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PhillyDancer1982
02-03-2008, 11:21 PM
A sugar daddy isn't necessarily the answer, because odds are he is fucking other girls on the side...which poses a threat of STDs. Probably my #1 distrust in guys(above cheating) is the risk of STDs that the bring along by hooking up with me. I don't trust guys who claim to be STD "clean," especially after one such scenario last year in which I got with a guy and then received a call from the health clinic regarding his health status some time later. Luckily I remained clean despite that evil episode(miracles DO happen!!), but I am sooooo worried now that some guy will obtain and potentially give me an STD(from side partners, or cheating, etc).
leilanicandy
02-03-2008, 11:31 PM
A sugar daddy isn't necessarily the answer, because odds are he is fucking other girls on the side...which poses a threat of STDs. Probably my #1 distrust in guys(above cheating) is the risk of STDs that the bring along by hooking up with me. I don't trust guys who claim to be STD "clean," especially after one such scenario last year in which I got with a guy and then received a call from the health clinic regarding his health status some time later. Luckily I remained clean despite that evil episode(miracles DO happen!!), but I am sooooo worried now that some guy will obtain and potentially give me an STD(from side partners, or cheating, etc).
So why have sex? Any guy could cheat! you dont have to sleep with your sugar daddy. Get a dildo! Condoms are now a girl best friend.
PhillyDancer1982
02-04-2008, 07:45 AM
You are right about the condoms part. When they're used correctly, they are 99.4% effective at protecting against STDs. Trust me I make sure I use condoms every single time because I want to avoid STDs. However, I still get worried sometimes. When I hooked up with the guy that had something, it didn't matter if condoms were used...what scared me the most involved some gizz accidentally getting in my eye(he aimed below the neck but shit happens). (PS, I was not told that he had something until afterwards...but thankfully I turned out 100% clean despite the risky exposure) So now I'm at the point where I constantly want to get some, but I'm sooo paranoid of guys having something. This has drastically turned me off from meeting new guys and sticking with tried-and-true friends-with-benefits, but sometimes they're not available and I'm left sexually frustrated because I'm too chicken to conquer "new unknown territory," aka new guys.
MixedBabe88
02-04-2008, 11:43 AM
You are right about the condoms part. When they're used correctly, they are 99.4% effective at protecting against STDs. Trust me I make sure I use condoms every single time because I want to avoid STDs. However, I still get worried sometimes. When I hooked up with the guy that had something, it didn't matter if condoms were used...what scared me the most involved some gizz accidentally getting in my eye(he aimed below the neck but shit happens). (PS, I was not told that he had something until afterwards...but thankfully I turned out 100% clean despite the risky exposure) So now I'm at the point where I constantly want to get some, but I'm sooo paranoid of guys having something. This has drastically turned me off from meeting new guys and sticking with tried-and-true friends-with-benefits, but sometimes they're not available and I'm left sexually frustrated because I'm too chicken to conquer "new unknown territory," aka new guys.
You are pretty much always going to be at risk for STD's in this world. Condoms are not always effective against herpes, hpv, and honestly anything else. 1/2 sexually active people will have an STD at some point in their life...50% of the sexually active population! When guys say they are clean (and hell even girls) they usually THINK they are clean. The majority of people do not get tested for herpes, HPV (men cannot unless they have warts, which are obviously visible), and some of the lesser known STD's. STD tests usually consist of an HIV screening, syphillis, Chlamydia, and Gonorreah which leaves out (literally) about 10-15 other VD's. Basically everytime you have sex, you're taking a risk even if you're KNOWN the person and been with them forever. There are a lot of people out there whose partner has something and unknowingly (whether from lack of symptoms, or lack of honesty) gives it to them.
Scary, scary world we live in.
PS: Just a question, don't have to awnser it if you do not want to, what did this guy have? I'm assuming it was either HIV, syphillis, chlamydia or Gonorreah since the place had to call you (I think those are the only STD's that have to be reported to the CDC).
leilanicandy
02-04-2008, 12:00 PM
I agree with the poster above. Yet I dont care to know what diease. But glad to know you got tested twice and was deem clear. Will be enought to keep a smile on my face.
I learn you cant just trust anyone. It can take a life time to build and secs to destroy. You cant even trust women. You will think we will stick togethier, when you have all these men. Who do crazy stuff to women.
The crazy plots. sceems, and drama. That these women think of! Is just plain old mess up! It frightens me, how someone can live such a sorry ass life. Where they have to go and fuck with people minds. Just to get thier high for today.
Sometimes I think women are more fuck up than men. All men want is sex. Women have other motives.
TROU8LE~
02-04-2008, 09:11 PM
A sugar daddy isn't necessarily the answer, because odds are he is fucking other girls on the side...which poses a threat of STDs. Probably my #1 distrust in guys(above cheating) is the risk of STDs that the bring along by hooking up with me. I don't trust guys who claim to be STD "clean," especially after one such scenario last year in which I got with a guy and then received a call from the health clinic regarding his health status some time later. Luckily I remained clean despite that evil episode(miracles DO happen!!), but I am sooooo worried now that some guy will obtain and potentially give me an STD(from side partners, or cheating, etc).
I totally hear ya! At this point, I have a fear of sexual contact w/ a guy. I hope I get over it. Ive never had an STD, but certain guys I dated did some very risky behavior. I just feel a little too lucky.
I guess now, I think of men as walking diseases.
Id be embarrassed to commit myself to one, -lets put it that way. :P
MixedBabe88
02-04-2008, 10:12 PM
I totally hear ya! At this point, I have a fear of sexual contact w/ a guy. I hope I get over it. Ive never had an STD, but certain guys I dated did some very risky behavior. I just feel a little too lucky.
I guess now, I think of men as walking diseases.
Id be embarrassed to commit myself to one, -lets put it that way. :P
Even guys that have not done risky things can have STD's. You can never tell who has an STD and who doesn't...crazy world.
PhillyDancer1982
02-06-2008, 10:20 AM
The crazy plots. sceems, and drama. That these women think of! Is just plain old mess up! It frightens me, how someone can live such a sorry ass life. Where they have to go and fuck with people minds. Just to get thier high for today.
Sometimes I think women are more fuck up than men. All men want is sex. Women have other motives.
I hear you on not being able to trust anyone, but from my recent experiences, I've found that a lot of the cattiness, schemes, backstabbing, or drama were caused more by guys than girls. LOL for example the other day when I told my dad about these long-known guy friends who've held a 1yr+ long grudge against me for something I didn't even do wrong, he agreed with me and then commented that the guys "sound like a bunch of petty gossipy girls." I found that hilarious, since these GUYS were acting like "girls" but in fact my girl friends seem to be more laid-back, straight-up, and less of dramatic grudgeholders. But maybe it's just the types of guys that I know. For example, a good portion of my guy friends are either gay, have manic depression, or extreme lack of self-esteem. :-\
leilanicandy
02-10-2008, 07:35 PM
I hear you on not being able to trust anyone, but from my recent experiences, I've found that a lot of the cattiness, schemes, backstabbing, or drama were caused more by guys than girls. LOL for example the other day when I told my dad about these long-known guy friends who've held a 1yr+ long grudge against me for something I didn't even do wrong, he agreed with me and then commented that the guys "sound like a bunch of petty gossipy girls." I found that hilarious, since these GUYS were acting like "girls" but in fact my girl friends seem to be more laid-back, straight-up, and less of dramatic grudgeholders. But maybe it's just the types of guys that I know. For example, a good portion of my guy friends are either gay, have manic depression, or extreme lack of self-esteem. :-\
Yea that was such crazy drama. Well that is cool you got good girlfriends. I just see so many women. Who are spiteful! To much negative things for me. Really some people are just evil. There families are evil! They all are just evil.