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seishibella
02-11-2008, 05:15 AM
I had been stripping for about three years, only two clubs and in Chicago land...but when I worked in Chicago I swore I wouldn't do the same stupid mistakes as when I started...I thought I was smarter but I wasn't and I ended up making worse mistakes and getting involved with numerous people that just took advantage of me-

However, I started off making 500 a night and saving up for an apartment but then BOOM I got involved with the wrong seemingly eager to help room mates who tore me down and the second set of room mates stole from me...I broke my back to support other people and I got involved in some heavy drinking and etc...which lead to my ultimate downfall. The good times were brief and I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't give anything just to have changed my "friends" at that time...To go back and say hey I need a redo.

Stripping is a good living, no doubt, but not in our era and not in this country anymore. I openly envy the strippers of the 80s and 90s because they had it real easy. Sure there still were the same issues as extras and drugs, but it didn't cause a crippling affect for every other girl out there dancing for money because there really was just more money going around especially with business men.

I've stopped dancing since August and I am really happy with that in part...I don't miss the custys nor the management hype...I just really miss the dancing, the music...The endless party and leopard print chairs...The faux glamor and at times I even miss the girls...And of course the easy to come money...Which I feel really lame for saying I really do miss stripping in those senses, I suppose it's post stripper trauma...LOL.

I think as dreamers, as strippers often are, we idealize the profession...The industry...Trying to make it something that it isn't anymore. We say it's always us, that we did something mortally wrong and that's why we're kicking ourselves now for not being smarter...Or a better hustler or a better tease...Our landing flat on our faces with an empty purse...But it's not the strippers that have changed, it's the times.

Sex sells, dances don't.

Desiree
02-18-2008, 12:30 PM
Oh ladies, I feel you! IMO the best way to learn is through hardship:

Last time I was stripping (a little over a year ago) I was doing the same things... making money, wasting it, not caring about a thing. I fell really hard into the party girl lifestyle, I was drinking every single night, drugs, etc. Finally I was partying so hard that I got a DUI in October of '06. I was 20 at the time. That was the hardest thing I ever went through. I lost my license and had to quit stripping because I had no way to get there, had to start waitressing at Chili's because it was the only restaurant within walking distance of my house, all while racking up $7000 in debt from DUI related expenses while making barely enough to pay my bills. I had absolutely NOTHING saved from stripping. It took nearly a year to climb out of that hole. I was working HARD, CONSTANTLY, having to bum rides, or walk. That was in crazy Chicago weather, 20 below in the winter, over 100 in the summer. I never ever want to be there again.

I finally have all my shit together now. I got my license back and I am dancing at the same club, but staying far away from drugs and hanging out with the party girls that got me into bad habits. Remembering from where I came really helps me stay focused on whats important. I also find that making a list of financial goals and giving yourself a time in which to achieve them helps. Here's mine:

- Pay off $4000 credit card debt from DUI (check)
- Save up enough to pay bills for 3 months (check)
- Save enough to pay for a new car (check, although haven't actually bought it yet)
- Save enough to pay for next year's tuition
- Save enough to make a down payment on a condo

As long as you have some serious financial goals that you care enough about achieving, you can make anything happen. I love you ladies! Stay strong, think positive.