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Nikki_lace_7
12-30-2007, 01:02 AM
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SportsWriter2
12-30-2007, 06:25 AM
The more frequently a guy has sex, the more control he has over when he cums, riiiight? :-\
Not necessarily. Some guys are doomed forever. :-\

I_luv_dancers!
12-30-2007, 08:19 AM
^^^Yes, but fucking his brains out is worth a shot.

Communication is the key-TELL HIM when he's hitting it just right, and encourage him to hang in there and keep going. Tell him what's going on inside you, when you're getting close - or need a little "more".

Most men live to please their partners. Trust me, he wants to make you cum. Hard.

Bob_Loblaw
12-30-2007, 01:18 PM
The more frequently a guy has sex, the more control he has over when he cums, riiiight? :-\

Not necessarily. If his own orgasm is his only concern, it will always be a race to immediate sexual gratification for him. Increased frequency of sex will only increase stamina if he is purposefully trying to train himself to last longer.

FBR
12-30-2007, 03:41 PM
I'm currently with a guy that started having sex last year, and he tends to finish early. Needless to say, I'm a little forgiving because I like the guy, but sometimes I would like him to just hold it when he's hitting the right spot.

The more frequently a guy has sex, the more control he has over when he cums, riiiight? :-\

If your guy is young, he's likely to want to cum pretty quick. Frequent sex dampens it a little but still. Young guys balls, prostate etc are on overdrive :)

To the extent he can train himself not to, he would be doing better than most guys his age. This quick cumming instinct lessens as the years go by if that is any consolation. But for now, sounds like you need to use a combination of lots of sex and plenty of communication. Teach him variations of straight fucking and other playful things that are fun but don't drive him to shoot too soon.

Good luck.

FBR

FBR
12-30-2007, 04:40 PM
^^ Jay nailed it best. He's such a clear and concise writer he pisses me off ;)

FBR

yoda57us
12-30-2007, 07:11 PM
If communication and patience fails just dump him for an old geezer....we can go all day sometimes without firing at all... and we are very appreciative...

FBR
12-30-2007, 07:15 PM
If communication and patience fails just dump him for an old geezer....we can go all day sometimes without firing at all... and we are very appreciative...

LOL Yoda = trying to fucko the young bastards ;)

FBR

mr_punk
12-30-2007, 08:07 PM
The more frequently a guy has sex, the more control he has over when he cums, riiiight?LOL..total myth. otherwise, i could relentlessly jackhammer girls for 45 minutes or be immune to the effects of the RCG or doggie. anyway, it's been scientifically proven that 2 maybe 3 minutes is more than enough time. i think.

Communication is the key-TELL HIM when he's hitting it just right, and encourage him to hang in there and keep going. Tell him what's going on inside you, when you're getting close - or need a little "more".LOL..oh yeah, dirty talk always helps when a guy is trying not to pop his cork.

Katrine
12-30-2007, 09:06 PM
Every time I was ready for my partner to finish, I get all breathy and tell him "don't stop, don't stop!" That always gets him to pop ASAP.

Bob_Loblaw
12-30-2007, 09:39 PM
^^^ Another example of when no means yes.

safado
12-31-2007, 04:04 PM
If you want him to last longer, get him drunk, alcohol dulls the senses. Don't get him too drunk otherwise he may not be able to get it up.

yoda57us
12-31-2007, 06:36 PM
LOL Yoda = trying to fucko the young bastards ;)

FBR

LOL, Trying?

Moneywise
01-01-2008, 10:43 PM
If communication and patience fails just dump him for an old geezer....we can go all day sometimes without firing at all... and we are very appreciative...

;D It seems that when I hit 30 my staying power increased ten fold. Perhaps there is some truth to the "old geezer" thing.

Casual Observer
01-03-2008, 08:13 AM
The more frequently a guy has sex, the more control he has over when he cums, riiiight?

No, though there is a general loss of sensitivity as one ages. Control is more of a mental factor than a physical factor.

Rick1
01-03-2008, 04:09 PM
When he enters you, just have him hold still for about 10 min. Kiss, talk, move a little to keep him hard, this will help him learn control. He needs to learn this is not a race.

After he cums, let him rest a bit, then start massaging him or give him oral. He will come back up even if he thinks he won't. You didn't mention if you have ever tried this.

I had never done this, and lets say I'm farther over 40 than I'd like to admit. The first time a new gal I was with tried this with me, I came 3 times in one night. I WAS IMPRESSED WITH MYSELF!

I hope this helps,

Rick

Smoothcat
01-05-2008, 10:46 AM
If communication and patience fails just dump him for an old geezer....we can go all day sometimes without firing at all... and we are very appreciative...

Yoda, maybe the girls should start paying you ;D

:tophat: :drink: :highfive:

Smoothcat
01-05-2008, 10:52 AM
30 is not an old geezer.

Then neither is 40+...right? :crossfing :blush: :wheelchai :hat:

yoda57us
01-05-2008, 11:21 AM
Yoda, maybe the girls should start paying you ;D

:tophat: :drink: :highfive:

It only seems fair seeing as the ones I pay have more orgasms in a couple of hours than I do...but I don't see it happening....:)

threlayer
01-09-2008, 12:13 PM
... Most men live to please their partners. Trust me, he wants to make you cum. Hard.

Absolutely. Multiple times too. It is a lot more fun for both that way.

xdamage
01-10-2008, 12:18 AM
The more frequently a guy has sex, the more control he has over when he cums, riiiight? :-\

No. Maybe. It depends on the guy.

As a guy gets older he tends to lose sensitivity, but that is separate.

He could try masturbating a little earlier, or you two could try doing it more than once.

I think a guy can learn self control, but he has to make a conscious effort to work on that, and you may have to help some by slowing down too.

ghost_ii
01-11-2008, 06:02 PM
I used to bust REAL fast, and it would always piss me off. After a while I just got better at controlling it, sometimes even pulling it completely out to take a quick break, lol. I chalked some of it up to her being EXTREMELY tight, I still tell her sometimes it's like trying to shove a hotdog imbetween 2 phone books, but over time I was able to "learn" stamina and now she doesn't get away until she gets hers AT LEAST twice. I call it the 2-1 rule. More is always better, too.

Everyone's different, I'm sure. There are positions that will still pop me in 2-3 minutes if I let them. It's all mental! But there is hope, if he wants to try.

lestat1
01-11-2008, 06:41 PM
I always thought stopping or pulling out was 'cheating.' Shoot, I have enough control to do that! :P

Katrine
01-12-2008, 02:32 PM
I always thought stopping or pulling out was 'cheating.' Shoot, I have enough control to do that! :P

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa? Please explain, your posts befuzzles me. Is befuzzle a word?

lestat1
01-12-2008, 04:53 PM
^^^ As in, sexual stamina for men was defined by, or considered to be, the length of *uninterrupted* time a man could last through *active* intercourse before orgasm.

Katrine
01-12-2008, 06:44 PM
^^^ As in, sexual stamina for men was defined by, or considered to be, the length of *uninterrupted* time a man could last through *active* intercourse before orgasm.

What kind of fag-douchebag told you this and why did you believe it? There are no rules like that in sex. Women don't give a crap about the above either.

'stat, I hope this isn't something you follow when bedding a woman.

Jenny
01-12-2008, 07:15 PM
Who was it who said that 40 minutes of in and out wasn't fucking; it was a documentary?

lestat1
01-13-2008, 12:13 AM
What kind of fag-douchebag told you this and why did you believe it? There are no rules like that in sex. Women don't give a crap about the above either.

'stat, I hope this isn't something you follow when bedding a woman.

Well this is good news! I mean I always managed to give my ex an orgasm or two before my own, but it took some pauses in the action, or just "staying put" inside of her for a while to cool down a bit. Sweet. I'm like, good in bed 'n stuff. :)


EDIT: Okay then, so what's the deal with guys "not lasting long?" I'm as sexually frustrated as one can be and I manage to pause as needed. If I can do it, anyone can.

SportsWriter2
01-13-2008, 09:45 AM
What kind of fag-douchebag told you this and why did you believe it? There are no rules like that in sex.
Here's your problem, Kat: you never did time in a university weight room. The NCAA has rules, and stat is right. You can only pull out in your mind. When you physically pull out, it adds 1 to the answer when someone asks, "How many times did you do her?"

Kat, you should also be aware that the NCAA has recruiting violations. You cannot give an athlete a mixed bag of pills for sex. You cannot call him back more than once to ask if he wants to do you again. Sorry, those are the rules for everyone. :-\

Katrine
01-13-2008, 01:18 PM
What a about stopping to change positions? Or to go into a different room? Or to move to a different hole?

The length of sexytime is from the moment he grabs your ass to the second he is ripping the condom off so he can jizz all over your belly.

Bob_Loblaw
01-13-2008, 01:27 PM
What a about stopping to change positions? Or to go into a different room? Or to move to a different hole?

I think what he's referring to is stopping for the purpose of taking a break rather than stopping to transition to a different position, room or hole.

lestat1
01-13-2008, 01:47 PM
^^^ Exactly.

SportsWriter2
01-13-2008, 02:59 PM
Most guys understand the concept of forward progress.


The length of sexytime is from the moment he grabs your ass to the second he is ripping the condom off so he can jizz all over your belly.

Close, Kat, but the game doesn't end with ripping. It ends with one of the players has had enough. He gets one point for each O she had and vice-versa. He might win 11-3 or lose 1-0. Some games end in a 0-0 tie.

zxcire
01-13-2008, 03:14 PM
Here's your problem, Kat: you never did time in a university weight room. The NCAA has rules, and stat is right. You can only pull out in your mind. When you physically pull out, it adds 1 to the answer when someone asks, "How many times did you do her?"



:D That's awesome.

xdamage
01-13-2008, 05:17 PM
This thread has truly enlightened me. It never previously occurred to me that pulling out, changing position, and putting it back in counts as +1. I feel like such a stud now.

SportsWriter2
01-13-2008, 06:12 PM
:D That's awesome.

I feel like such a stud now.
I just try to make everyone's day a little brighter. :D

yoda57us
01-13-2008, 06:16 PM
What a about stopping to change positions? Or to go into a different room? Or to move to a different hole?

The length of sexytime is from the moment he grabs your ass to the second he is ripping the condom off so he can jizz all over your belly.

Thanks Kat, you just saved me about 20 VOD minutes on my AEBN account...;D}:D

yoda57us
01-14-2008, 05:11 AM
I prefer to just count orgasms....

Jenny
01-14-2008, 12:43 PM
^^
I was actually just thinking - or you could try the revolutionary notion of just... not counting.

yoda57us
01-14-2008, 03:39 PM
Is the pr0n any good? I can haz password?


The beauty of Video On Demand sites is that you can search by porn star, director, ethnic preference, fetish...almost anything. It streams, it's not a download but the prices are pretty low and you don't have a bunch of porn taking up room on your hard drive...

AEBN and Max Hardcore VOD are two good ones...

I'd give YOU my password Kat but, in spite of the stunning visual I got last night, I used up all my minutes looking for Blond Russian porno girls after I read your "ripping off the condom" post...}:D

yoda57us
01-14-2008, 03:47 PM
Most women don't like hardcore pumping in one position for an extended perious of time. That should speak for itself.

Interestingly there have been threads all over TER lately about this very topic. As an old fart who likes to use a slow hand I was pleasantly inspired by the majority opinion from the ladies. Most of them will not see a guy for a second time who just wants to slam into their vagina for a full hour. One gal even gave a guy who had booked and paid for two hours half of his money back and sent him on his way after an hour of pounding away...

Certainly it's about wear and tear with a pro but it's also just plain painful and not fun at all.

Goofing around here is one thing but yes, the reality is that it is about both people feeling satisfied and happy when the experience is over.

SportsWriter2
01-15-2008, 02:53 PM
I know that Sporty is jesting, but I hope no one here takes any of this seriously.
Sorry Kat, your warning is waaaaay too late. :-\

southernspice07
01-15-2008, 03:03 PM
Maybe he should stay down south a little longer than usual since he seems to be a preemie. That way when he's hitting your spot you'll be more than ready to cum! If that doesn't work just rub his nose in the wet spot and spank his ass and tell him he's a bad boy!!;0)

SportsWriter2
01-15-2008, 03:09 PM
Maybe he should stay down south a little longer than usual since he seems to be a preemie. That way when he's hitting your spot you'll be more than ready to cum! If that doesn't work just rub his nose in the wet spot and spank his ass and tell him he's a bad boy!!;0)
We have a winner on post #49. Kat, how come you didn't think of that?

Katrine
01-15-2008, 03:13 PM
Oral sex is overrated. I actually like the pounding. Just not in the same position. And for shorter sprints, alternating with some other stuff. Ok, all I really like is clit stim, dirty talk, and anal sex. I'm boring like a dude.

I_luv_dancers!
01-15-2008, 07:02 PM
Oral sex is overrated. I actually like the pounding. Just not in the same position. And for shorter sprints, alternating with some other stuff. Ok, all I really like is clit stim, dirty talk, and anal sex. I'm boring like a dude.

You are a lot of things Kat, but boring is not one of them.

mr_punk
01-15-2008, 11:21 PM
Counting ANYTHING is stupid. Both partners should be satisfied. Even if that means the male comes quickly initially, and gets it up again for more.a doubleheader? oy vey, i knew there was a catch.

EDIT: Okay then, so what's the deal with guys "not lasting long?"obviously, the deal is more work for the guys as usual. women....you show them a really good time for two minutes. the next time they want three.

I'm as sexually frustrated as one can be and I manage to pause as needed. If I can do it, anyone can.yeah, but do you really want to?

lestat1
01-16-2008, 06:06 PM
yeah, but do you really want to?

Actually, yeah. I'd much rather have the fun last a while. Otherwise, we're talking a few minutes here; not very satisfying for me. My own self-gratification can take an hour or two. :relieved:



Which leads to a question I was going to ask about how to get more lap dances without discouraging the normal conclusion, but the last thread where I was going to ask got so derailed I gave up. So I have to settle for 1-3 instead of 4-6. At least it saves money.

Katrine
01-16-2008, 06:48 PM
No, 'stat. Getting a lapdance isn't just using a dancer's bodypart as a jack-off tool. You aren't Punk, he isn't even human!

Have you tried de-sensitizing cream? How about a condom?

yoda57us
01-16-2008, 08:27 PM
Oral sex is overrated. I actually like the pounding. Just not in the same position. And for shorter sprints, alternating with some other stuff. Ok, all I really like is clit stim, dirty talk, and anal sex. I'm boring like a dude.

But oral is the only one I'm still good at....:D