View Full Version : Spanking your kids - yes or no?
Budai
11-20-2007, 10:49 AM
I can't ever remember being spanked in a controlled manner.
Kaylinn:
I share your memory of corporal punishment, which is why my sons live in a "time out" household. My parents were old school African and European disciplinarians who tended to dish out consequences under the full-blown sails of rage.
Furthermore, our schoolteachers in England & Nigeria would spank or cane us and then call our parents about it, setting up another spankfest when we got home.
So, I never spank my sons... :no:
However, I do spank the monkey frequently! :yes:
FrustratedBunny
11-20-2007, 12:32 PM
My parents spanked me and I turned out fine. It straightened me out when I was being bad too.
High_Heel_Lover
11-20-2007, 12:40 PM
I got hit and it did nothing, nothing good for me to change my behaviour.
I got spanked for grades, grades people! and I have scars for it, got hit with a belt, belt buckle, got put to kneel on raw rice and cheese graders, do you know why I had bad grades? I am dyslexic.
I got spanked for lying when I was a kid, kids lie, they make things up, part of the process of growing up and what happened, I just learned how to lie better. I have grown from that of course but at the time it did nothing.
Got to the point where I knew I was going to get spanked and I would just stand there and laugh.
ExoticEngineer
11-20-2007, 12:44 PM
HHL, I am so sorry that happened to you sweety. I don't want to say your parents were bad, but :hug: that should not have happened.
High_Heel_Lover
11-20-2007, 12:54 PM
Thanks, I think this is why I don't even want to think it's ok for my family because I bet it didn't start off with thinking it would get that way but most spankings happen out of frustration and anger and leads to horrible memories and scars.
Bella21
11-20-2007, 01:09 PM
I don't plan on spanking my child. I think that teaching a child not to hit... and then hitting them... is confusing to the child.
In my mom's defense, she had four kids, all within a couple years of eachother... but she scared the crap out of us with her wooden spoon. She'd just get frusturated/ angry and hit us. Then, she had a hard time understanding when she had to stop (because we were too old) and use our brains instead (which was actually possible way before highschool, sheesh). I'm sure it depends on the child, but I think that if you spend enough time on building a healthy relationship, showing true dissapointment in them may be enough... sometimes a time out... taking away dessert... I mean, they're just these little people who need to learn all of these rules about what is appropriate behavior and how to control their impulses. There are ways to train other than pain (woohoo! I rhyme!).
VenusGoddess
11-20-2007, 01:11 PM
I was spanked as a child, but never out of anger (controlled) and only when I completely disobeyed all the other warnings. My father would remind me what the punishment was and let me go from there.
This is what I do with Makayla. I remind her what the end result will be if she continues doing what she's doing. Spanking is only for really bad offenses (like lying)...the last time I spanked Makayla was sometime last year and I didn't do it when I was angry with her. I sent her to her room and cooled off a bit and then when she came down, we discussed why she was going to get a spanking and how many. Then, I gave her 2 swats with a flat brush.
Spanking has it's place, but it must be used properly. There is a difference between spanking out of control and spanking out of control. It's not abuse if you are calm, and able to explain why you're doing it. Before the age of 3, though, it is still effective (like for running into the street)...but you still have to use it the proper way.
Blade
11-20-2007, 01:24 PM
I agree. Once I was old enough to know (thanks to school) what was going on, I told my parents I would report them if they did it again.That's a load of shit right there. If the day ever comes where my kids threaten to report me for disciplining them, they had best pack the fuck up and move out before i get up.
That's half the problem with society today, parents are AFRAID to discipline because their kids will report them. I say fuck that, it's my kid(s) and if they need a whuppin then a whuppin they are gonna get.
I'll be damned if some schmuck who doesnt live with or raise my kids is gonna tell me how to raise and/or discipline them.
lizlizliz
11-20-2007, 01:25 PM
no spanking for me.
southstbabe
11-20-2007, 01:34 PM
My sisters and I were never spanked. I don't believe in spanking. If spanking worked you'd only have to do once.
Kaylinn
11-20-2007, 01:59 PM
This is an interesting conversation. The majority of parent's responded that they do occasionally spank their kids, in a controlled manner.
I think the 2 keys to using spanking are
1. controlled, not out of anger
2. Explaining to the child what he did wrong and why it deserved a punishment.
I think those are very important. I also agree that for certain things, like running into a street or reaching for a hot stove ,you have to do something that instills how very important it is to never ever do that again.
I also think it is very very important for parents to be in agreement with punishment.
I remember my dad punishing me, and ruinning to my mom who would stand up for me and yell at my dad. Even if I had done somethign wrong.
This made me hate my dad and favor my mother. And I knew I would get out of trouble by running to her.
ExoticEngineer
11-20-2007, 02:10 PM
^That was why when I spanked my kiddo I made him wait until dad got home so he could talk to him too and know that we were in agreement on it.
Morgan_TX
11-20-2007, 02:48 PM
In my opinion, the issue is not spanking vs. non-spanking, but child discipline in general. And what I've found is that well-disciplined children have parents that practice consistency and self-control.
The self-control is obvious. But in addition to not spanking while angry, it can also apply to not screaming or yelling at your kids. Frankly, I'd rather see a parent giving a well-controlled, non-angry spanking than a parent who loses their temper and yells at the child. So if giving a spanking early on in the incident helps to restore order and sanity before tempers get out of hand, then I say go for it. But my issue here is not "spank" or "don't spank", but don't lose your temper with your kids.
(And if you DO lose your temper, find a safe place to catch your breath, and then APOLOGIZE to your kids!!! Tell them, "I'm sorry I lost my temper. I wish that you wouldn't do that, but that's no excuse for me getting mad and yelling. Can you forgive me?" In other words, go ahead and admit that you did something wrong and apologize. Set a good example for heaven's sake!)
But where I see most parents screwing up is consistency. Let you yes mean yes and your no mean no. Enforce your rules. If you don't enforce your rules, it doesn't matter how much you spank the child, they'll never behave.
Oh, and one more note: child-training. Don't expect a three-year-old to know how to share if you don't spend some time actively teaching them. Case in point: My 4YO DS has been having trouble lately with his temper and his sharing. I had my 6YO bring ONE toy into the living room and play with it in front of his brother. When 4YO reached to grab it, I said, "No! You use your words and ask nicely." He said "Give me the car!" I said, "No! Say, 'Bubba, may I please have the car?'." He said, "Bubba, may I please have the car?" and his brother (who has been through this all before and knows what I was doing) said, "Of course you may," and handed it over. My point is that I had to spend a few hours with them, watching them closely and correcting them when they messed up and TEACHING them the right way to do it. You can't expect a child to behave properly if all you do is correct them when they mess up. You have to teach them the good instead of just punishing them for the bad.
And that's my $.02
TheSexKitten
11-20-2007, 02:56 PM
My mother's child-rearing practices were very effective (and thus good) until I got to middle school when she started hitting the bottle again.
Basically, I would get time outs, essay assignments to ponder and analyze what I did wrong, and privileges revoked. If I did something reallyreally bad, I would get a spanking. However, the spanking wasn't supposed to be about causing me pain really, it was more to show her disappointment and shame me. They were short and never hurt very much and I was always made to explain what I did wrong and why I shouldn't do it before and after the spanking.
The only times I can remember getting spanked were when I was caught in a lie. The message my mom was trying to get across was that by taking responsibility for my actions, the punishment would be more lenient than if I tried to deceive everyone and defer the blame from myself.
All that essay writing has paid off now btw... :D
After middle school started it slowly began to slip downhill...
TheSexKitten
11-20-2007, 02:57 PM
I was spanked as a child, but never out of anger (controlled) and only when I completely disobeyed all the other warnings. My father would remind me what the punishment was and let me go from there.
This is what I do with Makayla. I remind her what the end result will be if she continues doing what she's doing. Spanking is only for really bad offenses (like lying)...the last time I spanked Makayla was sometime last year and I didn't do it when I was angry with her. I sent her to her room and cooled off a bit and then when she came down, we discussed why she was going to get a spanking and how many. Then, I gave her 2 swats with a flat brush.
Spanking has it's place, but it must be used properly. There is a difference between spanking out of control and spanking out of control. It's not abuse if you are calm, and able to explain why you're doing it. Before the age of 3, though, it is still effective (like for running into the street)...but you still have to use it the proper way.
Good mama! That's how my mom was back in her day. ;D
Lola Rose
11-20-2007, 03:00 PM
I will never spank, and no one else will spank my children either.
I'm a firm believer in "violence breeds the same"
teach a child that it's ok to hit, and you're going to see them do the same. but if you teach them to be kind and compassionate to others, no matter how mad they are, you'll be doing them a much better service.
jasmine
11-20-2007, 03:13 PM
I dont have kids. BUT...I am for spanking as a deterrant when the child is in the middle of doing something..but not as a punishment.
SO when a child is about to touch a hot stove...yep...spank them. When a child is screaming for no reason just to get attention..yep spank them. Basically...I would use it more as a shock inducing atttention getter. As in...ok..now that I have your attention...you will stop RIGHT NOW or THIS will be your punishment*whatever fits the crime)
Its what I always did when training my dogs. Swat them when thy are caughht IN THE ACT....not afterwards. And the swat was just to get them to stop whatever they were doing...punishment was isolation or no treats or what have you.....
I see raising small children as being fairly similar to training a puppy(which I will likely get flamed for ....but if you think about it it is true...you cant reason with a pup any mor ethen with a 2 year old....you have to find other options)
Hope that made sense.
This is the way I approach spanking. When my son is in the middle of a tantrum and I can't get through to him, a swat on the behind is very effective. Also if I am in the middle of the grocery store and he starts having a fit a swat works when you are unable to do a time-out. I think it is only effective if it is used very sparingly however. If my son was spanked every week I don't think it would have the same effect.
ExoticEngineer
11-20-2007, 03:53 PM
Hey girls, I want to say congrats on getting to page three without ripping eachothers head's off! And on such a touchy subject too!
I had been telling the hubby about how sensetive the board was lately, when he heard about this htread he said "page two I bet it gets closed." I bet him a foot rub, he bet me a train car! Yay! I get my feets rubbed!!!
PrettyCurlieQ
11-20-2007, 03:58 PM
Hey girls, I want to say congrats on getting to page three without ripping eachothers head's off! And on such a touchy subject too...
WORD. That's a real accomplishment! :thumbsup:
It's a good feeling when an open discussion doesn't turn into an argument! :)
High_Heel_Lover
11-20-2007, 04:05 PM
I think it's because we all agree that we want what is best for our children. That in itself is fantastic.
PrettyCurlieQ
11-20-2007, 04:09 PM
^True that.
Bella21
11-20-2007, 04:13 PM
I agree. Once I was old enough to know (thanks to school) what was going on, I told my parents I would report them if they did it again.
Heh, I tried that too... Only, that my mom reminded me of the consequences that would come from doing that (jail time for the parent, foster homes for me) and I was like, "Er, nevermind". ;D
space_Cadet_28
11-20-2007, 04:21 PM
A generation or 2 ago it was acceptable practice for a coach or teacher to hit their students. Nowadays a parent would charge the coach if that happened.
I've got to believe spanking is in serious decline. And I don't know anyone in my family whose ever been spanked.
Don't know what the acceptable boundaries are but once the kids are old enough to have kids it's ridiculous.
Sophia_Starina
11-20-2007, 04:32 PM
I'm childless but if I have kids I won't spank them. In Russia, kids get spanked like it's normal. I never liked it... I wouldn't want to inflict pain on my babies.
ajbaer
11-20-2007, 04:38 PM
I liked being spanked...
sorry been drinking.
*whispers* but i do :P
Sorry again
Budai
11-20-2007, 04:57 PM
I will never spank, and no one else will spank my children either.
I'm a firm believer in "violence breeds the same"
The following is a narrative, not an opinion...
I posted earlier about my disciplinarian parents. I can trace some of my teen troubles & substance abuse issues to my moving to the United States & learning that not all children were beaten regularly. Once I was old enough, I just stopped coming home until I was ready. Why? Because the result would be a beating, whether it was 10pm or 4am.
Today, I tell my 13-year-old & 9-year-old boys how growing up with parents who used hands, canes and belts to discipline me made me feel. I will usually share this with them when I'm wishing I could light 'em up, and I tell them so at the time. However, because my wife and I choose to use a system of consequences instead, we seem to have eliminated physical violence as an option in our home--for adults and children.
The down side is that our sons tend to litigate issues with us like little adult fuckin' attorneys; they're constantly negotiating! On the positive side, our family and friends marvel at the fact that two energetic, athletic boys can play roughly with their buddies but NEVER fight one another. OTOH, we have a friend who's been heavy-handed with her kids (in her defense, she's an overwhelmed single mother) and the kids, in turn, are smacking the shit out of each other constantly.
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OPINION SECTION:
Having said that, how one rears one child can be a profoundly personal and controversial topic that depends on culture, family history and a number of other variables... :shrug:
"Wise men don't judge: they seek to understand."
-Wei Wu Wei
greenidlady1
11-20-2007, 05:05 PM
I was also spanked out of anger most of the time. I still think children should be spanked as one form of punishment, however, it should be done once the parent is calm. I mean obviously if the child is running towards the road I'd grab them up and pop their bottom. But other than immediate threats I think the parent should calm first then spank them on the bottom with their hand. I don't agree with using belts or paddles. I think when the hand is used it can be felt how much force is being used. With an object it wouldn't be as easy to know how hard it actually is.
stellaforstars
11-20-2007, 05:07 PM
I firmly believe that the only place spanking belongs is in the bedroom. If I'm a naughty girl, spank away. But then, I'm consenting to it.
My children will never be spanked by me--And if I ever hear that anyone else has touched them, there WILL be a problem.
All Good Things
11-20-2007, 06:07 PM
^ Well, you are not exactly consenting to it. You are sort of resisting it, in that "Oh God, make me do it anyway" kinda way. Right? }:D
stellaforstars
11-20-2007, 06:10 PM
^^You make a good point.
I get off on it. Care to see for yourself? ;)
Somehow, I doubt children do, however.
Sunshine73
11-20-2007, 09:16 PM
I do not spank my child. My home is a peaceful place.
When he is acting up I say "(Son's name), you have a choice. You can either (insert desired behavior here) and get a (insert appropriate rewards here) or do (insert bad behavior here) and get a (insert time out here).
Then usually he'll say I want to do (desired behavior) and get (appropriate reward).
Then I congratulate him on making a good choice and he gets his reward promptly.
If he continues with a bad behavior, he gets a time out.
This way he learns that he has options and that his choices have consequences. When you do good things, good things happen, just as when you do bad things, bad things happen.
It's kinda funny...if he starts acting up I'll say "Son, you have a choice...." and as soon as he hears those words, he'll straighten up right then and there. :)
Sunshine73
11-20-2007, 09:20 PM
The only spanking that goes on in my house is when my hottie boyfriend spanks me while we are deep in the throes of passion. Yeahooo!
I got my ass busted as a child when I needed it. I suppose as a result of that learning experience I spanked my older kids. Often. They were brats. But parenting is tiresome and I got tired after a while. I never spanked my youngest kids. They were brats too. All have turned out to be well adjusted adults and none of them hate me. When I think about it, and considering the results, I'm not sure what advice to offer.
FBR
Joplin
11-20-2007, 10:21 PM
I believe in spanking. I have personal expirence on just about every aspect of the topic.
This is probably an extreme case but :My uncle has two boys that are out of control. If I knew I could get away with it I would have spanked them myself. They are terrors, throw things, hit you, run away and they are 5 and 7 now...its ridiculous. It is also VERY tiring to hear their mom threaten time out and taking toys away. It does not work with them, they just leave time out...whats to stop them?
I really think it depends on the kid. I was spanked a few times. Once for pushing my limits, I was pushing down the Den door and my dad fixed it (its not easy) and I went up there to push it again and he said "if that screen comes down your getting a whipin, don't think i wont" I smiled and pushed that door down...and guess what I got...ahah He just used his hand, nothing big. I think I respect him more for sticking to his guns and not getting run over by a 6 year old.
Obviously I knew what was coming. I wasn't an innocent baby, I was being a little shit and deserved it. I think using a belt is way overboard, I actually busted out laughing when my dad told me of the mystical belt that was "old snappy". I knew I was is baby girl and he'd never hurt me. Obviously I have a very good relationship with my dad to this day and he was always the disciplinarian.
OTOH, I never took my mom seriously, she hit me across the face when I was 7 and i hit her straight back and screamed bloody murder. I've hated her ever since. We fought (verbally) EVERY time we saw each other, which meant I'd have my dad go and get me food since I didn't want to go down stairs and have to deal with her until I couldn't take it anymore and ran away. That is abuse, and it ruined our relationship. Every time I saw her i swelled up with hate because I did NOT understand why I deserved to get slapped across the face.
It's all based on your personal circumstance. I would not find it odd to have two children, one whos never been spanked because they obey with just a warning, and the other to get spanked b/c they are naturally rebellious. There is always a difference between hitting a child out of anger and warning a child of whats going to happen and following through. Theres actually a intellectual process required in the latter, not just a primal response of fear.
LilyLove
11-21-2007, 01:56 AM
^ Well, you are not exactly consenting to it. You are sort of resisting it, in that "Oh God, make me do it anyway" kinda way. Right? }:D
TOO, I'm not that into oral sex, so what you normally post doesn't affect me sexually.. but lordy, you got me here and you weren't even being explicit! "Consenting"... "resisting"... Oooh, you give me fever, When you kiss me
Fever when you hold me tight, you give me fever...
AlexxaHex
11-21-2007, 02:24 AM
I don't agree that striking a child in any form or fashion is a good idea.
Dottie Rebel
11-21-2007, 03:56 AM
^^^I have to agree with you. I think it sends a terrible message--"I'm bigger than you and I'm the authority of you so I have the right to hurt and humiliate you." I believe it can cause psychological damage.
My parents would both get insanely angry and strike me hard across the face for "talking back". I was a good kid, too, just a little mouthy. My parents were both beaten as children, so this was an improvement for them. My stepdad would get super angry and sweep me up, throw me on my bed and spank me. He was only spanked, not beaten. The "out of control"-ness that the anger caused was what scared me the most as a kid. It was terrifying.
I lost so much respect for them for so many years because of this and other treatment. Respect I've gained back as an adult and can look at them as humans just trying to do the best they could.
I believe if you don't have the control to treat your children with dignity and respect at all times you should have kids. Another reason I'm just not going there, personally. I don't trust myself.
Alaska
11-21-2007, 04:37 AM
I feel weird in a more-or-less child abuse thread with ppl getting sexual...::) ...I'm out! Nice to see it on-point at least till page 4....
VenusGoddess
11-21-2007, 06:34 AM
As for the holy-terror boys. I've had friends who "threaten" to do things, and they just keep threatening. In fact, I have one friend who uses "1-2-3 Magic" with her son when it's time to leave. "Johnny, I said 3, that's 3 Johnny. Johnny, did you hear mommy? I said you were on 3. THREE! Get over here, you're already at 3!" ::) Then, she'll leave him ignoring her and being a terror while she'll turn to me and say, "I'm going to leave him here while I put his sister in the car." I finally got fed up with it and said, "No. I'll carry your daughter out, you carry him." I was so tired of that crap. He screamed his head off...and I told him, "If this is the way you are going to act when you come to MY home, I will just not invite you over, anymore. This isn't fun for me." And you know, it worked.
With my friend there is no consistency. No discipline works when you don't follow it up. With Makayla, she does something like that and I tell her, "Enjoy it while you're doing it because you keep acting like this and you won't come back for *time frame here*." And I mean it...and she knows it. But, I also change my tone of voice with her. I go from fun-playful mommy to I'm-dead-serious mommy and there's no question as to what I am expecting...immediate obedience. My friend never changes her voice...it's always that calm, soothing, "mommy-doesn't-want-to-upset-you-so-you-don't-scream voice". Fuck that. I have no tolerance for sitting around twiddling my thumbs hoping my daughter will do what I tell her sometime during the day.
And, if spankings are used sparingly, they are effective. I haven't spanked Makayla in a long time and just the reminder of it: "What happened the last time you kept lying to me?" "I got spanked." "Do you really want to get spanked again?" "No." "Well, if you tell me the truth I may get upset or angry...but I will not spank you. I will spank you if you keep lying to me." And, she'll usually just 'fess up. I don't have to spank her...but I don't spank for every little thing and I don't "threaten" things that I have no intention of following through with.
Whatever form of discipline you choose to follow...you have to be consistent. What is ok today, has to be ok tomorrow and the next day. What is not ok today, cannot be ok tomorrow. If you threaten to take toys away or time out, or whatever, you have to do it. If your child doesn't stay in the time out corner...well, strap them to the chair. I had to put Makayla in her car seat...strapped in...on the floor of the kitchen to get her to stay for a while. After a couple of times of that, she didn't move. I also reset the timer each time she got out of her chair and reminded her that if she were to just sit there and accept her time out, she'd have been out already. Time out only starts once she is sitting, quiet (she can cry or whatever quietly...but she cannot scream bloody murder and throw a loud temper tantrum).
And, if any teacher or coach hit my child, I would lay them flat right there. Disciplining my child is MY job. If he/she does anything that the teacher/coach finds needs disciplining, they need to come to me and I'LL handle it. No one else it to touch my child. Ever.
stellaforstars
11-21-2007, 10:01 AM
And, if any teacher or coach hit my child, I would lay them flat right there. Disciplining my child is MY job. If he/she does anything that the teacher/coach finds needs disciplining, they need to come to me and I'LL handle it. No one else it to touch my child. Ever.
It boggles my mind that this is still legal in some places...
dlabtot
11-21-2007, 11:31 AM
I was never spanked, and only once, that I can recall, was I struck in anger.
When I did something wrong, we'd have a talk, and my parents would ask me to explain why I did it. What torture. I used to say, "I don't know why I did it... can't you just punish me?" lol
Of course, some may think I turned out pretty fucked up, so maybe theirs is not a model to follow...
Morgan_TX
11-21-2007, 12:41 PM
It boggles my mind that this is still legal in some places...
My kids still go to a PUBLIC elementary school where this is legal AND USED!!! My kindergartener (6YO) was having problems right after we moved here with disruptive behavior on the playground, and after being sent to the principal twice, the principal sent home a letter (2nd time in her office) informing me that if he got sent to her office for the same thing, he'd be getting spankings.
:O WTF?
I took a note to the office with copies for the folders of all THREE of my kids and explained that I did NOT consent to corporal punishment.
Truth is, I can see corporal punishment on my 4th-grader. She's a drama queen, and if you just threaten her with a trip to the principal's office, she'll watch her attitude. But for a KINDERGARTENER?
GMAFB.
Yekhefah
11-21-2007, 12:45 PM
We got paddled at school when I was a kid. It was pretty rare for girls to get paddled but I managed it a couple of times. Our principal had this wooden board with holes in it and you did NOT want to be hit with that thing. I got it twice, and then I'd get it again when I got home because my mother would be pissed I got in so much trouble.
Morgan_TX
11-21-2007, 12:51 PM
We got paddled at school when I was a kid. It was pretty rare for girls to get paddled but I managed it a couple of times. Our principal had this wooden board with holes in it and you did NOT want to be hit with that thing. I got it twice, and then I'd get it again when I got home because my mother would be pissed I got in so much trouble.
I got it once in high school... Had my first ever orgasm when I got it, too. Took me about two years to realize why my (male) principal and (male) teacher looked like they were about to burst out laughing at me... After the principal finished, I couldn't decide whether I had to go pee or not, and I guess I was wiggling and probably flushed. The teacher and principal were exchanging this little look I couldn't figure out, like they were shocked but trying not to laugh...
Two years later when I finally had my first sex-related orgasm, I figured it out...
We just went over this in my human development class. There are several studies that show that kids that are spanked have more behavioral problems, lower self esteem, lower self control, and more relationship when they are adults. I don't know how one would disciplin a child without spanking since I don't have any, but I do not agree at all with spanking.
AudreyLeigh
11-21-2007, 01:08 PM
Im not reading all the posts but I do not spank but believe if you want to spank its your choice. A swat on the but to hurt feelings is ok. A beating or leaving marks is not.
Bella21
11-21-2007, 03:07 PM
I got it once in high school... Had my first ever orgasm when I got it, too. Took me about two years to realize why my (male) principal and (male) teacher looked like they were about to burst out laughing at me... After the principal finished, I couldn't decide whether I had to go pee or not, and I guess I was wiggling and probably flushed. The teacher and principal were exchanging this little look I couldn't figure out, like they were shocked but trying not to laugh...
Two years later when I finally had my first sex-related orgasm, I figured it out...
:eek:
Kaylinn
11-21-2007, 03:32 PM
I want to thank everyone for keeping this thread on track. It was a nice, adult conversation where everyone could express their personal views without any arguments.
Thank you. :)
SW has made me proud ;D
AudreyLeigh
11-21-2007, 03:56 PM
I got it once in high school... Had my first ever orgasm when I got it, too. Took me about two years to realize why my (male) principal and (male) teacher looked like they were about to burst out laughing at me... After the principal finished, I couldn't decide whether I had to go pee or not, and I guess I was wiggling and probably flushed. The teacher and principal were exchanging this little look I couldn't figure out, like they were shocked but trying not to laugh...
Two years later when I finally had my first sex-related orgasm, I figured it out...
That sounds like a bad porn plot... :rotfl:
Katrine
11-21-2007, 05:10 PM
I can't ever remember being spanked in a controlled manner.
My punishment as a child sucked, cause it was either nonexistant, never lasted or was overdone. Groundings lasted a day if at all, but spankigns were way to harsh..I remember doing something bad one day and knew my dad would hit me when he found ouit, so befor he came home I layered on all the underwear I had to pad my butt.
I also remember getting smacked across the mouth for being a smartmouth or talkign back. I think it's always wrong to hit a kid across the face.
Or in public. Embarassing for the kid and yoruself.
Kaylinn, I think we had the same childhood. :'( Things got really violent in my household many times. Not because my parents are abusers, but because they have very poor impulse control, anger management issues, and never worked on communicting with one another.