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pookie
12-04-2007, 09:27 AM
I am sorry for any thing I said.You have to understand I am socially challenged.I have never had a girlfriend.The only time I get to actually get to be with women is at strip clubs.

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strip club aren't the best place to meet women
maybe this will help ::)

lotsoffun201
12-04-2007, 12:30 PM
I met my wife while she was dancing at a club about 12 years ago. We had known each other for about 6 months prior to our first "date" OTC, and it was just that a real date. We met for dinner, I did not pick her up. She drove herself, and I left the restaraunt after her, so I did not know what type of car she had etc. It was completely unthreatening, and we have been married since.

If the dancer asked you to come back to the club and did not expect dances etc, then by all means go for it, just make sure it is unthreatening to her as I did. You never know

xdamage
12-04-2007, 04:31 PM
I am sorry for any thing I said.You have to understand I am socially challenged.I have never had a girlfriend.The only time I get to actually get to be with women is at strip clubs.

Being social challenged is common enough, however spending too much time in SCs can make things worse if it is used to avoid the issues, or in lieu of dating women you don't pay by the song.

Pamela
12-05-2007, 12:39 PM
Oh how i remember dancers giving out numbers to new custys! Lol. The dancers figured the guy/s are just passing through, so they make all the money they can, so giving out a number makes a customer feel like he is special. She gets a shit load of $$$$ that night working her hustle, and he's out. Yes it happens all the time...still.

I wish more men would understand this is a job. Many of us don't want to screw you, kiss you or love you. We want you to pay us for our services, period.

Brendita
12-05-2007, 03:01 PM
I'm gonna go out on a limb and say maybe she does like you. Who goes out to eat with intentions of cultivating a reg when the dude only spent $60 and is 21 yrs old? Doesn't exactly scream, "Awesome regular potential!! maybe I should go out to eat with this guy?!?!?"

Just call her up and ask her out. She'll either say, "yes lets go out" or "come see me at work." And then you have your answer.

My thoughts exactly.
To the OP...THANK YOU for being polite! :)

xoxoGracexoxo
12-05-2007, 03:28 PM
Oh how i remember dancers giving out numbers to new custys! Lol. The dancers figured the guy/s are just passing through, so they make all the money they can, so giving out a number makes a customer feel like he is special. She gets a shit load of $$$$ that night working her hustle, and he's out. Yes it happens all the time...still.

Yeah, I've done this plenty of times, too. Sometimes I'll give a guy my number as part of subtly negotiating a tip or, worst-case scenario, as part of getting him NOT to skip without paying me. Like, if he thinks there is a possibility we might get together later, he's going to do everything right now to keep me happy. So yes, it's a possibility.

I'd never go as far as taking a guy to breakfast, though. I mean, I already got my money, presumably, so what would be the point? As for cultivating a regular, I tend to agree with LatinaRose. Most girls save their regular-making game for older guys with lots of money. A 21-year-old who spent $60-100 on dances wouldn't scream "regular material" to me.

Then again, none of us really know. We're just guessing.

saphire123456
12-05-2007, 04:19 PM
ha, i thought i was th only one who did the fake number hustle, i feel like when i do, it makes the guy feel like i REALLY like him, and then i have one of those fake #s that rings for guys i'm cultivating to come in again or buy me smthg, hey, it works!

Casual Observer
12-05-2007, 05:04 PM
If you call her and she only wants to meet at the SC or she doesn't take the initiative and call you for an OTC get-together, it's just business. That's fine, just accept it for what it is.


I am sorry for any thing I said.You have to understand I am socially challenged.I have never had a girlfriend.The only time I get to actually get to be with women is at strip clubs.

Dude, visiting SCs is only likely to aggravate your preexisting social awkwardness. It's not real, dude, and you have to know that going into it.

CORRY20
12-05-2007, 06:33 PM
I Know that but every man needs a womens touch.The only way im going to get it is through Strip Clubs.

jaizaine
12-05-2007, 06:51 PM
^^
just enjoy it then, nothing wrong with that. I find that some customers come into the club just for a woman's touch rather than the nudity.
I had a customer recently who sat there quietly holding my hand for about 20 songs and seemed so sad. He later told me that he had buried his father the day before and I felt so sad for him. It's not always about the XXX.

CORRY20
12-05-2007, 07:08 PM
I totally agree sometimes I just cuddle with the girls their.

beautiful.
12-05-2007, 07:18 PM
I Know that but every man needs a womens touch.The only way im going to get it is through Strip Clubs.


Why do you think that? I saw the picture you posted of yourself and you're very cute.

CORRY20
12-05-2007, 07:19 PM
It's means allot to me Thanks.It truley made my night.

TheSexKitten
12-05-2007, 07:44 PM
^^
just enjoy it then, nothing wrong with that. I find that some customers come into the club just for a woman's touch rather than the nudity.
I had a customer recently who sat there quietly holding my hand for about 20 songs and seemed so sad. He later told me that he had buried his father the day before and I felt so sad for him. It's not always about the XXX.

Wow that's really depressing. :'(

velour1141
12-05-2007, 08:31 PM
My husband and I met when I had started stripping... and still to this day when he comes to the club he gets dances from me and pays for them... kind of funny since our money is one in the same... but that's just the way he is... so I won't argue. It's actually sweet I think.

xoxoGracexoxo
12-06-2007, 01:39 AM
I Know that but every man needs a womens touch.The only way im going to get it is through Strip Clubs.

My boyfriend went to clubs quite a bit when he was younger. (We didn't meet at a club, BTW. We met at the bookstore where he worked.) He was shy around girls, and he said having a pretty naked girl so close to him was like "dress rehearsal" that made it easier to ask a girl out in real life.

I can see how this would be a good use of strip-clubbing for a young, shy guy. Just don't get into the habit of thinking that this is the only way you can meet women, or that the interaction between strippers and customers bears much resemblance to interactions between men and women in the rest of the world.

kbond4
12-06-2007, 08:44 PM
wow!!! I just read a page and a half of responses. Some great, real, down to earth advice. hmm, yeah I definetly want to treat her like any other girl, and I definetly would be excited if this situation arose at any other workplace such as if she was a waitress from applebees. I mean what guy doesn't love getting a girls number! As one poster said, it is strange having met her in the club because it is hard to know what her intentions are...but hell, who am i kidding, I don't know what my intentions are either, I mean when you meet a cute girl, you just kinda go with the flow lol.

So yeah its been close to a week and she hasn't called me, which is a little strange because you would think even if she did want to cultivate me as a regular she would call, so im not sure. Anyway, thanks for the posts guys!

Oh and I do understand what the one poster was saying about wanting a woman's touch, although I would be careful with that because relying on paying for a woman's touch could mess you're thoughts/views on women and love. Anyway, great posts ladies (and gentlemen)!

Silverback
12-06-2007, 08:58 PM
I definetly would be excited if this situation arose at any other workplace such as if she was a waitress from applebees. I mean what guy doesn't love getting a girls number!

Just remember, the only way to date the waitress from Applebees is to never go to Applebees because as soon as they bring you a cheeseburger (or whatever they serve at Applebees (It's been a long time; I'm holding out for a LTR with an Applebees waitress)) your chances of dating them drop to zero. That's an absolute. Don't try to argue. ::) I said don't! >:(

kbond4
12-06-2007, 09:02 PM
unfortunately I think you may be right. Well I'm fucked then, cause my buddy wants me to go with him soon.

By the way, your location, kobyashi maru, that is the shit!!! lol

the problem with no solution

hmm sounds like Im in a kobyashi maru right now huh? LOL

xdamage
12-06-2007, 09:18 PM
So yeah its been close to a week and she hasn't called me, which is a little strange because you would think even if she did want to cultivate me as a regular she would call, so im not sure.

/shrug

You could be one of dozens of guys she has given a number too or vice versa over just the last week. You may just be another blurred memory in her mind.

Silverback
12-06-2007, 09:20 PM
unfortunately I think you may be right. Well I'm fucked then, cause my buddy wants me to go with him soon.

By the way, your location, kobyashi maru, that is the shit!!! lol

the problem with no solution

hmm sounds like Im in a kobyashi maru right now huh? LOL

How will you handle the no win situation? :-\ Because how we deal with failure is just as important as how we deal with sucess; or

http://www.dmdarlington.com/pics/insp_kobayashi.jpg

I'm glad somebody finally got that! :)

jaizaine
12-07-2007, 03:44 AM
I have gotten a guys number (when I was single and before i danced so this does not refer to a club setting) and i have taken up to two weeks before i called because i was busy or didn't feel like calling yet. Don't read too much into the length of time it takes a person to call.

On the other hand I gave a guy my number one night and had 20 missed calls from him later that night after i had got home, turned phone on silent and gone to sleep. I messaged him the next day saying to loose my number and never call again - freak.

xoxoGracexoxo
12-07-2007, 09:09 AM
Not hearing back from someone who has your number isn't all that meaninful one way or the other. Maybe she's a flake. Maybe she's shy. Maybe she lost your number. Maybe it's all a scam. Did you ever call her, or are you just waiting on her to call?



Just remember, the only way to date the waitress from Applebees is to never go to Applebees because as soon as they bring you a cheeseburger (or whatever they serve at Applebees (It's been a long time; I'm holding out for a LTR with an Applebees waitress)) your chances of dating them drop to zero. That's an absolute. Don't try to argue. ::) I said don't! >:(


I heard that you if you want to date the waitress at Applebee's, you should go and sit at a table but refuse to order anything. Just grab her every time she walks by and ask her to sit with you. Tell her you "know the game" and know that she's only here for your money. Tell her you're different from all the other Applebee's customers who are just a bunch of losers. Be sure to mention that she is "too good" to be a t Applebee's because all her other co-workers are cracked out whores. And no matter what, DON'T TIP.

Silverback
12-07-2007, 09:25 AM
I heard that you if you want to date the waitress at Applebee's, you should go and sit at a table but refuse to order anything. Just grab her every time she walks by and ask her to sit with you. Tell her you "know the game" and know that she's only here for your money. Tell her you're different from all the other Applebee's customers who are just a bunch of losers. Be sure to mention that she is "too good" to be a t Applebee's because all her other co-workers are cracked out whores. And no matter what, DON'T TIP.


That is good advice. By pointing out that she is the only one in her profession who is not a cracked out whore, one would be paying her a great compliment, indeed. 8) I'll have to consider this alternate approach. :)

Lunarobverse
12-07-2007, 09:41 AM
I heard that you if you want to date the waitress at Applebee's, you should go and sit at a table but refuse to order anything. Just grab her every time she walks by and ask her to sit with you. Tell her you "know the game" and know that she's only here for your money. Tell her you're different from all the other Applebee's customers who are just a bunch of losers. Be sure to mention that she is "too good" to be a t Applebee's because all her other co-workers are cracked out whores. And no matter what, DON'T TIP.

Man, I need to try something like this with my dentist. She's so hot.

xoxoGracexoxo
12-07-2007, 09:42 AM
^^I almost forgot!! If she gives you any lip, tell her that you used to date a waitress -- in fact, many waitresses! When she knows you have intimate acquaintance with the mysterious and elusive world of waitresses she will drop her guard and her panties.

xoxoGracexoxo
12-07-2007, 09:44 AM
Man, I need to try something like this with my dentist. She's so hot.


Dude, never tip your dentist. You get the funniest looks. I learned the hard way.

Lunarobverse
12-07-2007, 09:53 AM
Dude, never tip your dentist. You get the funniest looks. I learned the hard way.

Not even after a lapdance?

Lunarobverse
12-07-2007, 09:54 AM
...a really good lapdance?

Mastridonicus
12-09-2007, 04:35 PM
Kind of an "inside" secret to those of us in the know.

Regarding strippers:

Right below the left asscheek on the back of the left thight, is their mute button.

Hold it for 2 seconds to shut them off.