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^ I just copied and pasted my MySpace bio. I was too lazy to type up a new "About Me Summary." :D Posted a couple of pics, too. Who knows what the messages actually say though...
Lysondra
01-06-2008, 10:44 PM
So are sugar daddies married men? Because I don't agree with dating married men because KARMA is a bitch and I wouldn't want my husband running around being someone's sugar daddy.
Some are some aren't. And some's wives don't care; as long as they see their shopping sprees paid for, the less they see of hubby the better.
If I do decide to do it, I definitely don't want a married SD. I don't care how rich he might be. That's just me...
MissAlethea
01-06-2008, 11:49 PM
Okay, so I posted on SeekingArrangement and SugarDaddyForMe. So far so good. But what on earth do they mean when they say "NSA"? Is that in the traditional "I don't care about what goes on in your life, only what goes on in your sheets" kind of way, or is that the (And I'm probably pipe-dreaming here) "I won't pressure you for sex" kind of way? My instinct says the former, but one can always hope... Thanks girls!
StevieStar7
01-07-2008, 12:04 AM
what if you have kids? is that a no go?
Lysondra
01-07-2008, 12:13 AM
^It's probably best you rarely talk about them and never have them meet.
StevieStar7
01-07-2008, 12:31 AM
^It's probably best you rarely talk about them and never have them meet.
Oh NO way!
Let me rephrase that question...how many of you girls who have sugardaddies, have children?
hypothetical~*I would never expose mine to that part of my life*
StevieStar7
01-07-2008, 02:22 AM
http://www.sugardaddyforme.com/?mode=home
leilanicandy
01-07-2008, 07:25 AM
I was wondering if any of you girls. Look at this site.
http://www.sugardaddyforme.com/?mode=reg&x_source=A2_443734:daddy
They said it was on the Montel show. But than again Syliva Brown was on his show too!
Vyanka
01-07-2008, 07:55 AM
I was wondering if any of you girls. Look at this site.
http://www.sugardaddyforme.com/?mode=reg&x_source=A2_443734:daddy
They said it was on the Montel show. But than again Syliva Brown was on his show too!
I'm gonna try this one. Fuck that. LOL.
Lysondra
01-07-2008, 08:02 AM
I tried that site. Didn't work, but I had a shitty profile. Should try again
leilanicandy
01-07-2008, 08:16 AM
I was wondering will it be on the safe side to google your SD before you meet him! Do you think it will be to much to see a state Id of some sort? I know I was told to always check that person state ID when meeting them for the first time. This way you know they are who they say they are!
I know you should always go with your instincts. Yet fact is a very good way to go too!
Vyanka
01-07-2008, 08:30 AM
Ok, I just made a profile and in less than 5 minutes I already have 3 messages. :O I hope this works. LOL.
Edit: I'm getting a shit load.
Aubreyyy
01-07-2008, 10:14 AM
To everyone paying to read messages, DONT!!!
If the SDs are total access members, meaning THEY paid, you can read and reply to all their messages. Don't even bother with a PSD (potential sugar daddy) if he can't even cough up the membership fee.
^Are you talking about sugardaddie.com? I haven't looked at the other sites yet.
Here's the 'seekingarrangement' one. I've looked at this one before and have seen a couple of 'ideals.' :P
http://www.seekingarrangement.com/?g...FSm3hgod4BoswQ (http://www.seekingarrangement.com/?gclid=CPe6lbaN6o0CFSm3hgod4BoswQ)
Aubreyyy
01-07-2008, 10:44 AM
I use seekingarrangement and sugardaddyforme, not the "ie" b/c I'm in the states, so I'm not sure how that one works...
But I've never paid a dime and talked to at least 75 guys already.
^Talked to at least 75 guys? LOL. There's no way I would waste that much time just to find a SD.
Aubreyyy
01-07-2008, 11:06 AM
^^^
Its worth the time. You have to sort through a lot of shit on these sites.
1- Guys who are are rich but just want to fuck
2- Guys who aren't rich and still want to fuck
3- Guys just looking to chat, maybe have some phone sex, see some nekkid pictures and play with people without paying a cent
I'm glad I waited, I've found two guys that are great. One wants to basically make me his princess, and the other is a really cool guy who I think I will WANT to spend time with.
Vyanka
01-07-2008, 11:47 AM
I'm getting a ton of great replies on sugardaddyforme :-O With some good to be true offers.
TheTempest
01-07-2008, 12:09 PM
tempest.
quid pro quo!
Spoiling them is good, but getting spoiled is a must too!
I know. I need someone to teach me how to be properly spoiled!!
^^^
Its worth the time. You have to sort through a lot of shit on these sites.
1- Guys who are are rich but just want to fuck
2- Guys who aren't rich and still want to fuck
3- Guys just looking to chat, maybe have some phone sex, see some nekkid pictures and play with people without paying a cent
I'm glad I waited, I've found two guys that are great. One wants to basically make me his princess, and the other is a really cool guy who I think I will WANT to spend time with.
We'll see what happens. I'm willing to wait. And we all know that good things come to those who do just that. :)
AznExtasy
01-07-2008, 04:14 PM
Personally, a sugar daddy relationship is the only relationship I can have with a man. I can't have normal bf/gf relationship with young men my age. I find them lacking in life experience, financial means, and can't stand their egos. So in my case, a sugar daddy works out perfectly.
The sugardaddy4me website is mostly full of younger idiots who aren't really serious. Most are looking to take you out and pay for dinner and a movie before hitting the sheets. But the point of a real sugar daddy arrangement is to get as much as you can; money, clothes, jewelry, furniture, vacations, etc..
I got a $2000 diamond ring this Christmas. I love my sugar daddy. ;)
^Yeah... I wasn't liking that site too much. I registered on seekingarrangement.com. Just waiting for approval, and then I'll be on the hunt! ;D
I also 100% agree with everything else you said about guys that are my age. ::)
TheTempest
01-07-2008, 04:26 PM
So which sites do you not have to pay to read messages? I'm a little confused. :(
AznExtasy
01-07-2008, 04:38 PM
It's a bad idea to sign up for any website that makes you pay to read your messages, they are just trying to make money off you. Some sites let you read your messages as long as the sugar daddy is a paid profile. This is a good idea because it separates the serious paying members from the rest who are just on there for fun. I sure as hell would not pay to read somebody's message when they are the potential sugar daddy, just doesn't make sense.
Lysondra
01-07-2008, 05:34 PM
I firmly believe you should be willing to pay just like the sugar daddie for the initial contact. This is going to sound odd, but it shows you're not 'after him for his money' and he's more willing to spend. Making a man buy you a membership the first moment is EXTREMELY rude and crass. Sugar daddies (my kind, anyway) don't want a woman who can't even afford $20 a month - then they're just taking care of her; not spoiling her! It's about showing you can take care of yourself, you don't NEED them, look you can even afford membership and you WANT to be with them and you're not a 'down and dirty' gold digger (sure, you are one, but let's not LOOK like one, mkay?)... making him feel wanted and not needed is usually a good way to get the most out of him. Otherwise he feels like you're just another 'chore' to add to his list. Proving I'm perfectly capable of taking care of myself has done really well. I don't need a daddy, I don't need his money; I want him. It's some sort of weirdly balanced power trip.
Plus the daddies on sugardaddie are MUCH more reliable. MUCH. Because you have to pay.
MsQwerty
01-08-2008, 07:13 AM
I havent read the whole thread so if my questions are covered can someone say so (-: I have a question or two.
Frstly - How do you respond when someone places you on their hotlist? I figured that those Im not interested in I wont / dont do anything (theres too many anyway) but of the rest, if they look like hopeful candidates do you contact them first or do you wait until they contact you? Ive tried both so far and sometimes I hear back and sometimes I dont. Now if I like the look / sound of them place them on my hotlist and see if nything happens. Again, sometimes it does, sometimes it doesnt.
Question 2. Whats your elimination process when picking a sugar daddy? (Note - originally I was looking for a financially secure potential boyfriend but put a profile up on SD out of curiosity and am now considering that path.) Ive narrowed it down to about 8 but dont think I can rule out any further without meeting them. Im curious to hear how the rest of you do it!
Vyanka
01-08-2008, 07:42 AM
So which sites do you not have to pay to read messages? I'm a little confused. :(
seekingarrangement
MoetATL07
01-08-2008, 08:05 AM
[quote=GoldCoastGirl;1354123]Affairs have been happening since god knows when... on BOTH sides not just MEN by the way! ::) I would hope you aren't a stripper as some of the best customers (as well as worst) are married men.
Dancing for a married man in a club and seeing them on the outside are two different things.
MsQwerty
01-08-2008, 08:14 AM
^^^I agree - not all the guys on the sugar daddy sites are married though. Personally I am not interested in married men.
May I recommend the book Sugarbabe though for more insight in to this - its great!
http://www.randomhouse.com.au/Books/Default.aspx?Page=Book&ID=9781741667998
Vyanka
01-08-2008, 08:55 AM
Not all of them are old & haggedy either. I'm surprised.
MsQwerty
01-08-2008, 09:02 AM
Yeah some are drop dead hotties, whoot!!!
madmaxine
01-08-2008, 11:22 AM
I got a lot of goofy, weird responses on sugardaddie.com so I didn't bother to pay for an account....I would recommend spending a few nights at the hotel bar in the nicest hotels in your town, or running personal ads.
A lot of these dudes craved the seduction and chase (excitement) and your job as a sugar baby is to provide it, provide yourself and get comped! You can always get replaced.
AznExtasy
01-08-2008, 11:24 AM
I firmly believe you should be willing to pay just like the sugar daddie for the initial contact. This is going to sound odd, but it shows you're not 'after him for his money' and he's more willing to spend. Making a man buy you a membership the first moment is EXTREMELY rude and crass. Sugar daddies (my kind, anyway) don't want a woman who can't even afford $20 a month - then they're just taking care of her; not spoiling her! It's about showing you can take care of yourself, you don't NEED them, look you can even afford membership and you WANT to be with them and you're not a 'down and dirty' gold digger (sure, you are one, but let's not LOOK like one, mkay?)... making him feel wanted and not needed is usually a good way to get the most out of him. Otherwise he feels like you're just another 'chore' to add to his list. Proving I'm perfectly capable of taking care of myself has done really well. I don't need a daddy, I don't need his money; I want him. It's some sort of weirdly balanced power trip.
Plus the daddies on sugardaddie are MUCH more reliable. MUCH. Because you have to pay.
It's true a sugar baby should be able to take care of herself, and nobody should look to that website as a last resort. But there's other potential ways of showing that, in my opinion. It's not that I can't afford $20 a month, I simply choose not to because this is part of my elimination process for the sugar daddy who fits my requirements. So how is that "EXTREMELY rude and crass"?
Just different strokes for different folks, that's all.
TheTempest
01-08-2008, 01:05 PM
It's true a sugar baby should be able to take care of herself, and nobody should look to that website as a last resort. But there's other potential ways of showing that, in my opinion. It's not that I can't afford $20 a month, I simply choose not to because this is part of my elimination process for the sugar daddy who fits my requirements. So how is that "EXTREMELY rude and crass"?
Just different strokes for different folks, that's all.
I agree. I could afford the 20 bucks, but I'd rather use that money for other things.
Although, it may weed out the fakers.
SundayMorning
01-08-2008, 01:26 PM
I used to be on sugardaddie but kind of chickened out and now I'd have to pay again to read the new messages. So I signed up on seekingarrangement and am waiting for my profile and pics to be approved.
What I really am kind of interested in is a Sugar Mommy! I'm guessing no one has any experience with one of them, huh? I think it would make the Hubby feel less weird about being pampered by someone other than him if it's a lady. We aren't often biased that way (like thinking "intimacy with women is different than intimacy with men) but I think he feels like he'd be less of a man if another man were treating me better than he does. Etc.
Vyanka
01-08-2008, 01:32 PM
A sugar mommy messaged me too. She wants a princess. She's a 42 yr old former *gorgeous* model from NYC & domanatrix.... & claimed to be very submissive.
I was so flattered & surprised at that one.
SundayMorning
01-08-2008, 02:21 PM
Yummy! Sounds wonderful. Did you reply?
TheTempest
01-08-2008, 02:24 PM
I used to be on sugardaddie but kind of chickened out and now I'd have to pay again to read the new messages. So I signed up on seekingarrangement and am waiting for my profile and pics to be approved.
What I really am kind of interested in is a Sugar Mommy! I'm guessing no one has any experience with one of them, huh? I think it would make the Hubby feel less weird about being pampered by someone other than him if it's a lady. We aren't often biased that way (like thinking "intimacy with women is different than intimacy with men) but I think he feels like he'd be less of a man if another man were treating me better than he does. Etc.
I was thinking about that too. I'd love to have an older woman take me around and spoil me... especially since we could do things like manicures and facials together. Although I'm sure some men are into that too.
Vyanka
01-08-2008, 02:25 PM
Yummy! Sounds wonderful. Did you reply?
LOL. I told her I don't consider myself bi, but she did make me a bit curious. But that if anything, I would love to gain a friendship... her profile seemed fun.
She's a woman, I can't lie to a woman. And plus she wanted someone honest.
A guy, I can lie the hell out of.
I'm signed up on both sugardaddie.com and seekingarrangement.com. I think I'm liking sugardaddie.com better. The other site won't upload/accept any of my good photos, and is proving to be a pain in the ass. >:( Plus, I'm liking the set-up of sugardaddie.com better. Like I said before, I'm in no rush at all... and I am willing to search and wait for what it is I truly deserve... my ideal SD.
LuckiCharm
01-09-2008, 03:30 PM
So to you ladies who have had a sugar daddy before, are you sexually attracted to him or does that matter?
I would freakin LOVE to have a sugar daddy but I don't know the first thing about the duties as a sugar baby.
Aubreyyy
01-09-2008, 05:26 PM
Here is my personal SD update- may be kinda long.
I met Guy (we'll call him) through sugardaddyforme.com. I loved his profile b/c it had some disclaimer about not wanting to speak to anyone stuck in another country, or not looking to really hang out, and a bunch of other weird scenarios I'm sure he's been through using the site. It made him seem likea really honest guy that would be forthcoming and open about his intentions for the relationship, and I found that extremely comforting.
We chatted for a couple of days on the internet. He's an entertainment lawyer representing a bunch of big musical groups in the city, so we had a lot to talk about. He's in his 40s, but one thing I noticed about chatting with him was that I felt like I was talking to someone my own age. We had a ton in common- he's a big pothead lol. I agreed to meet him at a place right near my apartment.
Our first meeting was a little akward, but by the end of it, I couldn't wait to see him again. We actually really connected, and I didn't mind giving him a little peck at the end. He even brought me a present (to smoke, but a present nonetheless).
I just got back from our second meeting. He showed me his office this took me out for a drink. Great conversation, found out we have even more in common. At the end he gave me $300 cash for my school books, and handed me an envelope with an obscene amount of weed in it!
All in all, VERY happy with the guy I found. When he handed the cash to me, he said "I dont expect anything for this, don't worry, just do good in school!"
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Alaska
01-09-2008, 05:48 PM
I feel sort of weird about using guys for money. I suppose that makes me a very ineffective stripper sometimes. :(
Is it a mental thing? I would love someone to spoil me, but I feel the need to spoil men sometimes. I find myself constantly going out of my way to please men - even when I don't have to.
Me too, ezzactly!
But otoh, I get curious. So I put up a profile on a site. I get like 65 e-mails a day, most are even personalized. It honestly doesn't seem so bad. But can I take the personal plunge to prostitution? I dunno......I ain't gonna lie, that IS what they want. If I was spending x grand a month I'd want that too! Part of me says "It's not so bad." But it's also getting the initial meeting out of the way...
I admire the girls that do it tho, and even better if yr saving yr money and doing smart things....
Alaska
01-09-2008, 05:56 PM
Here is my personal SD update- may be kinda long.
I met Guy (we'll call him) through sugardaddyforme.com. I loved his profile b/c it had some disclaimer about not wanting to speak to anyone stuck in another country, or not looking to really hang out, and a bunch of other weird scenarios I'm sure he's been through using the site. It made him seem likea really honest guy that would be forthcoming and open about his intentions for the relationship, and I found that extremely comforting.
We chatted for a couple of days on the internet. He's an entertainment lawyer representing a bunch of big musical groups in the city, so we had a lot to talk about. He's in his 40s, but one thing I noticed about chatting with him was that I felt like I was talking to someone my own age. We had a ton in common- he's a big pothead lol. I agreed to meet him at a place right near my apartment.
Our first meeting was a little akward, but by the end of it, I couldn't wait to see him again. We actually really connected, and I didn't mind giving him a little peck at the end. He even brought me a present (to smoke, but a present nonetheless).
I just got back from our second meeting. He showed me his office this took me out for a drink. Great conversation, found out we have even more in common. At the end he gave me $300 cash for my school books, and handed me an envelope with an obscene amount of weed in it!
All in all, VERY happy with the guy I found. When he handed the cash to me, he said "I dont expect anything for this, don't worry, just do good in school!"
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
THAT was inspirational! *claps*
^I agree! I wanna hear more inspiring stories like that one! ;D
madmaxine
01-09-2008, 07:27 PM
MY story-
I talk to him every 2-3 days, he gives me money & we make each other very happy. Oddly (or maybe not) this is the most mutually beneficial and rewarding relationship I've ever had.
That's it.
Miss Jessica
01-09-2008, 07:30 PM
I firmly believe you should be willing to pay just like the sugar daddie for the initial contact. This is going to sound odd, but it shows you're not 'after him for his money' and he's more willing to spend. Making a man buy you a membership the first moment is EXTREMELY rude and crass. Sugar daddies (my kind, anyway) don't want a woman who can't even afford $20 a month - then they're just taking care of her; not spoiling her! It's about showing you can take care of yourself, you don't NEED them, look you can even afford membership and you WANT to be with them and you're not a 'down and dirty' gold digger (sure, you are one, but let's not LOOK like one, mkay?)... making him feel wanted and not needed is usually a good way to get the most out of him. Otherwise he feels like you're just another 'chore' to add to his list. Proving I'm perfectly capable of taking care of myself has done really well. I don't need a daddy, I don't need his money; I want him. It's some sort of weirdly balanced power trip.
Plus the daddies on sugardaddie are MUCH more reliable. MUCH. Because you have to pay.
Very well said, I agree completely! :yes:
aussiebelle
01-09-2008, 08:02 PM
Here is my personal SD update- may be kinda long.
I met Guy (we'll call him) through sugardaddyforme.com. I loved his profile b/c it had some disclaimer about not wanting to speak to anyone stuck in another country, or not looking to really hang out, and a bunch of other weird scenarios I'm sure he's been through using the site. It made him seem likea really honest guy that would be forthcoming and open about his intentions for the relationship, and I found that extremely comforting.
We chatted for a couple of days on the internet. He's an entertainment lawyer representing a bunch of big musical groups in the city, so we had a lot to talk about. He's in his 40s, but one thing I noticed about chatting with him was that I felt like I was talking to someone my own age. We had a ton in common- he's a big pothead lol. I agreed to meet him at a place right near my apartment.
Our first meeting was a little akward, but by the end of it, I couldn't wait to see him again. We actually really connected, and I didn't mind giving him a little peck at the end. He even brought me a present (to smoke, but a present nonetheless).
I just got back from our second meeting. He showed me his office this took me out for a drink. Great conversation, found out we have even more in common. At the end he gave me $300 cash for my school books, and handed me an envelope with an obscene amount of weed in it!
All in all, VERY happy with the guy I found. When he handed the cash to me, he said "I dont expect anything for this, don't worry, just do good in school!"
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
I want a cool sugar daddy like that.
*runs away with Aubreyyy's sugar daddy*