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iseestars
02-15-2008, 11:57 PM
The only advice I ever take about dancing is from another dancer and I still take it with a grain of salt. No one else knows what they are talking about.

StarryEyes
02-16-2008, 01:54 AM
As you all know, I'm already self consious about my body and my dancing abilities. Anyway, I was speaking with a guy that I've known for 4 years and telling him that I am planning on becoming a stripper. His immediate reaction is: "You do realize that you have to be able to dance right?" I reply that I realize that, he says "Well then how the hell do you plan on making money? (Erupts into a fit of laughter) You're going to look so stupid. Plus, you don't have a body, nobody is going to pay to see your skinny ass. You might as well just stick to looking for a REAL job." My feelings are so hurt. Mind you, this fool has never seen me dance before and second, this is the same guy that pursued me for a YEAR when I was 20 yrs old. because he was supposedly soooo attracted to me. We slept together for the next two years (I was 21 then and he was 29), and got me pregnant when I was 22, only to then tell me that he was married and I had to have an abortion. But after the abortion claimed that he still had feelings for me and wanted to remain close because I am his "best friend". Grrrrr. My life! Thanks for letting me vent ladies.

He's obviously threatened by you doing it. That is why he is trying to discourage you. This being the case, you must be hot.

Do what makes you happy, and maybe it would not be a bad idea to rid yourself of this guy...

StarryEyes
02-16-2008, 02:04 AM
Oh OK I read over the thread and yay! I am glad you got him out of your life. Now keep him out. So happy you stood up for yourself. You'll be doing a lot of that in this biz.

Be true to yourself, do what makes you happy, and if the haters are hating then you are doing something right.

I don't know you but I am proud of you. Demand resppect and ye shall receive it!

21stcenturyfox
02-16-2008, 08:58 AM
before you do anything you need to get rid of that guy!

Arizona_Angel
02-16-2008, 04:44 PM
Screw him.

I certainly cannot dance to save my life and it hasn't stopped me in over a decade. :)

CinammonGirl
02-16-2008, 05:16 PM
This sounds exactly like something my ex recently told me. He told me I didn't have the assets to be a sex worker, and nitpicked EVERY flaw. He even said that people prefer white strippers over brown ones, and how I wouldn't make that much due to my nationality.

When we were dating, he was telling me how he liked these same "flaws" lol. For instance, he told me my butt was too big to be a stripper and that men prefer tiny, cute butts on strippers. When we were dating, he kept saying how he loved my juicy butt.

Everyone said he was probably mad at how he couldn't have me and was trying to justify himself.

Chances are your ex is insecure about other men giving you attention when you dance, or he's mad that he can't have you. I was really scared that my ex was right about the things he said, but WHO says that stuff out of nowhere? There has to be an ulterior motive behind it.


Ex bf's and fuck buddies can be quite cruel when it comes to making verbally abusive remarks. I ditched my ex bf/fuck buddy after he made these comments, and I think he should be out of your life too. You don't deserve to have someone like that in your life, even if you're best friends...I was best friends with my ex too, but a real friend doesn't talk to you like that.

If our friends don't want us to go into stripping, they don't say "you can't dance or you're not pretty enough" to demonstrate their concern..Come on, you can put it in a better way than that.