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Silverback
02-21-2008, 11:04 PM
bump. i think i might ask for this to be made a sticky
It's not that good. :P
TheTempest
02-21-2008, 11:08 PM
Thanks Darcy. I have been on this site for as long as some of the veteran members with 1000+ posts. I visit this site every single day at least twice(shamefully:-[), yet with my lowish post count I often refrain from adding my two cents as I feel I could be called out for it. I also don't answer every single thread I would like to as I don't want to appear as if I am in everyones business. It is a shame really as I have made some friends on this site ( have 3 penpals ) and really love the fact there is a place that I can communicate with people from all over the world.
I know for a fact that post count means nothing... especially when certain "low posters" send out awesome amazing Valentine's gifts with chocolate and Lush and books.
Thanks for saying something Darcy. We should be nice. I like nice. I'm such a freaking baby when it comes to mean-spiritedness.
jester214
02-21-2008, 11:10 PM
I really appreciate this Darcy, especially after a comment today telling me I'm not "educated" because I've only been here 2 months... So hearing you say this makes me feel better.
JRA33606
02-22-2008, 04:54 AM
This is an observation on the Pamela thread and other members leaving. It was with a little bit of schadenfreuda that two of the power players were reprimanded by Pryce. It is almost like God awoke and set a couple of the apostles straight.
If you have been on the board a long time, you have seen many, many members have their “moment”. It used to be that members were either supportive, or kept their “forum mouth” shut. During the last two years, I have seen the forum turn from supportive into attacking. That’s why you see so many threads about members leaving and asking other members to refrain from attacking. There are still a few good posters on the board and one keeps hoping this is like the “middle school” years and the board will get over this self-destructive stage. That’s why I and other old “lurkers” still keep checking in.
It is almost with elated joy that when someone says, “I’m outa here!”, that the other survivors say, “Good, don’t let the door hit you in the ass.” I have seen this with too many members. TampaFLdancer is an example of one member who was always nice and supportive, but when she finally let her guard down, certain members PM’d her out.
When you see what TOO has done for the board to keep it going you have to ask yourself why? The response of ungratefulness and resentment is sort of the attitude that some dancers have of customers… a jaded bitterness about the generosity of another person.
How can this forum attract other good new members when this unhealthy attitude prevails. The most discouraging thing is that this condescending attitude prevails within several of the moderators and ex-moderators. If I were TOO, I would pull the plug in a NY minute. If I were Pryce, I would… well frankly, I don’t know what I would do.
This board is monitored by members of other boards specifically because of the drama and crap that is allowed. If the forum is going to tolerate members that denigrate other members and do nothing but post rants and bitch, I have a proposal. In role playing games, you declare yourself as good or evil. Instead of having newbie, Veteran, and God/Goddess, why don’t we just put them on a different track…. Nag, bitch, and Harpie. At least that way members can put them on ignore or at least understand their objective and not be surprised when they are attacked.
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BrunetteGoddess
02-22-2008, 07:13 AM
Thanks Darcy. Sometimes I too need a little reminder :)
We also have to remember post count is not that relevant when you consider that some long time members don't post often, and some old members have had to make new accounts.
JRA: Nag, bitch, harpie? Maybe that would be comical for a nanosecond, but it's not that funny. I think you're under the assumption that we have picked/ assigned our member titles for ourselves; we haven't. It's automated.
TarsTone
02-22-2008, 07:46 AM
When you see what TOO has done for the board to keep it going you have to ask yourself why? The response of ungratefulness and resentment is sort of the attitude that some dancers have of customers… a jaded bitterness about the generosity of another person.
How can this forum attract other good new members when this unhealthy attitude prevails. The most discouraging thing is that this condescending attitude prevails within several of the moderators and ex-moderators. If I were TOO, I would pull the plug in a NY minute. If I were Pryce, I would… well frankly, I don’t know what I would do.
I know this thread isn't meant for this topic, but I have to make a general point.
There is a difference between gratefulness and ass kissing. You can be appreciative AND critical of someone at the same time. Offering an honest criticism or expressing your displeasure with a repeated pattern of behavior does not make you an ingrate.
I have never helped someone with the expectation that they shut their mouths around me and not speak their minds about other aspects of my personality. Similarly, if I feel someone is offering to help me out as a way to assert their "superiority" over me, I would rather not receive the help in the first place.
I'm not pointing to anyone in particular here, rather making a general point about the concept of gratitude.
Jenny
02-22-2008, 08:06 AM
Why don't we keep in mind that Darcy was trying to increase good feeling and tolerance, and not start another thread for complaining? So welcome Newbies. Stripperweb is sort of tightknit and we can let the hazing get out of hand, and occasionally need reminding to rein it in. It doesn't mean that you are not welcomed and valued and you will be accepted. I have two suggestions on how newbies and veterans can better get along, and I will add them later.
betterthaneden
02-22-2008, 08:11 AM
not really sure what drama has been going on here, somehow i missed it. and i'm not really going to comment on it since i don't know what it's about, but it is a good idea to not treat the newbies or people w/low post counts any differently than we treat everyone else, good idea darcy.
that being said.
i just went back and read the first thread i ever posted, and omg! i was so clueless, hahaha! i looked over a couple other posts i had made in the beginning, it was so funny to look back on!
that was 5 years ago, and i still have a relatively low post count, but anyway.
whoever said we should go re read some of our original posts made a good point. haha, it's entertaining anyway.
kitty69
02-22-2008, 08:53 AM
~hugs Tempest~
Hello_Kitty27
02-22-2008, 09:09 AM
Thank you for this!! I know I've seen sooo much cattiness lately, esp against newbies, but I've been hesitant to say anything, b/c I didn't want to add fuel to the fire. But Darcy, you worded it perfectly! Thank you!
This has been such a great community and I hope to see it grow into an even better one....ya know?
thickienikkie
02-22-2008, 09:23 AM
Thank You, so much for posting this.... I'm new also and I was mistakenly posting in wrong forums... honest mistake.... and I was just surprised at how mean the girls were to me about it... This forum is about strippers and stripping. I've been told I'm uneducated amongst other uneccessary comments, just because I might not capitalize or punctuate. Uncalled for.... basically from the track record of my time being on here, I put myself completely out there more so than I do stripping it seems.
They have talked about my parents, my upbringing and bascially hit below the belt. At least in stripping , the custy's can attack my body or skills but they have never attack my upbringing or character. We don't know what some of these girls,
women actually, have been through. I feel like I'm back in highschool with the catty and judgemental attitude that I see here. I was wondering when someone was going to bring this to attention to everyone. Thanks again!
AlexxaHex
02-22-2008, 09:28 AM
Why don't we keep in mind that Darcy was trying to increase good feeling and tolerance, and not start another thread for complaining? So welcome Newbies. Stripperweb is sort of tightknit and we can let the hazing get out of hand, and occasionally need reminding to rein it in. It doesn't mean that you are not welcomed and valued and you will be accepted. I have two suggestions on how newbies and veterans can better get along, and I will add them later.
The model of newb acceptance here VERY closely resembles the protocol for starting out work in an actual strip club. First you keep your mouth shut for a week or two, just saying hello here and there or maybe laughing at an open joke. Then you maybe ask another girl who seems cool, "What's up with that guy who always comes in and drinks fruity umbrella drinks on Tuesdays?". You might also stake a locker out for yourself after you decide management isn't all that horrible (add avatar and siggy). After a while everyone knows your name and vice versa, they might cry to you in the DR or ask you to hang out after work or do a champagne room with them. Finally you are known as part of the "family". The manager and girls and staff all remember your name and know some details about your real life.
It is the same exact thing on SW, basically. I don't ever expect it to change. Some veterans will always be open and welcoming to the new girls and some will try and test you out. Some are even a little nasty til you get to know them. But the problem happens when veterans are assumptive that each and every newb is unworthy of being heard. I think those who are guilty of this are refraining from posting in this thread, but I hope they are taking this to heart.
britt244
02-22-2008, 09:36 AM
lately i've been accused of hating all the new people. that's far from true! how would i ever end up liking people who came after me?
my problem with newbies is when they come in with an attitude. like nina or venus said, i dont remember which, some conversations you have to have been around a while to really have something to add. it's different than giving your advice on a boob job or the best hustling tips. when they come in *being* defensive, that's a red flag. or when they have a very low number of posts and their threads or posts are nothing but mean or strange. no coming out post, nothing helpful to add, they just jump right into the drama, as happened recently, and THAT makes me think "hey, who the hell are you?" you couldn't be bothered to say hey, what's up, to us, or add *anything* else to this community but you have no problem contributing to a drama filled thread.
i dont know if that will make sense to some of you. just explaining from my side of the fence!
thickienikkie
02-22-2008, 09:39 AM
The model of newb acceptance here VERY closely resembles the protocol for starting out work in an actual strip club. First you keep your mouth shut for a week or two, just saying hello here and there or maybe laughing at an open joke. Then you maybe ask another girl who seems cool, "What's up with that guy who always comes in and drinks fruity umbrella drinks on Tuesdays?". You might also stake a locker out for yourself after you decide management isn't all that horrible (add avatar and siggy). After a while everyone knows your name and vice versa, they might cry to you in the DR or ask you to hang out after work or do a champagne room with them. Finally you are known as part of the "family". The manager and girls and staff all remember your name and know some details about your real life.
It is the same exact thing on SW, basically. I don't ever expect it to change. Some veterans will always be open and welcoming to the new girls and some will try and test you out. Some are even a little nasty til you get to know them. But the problem happens when veterans are assumptive that each and every newb is unworthy of being heard. I think those who are guilty of this are refraining from posting in this thread, but I hope they are taking this to heart.
actually I see most of my "Hazers" on here..... :-\ sadly
AlexxaHex
02-22-2008, 09:43 AM
lately i've been accused of hating all the new people. that's far from true! how would i ever end up liking people who came after me?
my problem with newbies is when they come in with an attitude. like nina or venus said, i dont remember which, some conversations you have to have been around a while to really have something to add. it's different than giving your advice on a boob job or the best hustling tips. when they come in *being* defensive, that's a red flag. or when they have a very low number of posts and their threads or posts are nothing but mean or strange. no coming out post, nothing helpful to add, they just jump right into the drama, as happened recently, and THAT makes me think "hey, who the hell are you?" you couldn't be bothered to say hey, what's up, to us, or add *anything* else to this community but you have no problem contributing to a drama filled thread.
i dont know if that will make sense to some of you. just explaining from my side of the fence!
Maybe there is some truth to this? I think if a lot of people are accusing you of something, it's best to take a look at what you're doing and come to terms with how your posts might be negative. I think that you come on a little too strong and often come off as a police figure to new people. Maybe at the very least you can word things differently, or leave the policing to the mods altogether if you can't say things tactfully.
britt244
02-22-2008, 09:45 AM
Maybe there is some truth to this? I think if a lot of people are accusing you of something, it's best to take a look at what you're doing and come to terms with how your posts might be negative. I think that you come on a little too strong and often come off as a police figure to most of us. Maybe at the very least you can word things differently, or leave the policing to the mods altogether if you can't say things tactfully.
there is some truth to the fact that people see it that way, yes, absolutely. but i dont hate all the new people! i think i explained it the best i can. there are a lot of people who agree with me about the no "hi hello how are ya?" and just going straight for the drama, and there are a lot who don't. that's just my take and i can't help that that's the way i see it.
and actually, i shouldnt have said "a lot." it's really only a few people who have at least said it to me. what's said behind closed doors, who knows, and who cares :P
britt244
02-22-2008, 09:55 AM
i. mean. seriously.
some people, i wouldnt care if they were new or they stick around for the next 57897983 years. their posts are just flat out RUDE.
bah. thats all i'm sayin.
Jenny
02-22-2008, 09:56 AM
I would actually suggest the first key to solving this issue:
1. cut each other some slack. Look in this thread how many people are looking for an excuse to say "see! see! It's all your fault!" If we weren't all so prepared to say "she started it" and then run with the drama - there might be less.
2. Newbies: please keep in mind, your value and welcome notwithstanding, that making posts that are evaluative on stripperweb or the members here may be particularly unwelcome because you are not established. This is not the same as having every opinion or thought dismissed; but saying, on your first or second post "Member x - you just have no idea what you are talking about, and you probably have bad hair" will not be appreciated because everyone will be all "you don't know anything about Member x". Nobody likes being judged, but it seems particularly unjust when you are being judged by someone you don't even know.
3. Veterans keep in mind that sometimes newbies have been reading for a long time, and they feel like they know you. Sometimes when someone with 10 posts says something about a person here, it is based on real concern and even affection; many people lurked for a while before participating, and can get quite invested in this site without posting much at all. We can be intimidating.
4. Cut each other some slack rather than looking for reasons to fight about it. That means, newbies keep in mind that because you didn't mean any harm doesn't mean you didn't overstep. Veterans keep in mind that because someone overstepped doesn't mean that they are evil incarnate.
Jenny
02-22-2008, 10:22 AM
Mast. TOO. Tarstone.
Does this thread, that Darcey started about kindness and acceptance towards new members, seem like the best place to discuss this issue?
Djoser
02-22-2008, 10:24 AM
The model of newb acceptance here VERY closely resembles the protocol for starting out work in an actual strip club...
It is the same exact thing on SW, basically. I don't ever expect it to change. Some veterans will always be open and welcoming to the new girls and some will try and test you out. Some are even a little nasty til you get to know them. But the problem happens when veterans are assumptive that each and every newb is unworthy of being heard. I think those who are guilty of this are refraining from posting in this thread, but I hope they are taking this to heart.
This is right on point.
And god knows I have been guilty of bitching about SW becoming more like a virtual stripclub. Though I know it's a scary thing when some people want it as a place where we can escape the club, I suppose it's inevitable that the club will follow us here to some extent whether we like it or not, lol.
But it would be better to at least shed some of the clearly negative aspects of a lot of clubs, like this newbie hazing--and god knows I've seen that!
It happens to newbie guys, too. At my last club it was like a fucking year before I was considered 'part of the club', and even then some people were still trying to act like I had just arrived and hadn't done enough time.
But yeah please let's not bicker and argue in this thread, for chrissakes! Positive suggestions only, please...
Mastridonicus
02-22-2008, 10:39 AM
Mast. TOO. Tarstone.
Does this thread, that Darcey started about kindness and acceptance towards new members, seem like the best place to discuss this issue?
Good call.
PhillyDancer1982
02-22-2008, 11:23 AM
Okay I've been around here for over 2yrs now and I've made a fair share of posts. I didn't insult people or anything mean. Nobody seemed to have any problems with me. There were times I did admittedly ask for advice on situations where the solution involved being more assertive/firm/putting my foot down. People told me this, and told me to get "assertiveness training." So I became more assertive(not just because of SW, but really it was a result of some things in my personal life) and more free with my opinions, but now people flame me for that. Or else people will praise me for my progress on becomming more assertive/firm(via PM, phone calls, or even non-SW people in my "real" life), but then stop talking to me altogether without me doing anything wrong or offensive, making me wonder if I hit a wrong chord. WTF?
Who knows, I might get flamed for writing this...people seem to flame things that I write that are controversial/dramatic-but-true.
I also agree with some of the others that the newbies are getting picked on too much. Yeah ThickieNikkie doesn't have the best grammar and perhaps some of her problems might seem self-inflicted or trite in some peoples' eyes, but admittedly people have been too mean. For example, the thread ThickieNikkie started about whether it's a good idea to have kids young or not. A few posters basically told her that she's not ready/fit to have kids, and questioned her ability to care for a pet fish. That is plain insulting...is it necessary? I remember a few yrs ago when I was pregnant and people underestimated my parental abilities(not as bad as the way people flamed ThickieNikkie though), and it psychologically scarred me to this day. Now I realize that having "friends" in "real life" doubt your abilities is going to be taken to heart a LOT more than some unknown people on a forum like SW...so I doubt there'll be any psychological scarring or anything like that, but it still doesn't make it "right" or "nice." ThickieNikkie is right when she says that people here have essentially "hit below the belt."
krchab99
02-22-2008, 11:42 AM
I just went back and looked at my first post my advice is DON'T DO THAT lol it was embarsing to read lol :)
LadyLuck
02-22-2008, 11:44 AM
This will be my last comment on this matter. It is something borrowed and QFT. Remembering this might help when a newbie or any member is attacked.
It's bullying to make oneself feel better about themselves and take out the aggression of the day on anonymous screen names that are treated as non-humans so they can be scape-goated guilt free. It's high school with more alchohol 'n tits and less homework. I take solace in knowing that a bully's words say more about their own issues than their intended victims
Joplin
02-22-2008, 01:49 PM
I'm glad this was said. I've been here quite a while and lurked for at least a year. I don't have a billion posts because I don't feel the need to post in places were I don't have unique advice.
I remember someone telling me I needed to stay out of Stripping General when I was new (because I was new) even though I had given good advice. Thankfully, someone acknowledged that my advice was valid, so I didn't feel so unwelcome. Point being, it sucks getting jumped on JUST because your new.
I think some people feel pressure to get their post counts up (I know I have) in hopes that it will get them out of the "slam the newbie" stage and all that does is clutter the board with unnecessary filler posts.
Anyways, great thread!
cutey5032
02-22-2008, 02:07 PM
I also agree with some of the others that the newbies are getting picked on too much. Yeah ThickieNikkie doesn't have the best grammar and perhaps some of her problems might seem self-inflicted or trite in some peoples' eyes, but admittedly people have been too mean. For example, the thread ThickieNikkie started about whether it's a good idea to have kids young or not. A few posters basically told her that she's not ready/fit to have kids, and questioned her ability to care for a pet fish. That is plain insulting...is it necessary?
ThickieNikkie is right when she says that people here have essentially "hit below the belt."
I agree with you here....and just wanted to extend my support to ThickieNikkie. :hug: Who gives a shit if she has bad grammar? This isn't the National Honors Society, its Stripperweb. Some of us (including myself) don't have degrees, and its very frustrating for us to be looked down upon. It doesn't mean we don't have common sense or life experience. A damn GPA is NOT something to measure a persons worth by. It doesn't "make you a better person."
Also the comments about her having kids were VERY rude, and probably actually very hurtful to her self-esteem.
What the hell is that old saying, something about those who admit they know nothing are actually the smartest people? Yeah.
PhillyDancer1982
02-22-2008, 02:42 PM
This isn't the National Honors Society,
Ugh don't mean to threadjack here, but I HATE the National Honors Society! >:( At my small high school, the teachers made the honors society basically a clique of their favorite students...which I was NOT a part of, despite my high GPA, honors courses, and moderate involvement in school activities. Two of my friends were in it and they hated it(they only stayed in it because it looked good on their resume)...they would call it the "Sadist Society." Haha.
DylanAngel
02-22-2008, 02:45 PM
I'm posting here as one of the guilty parties. I have the tendency to smack the hands of newbies due to my overwhelming "mothering" personality.
I'll try my best to be more considerate and to step down from my high horse.
ruru123
02-22-2008, 03:05 PM
Maybe there is some truth to this? I think if a lot of people are accusing you of something, it's best to take a look at what you're doing and come to terms with how your posts might be negative. I think that you come on a little too strong and often come off as a police figure to new people. Maybe at the very least you can word things differently, or leave the policing to the mods altogether if you can't say things tactfully.
thank you!
ruru123
02-22-2008, 03:19 PM
The model of newb acceptance here VERY closely resembles the protocol for starting out work in an actual strip club. First you keep your mouth shut for a week or two, just saying hello here and there or maybe laughing at an open joke. Then you maybe ask another girl who seems cool, "What's up with that guy who always comes in and drinks fruity umbrella drinks on Tuesdays?". You might also stake a locker out for yourself after you decide management isn't all that horrible (add avatar and siggy). After a while everyone knows your name and vice versa, they might cry to you in the DR or ask you to hang out after work or do a champagne room with them. Finally you are known as part of the "family". The manager and girls and staff all remember your name and know some details about your real life.
It is the same exact thing on SW, basically. I don't ever expect it to change. Some veterans will always be open and welcoming to the new girls and some will try and test you out. Some are even a little nasty til you get to know them. But the problem happens when veterans are assumptive that each and every newb is unworthy of being heard. I think those who are guilty of this are refraining from posting in this thread, but I hope they are taking this to heart.
no offence to your post at all, i know you were just explaining, and i agree with that's exactly how it feels here but....
i don't think a public strip forum should have the same protocol. this isn't a stripclub, and if it were the so called "forum police":detective would be NOT tolerated. no one likes a tattle tale and rule pusher. and for the mean girls, well that's for highschool, and unfortunatley,some stripclubs, where it can sometimes fly (even though, most clubs i've worked at, the only "mean girls" were haters, and didn't last) . but here on a forum, i really think it's unnessesary and immature. if you have advice or input, or if you want to make a new thread on a topic and it's your first post so be it! who cares! as long as you're being respectful. like someone else posted, this isn't you private clique. just another :twocents: ;)
PhillyDancer1982
02-22-2008, 03:33 PM
[B]
no offence to your post at all, i know you were just explaining, and i agree with that's exactly how it feels here but....
i don't think a public strip forum should have the same protocol. this isn't a stripclub, and if it were the so called "forum police":detective would be NOT tolerated. no one likes a tattle tale and rule pusher. and for the mean girls, well that's for highschool, and unfortunatley,some stripclubs, where it can sometimes fly (even though, most clubs i've worked at, the only "mean girls" were haters, and didn't last) . but here on a forum, i really think it's unnessesary and immature. if you have advice or input, or if you want to make a new thread on a topic and it's your first post so be it! who cares! as long as you're being respectful. like someone else posted, this isn't you private clique. just another :twocents: ;)
WORD!
Dottie Rebel
02-22-2008, 04:01 PM
Preach it, sister. No one likes a mean girl or a Barney Fife.
jaizaine
02-22-2008, 08:32 PM
lately i've been accused of hating all the new people. that's far from true! how would i ever end up liking people who came after me?
my problem with newbies is when they come in with an attitude. like nina or venus said, i dont remember which, some conversations you have to have been around a while to really have something to add. it's different than giving your advice on a boob job or the best hustling tips. when they come in *being* defensive, that's a red flag. or when they have a very low number of posts and their threads or posts are nothing but mean or strange. no coming out post, nothing helpful to add, they just jump right into the drama, as happened recently, and THAT makes me think "hey, who the hell are you?" you couldn't be bothered to say hey, what's up, to us, or add *anything* else to this community but you have no problem contributing to a drama filled thread.
i dont know if that will make sense to some of you. just explaining from my side of the fence!
Not trying to start drama in this thread but you do come as as very rude yourself when you flame newbies. I get what your saying but it's not your place to discipline them or continue arguing the point for 5 pages.
Darcy Foxx
02-22-2008, 10:34 PM
Not trying to start drama in this thread but you do come as as very rude yourself when you flame newbies. I get what your saying but it's not your place to discipline them or continue arguing the point for 5 pages.
thanks jai, that's another point i was trying to make.
even if you personally feel a newbie is being really rude or posting out of place or whatever, please do not viciously attack them or tell them they're worthless because they have few posts. we have the 'report post' button for a reason, and we also have moderators to take care of issues like this. if you are not a moderator, you have no place to be acting as forum police and chastising those who you feel do not meet forum standard.
AlexxaHex
02-22-2008, 11:00 PM
[B]
no offence to your post at all, i know you were just explaining, and i agree with that's exactly how it feels here but....
i don't think a public strip forum should have the same protocol. this isn't a stripclub, and if it were the so called "forum police":detective would be NOT tolerated. no one likes a tattle tale and rule pusher. and for the mean girls, well that's for highschool, and unfortunatley,some stripclubs, where it can sometimes fly (even though, most clubs i've worked at, the only "mean girls" were haters, and didn't last) . but here on a forum, i really think it's unnessesary and immature. if you have advice or input, or if you want to make a new thread on a topic and it's your first post so be it! who cares! as long as you're being respectful. like someone else posted, this isn't you private clique. just another :twocents: ;)
I agree that it shouldn't be that way, but I wonder if a bunch of people who work in strip clubs can come together and not have the community be strip club-like? How else could it exist? Many of us wouldn't know any other way of operating and dealing with people.
Djoser
02-23-2008, 04:21 AM
I agree that it shouldn't be that way, but I wonder if a bunch of people who work in strip clubs can come together and not have the community be strip club-like? How else could it exist? Many of us wouldn't know any other way of operating and dealing with people.
Right, this was sort of a revelation to me when I thought about what you wrote before. I think I have been the most bitter opponent of the trend, and in spite of my (in my mind justifiable) determination to oppose it, the bitterness contributed to the general decline in positive attitude here.
[B]
i don't think a public strip forum should have the same protocol. this isn't a stripclub, and if it were the so called "forum police":detective would be NOT tolerated. no one likes a tattle tale and rule pusher. and for the mean girls, well that's for highschool, and unfortunatley,some stripclubs, where it can sometimes fly (even though, most clubs i've worked at, the only "mean girls" were haters, and didn't last)
Damn, lucky you, what club are you at? (Don't answer, that's a rhetorical question, or something, lol!)
The nasty shit you describe fits my last club to a 'T'* I fucking banked there but I was also fucking miserable, more often than not. Snitches and police types were everywhere, cliques up the ass, the dancers were the least friendly I had ever seen, bouncers were still trying to tell me how to do my job after a year and a half, and me ttelling them to fuck off when they did it before (endlessly).
I think I actually had fun maybe five nights in a year and a half working there 3-5 nights a week, even 6 for a few weeks! There were many nights where I felt really good in spite of the bullshit, and I knew i was doing a good job, but it was always a real struggle.
*What does this mean? Why do we say it, lol?
holiday
02-23-2008, 01:51 PM
Great post Darcy! Thanks!
oohdamnbaby
02-24-2008, 03:34 PM
Thanks Darcy. I have been on this site for as long as some of the veteran members with 1000+ posts. I visit this site every single day at least twice(shamefully:-[), yet with my lowish post count I often refrain from adding my two cents as I feel I could be called out for it. I also don't answer every single thread I would like to as I don't want to appear as if I am in everyones business. It is a shame really as I have made some friends on this site ( have 3 penpals ) and really love the fact there is a place that I can communicate with people from all over the world.
This is exactly how I feel.
StuartL
02-27-2008, 05:00 PM
please know that uncalled for nastiness towards our newer/low posting members will absolutely NOT be tolerated.
Nobody has mentioned it, but I can't be the first to think it...
Am I the only one who thinks that the idea of Darcy being bossy is hot? ;D ;D ;D
Budai
03-01-2008, 10:16 PM
even if you personally feel a newbie is being really rude or posting out of place or whatever, please do not viciously attack them or tell them they're worthless because they have few posts.
I know I'm commenting long after the dust has settled but as far as I can see, there's no evident correlation between low post counts and low IQs.
In fact, I think that harping on low numbers could encourage enterprising newcomers to camp out in TRT and boost their post counts dramatically in just days with 1-2 sentence blurbs (which has NEVER happened, right? ;) )...
When I initially hopped onto SW in May 2007, there was an earnest but annoying young man with "gangsta attitude" who regaled various SW forums with tales of road rage, submitted 5-7 surveys & quizzes per week (of the "If you had 3 wishes" variety) and actually requested directions to the clitoris. He eventually ran out of gas after 1,288 posts but, during the time I observed, was extended a degree of patience and compassion by the ladies and men of SW that made this site remarkable...
greenidlady1
03-02-2008, 04:53 PM
I remember being new as well. I know of some members who joined around the time I did who won't even talk to me now because of their "superior/high thread count" status. We are here to offer help and support to those out there that need it. I think each individual has something inside of them that can help another person in some way, shape or form.
BrunetteGoddess
03-02-2008, 04:58 PM
I know I'm commenting long after the dust has settled but as far as I can see, there's no evident correlation between low post counts and low IQs.
In fact, I think that harping on low numbers could encourage enterprising newcomers to camp out in TRT and boost their post counts dramatically in just days with 1-2 sentence blurbs (which has NEVER happened, right? ;) )...
When I initially hopped onto SW in May 2007, there was an earnest but annoying young man with "gangsta attitude" who regaled various SW forums with tales of road rage, submitted 5-7 surveys & quizzes per week (of the "If you had 3 wishes" variety) and actually requested directions to the clitoris. He eventually ran out of gas after 1,288 posts but, during the time I observed, was extended a degree of patience and compassion by the ladies and men of SW that made this site remarkable...
It's sad that he left, because he's a very very nice person.
Things seem to be a bit better around here :)
Dottie Rebel
03-03-2008, 03:29 AM
^^I liked him, too! A little overeager and not the most socially agile, but he was a nice kid.
lestat1
03-09-2008, 05:02 PM
Thank you Darcy! :worship:
MissTaylor
03-11-2008, 07:56 PM
Every time I take a break from the site and come back, I feel like such noob. luckily I have a good post count so people don't attack. So far....
And totally off topic but holy hell pooka says some funny shit!
AlexxaHex
03-12-2008, 06:44 PM
^^I liked him, too! A little overeager and not the most socially agile, but he was a nice kid.
Are we talking about that asian kid who thought he was black?
BalletBaby
03-12-2008, 06:54 PM
^^^Yes.
Kinda late because I took some time off, but I got the shit kicked outta me, too, when I was a newb here, LOL. It's revenge time! :D J/K.
Seriously, though, I think it's like that everywhere. When you start a new club/job, a new school, etc; you have to earn respect. HELL... I was in the military for 5 years, I know ALL about hazing! ...But yes... I agree we should try to tone it down a bit, myself included. ;)
britt244
03-12-2008, 10:57 PM
Are we talking about that asian kid who thought he was black?
this might not be following the "lets all get along" theme of the thread, because i did NOT like him.. but that comment just made me spit my drink out laughing. chances are it wasnt meant to be funny like i took it.
hoshi_x
03-20-2008, 11:48 PM
very inspiring post. It made me think.