View Full Version : Maybe its a stripper thing
Morgan_TX
11-29-2007, 01:55 PM
For me, there's another aspect of this...
I hang out at a local coffeeshop a LOT, and I wear glasses (instead of contacts), no makeup, screwy hair, and BAGGY clothes (usually really ugly ones, too). I don't have a boyfriend (not sure if I really want one or not, TBH), but at the coffeeshop there's plenty of opportunity to talk and hang out. I don't want some guy to hit on me because I'm "hot", but because he thinks I'm a cool person. I guess I want to see how people will treat me when I'm NOT pretty.
Brooke
11-29-2007, 02:20 PM
My sister used to joke that I get hit on more in pajama pants than anyone else she knows in regular clothes. So when that going out looking like a slob wasn't enough I got the fake glasses. Makes me so much less approachable. I rarely wear them anymore, though, because I find that avoiding eye contact goes a long way. I never used to do that... but now when I am alone I just avoid looking at anyone and it seems to help a lot. Same effect as the glasses. (Which you can buy at a CVS... I just got the lowest prescription reading glasses.)
Before dancing I didn't mind making eye contact and being friendly because it was flattering when a man was attracted to me. Now I just feel like compliments should come gift wrapped in money or be kept to themselves. Oddly enough, I haven't worked as a dancer for 2 years and I still feel that men are imposing upon me if they hit on me for free.
Alaska
11-29-2007, 03:42 PM
^See, that's the problem--they're so freakin imposing. Once in a blue blue moon, if I'm in an extra good mood (once a year? less? ha.) I'll entertain some dude by engaging in conversation orbeing a flirty smartass.......even innocent conversations take a turn for the disgusting in the end. Why bother.
You men have ruined it for us!!!! If the majority of you were not so nasty, we'd spend more time humoring you---quit whining that no pretty girls will ever talk to you.....ask us, when's the last time it went well??
Gypsy74
11-29-2007, 03:49 PM
When I'm not working, I'm in yoga pants and a hoodie at home, no makeup. I feel kind of bad sometimes though because my boyfriend will have friends over and I'm ALWAYS in pajamas, no makeup, etc... they don't know I dance at night and dress up like a beauty queen. It's really hard to want to put makeup and nice clothes on when you spend 10+ hours every other day prepping for and being dressed up for work. I do wear nice fitting bumming around clothes though... IMO.. yoga pants are sexy, and lacy built in bra tank tops are comfy but cute.
I get really angry when guys ask for my number, or ask some stupid question, like "what's your nationality". Some black guy asked me that at the bus stop and i was like, "what's yours?" right back... "lithuanian?? russian??" just to be a bitch. didn't really deter him though.
Alaska
11-29-2007, 03:54 PM
On another note, it gets me xtra roiled up when wearing no makeup doesn't work with the chicks.
Today I was pale, acne, looking cracked out bc I was stumbling around before noon, at the social security office.
Me: So how long will the new card take to arrive?
Fatass gov worker with an evil eye: ....um....it's on the sheet I gave you.
Me: You can't just tell me?
Bitch: .....okay....it's ON the sheet right in front of you.
It was worse than it sounds.>:(
BrunetteGoddess
11-29-2007, 03:58 PM
^^^ I don't do much in the way of trying to look good. Mom told me one time that I couldn't wear pajama pants everywhere. I told her to watch me.
Believe it or not there are soooo many guys that think pajama pants are "cute" and boy, do they like to let me know.
HA! Me too! I will wear pajama pants everywhere, R will always be like 'you're going out in those?' and I go yeah why not? LOL.
This thread is actually pretty funny because I recall some girls on here complaining about dressing like you don't give a crap was annoying.
Zinaida
11-29-2007, 03:58 PM
When I had normal jobs I always put a lot of effort into my wardrobe, now I hardly ever buy new apparel. I don't really have a reason to buy nice clothes now, I don't wear clothes at work lol. And I don't need to dress to the nines to go to Shop Rite ya know? :D Also, before stripping, leaving the house with greasy hair and in old sweatpants would have been out of the question. But now that I can get naked in front of hundreds of people, going to Rite Aid with greasy hair is just way less of an issue. And I also relish the anonymity that looking dumpy in public provides. I'm sick of the attention!!!
Alaska
11-29-2007, 04:00 PM
I just hate bitches, male and female, so damn much that they do not deserve to look at me dressed nicely.
If the majority of the time I run errands/leave the house, I'm hit on by jerkoffs and treated nasty by women, then who the fuck am I dressing for? Please. Lol I sound like I'm just now discovering this....
Bella21
11-29-2007, 10:37 PM
Hehe, my idea of "doing makeup" when I'm not at work involves actually using eyeliner. I dress up for going out and for work... and that's it. Like, I have my "clothes" in the closet and drawers... and then what I normally wear crumpled up in a chair. Gosh, I'm a dirty mess most of the time. :) I feel bad for my bf because we'll go out Saturday night and I'll be all dressed up... and then he gets to wake up to this mess who's wearing the same damn sweatpants every morning. :) Before I started dancing, I used to make sure every LASH was perfect before I left the house.
Oh yea, and it is TOTALLY the girls who have a problem with what I look like in public. As if it really matters to them if I brushed my hair that day?
MissAlethea
11-29-2007, 10:48 PM
I hate being hit on in general, no matter how I look. Really, do they not get social cues? I'm sitting at the coffeeshop, huddled over my laptop like it's keeping me warm and my headphones in! If we'd done the "smile-eyecontact-across-the-room" thing a few times, then fine. You have reason to believe you will get a favorable reaction. But if you walk up behind me, lay a hand on my shoulder and ask me how I'm doing, the response will be: "Busy. What do you want. Thirty words or less. Go."
Then they get all huffy! Dude, why would I be nice to you? I don't know you, I don't love you, and I don't want to touch your pee-pee. And that's what you want. I guarantee you didn't approach because of my sparkling character. Now piss off.
I'm thinking of having cards made up, so I don't even have to tear myself away from SW, just hand him one.
BrunetteGoddess
11-29-2007, 10:54 PM
Oh yea, and it is TOTALLY the girls who have a problem with what I look like in public. As if it really matters to them if I brushed my hair that day?
Exactly. it's like, what's it to you? Aren't you happy you less 'competition'? ;)
ruru123
11-30-2007, 01:23 AM
Hehe, my idea of "doing makeup" when I'm not at work involves actually using eyeliner. I dress up for going out and for work... and that's it. Like, I have my "clothes" in the closet and drawers... and then what I normally wear crumpled up in a chair. Gosh, I'm a dirty mess most of the time. :) I feel bad for my bf because we'll go out Saturday night and I'll be all dressed up... and then he gets to wake up to this mess who's wearing the same damn sweatpants every morning. :) Before I started dancing, I used to make sure every LASH was perfect before I left the house.
Oh yea, and it is TOTALLY the girls who have a problem with what I look like in public. As if it really matters to them if I brushed my hair that day?
im the same way! my poor hubby, when we first started dating i was miss priss, makeup on as soon as i woke up, cute lil outfits....NOOOO MORREE..lol...sweats, tanks and ponytail, NO make up. oh well i doubt he even knows the difference have the time.
modlgrl
11-30-2007, 02:02 AM
This is a great thread. I thought I was the only one that felt like/did this. Most of the girls I work w/ do dress up. My very best stripper friend moved to AZ over a year ago & she was just like me. Now I usually keep to myself, and I am very mean to men when I am running errands if they try to talk to me. I think subconsciously I try to hide that part of my life and don't want to be recognized when I am out.
Alaska
11-30-2007, 06:03 AM
Then they get all huffy! Dude, why would I be nice to you? I don't know you, I don't love you, and I don't want to touch your pee-pee. And that's what you want. I guarantee you didn't approach because of my sparkling character. Now piss off.
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I hope men are seriously taking notes---that's the worst too, like we OWE THEM A RESPONSE. They get so fucking.....ANGRY. *shudder*
Then when they notice you are avoiding eye contact, it's "What's wrong?? SMILE!"
I was buying a plug for my bathtub, which took 5 minutes, but 1 customer there had to read my shirt out loud, and the cashier had to wrap up my purchase with "and I HOPE you are having a BETTER DAY."
MirrorImage
12-01-2007, 11:35 PM
Haha same here! i think it bugs me because i am used to getting PAID for the attention, and working at a club, you get to see mens real motives alot more
I so wish I could get away with the no makeup and glasses thing. I've got bad skin, and I look like some meth addict if I leave the house without concealer and heavy duty powder. Also, my glasses hurt my ears, and they are the only pair I've found in years that I like. I wear jeans and tshirt every day usually. I don't know why I don't have more sweat pants, I've always liked them. I wash my hai r2 or 3 times a week, so greasy I've got down. Guys don't care.
xoxoGracexoxo
12-02-2007, 03:35 PM
^See, that's the problem--they're so freakin imposing.
Ain't it the truth. It drives me crazy how men will act like they have a god-given right to walk up and start talking to me, then get pissy if I don't feel like responding. Why am *I* the one who's being rude? What about the rudeness of pestering a stranger in a public place?
Dude, when you approach a strange woman in public, getting shot down is a risk you must accept. At least take it gracefully.
Picaresque
12-02-2007, 03:53 PM
I do wear nice fitting bumming around clothes though... IMO.. yoga pants are sexy, and lacy built in bra tank tops are comfy but cute.
I get really angry when guys ask for my number, or ask some stupid question, like "what's your nationality".
:yes: to yoga pants and tank tops! They're form-fitting, yet comfy. As long as they're not ten times too big, and don't have holes or stains or ratty hems, they look super cute!
I also love those little wrap-around sweaters that are supposed to be for ballet class...I wear them all the time--usually over a fitted tank top, with jeans or yoga pants. ;D
As far as complete strangers trying to hit on me...I just pretend not to speak English. (Or Spanish, as the case may be.)
I used to tell these random pick-up artists that I was married (I'm not)...but then I found out that doesn't deter them one bit. It's sad that some people are such disgusting pigs--most of them would say "oh well give me your number, your husband will never know if we talk." EW.
paintgoddess
12-02-2007, 08:14 PM
I never dress up when I'm out on errands. I still get hit on though. Went to get the oil changed the other day and this stupid guy had to let me know every time he came through the lobby that I should be a model. I had frizzy hair, puffy/sleepy eyes, and glasses.
I really don't want attention from males at all when I'm not at work unless they're just being genuinely polite while doing their job or going about their business.
I need to get one of those fake engagement rings from walmart. I hope it will cut down on the unsolicited bullshit.
Cassandra39
12-03-2007, 01:24 PM
I'm a big fan of cute sweatsuits. I know they might not be "in style" according to all the mags but they are so cute and comfy! I wear 7 inch heels and lil outfits that ride up and down and need adjusting every minute at work, I wanna not worry about my wardrobe in real life.
Target got in some really cute sweatpant sets too! Or if you have a Hustler Hollywood store they have some cute ones too...
I do like having my hair done, but baseball caps are a major staple too. I'm finally learning that I don't have to be nice to strangers and that by avoiding them life is a hell of a lot easier.
StripPokerGirl
12-03-2007, 07:55 PM
Ok, this is so me. When I'm at the grocery store, I always wear huge shirts and pajamas. I also wear huge hats. Don't put any make-up on. Sometimes, I'm pale as a ghost. I dunno, maybe I'm afraid to be recognized?
kryssy
12-03-2007, 10:04 PM
I use to do the pj pants all the time, until i was informed by my 11 year old that "mom you are embarassing me". I do remember how i felt when my mom would do that and not care, so i refuse to do that to my daughter. However, if i don't have to do anything that day it is still the sweats or pj's ;)
Zinaida
12-06-2007, 05:32 PM
It drives me crazy how men will act like they have a god-given right to walk up and start talking to me, then get pissy if I don't feel like responding. Why am *I* the one who's being rude? What about the rudeness of pestering a stranger in a public place?
Lol that's another thing I handle differently now that I've been dancing. If I guy was hitting on me or cat-calling me, I'd ignore it or be polite about it. Now I just wrinkle my nose at them and go: "UGH!" and keep moving. They get the point. }:D
bluelight
12-06-2007, 05:39 PM
omg i do the same thing. haha.
Zinaida
12-06-2007, 05:43 PM
I should say: "As if!" lol.
dollyrocker
12-06-2007, 09:38 PM
I've always hated it when guys I'm not interested in hit on me. But after being a dancer, my attitude changed to "Theres no way I'm giving you attention - FOR FREE" , muahahahahaha.
I always wear dressy stuff though. I don't own any sweats, t shirts, or pants.
Lysondra
12-09-2007, 01:56 AM
^ Haha, I'd started wondering if I was the only one who still dressed okay! Hahaha.
buffie06
12-11-2007, 05:30 AM
I try not to be to "undone" ever. I will wear nice sweats, but my makeup and hair has to look nice and I be sure to wear acessories, otherwise I am dressed nice. I like attention for looking nice. I feel like the times that I am running my errands and such, everyone else is mid workday and it just seems respectful in a sense.
Morgan_TX
12-11-2007, 11:56 AM
I don't want to touch your pee-pee. And that's what you want. I guarantee you didn't approach because of my sparkling character.
Sig time!!!
Brooke
12-11-2007, 03:13 PM
Then when they notice you are avoiding eye contact, it's "What's wrong?? SMILE!"
I got this one the other day and it pissed me off so much. Up until he asked, there was nothing wrong. But suddenly, instead of just trying to run my errand quickly and peacefully, I was seething mad. Not smiling does not mean something is wrong... unless of course you think that I should just be so happy to be pretty that I can't wipe the smile off my face.
What I still enjoy is the very occassional compliment with no expectations. Someone walking by pays an original compliment and keeps going. They don't try to stop you and they don't want your number and they don't repeat something that you have heard 100 times... they just politely express appreciation. Those are the ones that make me smile and I remember them fondly long afterwards.
nicole84
12-11-2007, 03:26 PM
But suddenly, instead of just trying to run my errand quickly and peacefully, I was seething mad. Not smiling does not mean something is wrong... unless of course you think that I should just be so happy to be pretty that I can't wipe the smile off my face.
I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I hate it when people assume that just because I am not grinning like an idiot, something must be wrong. Argh!
tmlsuperspice
12-13-2007, 02:13 PM
Everywhere I go I don't wear makeup, wear dark sunglasses, try not to look nice and basically frumpy casual, and try not to make eye contact with men. I don't want anyone to talk to me. Don't want to be hit on either. Don't want men to stare at my luscious boobies when all I want to do is go to Target. I always cover them - not low cut shirts.
For example, I went to the gym last week (yea last week) and the guy at the parking attendant starts asking me "do you have a bf?" and "why are you single?". I'm like wtf can't I just go workout and go home w/o your ass trying to make flirty with me. I just drove off in the middle of what he thought was a conversation.
Maybe if I don't shower on my days off guys won't talk to me. ::)
Does anyone else do this?
Sometimes guys think that just because you make an effort to be attractive, that it is a cry for attention. They don't understand that we do it for ourselves. I have a friend who does the opposite for attention. When every one else is out to dinner in nice casual clothes, make up done, hair nice, she's in booty pajama shorts , tank top, and no make up. Guys approach her cuz they think she's a skank to spank.This strokes her falsely inflated ego.
TheSexKitten
12-13-2007, 02:34 PM
I HATE the bastards that tell me to smile! I always get that shit in the gym as I'm walking from one machine to the next. This has happened at least 3 times, and some fat old bastard says as I walk by, "Come on, smile!" with a lecherous shit-eating grin on his face.
Next time someone says that I'm gonna rip him a new one.
BrunetteGoddess
12-13-2007, 03:14 PM
Whenever anyone does that "Smile!" shit, I tell them I smile plenty and that I don't feel like smiling right now.
Basically: fuck off.
britt244
12-13-2007, 03:35 PM
i was thinking about this thread when i went to the dentist this morning. i was wearing big sweatpants and a wife beater with my jacket over it, and the only makeup i had one was what was leftover from last night. (eyeliner.. it didnt look sloppy or anything, haha, i cleaned it up!) i just didnt care what i looked like. these people have been seeing me every 6 months since i was a baby. i dont think it matters.
as for the smile thing.. even girls at work tell me i always look pissed off. ok, if its slow or im sitting by myself or standing or something, i dont stand there smiling like a crazy person! it doesnt mean im mad and its so annoying when they say that.
blayze
12-13-2007, 06:44 PM
haha... when i was preggo i STILL got hit on, i'd go out with my friends just to kick it or play pool, and instead of walking up and hitting on the hot ass chick i'm with (m best friend is amazingly beautiful! AND she has a kick ass personality too, so no reason why guys wouldn't hit on her), they hit on the swollen ABOUT TO POP pregnant girl? wtf!?
bc nevermind the fact that i was pregnant with not their kid and had a huge wedding ring on, i was frumpy looking and huge!
before the Xman came along though, when iwas still dancing, i wore m husbands jeans and a hoodie and minimal make up. i didn't get hit on that much while out in public, but that might have been the uber bitch vibes that i radiated...