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There was a story about this exact game and it ruined a marriage.
The couple were together for 6 years and this game just consumed his life.
I just cant imagine. :(
Show him this link!!!!
http://kotaku.com/357306/warcraft-cited-as-main-reason-for-couples-divorce
paintgoddess
02-22-2008, 06:09 PM
Thanks guys.
It is an addiction for him. It's all he does and he never even talks to me anymore. Doesn't eat. Hasn't showered. I almost don't even care anymore.
Thank you, MissAlethea... you are so right. The game is one thing he can be guaranteed to be successful at and it feeds him. However... I just don't feel sorry for him anymore. I feel sorry for myself right now. I work, do the grocery shopping, all dishes, laundry, and cleaning, take care of the car, pay the bills, take care of the dogs, make all of the decisions.... I'm constantly exhausted. I would be doing all of these things if I were single, and I have, and it sucks when you have no one to look to to help you... but you suck it up and do it anyway. Being in a relationship and taking care of the same load of crap when an other able-bodied person is in the house is just infuriating. He might as well just say "fuck you" to me. That's how I feel.
As for "the couple that plays together, stays together" comment. It's cute. But this isn't what we're talking about. Thanks. I play. I like the game. But it needs to be balanced with real life.
Golden_Rule
02-22-2008, 06:20 PM
PaintGoddess,
It is going to be hard but it is time for some tough love.
You are going to have to lay it on the line. WoW or you.
You aren't helping him by supporting him through this. All it does is enable the addiction. It is, "As long as you are doing something to help yourself I'll help you all I can but if you are unwilling to change than I can be of no help to you. Get out until you've thought about it. [give him a short time to make arrangements for himself]"
If it really, truly, is an addiction that is all you can do about.
If he fixes himself you and he can then work on fixing your relationship [if there is anything left to fix]. If not all he can do is drag you down with him.
Ugly thing to have to say, but its the truth.
RoseLeigh
02-22-2008, 06:22 PM
^^ I know he's depressed and all, but it sounds like he's just taking advantage of you and using WOW as an excuse. *hug* Is this the same not-so-stellar bf, you were talking about at Xmas? My friend's bf was like this with that historical war game (forget the name)-no showering, no eating, had some part time food service job-he really just wanted a mom who'd shut up and cook for him.
Mastridonicus
02-22-2008, 06:32 PM
There was a story about this exact game and it ruined a marriage.
The couple were together for 6 years and this game just consumed his life.
I just cant imagine. :(
Show him this link!!!!
http://kotaku.com/357306/warcraft-cited-as-main-reason-for-couples-divorce
I think the irony is, the original yahoo story (link is in your link) has ads for the game BLATANTLY in the article.
Rhiannon
02-22-2008, 06:52 PM
As for "the couple that plays together, stays together" comment. It's cute. But this isn't what we're talking about. Thanks. I play. I like the game. But it needs to be balanced with real life.
Bolded for Truth.
This says it all, in my opinion. Hell.. They even have it on the WoW Loading Screen.. "Take all things in moderation---Including World of Warcraft".
lizlizliz
02-23-2008, 10:51 AM
As for "the couple that plays together, stays together" comment. It's cute. But this isn't what we're talking about. Thanks. I play. I like the game. But it needs to be balanced with real life.
Sorry, I can be kinda cunty.
I think the irony is, the original yahoo story (link is in your link) has ads for the game BLATANTLY in the article.
::) Unbelievable, right???
AlexxaHex
02-23-2008, 11:51 AM
Oh wow (no pun intended) I've been there. My ex was so addicted to video games, he worked in a video game store, bought every game system in Japanese as well, and learned Japanese so that he could play the Japanese games. He also runs a video game website where he and other dorks talk about gaming. He didn't get unhygienic or stop eating though.
Jess has a bit of a heavy flirtation with Soul Caliber but he will turn it off if he needs to do something, which is okay. Sometimes we both question my obsession with SW.
But I can quit anytime. Really.
Lola Rose
02-23-2008, 12:03 PM
I agree that it's time for tough love. Ya, if you were single you'd be doing everything for yourself, but you wouldn't have to be responsible for another person, just b/c they're lazy.
Golden_Rule
02-24-2008, 04:53 AM
I don't know if I'd throw this off on just plain laziness, Lola.
If he is as bad as described it is a sickness being dealt with and needs to be handled like one. The patient is going to have to get help to deal with his problem and is the only one who can make himself better.
All any third parties can do is give moral support and do nothing to help the addict remain addicted [enabling].
Madcap
02-24-2008, 05:08 AM
That isn't the half of it.
That whacko in the above story KILLED HIMSELF over Everquest!
Some more stories on this weirdo.
iseestars
02-24-2008, 08:44 AM
My roommate is also addicted to his xbox. He'll play for 20 hours straight sometimes and only works off maybe 3-4 hours sleep.