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dearestfrances
12-02-2007, 12:18 AM
I was molested by my biological father when I was three. He sent pictures home with me in my suitcase when I flew back home after my court required visit. My mom found them but the divorce lawyers ignored them saying it didn't matter, he was family. I found that out recently and am as angry with them as I am with that man.

Madcap
12-02-2007, 12:58 AM
I think I'd feel way more comfy if this were in LO, actually. And no, I've never been.


I agree. This needs to be in LO.

BrunetteGoddess
12-02-2007, 01:01 AM
I have been sexually assaulted/molested, when I was 10. We pressed charges; he was my best friend's grandfather and it happened at her birthday party. She never spoke to me again afterwards and I still am hurt and unsure why she snubbed me.

The fucker never got jail time, only needed to agree to the courts to get help.

It fucked me up real bad to the point that when I was 14 I started thinking I saw him even though he was a country's width away. The PTSD and depression got me commited to a hospital 2x for trying to commit suicide a couple times.

I don't talk about it a lot.

TigersMilk
12-02-2007, 01:11 AM
I am sorta surprised by how many people have got off with such little consequence. That part is just as sad as the act itself to me. I know its hard for people to talk about their experiences but thanks for sharing so far everyone.

Sunshine73
12-02-2007, 01:19 AM
I find it horrible that there are so many negative repercussions to the survivor for reporting a rape. It makes me so fucking angry.

It's like, hello. Someone gets raped and does society a favor by reporting the motherfucker, only to get called a liar and further victimized by the law itself???!!!

WTF??!!!

Bass ackwards.

Lena
12-02-2007, 01:48 AM
I never would press charges again either . There is also the fact that we as strippers have no credibility making us very clear targets for sexual predators.

Me neither.

When I was a teenager this really really nice cop convinced me to report things and she spent months building a case and getting all this evidence. Then the DA told me she was really sorry, but juries just don't convict parents around here even if there is evidence so there's no point trying because it would just be traumatic for me. And she was sorry that I was living under a tree at twenty below and my dad was telling people he was going to kill me, but she thought if I just went back to school and did all my homework I'd turn out real good in a few years.

Susan Wayward
12-02-2007, 03:11 AM
Wow . . . I am in the category (apparently the minority here) of those who have never been raped, assaulted, or molested, and I am actually quite shocked at how common it is. I hardly know anyone, among my personal circle of friends, who to my knowledge has been through anything like this, either; I can think of two instances and that's all. So I feel pretty sheltered right now reading all of this. And just awful. This is just terrible.

sun child
12-02-2007, 03:55 AM
Among my friends that have been raped/molested/assaulted (this is just off the top of my head)
- L who was raped by her ex-boyfriend
- A who was raped by a stranger in her middle school
- K who was raped by a cab driver in Brooklyn
- L who was molested by her brother
- R who was assaulted by a stranger in Reno (he tried to finger her) and was assaulted by a monk in Mongolia
- J who was molested by her mom's boyfriend
- L who was molested by another man when he was a teen
- P who was raped/molested by his mom

I have definitely been in situations where I've been taken advantage of. Legally they were "rape" situations but I never pressed charges. My father molested me and I still can't tell if I just made it up in my head. It made my life really difficult.

It's all really sad. It does help to be honest about it and not feel shame.

Tofulita
12-02-2007, 04:53 AM
Is it possible to change the title of this thread? Maybe to something like Have you ever been sexually assaulted?

the r-word is a trigger.

Yes, it is my choice to click on the thread and to read the content but am I going to be denied safety in the lounge?

Asking it openly like that...I'm not going to be able to sleep. Asking it in the same manner that you ask someone if they've ever missed a train or danced in New York. I don't want to think about it, and I know that others do not either.

I agree with Fawn. I do not want to relive it, and if I do then I want it to be when I am prepared for it. Not before bed, where it'll creep into my dreams, if I am able to sleep at all.

If you want to discuss it, please do. But please do not surprise us with a flashback by a topic in a previously safe lounge.

Lysondra
12-02-2007, 05:00 AM
I agree. This needs to be in LO.

I don't agree. Putting it in LO is like saying LALALALALAMENDONTGETRAPEDLALALALALA and isn't that what women don't want to hear themselves? Pretending it doesn't happen to men and ignoring it is just as bad as pretending women don't go through it.

pookie
12-02-2007, 06:04 AM
i feel fortunate because i have not been assaulted, my heart goes out to all of you who have ever had this happen

ahmeerah
12-02-2007, 06:34 AM
I was in the Dominican Republic and was raped/assaulted -- I'm not sure which honestly. I tried to forget about it until my Mom read my journal. She told the Elders (Jehovah's Witnesses) and the Elders BLAMED ME for it because I had been drinking. They took away my *priveledges* in the church for it. >:(

What hurt was that I'd considered these particular elders my friends. :'(

How people responded to it hurt A LOT more than what happened back in the Dominican Republic.

ahmeerah
12-02-2007, 06:37 AM
Unfortuntely i'm not suprised by the results of the poll.

I'm more interested in the ages of when it happened. 21 seems to be a magical number when it comes to the rape and assault of women. Or early 20s.

I know I was very trusting in my early 20s. Now, not so much.

Casual Observer
12-02-2007, 08:39 AM
When I was a teenager this really really nice cop convinced me to report things and she spent months building a case and getting all this evidence. Then the DA told me she was really sorry, but juries just don't convict parents around here even if there is evidence so there's no point trying because it would just be traumatic for me. And she was sorry that I was living under a tree at twenty below and my dad was telling people he was going to kill me, but she thought if I just went back to school and did all my homework I'd turn out real good in a few years.

By proxy, I've had two very different experiences in this scenario.

Circa 1991, I was overseas in the USAF and was involved with a fellow airman that had been gang raped during technical school in Texas, about a year earlier, a story she relayed to me in some detail while under the influence of Bitburger one evening. She had a pretty rough time of it, and her attempts to get justice through the system were thwarted due to a reluctance to blemish her record in the military and the fact that any trial would have exposed her drinking and sexual predilections, thereby making it harder to obtain a positive outcome. When I left that duty station, she'd taken to the bottle pretty hard and wound up pregnant with some other drunken loser's kid. She was an artist, or at least an aspiring artist. I think she's moved back to NY now, but I've not heard from her in over ten years.

Circa 1996, I was living in Seattle and seeing a girl near my hometown back in NH. During this time, she was assaulted by a former boyfriend. Called the police (she wasn't going to originally, but I prodded her into doing so) and they came down on him like a hammer. He lost quite a bit from that--criminal record, lost his job, his house, et al. It was surprisingly efficient and I'm sure that sped her recovery from the incident.

One other anecdotal experience in this area. Had a supervising NCO charged with rape while I was stationed in Europe. It was a particularly brutal crime and it was big news, because the woman was the wife of a high-profile, high-ranking officer. I never did like the guy, mostly because he was a crude and disgusting creature in a way that bothered even me. I had no small amount of schadenfreude seeing him escorted around the base by SPs and in chains. Problem was, it came out in the trial that he didn't do it--the wife admitted to the consensual affair, which shocked all of us on the base, actually, considering he was a slug and she was not, and the trial had progressed so far. Saw him later in the base commissary and apologized to him (I was slated to be a character witness against him in the trial...turned out to be unnecessary). The damage had been done though; he was a lifer, and they basically ended his career. Maybe it was a karma thing...

Darcy Foxx
12-02-2007, 08:41 AM
I don't agree. Putting it in LO is like saying LALALALALAMENDONTGETRAPEDLALALALALA and isn't that what women don't want to hear themselves? Pretending it doesn't happen to men and ignoring it is just as bad as pretending women don't go through it.

i'm with lysondra. male rape, while not as common, is just as serious as female rape, and there's already been some guys who have contributed to this thread.

Mastridonicus
12-02-2007, 09:52 AM
Without putting my own experiences up for observation, I will comment that it is FAR more than many of us are capable of expecting. I know in my travels, the recollection of the events in quantity alone is as shocking as some of the acts themselves.

Pamela
12-02-2007, 10:42 AM
Okay, ouch, and WTF, and more ouch. There is no type. There are only people who don't talk about it.

Very true. And no.

PrincessShea
12-02-2007, 10:50 AM
I was molested by an aunt's husband from about 10-17; sexually, physically, and emotionally abused by a former boyfriend, and raped by a stranger.

It's so weird that I read this today... just yesterday my BF took me to the spot where the rape happened in the hope it would clear up some of my memory...

zxcire
12-02-2007, 10:52 AM
Oh I'm such a giant baby. I posted and then deleted it.

Fuck shame.

I have been assaulted, my husband has been raped and assaulted. I had never thought about the male POV until I met him. He is the strongest man I know.

Pamela
12-02-2007, 10:57 AM
Oh I'm such a giant baby. I posted and then deleted it.

Fuck shame.

I have been assaulted, my husband has been raped and assaulted. I had never thought about the male POV until I met him. He is the strongest man I know.

I read these postings and this is a very touchy subject indeed. Many can't even talk or say anything in therapy let alone on a public forum.

KUDOS to ALL of you who speak up! This is nothing to be ashamed of, it's never the victims fault. Men and women both get sexually assulted. IT's the sick fucks to blame no one else.

cameron_keys
12-02-2007, 11:07 AM
First of all my heart truly goes out to all of who have and those of you have not spoken about your assaults. Nobody should EVER have to go through that and the fact that you all are still here...being strong....making wonderful things of your lives...and with the HUGE hearts we have on here...is something truly amazing.


While many of the things that have happened to me at WORK can certainly be considered sexual assault or attempted rape....I dont count them. I dont know why I dont,....logically its the same act, and many have had the same mental impact on me....but i dont.


I will say this. This thread is not the first time I have seen a rapist get off throughthe legal system because of predudice...either to women in general or to strippers. I'm not saying I wouldnt at least try to punish him legally..I might. But it totally depend on the circumstances. I could NOT though..let him get away with it.

Not to sound all Jersey...BUT..I am from there and sometimes things are handled a bit differantly there. My Italian husband is from there too....and between us we do have a few people who owe favors. For something like THAT....I'd be calling in one of those favors. A man who rape dme would never see the light of day again...whether though jail time or the barrel of a 45. And I would not lose a nights sleep over it.
That may sound bad or cold and I"m sure some people will judge me for it and tell me I need to get over it and revenge wont do anything and blah blah/....but really...going to the cops and putting him in jail...isnt THAT a form of revenge too??? If I cnt get justice their way..i IWLL get it mine. judge me for that if you want...but thats how i was raised.

VegasPrincess
12-02-2007, 11:09 AM
I'm very sorry to hear all of these stories. I too was attacked, thankfully the guy finally decided to let me go before an actual rape occured. It was the most frightening experience of my life, and it didn't occur to me to call the cops til much later. I was gambling and this guy and I played at the same table for four or so hours. Stupidly, I went up to his room with him .... didn't think anything of it. As soon as we got up there, he threw me on the bed and started trying to rip my clothes off. Thankfully he wasn't very big, and I was going ape shit kicking him. All of a sudden, the hotel room door opens and a person I believe was his brother walked in. I thought I was saved.... but the guy stared at me and STARTED LAUGHING. I was literally crying and yelling help me, and the guy was cracking up laughing as his friend groped and punched me on this bed. That did it, I was sure I was going to die right there. Finally and suddenly, the guy just let go of me. I somehow grabbed my purse but didn't bother with my shoes, flew down the stairs of the hotel because I was scared they would come out to the elevator, and walked to the valet stand dazed with no shoes.

It never occured to me to call the cops,. I don't know why. but I wish I would have. Actually, I wish that I would run into these motherfuckers in a dark alley while I am holding a tire iron.

PrettyCurlieQ
12-02-2007, 11:17 AM
Not that I know of. I get these weird dream-like flashbacks to when I was really young about my dad doing things.. and my sister (who is ten years older) drunkenly confirmed my fears when she was drunk and pissed off at me. But that doesn't make it true. So I clicked no.

Kaylinn
12-02-2007, 12:42 PM
I was a victim of sexual assult by my uncle when I was 13. Apparently, he also had done things to me as a child under the age of 5 but I don't remember. my mom told me.
Charges were never pressed because "you don't do that in our family"
My family would never send another meber to jail, no matter how heinous the crime. When this uncle had a 5 year old daughter who's mother claimed had been assulted by her dad, I was the first to stand up in court and testify. It took my family years to forgive me.
When I was 19 and homeless, this uncle was the only person who was willing to take me in. He made sexual comments every day, and even took the doorknob off my bedroom door so I couldn't lock it. He took pictures of me in my panties and I let him. Why? I was trying to be a model and he told me that was what agencies wanted to see. I believed him. I was so incredibly embarassed when that agency called me back and said they didn't want to work with me because they weren't "that kind" of place.
I had to live with him because I had nowhere else to go. He eventually kicked me out and I haven't spoken to him since.
Now he has foster kids. All girls. He told the foster agency he didn't want boy foster kids because he has a little girl so will only accept girls. Even though he went to court over the stuff with his daughter..they gave him foster kids. ( he got off in court. inconclusive evidence. No one really knows what happened with that)

StrawberrySwitchblade
12-02-2007, 12:47 PM
I have never been assaulted in any form. I consider myself lucky. Among the people I know, two have been assaulted or raped.

C, who was raped by a boyfriend. I can't hug her from behind (though er current LTR boyfriend can if he works up to it) because that is how it happened to her. Her will completely lose composure and have a meltdown.
A, a girl from my old club, was raped by a guy who actually lives up the street from my dad. I know his younger brother, and only found this out recently. I came face to face with him, and spit at his feet.

My boyfriend doesn't like to even mention rape. To him it's something that, if not mentioned, isn't a reality. I don't keep silent about it. To not talk about it, in my mind, make the crime invisible, but not eradicated.

ahmeerah
12-02-2007, 12:48 PM
What does blackmailed and threatened into a sexual relationship count as?

Or is that something completely different?

StrawberrySwitchblade
12-02-2007, 12:50 PM
That's rape. If it was against your will in any form, it was rape. :-\

TigersMilk
12-02-2007, 12:52 PM
What does blackmailed and threatened into a sexual relationship count as?

Or is that something completely different?

In most countries that is considered sex slavery. Whatever it may be called is still awful to be threatened and blackmailed into something sexual.

ahmeerah
12-02-2007, 12:54 PM
Not to sound all Jersey...BUT..I am from there and sometimes things are handled a bit differantly there. My Italian husband is from there too....and between us we do have a few people who owe favors. For something like THAT....I'd be calling in one of those favors. A man who rape dme would never see the light of day again...whether though jail time or the barrel of a 45. And I would not lose a nights sleep over it.
That may sound bad or cold and I"m sure some people will judge me for it and tell me I need to get over it and revenge wont do anything and blah blah/....but really...going to the cops and putting him in jail...isnt THAT a form of revenge too??? If I cnt get justice their way..i IWLL get it mine. judge me for that if you want...but thats how i was raised.

I don't judge you for this. I'd prefer it if the rapists were raped themselves though. If they DO go to jail for rape, good chance that'll happen anyways.

When it comes to child molesters, I think those people are sick and dangerous. In my opinion, they need to either get jail for life or get handled the "Jersey" way hate to say.

Blade
12-02-2007, 12:56 PM
After having a night to think about it, I've decided to share my story. It's the first time I believe that I've told the world and, other than posting a poem I wrote about it, I believe this is the first time I posted it on a message board.
I was working as a desk clerk in a hotel and decided I needed a second job. One of our long term guests was the manager of a pancake house and they needed a cook.
He and I were social with each other so I asked about the job, he said swing by my room later tonight and we'll have a few beers and talk about it. I was 22 and loved a few beers so I said yeah sure.
At this point in time I could drink a 12 pack of beer and still not be too fucked up, the bars after work were part of my nightly routine.
I show up, he grabs 2 beers from the fridge and hands me one, I drink it and immediately have to piss, as I stand up my legs buckle and I drop.
I came to as he was raping me, and foiught him off of me and got out of there.
The next day the letters started, he was professing his love for me and begging my forgiveness.
I take the letters and go to the cops with them. The cops say...Well this sounds like a lovers quarrel so there's nothing we can do.
Yeah I felt great goin to the cops.
On the plus side, I had a friend who wouldn't let me kill the son of a bitch.He knew it was all I could think about, hell I had it all planned out including a body dump site.
I was always the go to guy for my female friends who were raped, I knew how hard it was for them to talk and think about it.
I told my story over and over again to anyone who would listen for years, then one day I was driving down the street and saw my attacker again.
I froze, all the fear and pain I was trying to get rid of by talking about it came rushing back 100 times stronger than before.
Now the only emotion I feel is anger. This is the poem I wrote about it, it's written from his pov..it was my way of healing myself back then and it still kinda helps me to read it.

Welcome to hell, come on inside
you can run, but you'll never hide
Just lie back and try not to cry
before I'm through you'll want to die

You'll soon learn to fear me
as I strip away your dignity
In every mans eyes you'll see my brutality
so say goodbye to your once peaceful reality

As your bain freezes over with fear
I'll rip away all you hold dear
At night when you see my face in your dreams
will you know I'm laughing at your screams?

Your not the first life I've shattered
and yours won't be the last soul I leave tattered
There's so many more lives for me to ruin
so many heads to leave spinning in confusion

Say goodbye to the calm you once knew
it ain't over until I'm thru
Now I'll take your sanity as a petty token
cuz I made you, made you mine, and you're broken

ahmeerah
12-02-2007, 12:56 PM
In most countries that is considered sex slavery. Whatever it may be called is still awful to be threatened and blackmailed into something sexual.

That makes me feel nauseaus. I can't think of it like that.

RoseLeigh
12-02-2007, 01:00 PM
That makes me feel nauseaus. I can't think of it like that.

I think I know what you mean-this is half of what my therapist and I talk about-my inability to think of things in that light.

All Good Things
12-02-2007, 01:02 PM
After having a night to think about it, I've decided to share my story.

This is exactly why this thread belongs here, and not in LO.

Thanks, Blade, for having the courage to post that.

TigersMilk
12-02-2007, 01:04 PM
That makes me feel nauseaus. I can't think of it like that.
I'm sorry it may be hard to think of it that way. :hug:

In other countries where the young women (as young as 5 years old) are sold into sex slavery or blackmailed or threatened to have their family killed if they don't go to the brothel. They are later sold to older men who pay the brothel owner for sex with the young girl. Your situation made me think of that.

I just read your poem and post Blade. Thank you for sharing that. I truly hope he gets what he deserves.

RoseLeigh
12-02-2007, 01:06 PM
Blade, your poem made me cry. I never think of this stuff being common with men. Sometimes I wish we could go all vigilante on these people, but then the earth would be half empty.

RoseLeigh
12-02-2007, 01:14 PM
Oh it is! It is rape if the person is physically intimidating you and making threats. You're not overblowing it. I think it's good to think of it honestly. It's easier to face the loss of trust, sense of betrayal etc. if you don't sugarcoat it.

I dated a guy like that (once and NEVER again) and he tried to make it all seem consensual. This guy was hot and buff and charming and wouldn't have to coerce anyone to get laid. I think he probably couldn't even enjoy sex if it wasn't heavy pressure and threats because it was the power trip he was looking for. I think that was his wacked out M.O. I would love to have pressed charges but it would have been damn hard given there wasn't a scratch on me and my job would make me an unbelievable victim. I voluntarily drank and clubbed and went out with that douche. I eve introduced him to my friends!! So I'd knew I'd end up looking like I'd had buyers remorse.

Yeah, you are right-this guy needed to feel like I'd do what he wanted and he was regarded among our friends as being really suave. He had his ex-gf (who I eventually talked to) convinced that no one would ever sleep with her but him so she HAD to. He's also the only guy who ever hit me and I think he hit her too.

"Buyer's remorse" WAS how I thought about it. I hate reflecting on my life.

Blade
12-02-2007, 01:16 PM
This is exactly why this thread belongs here, and not in LO.

Thanks, Blade, for having the courage to post that.Thanks TOO. Hopefully my story helps someone somewhere realize that men are at risk as well.


Blade, your poem made me cry. I never think of this stuff being common with men. Sometimes I wish we could go all vigilante on these people, but then the earth would be half empty.
I'm sorry the poem made ya cry. If it bothers too many people let me know and I'll remove it.
I think if we went all vigilante on these fools the world would be more than half empty, just think of how many people NEVER admit it happened.

RoseLeigh
12-02-2007, 01:22 PM
I'm sorry the poem made ya cry. If it bothers too many people let me know and I'll remove it.
I think if we went all vigilante on these fools the world would be more than half empty, just think of how many people NEVER admit it happened.

No, no it's an awesome poem. And you're probably right. There are at least three molesters in my fam. and it is not a big family.

Alaska
12-02-2007, 01:33 PM
I for one would like to commend you for recognizing that it's not an LO issue.


My SO was molested from 12-17.

I've had some really scary close calls, but nothing that was ever forced or that I had to use a lot of physical force to get away from. I voted NO, never happened to me, knocking on fucking wood, yet.





Omfg Blade. Thank you so incredibly much for sharing that poem. I totally feel like crying. I can't even begin to describe the anger I feel at humanity when they do this shit. What an understatement.

stellaforstars
12-02-2007, 01:47 PM
I'm debating whether or not to share my story...I've never written it down and I think it might be therapeutic.

Blade, you are an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your horrific story. I've said it many times before, but everyone on SW is so strong...It astounds me. I hope someday you find peace and he finds the sharp end of a rusty axe.

Ladies...Thank you as well. I don't know what else to say just yet.

MinahSky
12-02-2007, 03:02 PM
I have been raped once and molested by 2 different people.

nicole84
12-02-2007, 03:24 PM
I was molested when I was 3 by a daycare worker, and then date raped at 18yrs my freshman year in college while my roommate was in the room pretending it didnt happen. Her explanation was that because she knew i was into BDSM, she assumed my crying out "no, stop" was just me being kinky(dont even get me started on that whole thing).

I spent most of my childhood in therapy of various sorts, trying to deal with the severe depression, night terrors, etc. that occured when i hit about 8-9yrs old when my subconscious decided it was time to remember what happend to me when i was 3.

After i was raped, i showered, slept in my roommates bed, and never reported it. I knew, given the situation, it would never go anywhere. I was so in shock, i didnt even make the guy get out of the bed until morning. after he passed out (he was drunk...i was not.), i ran to the shower and cried fo 30min, then my roommate let me sleep in her bed. i did tell my closest male friend, kind of boyfriend, and he was furiious...wanted me to report it, etc. My other, female friends, didnt give a crap. I got STD testing, which was clean thankfully, got antibiotic ointment because i had vaginal tearing, and saw a school shrink for 3 days. I was told I was very "resilient". I boxed the emotions off and moved on.

Blade, thank you for sharing your story. i think it so important for people to realize men get raped too, and it is just as awful for them as for women.

Rape can happen to anyone, and is almost always by someone we know, but i admit, I do wonder what makes rapists pick one person over another.

oh, yeah, and here is the cherry on top....my rapist...is in the same law school i am, and do i see him several times a week.

Madcap
12-02-2007, 03:52 PM
Rekon, i never thought about guys getting raped. My apologies. I just thought that it was a very personal thing and might need some care. In seeing this thread i have discovered that is indeed a very personal thing and might need some care (Just in a different way than i thought).

stellaforstars
12-02-2007, 03:54 PM
^^I think that this thread has served its purpose beautifully then. It brought a new understanding for you.

PookaShell
12-02-2007, 03:55 PM
I will say one thing.

In my case--my first rape--it was brutal. I was dazed and in shock. All I knew to do was stumble home and get into the shower to wash away the blood...I was ashamed...It was a bad decision but the only thing I could think of.

The next morning, the police told me I shouldn't have showered. They intended on doing nothing about it--and treated me like a liar. They weren't the last to do so.

Reporting a rape does not always get you the justice you deserve.

The same thing happened to me. :(

I had to get stitches, and I got pregnant.

The police were assholes.

I miscarried from all the emotional stress.

I've been raped fully one time, forced to perform oral sex twice, and molested as a child.

TigersMilk
12-02-2007, 03:57 PM
^^Not my pookashell! This makes me sad. I think of you as so young and innocent. Makes me sad because someone else's innocence was taken from them.

stellaforstars
12-02-2007, 03:58 PM
The same thing happened to me. :(

I had to get stitches, and I got pregnant.

The police were assholes.

I miscarried from all the emotional stress.

I've been raped fully one time, forced to perform oral sex twice, and molested as a child.


Pooka, you and I went through the EXACT same situation pregnancy-wise. It gave me chills to read what you wrote just now.

I also contracted HPV, which led to pre-cancerous cells on my cervix, which led to surgery with complications, which led to me being unable to conceive.

I really never thought I would be sharing all of this on a public board.

PookaShell
12-02-2007, 04:00 PM
P.S. Blade I appreciate you sharing your story. Society makes it harder for men to come forward and talk about an incident involving sexual assault against t hem, though it isn't easy for women either. Your poem was really good as well. Expresses how alot of us felt in that moment.

Madcap
12-02-2007, 04:01 PM
This thread makes me sad.

PookaShell
12-02-2007, 04:02 PM
^^Not my pookashell! This makes me sad. I think of you as so young and innocent. Makes me sad because someone else's innocence was taken from them.



:hug:

Thanks TM. It makes me sad, too. This all happened over spring break of my senior year in high school. Luckily he didn't get my virginity!