd get phone call threats.

So my parents sent me to private school (non-boarding). I had friends in all the cliques but was still an outsider. I was accepted for my creative skills (e.g., dancing & art). My graduating class was THIRTEEN people btw! But the grades were from 6th through post-grad. STILL, pretty small population.

I was still an outsider from the public school kids but gained their acceptance - I'm guessing because I turned almost cute. But they weren't my "friends."

AudreyLeigh
11-15-2007, 10:25 PM
Awww Darcy you were cute. When I look back at my pics I wasnt so bad either. I was actually hot at the end.... but was tormented to no end from 5th grade on.

NinaDaisy
11-16-2007, 04:31 AM
I know I'm late on this thread, but I wanted to read what other people wrote before I responded.

I was a major loser. I was teased mercilessly in junior high and was one of those girls that "got hot" in high school. I went to the junior prom alone but have been told since that a lot of the guys that were afraid to ask me out just didn't. I was a huge nerd who worked her ass off to get into a top college and I did.

In some ways, thing haven't changed much.

I live in Manhattan, I'll spend much of the coming year in Europe and my life is such that it's assumed that I think I'm better than others because of certain superficial things in my life.

I keep trying to progress in my life and be the best person I can be, just not at the expense of others. Still, criticism is inevitable. Maybe.

I'm flawed, but I try. I guess certain things just stay with you, even with years of therapy.

I care less than I used to, but probably still too much. :-\

Kaylinn
11-16-2007, 05:13 AM
My high school was ridiculous. BackAsswards, hick country town. We had 2 black kinds in the entire school, and they were brother and sister. Everyone else was white.
My school had the "preps" and the "scummers"
Preps= football players and their slutty cheerleader girlfriends
Scummers= everyone who wasn't a prep. Scummers got that nname for their lack of personal hygene.
Both groups did drugs constantly, and were promiscious. Only difference between them, aside from lack of hygene, was that one group played sports, the other group did not.

I did not fit in with either group. I thought they were all losers.
Only crappy thing abotu that was having nowhere to sit during lunch.

ExoticEngineer
11-16-2007, 08:27 AM
I was talking with a good friend of mine who is in school to become a teacher...we're talking about high school and kids etc...and we both agreed, that looking at the scrawny, gawky, goofy girls, with BIG smiles (I was always teased about how big my mouth was) and big eyes would grow up to be the beauties.

Those girls with the quirky personalities that everyone picks on in school usually develope into those intriguing and fun personalities later in life.

I agree, those high school years helped shape me into part of who I am today. I still could care less what any of my school mates look like, but the very few times I have run into any of them I am always stoked (high school word!) that I have the confidence and happiness to exude that feeling.

I wrote one time about a guy I ran into at work, he dumped me the night of prom because I wouldn't screw him. When he saw me in the club his jaw never did shut. I even said "Oh yah, I think I remember you, you were the guy who couldn't get laid and pitched a fit. Well, I have to go hang with my girlfriend now, have fun!" (something to that extent). ;P

francescadubois
11-16-2007, 10:27 AM
PS - to Francescadubois - shouldn't we get to know each other a little better first ;-)

:rotfl: You're right baby. We'll take it slow. :D

gingerlee
11-16-2007, 12:01 PM
Ok, excuse the ghetto-ass cropping. I didn't do it. Buuuuuuuuut, since somebody else posted theirs, I figured I would show myself in the 10th grade. Very, very shy, band geek, natural black hair, boobies in a sports bra so I looked like I didn't even have misquito bites, and some baby fat thrown in. Totally sexy, right?

TheSexKitten
11-16-2007, 12:59 PM
Actually, you look very pretty to me. Sort of modelesque. :D

ahmeerah
11-16-2007, 01:06 PM
Actually, you look very pretty to me. Sort of modelesque. :D

I was thinking the same thing.

TheSexKitten
11-16-2007, 01:10 PM
For the record, I was pretty goodlooking in high school. But middle school......................................

..... :( Think of Emily's transformation. Yeah, like that.

gingerlee
11-16-2007, 01:43 PM
Actually, you look very pretty to me. Sort of modelesque. :D

Well thank you for that! I got told I had a big head (like, physically large) all the time and I stopped growing any taller when I was 12, so it was like I was one of those bobble head dolls you put on your dashboard. :'(

zxcire
11-16-2007, 01:54 PM
Here is me in high school. I was depressed and an alcoholic and horribly shy.

Djoser
11-16-2007, 04:35 PM
Nice eyes in that first one...

lestat1
11-16-2007, 05:47 PM
I'm the same weight I was in HS, and slightly less dorky now. Sweet....slow progress.

Sirona
11-16-2007, 08:37 PM
My 20 year reunion is comming up soon... 2009.
I am SO going to be there. :)

I look pretty much the same I was just the "smart/weird/geeky" kid, which for the most part I was totally ok with.

http://x02.xanga.com/4fd85742c4640157876285/m28769097.jpg
1989 - Senior Year - 17 years old

http://x86.xanga.com/9d7c577032534157876916/b118474244.jpg
http://x09.xanga.com/698d844342530146251874/m108450334.jpg

2007 - 36 years old and three kids later!

Ha! Victory is mine! *evil cackle*

ahmeerah
11-16-2007, 08:55 PM
Wow. You have a great body. And 36? 3 kids? Work it out girl!

Sirona
11-16-2007, 09:00 PM
Thanks. :)

I have to work at it now though... man I miss the days of eat anything, gain nothing! lol!

AudreyLeigh
11-19-2007, 10:29 AM
^^^^ You look younger now than in the pic when you were 17!

SundayMorning
11-19-2007, 10:45 AM
*swallows tongue* Gorgeous, the lot of you! Geez...

*off to post on Dottie's horny for chicks thread*

Mastridonicus
11-19-2007, 11:20 AM
Highschool was....interesting.

Sirona
11-19-2007, 03:01 PM
^^^^ You look younger now than in the pic when you were 17!

LOL! Nah! I just know how to use lighting to my advantage now! ;D

mollyzmoon
11-19-2007, 03:07 PM
I was a crazy tarot reading, binge drinking, slutty-dressing crazy girl in high school. Like, the colder I got, the shorter my skirt got. I was a lunatic. And I dyed my hair a million different colours. And I was on the wrestling team.

But then, I skipped school most of the time. I don't know...I feel mostly the same as I was back then, except I wear more clothes in the winter. I really didn't want to be friends with many people back then. They were really boring and annoying. I went to a terrifyingly snobby school. I don't think I'm any hotter now, but I look less gothy.