View Full Version : Do any dancers like getting guys off in vip
kitty260
12-11-2007, 07:12 PM
......is this crap still going on?
*yawn*
Lost cause.
Lapaholic
12-11-2007, 07:25 PM
^^^ C'mon now Kitty, guys can talk about sploogin' like u gals can talk about shoes lol!
Correy - I can tell u where u wont meet them - at home or in a SC... Now Im no pro - but may I suggest: work, bars, supermarkets, starbucks, bookstores - u know like outside in general esp where u can strike up a conversation easily... Buy a dog and walk it in a park - like in 101 Dalmations.
I also mite suggest going to bars that mite be frequented by older divorced women - a good demo for a young shy guy. Take up dancing too...
Thats where i would start.. Im sure ( and I hope) u will get some more expert advice.
Jenny
12-11-2007, 07:39 PM
Where should I go to meet girls?I am new at this.
Church. But if you splooge on them make sure to aim for the face. They are wearing their fancy, nice church clothes.
kitty260
12-11-2007, 07:40 PM
^^^ C'mon now Kitty, guys can talk about sploogin' like u gals can talk about shoes lol!
LMAO...I just love how I didn't check this thread for a while and yet there's been zero progress. :P
kitty260
12-11-2007, 07:41 PM
Church. But if you splooge on them make sure to aim for the face. They are wearing their fancy, nice church clothes.
And aim away from the holy water and the altar just in case you splash a bit. You wouldn't want to piss Jesus off, would you?
SportsWriter2
12-11-2007, 08:20 PM
Where should I go to meet girls?
Go to an AA meeting and look for a hottie. Tell her you know she has to say "alcohol," but you can tell it's really about sexaddiction.
gingerlee
12-11-2007, 08:58 PM
Where should I go to meet girls?I am new at this.
The moon, dude. The friggin' moon.
As long as your aren't in a psychiatrist's office or the lock down ward of a mental facility, you can meet girls *gasp!* anywhere! And I mean, technically, you can go looking for ladies there (psych office or mental ward) too. Just make sure she's not totally nuts. I don't think you could handle a girl that cries, has a sarcastic streak, gets PMS, or requires more therapy than you do.
yoda57us
12-11-2007, 09:05 PM
Church. But if you splooge on them make sure to aim for the face. They are wearing their fancy, nice church clothes.
The moon, dude. The friggin' moon.
As long as your aren't in a psychiatrist's office or the lock down ward of a mental facility, you can meet girls *gasp!* anywhere! And I mean, technically, you can go looking for ladies there (psych office or mental ward) too. Just make sure she's not totally nuts. I don't think you could handle a girl that cries, has a sarcastic streak, gets PMS, or requires more therapy than you do.
LMAO! The two of you are too funny....
Lapaholic
12-11-2007, 09:19 PM
Church. But if you splooge on them make sure to aim for the face. They are wearing their fancy, nice church clothes.
Christ, lets hope he doesnt splooge a nun!!!
( Oh that reminds me, Convents!!! Lots of horny women in convents!!)
safado
12-12-2007, 03:15 PM
Where should I go to meet girls?I am new at this.
Go to where the military wives hang out while their husbands are overseas.
kitty260
12-12-2007, 03:47 PM
Christ, lets hope he doesnt splooge a nun!!!
( Oh that reminds me, Convents!!! Lots of horny women in convents!!)
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Katrine
12-12-2007, 08:58 PM
Corey is the quintissential PL. He will be paying for stripper's utility bills and boyfriend's new guitars for years to come. Strippers and escorts live off of these poor guys. Corey, its ok. You are loved and cared for at the clubs.
xdamage
12-12-2007, 09:17 PM
Where should I go to meet girls?I am new at this.
I am assuming this is an honest sincere question. I haven't dated in years so no help here. I find it is easy enough to meet women at bars and just talk, but since I am not looking for a date, just talk it is easy because there is no pressure (i.e., I don't care), but I guess you would find that uncomfortable? Still it can be a good place to get some practice.
I meet most of the women I have been with at school or work, or during vacation. I guess you don't go to school anymore because obviously it is a great place to meet women, and maybe even a great reason to go back to school.
CORRY20
12-13-2007, 10:25 PM
Corey is the quintissential PL. He will be paying for stripper's utility bills and boyfriend's new guitars for years to come. Strippers and escorts live off of these poor guys. Corey, its ok. You are loved and cared for at the clubs.
well maybe I should stay at the clubs.. One thing is for sure I'm not going to get girls with my looks.NO girl would date me on that. Unless I spend a waymore than I have.If I didn't go to clubs I could of saved money to get a whole new body but that's all wasted.My personality is what I got to work on.
Sophia_Starina
12-14-2007, 12:11 AM
well maybe I should stay at the clubs.. One thing is for sure I'm not going to get girls with my looks.NO girl would date me on that. Unless I spend a waymore than I have.If I didn't go to clubs I could of saved money to get a whole new body but that's all wasted.My personality is what I got to work on.
Dude, you have issues...
Katrine
12-14-2007, 01:32 AM
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NickT
12-14-2007, 10:23 AM
I think someone like Correy would do better joining some sort of group activity where he got the chance to interact with people over time. I think it would be difficult for him at this point to strike up a successful conversation with a stranger at a bar, supermarket, park, etc. That takes a lot of confidence, which I don't think he has right now.
This is going to be a bit long, but I want to give specific advice to Correy.
Correy, what I would recommend you do is find some informal classes in things you like to do. Many colleges, community colleges, stores, etc. offer classes on a wide range of activities. Look for classes where the students do the activity together. For example, learn a language or a physical activity like running or tennis would be good. A beginning running group would be excellent. I know in my city, many of those groups have a lot of women in them.
It's still good to get out and interact with new people, even if there aren't a lot of women. You end up hanging out with new friends and they may introduce you to more women. For example, the card store downtown has events where people play those trading-card games. It's all dudes, but that doesn't mean that they don't know women.
So at this point, you need to be thinking of taking small steps that get you success in the long term. Don't think you have to make a hail-mary pass that gets the touchdown in one play. Think about making small plays that slowly march you down the field.
Another bit of advice is to not be totally focused on picking someone up in these social situations. That comes across as creepy and can be a turn off. You need to be putting yourself in situations where you're interacting with women but you're just a friendly, fun, interesting guy.
For example, if you join a running group, the feeling you should be giving off is that you're there to have a great time learning how to run. Do not hit on all the women the first time you meet them.
There's a indie movie you should check out: The Tao of Steve (http://www.netflix.com/Movie/The_Tao_of_Steve/60001577?strkid=1386697383_0_0). Not only is it beautifully filmed in Santa Fe, but it gives a good Zen philosophy for dating. He has three rules:
Be desireless Don't be totally focused on picking up women. In fact, don't be focused on that at all.
Display excellence Show that you are superior in some way.
Walk away Don't chase her, let her come to you.
Of course in the movie this works out great. But the philosophy is valid in real life as well. If you're totally focused on picking up women, you can come across as desperate and creepy. By instead focusing on being around people and being an interesting person, you'll do better.
kitty260
12-14-2007, 10:23 AM
well maybe I should stay at the clubs.. One thing is for sure I'm not going to get girls with my looks.NO girl would date me on that. Unless I spend a waymore than I have.If I didn't go to clubs I could of saved money to get a whole new body but that's all wasted.My personality is what I got to work on.
Okay, I know I said I was done in this thread but I can't resist this one.
You aren't going to get hot stripper chicks with your looks. However, there are always desperate girls. They're definitely going to be ugly. They'll most likely be really fat too and possibly crazy in the head. Those are the ones you have a chance with. Fat, ugly, crazy girls. Look for those and stop deluding yourself in the strip clubs.
Jenny
12-14-2007, 10:27 AM
Love is not exclusively the province of the beautiful. Ugly people fall in love and have romance too.
yoda57us
12-14-2007, 03:05 PM
The entire phenomenon of the dance induced splooge is a very regional thing. There are some cities and some clubs where you won't earn a decent living if you are not willing to accept that many guys are looking to cum during the dance and willing to privode that service. In Providence some of the nicest ladies I know just simply smile, grind the guy until he splooges, take his money and walk away. They don't like it but they accept it. These are not "extras girls". They aren't gonna any more than the grind but they are going to grind with conviction and give the guy what he wants.
In other areas it simply isn't that common and guys who show up looking for it are considered rain-coaters...Of course the girls still talk about us in the dressing room either way but who really cares?
crizgolfer
12-14-2007, 05:17 PM
Corry...start at the basics and forget about trying to pick up a woman at this time. You are looking to someone else to provide your own validation. It will never come.
What are you good at? Your work? A hobby? Everyone has at least one strength. Build off your strengths so that you build some appeal for yourself. Looks is a secondary thing. If you like yourself (not talking arrogance here), then people will like you. Make sense?
michele_b
01-08-2008, 11:00 AM
First post here on the blue side, it gets interesting over here.
Advice from me on where you can meet a girl, serious. Craigslist, I have looked on craigslist and seen some pretty desperate ads.
marmalady
04-16-2008, 03:57 PM
Guys know that the girls are only in it for the money. The whole idea that women will strip, show themselves and lap dance for money fascinates men. BTW, I've noticed quite a few girls get a damp spot between their thighs when they're lap-dancing - what's that all about?
kitty260
04-16-2008, 07:18 PM
Awww...I thought Corry was back for another raking. Shit kibibbles.
halloran
04-17-2008, 08:59 AM
Kinda hate to bring this one back from the dead, but FWIW, I was at a club NE of Topeka, KS once. The private-dance room was just that - a room with a door and some windows, several couches. A dancer asked me back there, ok, sure, we got back, got settled, her FIRST question was "do you want to cum?"
I was taken aback; I've only had dances from maybe 6 or 7 dancers, none had or have asked me THAT question.
I doubt she _likes_ it, but she was certainly OK with it & used it to her advantage.
RH
VeraLynn
04-18-2008, 11:43 AM
^ i HAD to see this.
and by the way, if youre fingering her, she still doesnt enjoy anything but your money. you could be fucking her and she'd still be looking for the money. end of story.
Agreed!!!
I can understand why some guys want their dancer to feel good, too... if I'm having sex with my man, I'd be upset if he didn't care about taking care of me.
The difference is, I'm not giving lap dances to *only guys I'm attracted to.* I'm dancing for anyone I can stand giving a dance to because I'm there for the money, not because I'm horny. That's why it's called a fantasy! That's why we call it a "job" and "work!"
I'd rather dance for a guy who doesn't try to touch me in a way to "make me feel good." Those are usually the ones who annoy me enough that I ask them to completely stop touching me - not even my boot!
Perry
05-01-2008, 07:15 AM
Ack! I'm never comming to the blue side again! I don't know if I should feel anger or pity for this guy... Now I'm all confused and hungry.
doc-catfish
05-01-2008, 08:29 AM
I don't know if I should feel anger or pity for this guy...
I went with boredom myself.
Sexhobbyist
05-02-2008, 08:05 AM
thats a prostitute in all reality, not a stripper. Strippers dance, prostitutes do more than dance
What! Prostitutes working in strip clubs?! I'm shocked and appalled! Tell me it isn't so! My whole world just collapsed! :-[
You mean that hj/bj/fs was from a....prostitute? She told me she was a dancer.
mr_punk
05-03-2008, 03:56 AM
Ack! I'm never comming to the blue side again!LOL...okay, but i don't think you'll be missed or even worse...drafted.
pfunkdenver
05-09-2008, 10:41 AM
It still amazes me that dancers are surprised at the variety of attitudes there are in other women who dance.
I've heard "Geez, she's been lapping him for 10 songs, I would've made him cum by now".
I've also heard "God, I don't want to feel some guys boner in my butt cheeks, that's gross"
And lastly, "He was a great tipper, but he came after only two songs!"
Many different women, many different attitudes.
Pfunk
Perry
05-12-2008, 12:52 AM
LOL...okay, but i don't think you'll be missed or even worse...drafted.
I really hate myself for it, but for some reason I like your freaking ass.
Jenny
05-12-2008, 06:24 AM
It still amazes me that dancers are surprised at the variety of attitudes there are in other women who dance.
I've heard "Geez, she's been lapping him for 10 songs, I would've made him cum by now".
Yeah, see this... is not a "different attitude". It is the equivalent of saying "Money? Getting paid? Hate it." Unless she's doing it ruefully? Like "Fuck, I wish I could keep a guy on edge for that long!"? That is not a sensible attitude, considering... 10 songs isn't that many. A stripper who says "yeah, I would never get $200 out of one customer" is either retarded or you're hearing something tailored for you.
pfunkdenver
05-18-2008, 06:47 AM
"A stripper who says "yeah, I would never get $200 out of one customer" is either retarded or you're hearing something tailored for you."
Jenny, I'm sure you are correct about the latter.
txchick008
07-27-2008, 02:54 PM
No. I had a guy tell me he had, "made a mess" after a 5-song lap dance. It was only my 3rd day of dancing EVER. Just too weird for me. :0
Sophia_Starina
11-18-2008, 01:43 AM
I think some dancers do like it.
Sure they do.... sure they do..... ::)::)::)
JoeUnCool
11-18-2008, 05:35 PM
Sure they do.... sure they do..... ::)::)::)
Personally, I have cum from a dance twice. The first time was with a girl that did a really hard grind. Honestly, she would grind way too hard on me so I was surprised when I got hard and had an oops. The second time was with a girl I really liked in the vip at her club. She was just being slow and sensual and all of a sudden. I was sooooo embarrassed.
I have had really weird requests from girls.
1. One girl who I was in bed with one time asked me to bite her nipples to draw blood. I refused for fear of hurting her. She then asked me to put hickies on her nipples. Again, I refused for fear of hurting her. She finally asked if I would put hickies around her nipples, which I did.
2. A girl who was doing a vip for me asked me to pull her hair really hard. She complained when I could not bring myself to pull her hair hard enough for her. She eventually said that if I pulled some of her hair out that was ok. If you ever saw me, you would know that I would have no physical problem pulling all of her hair our by its roots, however, I could never bring myself to that. She stated she liked to be degraded and abused.
Now, I submit that neither of these girls are the standard "dancer," merely that there are a few freaks out there. I honestly think that 99.9% of dancers are going to be repulsed by the idea of a guy cumming during a dance. Like Sophia says, they may act like it, but they don't like it at all.
Golden_Rule
11-19-2008, 02:48 AM
Do any Dancers like it when I guy gets off in vip.Their is a dancer in a club I go to that likes it when guys cum.I actually came a couple times with a girl.Do any Dancers like this?I hope im not being to graphic.I just always wondered.
Who knows if you are trolling or not, but on the slim chance that you are truly seeking a REAL reply here goes:
While many people here are going to knee jerk out a response the true answer is that there are as many different types of people as there are snowflakes.
So, there are some dancers who - for any number of reasons - get off on making a guy cum. Odds are if they do though its not about the strip-club, though the strip-club might provide a draw for them. Just as some cops get drawn to their job for what they perceive to be the power of the badge and the gun. Some women find manifestation of control/power exchange in stripping. They think of 'making' a man cum during a lap dance as having exerted a level of control over him. Especially if it seemed it wasn't his original intent. It can also enhance overall feelings of sexually superiority/desirability in individuals with low self-esteem issues. Like I said, any number of possible reasons.
Just like there are probably some customers who get off on the notion that its a power trip to pay a dancer to do things, and they feel like a puppeteer and think of the dancer as being on the end of their monetary string.
Either, one could hope, is a minority position.
The thing of it is that they would likely be very few and far between. An aberration on the social behavioral curve. So asking such a question in a thread like this and expecting a positive response is a little like spitting into the wind and being surprised when your face gets wet.
Have a happy day.
Golden_Rule
11-19-2008, 02:52 AM
come on, somebody answer him }:D i came over to the blue side just for this!
Make you happy?
:)
holly07
11-19-2008, 05:37 AM
Guys will say anything to get into a woman's pants and I will say anything to get into their wallet
Ribbangga
01-12-2011, 08:29 PM
I just have one question about this subject. Happened Monday night in Vegas. For starters I agree mostly with the ladies here, that for the money they will put up with a guy shooting in his pants. So I was in a half hour room, for $200. This dancer was definitely giving the indication she would finish me off, and i went along with that. I told her she didn't have to do that, and that I actualy didn't ant to, because of the major clean up issue id have. It was still early in the night, and I wanted to stay for more fun. She told me she does not do that, (basically a hj through my pants or heavy grinding.) if a guys asks for it. But since i said i didn't want her to make me cum, she tried that much harder and I don't know, seems like she was disappointed that I didn't. It's kind of hard to believe that ALL women hate it. She east getting any more money. And was always trying to get me to buy an hour. How could I have done that if she finished me in the first half hour?
yoda57us
01-12-2011, 11:34 PM
She east getting any more money. And was always trying to get me to buy an hour. How could I have done that if she finished me in the first half hour?
But she didn't finish you. She was simply trying to get you close enough to the edge that you would want to pay for another half hour and get her to finish the job...