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High_Heel_Lover
12-03-2007, 09:37 PM
20, it was ok, I did it cause I wanted to know wtf was the big deal and it wasn't. WIshed I would of not cause of who it was with but oh well!

PrincessShea
12-03-2007, 09:44 PM
I was 17 and it was terrible, and the guy dumped me a week later for his ex. It's okay, he sucked it bed. I know it's supposed to hurt the first time, but it hurt EVERYTIME with him.

How do you hurt a girl when you have a three inch dick?! I still can't figure it out!!

MrChristopher
12-03-2007, 09:57 PM
I was 14, as well. The first time was a bit of a fiasco since neither of us really knew what the hell we were doing. Tab A into Slot B, right? Hmmm. The next time was with a girl 3 years older then me and she definitely knew what she was doing.

UtahMike
12-03-2007, 10:11 PM
20, in a sleeping bag in the winter in the woods across from my girlfriends dorm. Did it once and pulled out. Then she counted the days since her last period and said it was ok, so we did it again and I left it in. I was somewhat let down, thought it would be more fantastic than that, but it got better each time we did it.

Unless you count when I was 12 and my cousin talked me into anal sex with him. But I don't think it counted because I just put the head in, didn't like it, and took it out again.

mollyzmoon
12-03-2007, 10:12 PM
17. My sexually liberated friend, or promiscuous, whatever you call it...she kept bothering me about it forever, so I just did it. It was to prove a point, that I didn't need sex like she did. She was there too. Actually, she basically brought a guy to my place, got us all drunk, and they got naked, and I was confused...It was awful and ridiculous. But I didn't regret it because then I could tell her "See?! I knew I'd hate sex. I knew it wouldn't change anything."

I didn't have any fun kind of sex until I was 18+.

StripPokerGirl
12-03-2007, 10:21 PM
I lost my virginity when I was 17 years old to an old highschool sweetheart.

aussiebelle
12-03-2007, 10:22 PM
I was 17 and it was with a friend who was 18. I was way too drunk and it was in his car.

CallMeSky
12-03-2007, 11:11 PM
14, and I don't regret it - it was with my first love and it was both of our firsts.

Optimist
12-03-2007, 11:27 PM
AWWW! I wish I could say the same! My first time was at 13--3 weeks shy of my 14th birthday with a (seemingly) worldly older man. Of course now I see him as a 20 year old cradle robber but back then he was a tall, charming older man! Ah, youthful foolishness. He was quite an inspired and creative teacher. Alas, he was also a big, lyin' cheater so I dumped him for a hot 16 year old choirboy! Good times...good times!

firekitten19
12-03-2007, 11:33 PM
15. I cried like a baby, but I reall coudn't feel anything. Ha!

High_Heel_Lover
12-03-2007, 11:40 PM
AWWW! I wish I could say the same! My first time was at 13--3 weeks shy of my 14th birthday with a (seemingly) worldly older man. Of course now I see him as a 20 year old cradle robber but back then he was a tall, charming older man! Ah, youthful foolishness. He was quite an inspired and creative teacher. Alas, he was also a big, lyin' cheater so I dumped him for a hot 16 year old choirboy! Good times...good times!


ewww I'm sorry but that is not right! what would a man see in a child :( I'm sorry honey.

RoseLeigh
12-04-2007, 12:08 AM
Phillydancer, this is totally me too. I wanted to have sex earlier but my bf of 2 years wouldn't have sex w/me. He had problems. After we broke up, when I turned 17, I had sex w/ 2 people I didn't want to have sex w/in the first place. I wish I could have lost it to said bf when I was 15.

I was with the bf for almost a year and he was so not into it. At all. I talked him into it, then afterwards he told me I was too into sex. We broke up and I messed around with um, everyone! oh, and I was 17.

punkpixie001
12-04-2007, 02:50 AM
AWWW! I wish I could say the same! My first time was at 13--3 weeks shy of my 14th birthday with a (seemingly) worldly older man. Of course now I see him as a 20 year old cradle robber but back then he was a tall, charming older man! Ah, youthful foolishness. He was quite an inspired and creative teacher. Alas, he was also a big, lyin' cheater so I dumped him for a hot 16 year old choirboy! Good times...good times!

kinda reminds me of my story...i was 19, he was 44 and my professor. i remember the first time he walked into the classroom is thought damn hes hott i want him...haha be careful what u wish. he knew i was a virgin and i "dated" him for a few months, after that i learned that he told my best friend he wanted to take her virginity too. (too complicated a story to get into) sick old fuck. i dont regret it cause i really wanted to do it and i really liked him. too bad he turned out to be such a pervert...ahh my young and naive days

Circe
12-04-2007, 05:25 AM
Late teens and I was expecting more pain and not a lot of pleasure the first time as I figured women get off more with clitoral stimulation. I was pleasantly surprised to find that I'm in the minority of women that can get off via penetration alone (yay)

PhillyDancer1982
12-04-2007, 09:03 AM
Phillydancer, this is totally me too. I wanted to have sex earlier but my bf of 2 years wouldn't have sex w/me. He had problems. After we broke up, when I turned 17, I had sex w/ 2 people I didn't want to have sex w/in the first place. I wish I could have lost it to said bf when I was 15.

Thank you! I'm glad to know that I'm not alone...I was afraid that you guys would all think I was a "weirdo" or "mental" lol.

I realize that 17 isn't that "old," it's about average or maybe just a year or two later than average. But what really made me feel like such a "late starter," was the way that my classmates were coupling off in 6th and 7th grade, whereas I couldn't get anything closely resembling a date until 10th grade. From 6th to 10th grade, I spent a lot of time feeling depressed and wondering what was wrong with me. On school dance nights where everyone would go with dates and I had no one, I would cry and bitch to my mom about it. When I finally started dating at 16, I was determined to have sex right away to spite society for having to wait so long. Didn't work according to plan, but I did lose my virginity less than a year later to a guy I ended up dating for nearly a year. After that ended, all hell broke loose and I slept around a lot.

Speaking of first dates...this is a great story lol...my first date was a total hottie with blonde spiky hair, blue eyes, and lots of piercings...and 24 years old! What a complete 180, to go from 16-and-dateless to dating a hot older guy. I regretted not "getting any" from him. Years later, I found out(thanks to Myspace) that he had lied about his age and was actually 32 years old! Haha. I wish I knew that then...because then I would have felt even MORE confident of my "achievement"! For someone to be 16 and never dated before, it feels good to vastly overcompensate.

zippyelf
12-04-2007, 09:30 AM
His dick was so small, i didn't feel a thing and he didn't bust my cherry.


HA! Me too!

I was 17, and with a guy I had been dating for 2 months. We dated for 3 more afterwards before I got bored.

LuckyOne
12-04-2007, 09:39 AM
17. The sex was horrible and it hurt SO much, but afterward we'd both tell eachother how great it was. Lol!

phillyvixen
12-04-2007, 09:44 AM
I was a few days shy of my 18th birthday, i had been with the guy for like 3 years we were both virgins. We did it in my bed and my first thought was where the fuck are the fireworks. I grew up in a uber religious home where my parents strongly urged i wait till marriage and i couldn't figure out why. My bf at the time called his best friend on his cell phone almost immediately. I always thought that was funny. We stayed together 5 years all together. I actually just heard he is like some crazy rich executive who also professionally plays poker. I always knew he would be a big deal, he was super smart.

My husband lost his virginity super early, like 12 i think. I kinda think its sad.

jasmine
12-04-2007, 09:52 AM
17, or 19 depending on what you wanna count.

Alaska
12-04-2007, 10:05 AM
12. Boy, I'm a little slut, aren't I!

Oh hunny I'm right there with ya---I would have done it too if the opportunity presented itself! (And it *almost* did...)




14.

Terrible. A fat boy I used to go to summer camp with. I had to pop my own cherry. (He wasn't obese or anything, just the way it went....)

I count that as among the top 3 times of being in the worst pain of my life.

PrettyCurlieQ
12-04-2007, 10:22 AM
I know this is really shallow, but it's a small comfort to know I'm not the only one who didn't have a romantic-fairytale-super-duper-orgasming first time. :blush:

Alaska
12-04-2007, 10:27 AM
^I feel THAT! Maybe the comfort is more than small.....we're talkin about virginity here eh?? When it's bad it can be really, really bad. You only get one chance (officially)....the next time was when I was 16, and it wound up being an LTR, but I was so tight that the first 2 times tears actually fell down my cheek and I layed on the other side of the bed bc I felt "violated" and wanted to regroup. Blech.

PhillyDancer1982
12-04-2007, 11:44 AM
I know I've been pessimistic and melancholy lately, but...please nobody feel offended by this but...I just don't get what the big thing is about making the 1st time special. Even when I was growing up, my mom would talk about such a God-forbidden act of "losing your virginity" as if it was this big deal. I just never got it.

Maybe I didn't care about my "first time" being a "big deal" or "with the right special person" because I was in such a rush to lose it(see my previous posts on this thread for more details). Or maybe I'm just too sexcrazed to put much emotion into sex. I don't know. I just didn't consider it a big deal. Yeah I lost my virginity to a good guy that turned out to be a serious boyfriend for almost a year, but that was just luck-of-the-draw...if he hadn't come along, I probably would have lost my virginity to that mallrat I'd met shortly before. And as far as my first time goes, it was nothing super romantic...it was in my boyfriend's bedroom as his mom was knocking on the door and yelling, "[guy's name], you better not end up in jail for this! She's under 18!" LOL. I was just looking to lose it and to overcompensate for my dateless past!! :D

Does anyone else feel the way I do? Did anyone else not really care if it was with the "right person" or if it was special?

PrettyCurlieQ
12-04-2007, 11:56 AM
^Now I don't feel like it needed to be special, because it's not like the first time is gonna be the last (hopefully!). But at the time, it was a big deal. I was a young girl, trying to figure out who I was in the world. It seemed really important at the time, and I was heartbroken when it happened. And you know when you're a teenager, everything is the biggest thing that ever happened in the whole world. You find out your crush likes you and you have a stroke. It's just the teen condition.

Alaska
12-04-2007, 12:04 PM
Does anyone else feel the way I do? Did anyone else not really care if it was with the "right person" or if it was special?

Totally! I had the mindset of "I'd rather it NOT be with the person I love, cuz I'd rather get the blood and/or pain over with so it can be beautiful!"

I just wish it wasn't SO bad and feel for people whose experience was bad. The guy doesn't have to be someone you love or even someone yr dating, but......we go thru so much more than they do, it's only fair if they help us along, ease us into it, act nice, don't be a dick later, make us comfortable, etc.

PhillyDancer1982
12-04-2007, 01:02 PM
Thanks to some of you guys for assuring me that I'm not alone or the "odd one out" on not thinking that losing my virginity should have been anything special.


Now I don't feel like it needed to be special, because it's not like the first time is gonna be the last (hopefully!). But at the time, it was a big deal. I was a young girl, trying to figure out who I was in the world. It seemed really important at the time, and I was heartbroken when it happened. And you know when you're a teenager, everything is the biggest thing that ever happened in the whole world. You find out your crush likes you and you have a stroke. It's just the teen condition.

Hmmm that's probably what my problem was. Years of rejection helped condition me to not put emotion or feeling into things; I guess you could say that the past rejections emotionally numbed me. By the time I started actually dating, I had already trained myself to view guys as sexual "pieces of meat" and "eye candy," as opposed to gods that I could crush on or fall in love with. This way if I got rejected, I sheltered myself from feeling hurt and I was able to "act cool" and brush off the guy as though he never mattered in the first place. I learned how to stay detached.

The more I discuss my sexuality(with this thread, and the "rape" thread), the more I realize what a mentally messed-up cookie I truly am. :-\ I guess my friend is right when she says that I should seek sexual addiction counselling...