View Full Version : In Love with a Stripper
JoeUnCool
02-26-2008, 05:39 AM
Except for we generally consider it to be an invasion of privacy to post pictures of strippers we are trash talking without their permission.
Unless you have her permission?
Yeah, this seems to be something that the girls take very seriously. I had posted some stage names from 12 years ago (no club names) and I got my hand slapped for it. I can understand it.
Joe
potato
02-26-2008, 03:30 PM
Falling in love with a stripper was what got me going to strip clubs.
I had met this girl and she told me that she was a stripper, invited me to go see her dance. When I went to the club that she worked at, she wasn’t there, but there was this other stripper. From the first song it was as if I was hit by a truck. There was just something overwhelmingly cool about her.
I left town shortly afterwards, for a few weeks. The whole time I was gone, I just kept thinking about her. When I got back, the first chance I got I went back to that strip club to see her again. When I did, as soon as she recognized who I was, she got so very excited. I’ve never had a women affect me as strongly as she did, as only she does. On top of it, she kept saying things to me, telling me how wonderful she thought that I was.
Being the skeptic that I am, I started going to different strip clubs almost daily, not necessarily for the usual reasons, but more to see how other strippers acted around me so that I could more objectively judge if my new found love was for real or if she was just playing a stripper game with me. In short order I discovered that yes indeed there was something special going on between us.
She no longer dances but when she was, some days, I used to ride the bus to where she was working and enter as if I were just another customer. The whole time she would be dancing and working the room and everything else strippers do. Yet in between everything we would constantly be giving each other little looks, smiling, flirting. When she would be spending too much time with one of her customers, I would just start hanging out with another stripper. Sometimes I would play hide and seek with her, that is, sitting or standing behind columns, stepping outside, going into the back to talk with the cook…. I did this because she did keep an eye on me and my sudden disappearance when she wasn’t looking would result in her being distracted until I reappeared. Our “playing” in strip clubs when she was working contributed greatly to our courtship.
At the end of the night we would leave in her car.
Jenny
02-26-2008, 03:38 PM
That sounds delightful.
That story was touching potato.
Don't let Jenny deter you from sharing more of those lovely stories, he's jaded.
Jenny
02-26-2008, 03:51 PM
Nonsense Sh0t. I'm just practical.
If you were a bag of potato chips, would flavor would you be?
hockeybobby
02-26-2008, 04:34 PM
hehe....Sh0t thinks ALL the girls are boys. ;D
hb
not at all, i have proof several are very much women
hockeybobby
02-26-2008, 08:17 PM
^^^ I don't know what this means JZ, but I probably don't need to know either. :)
hb
^^ It means move along.
FBR
Jenny
02-27-2008, 06:28 AM
The boys who don't like me hope to offend me by implying that I'm male. Jay is referring to my chromosomes. I have, indeed, been met and inspected at the genetic level.
yoda57us
02-27-2008, 07:20 AM
At the end of the night we would leave in her car.
A bit vague...but maybe it's better that way....
hockeybobby
02-27-2008, 07:30 AM
I liked potato's story. A nice happy ending.
hb
JoeUnCool
02-27-2008, 05:18 PM
I liked potato's story. A nice happy ending.
hb
I read no "happy ending" in the story. ;)
hockeybobby
02-27-2008, 06:04 PM
I read no "happy ending" in the story. ;)
Ahhhh...you're referring to the proverbial rub 'n tug "happy ending". But this is a love story Joe, and it almost even had a "happily ever after" ending. Sort of...strip club style...;)
hb
JoeUnCool
02-27-2008, 06:28 PM
Ahhhh...you're referring to the proverbial rub 'n tug "happy ending". But this is a love story Joe, and it almost even had a "happily ever after" ending. Sort of...strip club style...;)
hb
We joke, but I've known a couple of guys that have met a strippers at her SC, dated her, and married them. They are just as normal as anyone else. The truth is that they tend to be a little more open about being crazy.
Joe Uncool
potato
02-29-2008, 09:13 AM
At the end of the night we would leave in her car. A bit vague...but maybe it's better that way....
In my original draft for my post I had written about how bouncers, DJ’s, customers, and other dancers had caused problems for us, mostly, I think, out of jealousies. Like there was a DJ who seemed to think that he had priority over dating dancers, a stripper who was obsessed with wanting to have sex with my girlfriend, and various problems with certain customers. In the end none of it mattered because we left together, as a couple, in love. I thought that all that distracted from what I was trying to say so I deleted everything except the leaving in her car line.
It’s been eight years and counting. We’re very happy together.
mparks
02-29-2008, 10:00 AM
It's just business, and the girls just provide a service. An emotional attachment can't end good; my opinion.
hockeybobby
02-29-2008, 06:15 PM
It's just business, and the girls just provide a service. An emotional attachment can't end good; my opinion.
Dude, did you read the post above? ^^^
hb
JoeUnCool
03-14-2008, 05:08 PM
So...FBR and/or Jenny...is it a little game you all play on SCJ to see who can out-hideous the other with respect to appearance? Can I play too?
hb
Shhh, they are secretly married.
Howie
03-15-2008, 11:32 AM
Except for we generally consider it to be an invasion of privacy to post pictures of strippers we are trash talking without their permission.
Unless you have her permission?
Wouldn't think of posting where everyone could see. I'll send a PM though.
Still no one responded to my original query about having a stripper fall in love with them when all you wanted was a business relationship.
youngBUTbanking
04-11-2008, 02:11 PM
Crush on 1-2...Never Love though...and I hope it never gets to that either...
pootcacti21
06-16-2008, 05:43 PM
I wouldnt say in love with a dancer.
but i DO have a HUGE crush on this dancer at my club. She isnt my atf and i have only gotten like 2 dances from her, and she isnt the model type. But her personality really attracts me to her. I think she knows this because she sometimes gives me this "look". And when she goes on stage, she doesnt give me the same "attention" she gives to other customers when i tip. Dam it sucks!! lol..oh well, i would pay the 10 dollar cover charge just to see her once in awhile.lol
GenWar
06-17-2008, 05:28 AM
post to close "new" status to thread.
*shrug* easier than calling a mod.
-gen
deluc
06-27-2008, 12:02 PM
Nope.
But I have fallen in Lust with dancers plenty of times. ;D
Sadly, the only thing that ever comes out of That is an empty wallet and a strange feeling of satisfaction nonetheless...
youngBUTbanking
06-29-2008, 09:18 AM
looking at my previous post 2 posts up ^
I've been dating a dancer for over a month now...
snakeymike
08-05-2008, 11:47 AM
The only reason I ever started looking at this forum is because I was dating a stripper but hadn't ever seen her dance. (the only time I actually went to the club she worked at was because we were having a disagreement and we just needed to talk) We met years before we dated and it took a long time before I ever really even talked with her. She was a 'customer' of mine before I became legit and straight. Her dancing was a problem for our relationship because every time she danced she got in the habit of abusing alcohol and some drugs which brought on some ugly fights. Suffice to say that now she has stopped dancing and drinking and we are both better off for it. She was a dancer for about 7 years before this February. I both never gave her money nor did she ever expect anything like that. We're still together and if things keep going like they are we will probably be married. It took a LOT for me to get comfortable with much of her past and for her to get used to a healthy relationship. It's never beeneasy but the rewards are worth it. I do love her a lot! Unfortunately she is halfway through rehab for alcohol and I can't wait for her to get out and come home. Fortunately I don't have any similar problems and am completely clean for her.
GSWRD
08-05-2008, 01:21 PM
I had a HUGE crush and was infatuated with my ATF. Thank god (for me) we were both just visiting Vegas. She was there to work for a week and I was only there with my friends for 4 days.
youngBUTbanking
08-06-2008, 11:51 AM
Been dating for 2+ months now..
I just dont go to the SC, it avoids problems coming up with me getting jealous and shit like that. I know I can trust her but at teh same time I dont want to see that shit either (sitting on guys laps,going to the back with a customer). I don't understand how some guys can go to the SC for their girlfriend just to drink and watch what is going on, ..not for me.
snakeymike
08-06-2008, 02:58 PM
It was WAY too tough for me. I thought I could handle it at first but she was drinking and doing other stufftoo much and things had to change with my gf or I was leaving. She obviously was not always in control even if she claimed she was a clean dancer and it was time for it to end. If a guy isn't jealous it's not a real relationship, that's for sure.
The night she totalled my 328i after being wasted, doing coke and taking an ambien to drive home kind of sealed the deal. Now she's clean and we're moving on.
good luck fighting that jealousy. I don't envy that.
xdamage
08-06-2008, 03:29 PM
It's all about trade offs. Sexual exclusivity has some (often a LOT) of value to many people, not all, but many (maybe even most?). You can't force this on anyone else, it's their choice, but on the other hand it is your choice to decide how important it is to you too.
Some people will leave a relationship if the other party doesn't make enough, if they are bald, if their dick is too small, if they won't give a BJ, the list of reasons couples don't work out is endless. But in the end, you just have to be honest with yourself about what is really important to you.
Now for the strippers, it's in their best interest that their BFs value sexual exclusivity it in such a way that the stripping is okay, as long as it doesn't go to far. Well, people do that. See things from their POV. But honestly, it's just that. A POV. There is no absolute right or wrong when it comes to this matter.
For some guys stripping might be a deal breaker. Sexual exclusivity doesn't have to just be intercourse. This is your own choice to decide what is valuable to you. As long as you are clear in your own head and heart about it, and don't lie to yourself and let something go on too long that you really aren't and never will be okay with, it should all work out fine. If you wait too long though, negative feelings will build and she won't later understand why you let the relationship build under the pretense that you were okay with it.
youngBUTbanking
08-07-2008, 02:24 PM
^^ she repeatedly asked me if i could handle it before we started dating..and i said yes because i felt that way..
so your last line is very true...i just have some good nites and bad nites dealing with the jealousy..
UtahMike
08-08-2008, 07:44 PM
I think I could handle my girlfriend or wife being a sexy dancer who didn't give extras and made other guys drool at her sexiness. I would even enjoy it. Every other guy would want her, but I would be the only one who actually got to have sexual fun with her.
But what I would have a hard time handling would be having her deal with all the horror stories that have been mentioned many, many times in many, many threads on SW.
grindonme
08-29-2008, 05:12 PM
I've had some strippers as bootycalls/fuckbuddies but could never get in a relationship with one. I've seen toooooo much stuff to get serious with a dancer. I know dancers that people would swear on a bible that she was a "clean" dancer and wouldn't do anything other than dance but have seen them doing stuff with my own eyes. I know a stripper now like that, beautiful with a super cool personality that if i showed the porn tape of her getting a train ran on her would crush some guys dreams
Jake39
07-24-2009, 02:52 PM
No. For me it is alike a Coach / Wide Receiver relationship. Believing a stripper is going to be your GF is a fools errand. They sell a fantasy. As a paying customer it better be what I am expecting if they will have a chance to make the team. At some point in time they are going to graduate, so recruiting is ongoing. I may have 3 or 4 girls on my roster at any one time. The best one will usually start at primary WR.....sometimes for variety I will rotate them going from an I type of offense (just 1 WR) to a 3 or 4 WR set.
It does hurt to loose a really good one who performs well. You know she will be difficult to replace. But I have had girls whose performance was average who with some coaching responded favorably and won the starting slot.
Smokeless
07-25-2009, 02:21 PM
Wow, Jake. You're resurrecting quite a number of ancient threads. I mean some of these are really ancient!
At least thanks for searching the site. Enjoy.
stressed
07-25-2009, 10:32 PM
There are two in my life that i care about a great deal. Do i LOVE them, i cant say as it has never gone otc except for phone calls and such. I would never cross the line unless they took me by the hand over it. I do not think i could ever fall in love in a club setting. I need more than that. A sexy woman is great, but the mind and soul is what gets me. You cannot get that in this type of setting. I dont see how anyone can fall for a stripper with no otc and i dont mean sex. Sex is good but love is much deeper than that.
jack0177057
07-30-2009, 08:34 AM
I always fall in love with the dancer during the lap dance (specially if we look deep into each others eyes and kiss on the lips)... But, then, its over as fast as it started...
I should add that I cannot distinguish between love and lust. These wires cross and, only after I have said or done something embarassing, does it strike me that it was one and not the other...
Jake39
08-01-2009, 10:08 PM
I cant see a difference between love and lust for me either. I realize now after much strip clubbing that I am a guy who simply falls "in lust" Its like I want to come to the club, play with them, and then go home once I have had my fun
I fall in lust with them but can't seriously really recall being in love with any of them. It is easy to confuse feelings which are simply lust as being love. I can see where guys who see a stripper as their GF can be really victimized.
I've liked several strippers enough that I've had a desire to be friends with them.
It's possible to feel sad that someone you think is cool isn't really your friend and just thinks you're a pervert with a big wallet.
Is it odd to want to be friends with a stripper you meet in the club rather than falling in love or lust?
Despite what I've read here, I still remember being strongly told that strippers think all guys that come into clubs are pathetic losers and would never consider dating them. I'm not looking to date, but I wonder if dating considerations also apply to friendship.
I guess I enjoy meeting new people. SCs could be a bad place for that since some or all the girls may have their "work personality" in place. So, it can be hard to tell how much of the person you're meeting is real. It can be disheartening to find that the cool person you met doesn't actually exist.
I guess I enjoy meeting new people. SCs could be a bad place for that since some or all the girls may have their "work personality" in place. So, it can be hard to tell how much of the person you're meeting is real. It can be disheartening to find that the cool person you met doesn't actually exist.
I hear ya on some of the things you said. and I still gotta work on some things, but remember, it's not a 'work personality'. it's them working, literally.
so I know there is much scathing here from girls and guys, but remember, whether or not they may be cool, or may seem to be, they ARE working. and to get to know them depends if and only IF they wanna share and can trust you. but in the meantime, you do have to be a good customer and spend money.
remember. working. them. lots of crap to deal with AND pretend to flirt with custys all the time. it gets tiring. just remember, they're people, working their butts off. you might hit it off with some, by chance, but it's not a 'game' thing. like meeting someone in a club or bar or library, bowling alley, etc...