View Full Version : Umm I'm no gold digger but ....
thickienikkie
02-13-2008, 03:27 PM
So dump him! If he's not good to you, why are you asking a bunch of strangers about what to do? He's not a good boyfriend, so end it. You're making this far more complicated than it needs to be.
easy said then done, but I just needed advice, stupid maybe? but
shit i love him i can't just chuck the deuces and keep it movin
why are you answering then stranger?
thickienikkie
02-13-2008, 03:28 PM
You guys have been so helpful
I have to go get my feet done....nothing like sexy heels and jacked toes
could make for a broke night. lol
if you have any more advice just send me a private message
PhillyDancer1982
02-13-2008, 03:33 PM
i don't dress provactively when I'm not dancing but people can tell
i'm a stripper
do any of you have this issue too? no that it's an issue i don't give a damn
Yes I had that issue too for a period of time. In the last few months that I was dancing and for some time after I permanently stopped dancing, various guys kept commenting that they thought I was a stripper. I HATED it!! >:( The reason I hated it was because I was looking to GET OUT of dancing and pursue the job I went to college for, so I took the "dancer" comment to mean that they didn't see me as being the smart collegiate girl that I was. It was slightly insulting.
For example, one time I pulled into the parking lot of my friends' favorite hangout restaurant/pub to meet up with them. I wasn't wearing anything provocative. This guy and his friend started trying to make convo with me. I didn't talk to him for long at all, 1) because I wanted to go catch up with my friends, and 2) because he wasn't my type...he looked a little like the King from the Burger King commercial! LOL! He took one look at my new Mustang and said, "Damn girl, how'd you get a car like that? Are you a stripper or something?" >:( WTF? Why would he immediately associate nice car with stripping? Why not associate my nice car with having a high paying Wall Street or actuarial job? I mean, HE went to college(he told me he was a 4th grade teacher). Why wouldn't he expect the same from me?
Another time, I was at a bar hanging with my guy friend and a few of his friends. My friend's older, slightly annoying friend was talking to me for a while. He asked me what I did, I told him about my day job, and he said, "Really, I didn't picture you having the serious kinda job like that. I pictured you being a dancer." This was right after I stopped dancing. I especially didn't want people from my hometown to think I danced. I wasn't too happy with his perception of me.
PhillyDancer1982
02-13-2008, 03:37 PM
I don't think that people can tell you are a stripper is a bad thing, however you'll have to have your guard up a bit more for moochers since they'll try to make you a sugar momma, which is what seems to have happened here.
Actually DJ Machismo, I don't always think that people thinking you're a stripper can always be a good thing, either. I wrote a few examples of my experiences with this in the post right above this one. In some cases, guys immediately thinking you're a stripper might imply that they can't picture you being able to work a "regular" career job. In other cases, guys might view you as a good target for mooching off of, since a lot of guys think strippers make soooo much money. I think it's best to keep stripping quiet from a lot of people, except for the people that share the same job as you, close friends, etc.
MsLayne
02-13-2008, 03:47 PM
I say lose him....you are 20 and he is 34.....you ever wonder why he moved in so fast with you. No damn love in the world is going to have some grown ass man laying up in my house, wasting money when he could be making money or making more for himself. You guys only been together for 8 months.....men who deal with younger women especially with that big of an age difference. Do so because its easier for them and they do not have the social or the financial means to be on the same level as a women around thier age. Trust me, I know from experience. Just because he is honest does not make him a good man. He can honestly tell you that he cheats, but does that mean he is a good man. NO. Not at all. 8 months is not a long time in my opinion to be deep in love and all moved in. Ma....you are 20 years old with your OWN shit. You can still be in love and have your own shit, when he is in his apartment. Dont take this the wrong way....but its on a lower level of being pimped out. Im from Jersey and so are you, so you know we laugh at the dumb chicks who do this. Dont be one of those chicks. I need you to sit down and write a list of good and bad traits about this man...not financially. And do you see him growing at all? If you can answer that in a heartbeat. Than you need to let it go and move on....you are 20 HAVE FUN!! Make your money and have fun. I use to date a man 8 years older than me....he never took me out, never met his family, and all he wanted me to do was lay on my back and treat him good. I was with him for 3 years but my heart told me in the first year and a half to let it go. And I think thats exactly what your heart was telling you and thats why you came on here to ask for advice. You know what you need to do.