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TheTempest
01-21-2008, 01:08 PM
^^Thanks for the reassurance. I don't know if this is the situation for me, but at the same time I DO know that I can't agree to sleep with someone I haven't met and I'm not attracted to so going into a situation where I'm going to be expected to have sex is not something I'd like.

That was such a run-on sentence.

Vyanka
01-21-2008, 01:23 PM
I think most of the guys are like that, on those sites.


But just when I was about to give up! I was having a conversation with this man. Than he ask me if, I had a sugar daddy. I told him no. I had ask him, what is a sugar daddy realationship like? He told me. All you have to do is show him you care, that is the sugar. He will take care of you!

Now, after that I totally get it! By the way he is a Sugar Daddy. As a sugar babe you are like a liitle girl he wants to spoil. Not disrespect and treat her like a whore, or use her! The sugar daddy is suppose to mentor, and spoil his sugar babe with gifts or money. In return she show she cares.

It is like they get the feeling you get from giving to charity.


So I hope this inspires you girls. There is a lot men who fake the funk. But I met a real sugar daddy. Who did not ask for sex in return. All he wanted was love. Just for a woman to look good and care for him!


Dont know about you girls, but I am ready to be spoil rotten!

Good for you! :) See that's what I want. I had this one AIM me today. I told him I wasn't interested in the SD/SB thing, & he's like all he wants to do is meet me. But IDK, he was so persistant that it freaked me out a little.


Would it be a bad idea to tell these guys to meet you at the club, & have them spend money on you there? lol. I'm about to be straight up and not care wtf they think of strippers.

leilanicandy
01-21-2008, 02:01 PM
I had this one AIM me today. I told him I wasn't interested in the SD/SB thing, & he's like all he wants to do is meet me. But IDK, he was so persistant that it freaked me out a little.


Would it be a bad idea to tell these guys to meet you at the club, & have them spend money on you there? lol. I'm about to be straight up and not care wtf they think of strippers.



Vanka I cannot stress enought, on how we all should follow are gut. When I met this man, I was not at all freak out by him. If fact he kinda remind me of daddy warbucks in the movie "Annie". Maybe you should question him more! If you feel the same way. Leave him alone! I dont think it will be wise. To have them meet you at the club. You dont want stalkers. Your job is really nobody business. But it dose sound like a good idea. I just dont want you to have to deal with them, if they become idiots after you met them.

AznExtasy
01-21-2008, 02:04 PM
I've done that before. It's a safe place to meet but not all sugar daddies like to spend money at the club. This guy I met just kind of watched me for a free show the whole time and became one of those "Make your money and come back to me" types. But this one other guy met me at my club, liked what he saw, but didn't spend any money there. He gave me 2 grand when we met up the following weekend before going out clubbing. Yeah, weird, I know. We actually went clubbing.
So my point is, if you can get them to spend at the club, that's great. But some might not always do that.

leilanicandy
01-21-2008, 02:10 PM
^^Thanks for the reassurance. I don't know if this is the situation for me, but at the same time I DO know that I can't agree to sleep with someone I haven't met and I'm not attracted to so going into a situation where I'm going to be expected to have sex is not something I'd like.

That was such a run-on sentence.


I do run on sentences also! I dont stress doing so when not in school. Well tempest. The story was for all. I totally understand where you are coming from, I think most of the girls feel the same way.


I just want to share a postive story. It seems to me like getting a good sugar daddy is like finding a good man. They are out there just dont settle for less. Good thing are worth waiting for!

Vyanka
01-21-2008, 02:13 PM
You have a point Leila. I just hate putting time in getting pretty for nothing. lol.

IDK, maybe i'm not playing my cards right... but it feels like it's a needle in a haystack to find a good one who wont at least swap you a kiss on the mouth(Like that one who caught me by surprise, I wanted to run like Forest. LOL). :yuck:

I guess if a good one comes to me, fine. But i'm done with the search. :yawn: There's a lot of frauds on there too. Especially the ones who don't have a paid membership, be aware of that ladies.

Vyanka
01-21-2008, 02:15 PM
I do run on sentences also! I dont stress doing so when not in school. Well tempest. The story was for all. I totally understand where you are coming from, I think most of the girls feel the same way.


I just want to share a postive story. It seems to me like getting a good sugar daddy is like finding a good man. They are out there just dont settle for less. Good thing are worth waiting for!

Exactly!! I don't know which is harder though, that's sad. hahahaha.

Bunny
01-21-2008, 08:37 PM
I actually had a friend whose uncle was wealthy and just would pay for someone to travel with him or whatever, no strings attached. he was just a sweet old guy that wanted company and nothing more. I wish she'd have hooked me up with him.

Alaska
01-21-2008, 08:53 PM
^^Thanks for the reassurance. I don't know if this is the situation for me, but at the same time I DO know that I can't agree to sleep with someone I haven't met and I'm not attracted to so going into a situation where I'm going to be expected to have sex is not something I'd like.

That was such a run-on sentence.

ITA....and the exact reason I don't do porn! hehe.

I seriously doubt if I'll ever do this. The farthest I went was giving one guy my phone #, and here he was, corporate 9-5er w/a wife and kids....he called me at least 30 times WOW I seriously misjudged that one.

TBH I'm really concerned that they'd be bad in bed too, if I ever decided this WAS my cup of tea.....I cannot have sex if I'm not wet, then he'd be all like "ohhh you hate me" and cut it off right there. I envy girls that can fake!


I'd love to find one with no sex, but like, really not gonna spend a thousand hours, I still think the odds are horrible!

Mily
01-21-2008, 11:00 PM
I'm sick of this site, too. I'd rather just meet mine in the club. Don't feel like sifting through all the messages. I'm still uncertain anyway. I would rather get to know the guy in the club and then go from there-- that is, if I even find one that is ideal for me.

leilanicandy
01-21-2008, 11:25 PM
Well I dont know about you guys. Yet I know certain states have laws reguarding meeting guys in strip clubs. If that is what you are talking about! I dont think sugar daddys are in other types of clubs. Unless it is the golf club or country club. Maybe you can meet them at a wine tasting.

PuertoRicanPinup
01-22-2008, 01:02 PM
Whoo hoo! My friend's sugar daddy is taking her and I to Hawaii on vacation.. yay!

SexyJess
01-25-2008, 03:31 AM
Whoo hoo! My friend's sugar daddy is taking her and I to Hawaii on vacation.. yay!

This just proves what I have learned to be true from many experiences... if you don't want to deal with the drama of a SD, get a friend who has one. :)

242_fair
01-25-2008, 03:44 AM
I don't know if I am the luckiest girl in the world or what, but I am on my third SD and he gives me $4k per month... the other one gave me about as much on a regular. It really helps me out a lot. Don't know how long it will last, but it's usually me breaking things off anyway.

I think I make more money than the Girls Next Door, I always remind myself of that when I get bitchy to him.

ivygrl
01-25-2008, 05:18 AM
Am I the only one here who has had a sugarmomma?

When I lived in NYC there were lots of rich lesbians looking for girlie girls. I hooked up with a high-powered lawyer who showered me with tons of stuff... and all I had to do was be her arm candy at all the lesbian watering and parties.She so wanted to turn heads (she had close-cropped silver hair and loved the idea of being the grande dame of the dyke scene).

I wasn't attracted to her, per se, but we did get it on a couple of times - at least she knew what she was doing!

The funny thing, is she dropped me for another dancer after 4 months... but I got what I wanted out of it, I think.

leilanicandy
01-27-2008, 01:22 AM
Well, I never thought to have a sugar moma! Tell me how that go, I will love to have one on accounts of friendship and gifts.

Minette
01-27-2008, 07:46 PM
Am I the only one here who has had a sugarmomma?

When I lived in NYC there were lots of rich lesbians looking for girlie girls. I hooked up with a high-powered lawyer who showered me with tons of stuff... and all I had to do was be her arm candy at all the lesbian watering and parties.She so wanted to turn heads (she had close-cropped silver hair and loved the idea of being the grande dame of the dyke scene).

I wasn't attracted to her, per se, but we did get it on a couple of times - at least she knew what she was doing!

The funny thing, is she dropped me for another dancer after 4 months... but I got what I wanted out of it, I think.

Oh good lord - you just described my dream scenario - I'm not a girlie girl, but for that, I might be able to pretend. How does one find these women?

PuertoRicanPinup
01-27-2008, 08:11 PM
I would kill for a sugar mama!

Alaska
01-27-2008, 11:25 PM
I have to ask---are you at all lesbionic? (Sorry to whichever sw'er I ripped that word from, lmao) Or was it just her that you weren't attracted to?

ivygrl
01-28-2008, 04:49 AM
I have to ask---are you at all lesbionic? (Sorry to whichever sw'er I ripped that word from, lmao) Or was it just her that you weren't attracted to?

I would consider myself bisexual - leaning towards straight, though.

That wasn't the issue. She wasn't my type - but then again, she wasn't the most sexual person, either. She liked the ladies but didn't have a wild libido. She liked power mostly and having other women envious of her.

We did have a couple of evenings together, but really she spoiled me rotten - and paid for a ton of stuff that I never would have been able to afford on my own, especially clothes and beauty services. She and I were in really two different places in our lives, and a real relationship would have been disastrous, I think.

Aubreyyy
01-28-2008, 03:55 PM
^^^ Where did you find power lesbian?

I picture these get-togethers like the one Charlotte was invited to on Sex & the City, with the artist? lol I WANT TO GO!!!!! And i'm not even "lesbionic" lol

Lysondra
01-28-2008, 05:46 PM
Hmmm... I'm trying to think of a good place to find power lesbians. I might have to do some research!

Professional Gold Digger to the rescue! *trumpet* *flies*

leilanicandy
01-28-2008, 10:46 PM
Professional Gold Digger to the rescue! *trumpet* *flies*


* A tear runs down Lei cheek. I dont know what I will do with out her!*

Minette
01-29-2008, 11:55 PM
Hmmm... I'm trying to think of a good place to find power lesbians. I might have to do some research!

Professional Gold Digger to the rescue! *trumpet* *flies*

I'm picturing you in this awesome superhero costume now.

exotica17
01-30-2008, 06:44 AM
Am I the only one here who has had a sugarmomma?

When I lived in NYC there were lots of rich lesbians looking for girlie girls. I hooked up with a high-powered lawyer who showered me with tons of stuff... and all I had to do was be her arm candy at all the lesbian watering and parties.She so wanted to turn heads (she had close-cropped silver hair and loved the idea of being the grande dame of the dyke scene).

I wasn't attracted to her, per se, but we did get it on a couple of times - at least she knew what she was doing!

The funny thing, is she dropped me for another dancer after 4 months... but I got what I wanted out of it, I think.

Wow, a sugarmama would be a dream come true!!! Where did you meet her?

leilanicandy
01-31-2008, 04:16 PM
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/speeddating_odd_dc


Look they have one for men.

leilanicandy
01-31-2008, 04:18 PM
I got gift for you girls


http://pocketchangenyc.com/


This might help you with your sucess!

ivygrl
02-01-2008, 04:40 AM
Wow, a sugarmama would be a dream come true!!! Where did you meet her?

When I was living in new york, she bought me a drink here: http://www.henriettahudson.com/

and that's all she wrote!;)

Vyanka
02-01-2008, 09:20 AM
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/speeddating_odd_dc


Look they have one for men.

If I were a single older rich lady, you better believe i'd get me a boy toy too. LOL. }:D

AznExtasy
02-01-2008, 02:54 PM
I tend to disagree with the whole male sugar baby thing. Most guys will gladly stick their dick in anything, why should they get paid? There are a lot of hot young guys with older milf fetishes who would love to be around an older woman for free. All they can offer a sugar mama is their hot beef injections, which I highly doubt is worth the amount they get paid. Also, I tend to have less respect for a male who takes advantage of women like that. I like men with ambition, men who become ceo's, real estate moguls, ones involved in international business and foreign affairs.. those types who do big things. I'm attracted to that because it shows me they got some balls to make it happen, not some desperate egotistical type scamming off older widows. Personally, I do not agree with this switching of gender roles.. I feel like the rich man should take care of the beautiful lady. And I don't think a male sugar baby can have the same kind of devotion and respect as a female has for her sugar daddy.
Don't get me wrong, I would gladly make it rain on a hot male stripper for fun, but this is something else. In my opinion, it's generally not a good idea to give guys money.

Aubreyyy
02-01-2008, 07:02 PM
When I was living in new york, she bought me a drink here: http://www.henriettahudson.com/

and that's all she wrote!;)

I am SOOOOO there this weekend!

TheTempest
02-01-2008, 08:20 PM
I am SOOOOO there this weekend!

I've been there! Great spot for girlie love. I should go there again.

xoxoGracexoxo
02-13-2008, 10:00 AM
Hmm..I put an ad on seekingarrangement and got a couple of responses so far. I think I'm too nervous to actually go through with it, though. Oh, well.

cinammonkisses
02-14-2008, 02:46 PM
I got bored the other night and wrote out what my ad will say. I must say, it's pretty awesome. I dunno if I'll ever have the balls to actually post it anywhere though.

StevieStar7
03-30-2008, 10:29 AM
Help!!! I've never done the Sugar Daddy thing before! I have one that I think is a possibility! He wants to set up a time to do lunch this week! I'm nervous as fuck! I think I'd rather do a Happy Hour thing...I'd be to damn nervous to eat! What happens on the first 'meeting'. Is that when you explore and talk about expectations and boundaries? When does money come up or does it?

StevieStar7
03-30-2008, 01:24 PM
no one?

Aubreyyy
03-30-2008, 02:34 PM
^^^

I kinda like to get the uncomfortable "expectations" talk out of the way via email or chatting. I dont want to waste my time at dinner with someone who basically wants a glorified escort as their SB, or someone who wants to provide assistance in a way I don't need (a car, for instance. or just clothes...you can't pay your rent with clothes and flowers!!). Or someone who wants to meet more than I am willing to.

I'd just drop a quick note saying "Hey, tell me what you're looking for in an arrangement, as far as your availability of time to spend together and what you had in mind for assistance." Has never done me wrong :)

whirlerz
03-30-2008, 09:31 PM
Well I've been on some sites like this. One guy stood me up, (nice,whatever) but I hate to have my time wasted. Another guy said no endless emails, then proceeded to do just that, made an date, but didn't provide a location. Another one gives a phone # ending in 0000. Sure.

StevieStar7
03-31-2008, 07:49 AM
^^^

I kinda like to get the uncomfortable "expectations" talk out of the way via email or chatting. I dont want to waste my time at dinner with someone who basically wants a glorified escort as their SB, or someone who wants to provide assistance in a way I don't need (a car, for instance. or just clothes...you can't pay your rent with clothes and flowers!!). Or someone who wants to meet more than I am willing to.

I'd just drop a quick note saying "Hey, tell me what you're looking for in an arrangement, as far as your availability of time to spend together and what you had in mind for assistance." Has never done me wrong :)


Thanks So Much!!!
So after having the talk up front and then having your first face to face 'meeting', does the Sugar Daddy usually give you money then? When can you expect to start receiving financial assistance? I don't mean to come across as being crass out the money thing but I'm in a REAL financial bind right now. I've split up with my ex and he has stopped payment on the rent for March and now April is due. I've been trying to play catch up on the bills so shit doesn't get turned off! I got an eviction notice (via a constable) with a court date in April if the rent isn't paid! I can't afford to lose my home!!! I literally have no where to go! A friend suggested the Sugar Daddy thing...I'm just so nervous and to be honest scared! Do they all want sex? Is that the norm...or is it mainly companionship? Sorry if I'm being a pain in the ass but I'm kinda desperate right now...:-\

Thanks again...;D

Lola Rose
03-31-2008, 12:12 PM
to my understanding, most want sex, but you can probably get some money out of him, enough to help you get caught up at least some, before it goes that far.

StevieStar7
03-31-2008, 12:33 PM
YUK! They really all want sex...I may have to reconsider...I do NOT what sex :P
Thanks

winterrose
03-31-2008, 12:55 PM
My last Sugar daddy moved. I miss him. He took me shopping, out for lunch/dinner/clubbing and paid my bills. He was a photographer before he retired, so he liked to take me on car trips around the area to take pictures of me and cool scenery.
I met him in the club. Actually he made the rounds in my club for freaking years being various girls SD. He usually only had one sugar baby at a time though. A case of great while it lasts.

The SD before him was a biker that worked off shore oil, he had money and no one to spend it on. He paid me just to ride his other Harley, so he would have company. I miss the bike more than him. After a year or so it got to where he wanted sex, so he had to go....because we had agreed no sex.

After reading this I want another SD, but I have no idea how the hubby would feel about it.

Aubreyyy
03-31-2008, 04:45 PM
They almost all want sex, but some will let you take it slow. Whether or not you get paid after the first date or what should be details you hash out before. I once went on a couple of dates before asking, and realized that the guy I had actually ended up liking pretty much never intended to give any assitance. Big waste of time. Now I get every intention, dollar amount, and date upfront.

whirlerz
03-31-2008, 05:30 PM
Well, good luck to anyone trying this. I think they're all a bunch a self centered creeps, & of course as was already said, they could be anyone/anything at all but what they say online.

StevieStar7
04-01-2008, 12:18 PM
^^^
I'd just drop a quick note saying "Hey, tell me what you're looking for in an arrangement, as far as your availability of time to spend together and what you had in mind for assistance." Has never done me wrong :)

Ok so my next email to him will be asking about these things up front! I also what to let him know, I'm not interested in sex...should I just tell him straight up or what!
thanks soooooooooo much for your input and help girls!!!
♥ Stevie:-*

Aubreyyy
04-01-2008, 02:39 PM
^^^^

That should come with "what you're looking for". Tell him you're looking for more of a mentor, someone who appreciates your company and would like to be your benefactor. There are men out there who would love to help a pretty girl in a little bit of a bind!

StevieStar7
04-01-2008, 05:48 PM
Hugs Aubreyyy!

Aubreyyy
04-01-2008, 05:53 PM
My pleasure girl!

My SD is funding a move from NYC to Orange County for me, no sex involved in our relationship. TRUST ME, they're out there!

You just have to weed through a bunch of pigs, cheapskates, and shitheads to find them! lol

Nini Nieb
04-02-2008, 05:19 AM
Ok so my next email to him will be asking about these things up front! I also what to let him know, I'm not interested in sex...should I just tell him straight up or what!
thanks soooooooooo much for your input and help girls!!!
♥ Stevie:-*

I've been reading most of the replys in this thread. Nobody is mentioning begging }:D That is what I would do ...


I'm this poor girlie woman that is behind with all my bill's ... I don't know what to do ... My immature ex/bf took advantege of me :-\ It's so sad that I could cry :( I need a strong, mature, manly gentleman to take care of me ... Not only money/wise but also for good advices - you are so smart and clewer and full of age/wisdom - and have a good time and will not take advanteges of me ...

Just my 0.02 !? I've never had a SD. I dunno ...

Aubreyyy
04-02-2008, 06:19 AM
Another reccomendation I have to make sure you proofread every piece of correspondance- I have never been complimented so much for my grammer than on the SD sites, so that leads me to believe that the other women on there sound like complete idiots.