View Full Version : I Need A Pseudo Boyfriend Lol
hockeybobby
02-26-2008, 01:24 PM
Oh come on shot. I've had lots of relationships and bought a lot of drinks, and I'm not paying any alimony. Yeah it happens, in certain circumstances, but most girls out there are making their own way.
You sound jaded about the whole dating scene...did somebody sock it to you? ;)
hb
Not at all, I've been blessed. I'm not jaded, I'm practical.
I fall in love every two weeks on average.
Their making their own way has nothing to do with anything. I would bet there are a higher percentage of college educated women collecting alimony than non.
Jenny
02-26-2008, 01:39 PM
Buying drinks is the first step down that slippery slope to paying alimony.
that is an extremely long and varied terrain that cannot even be viably called a "slope" my friend. And there is a thin... make a that a "wide and noticeable" line between "practical" and "paranoid".
PhillyDancer1982
02-26-2008, 02:04 PM
Ok Philly, I have a question for you. What if today you met a really nice guy, who was attractive to you, who liked you, who had his shit together, but wanted nothing to do with being a fuck buddy or a pseudo boyfriend. He was only interested in a real, loving, committed exclusive type relationship...and he wants you. Are you interested in that?
hb
Yes of course I would be interested. But only if he stayed loyal and didn't cheat. But if he cheated on me, I would surely treat him like a "psuedo boyfriend" by keeping him around but cheating behind his back.
Guys, guys, guys...let me explain the concept of "pseudo boyfriend" again. It's really the same thing as a LOT of normal "relationships." I'm sure you guys all know(or have known at one point) a relationship in which one partner was cheating or generally disrespecting the other partner in indirect, passive-aggressive ways. That's all there is to it to the "pseudo boyfriend"...it's just a boyfriend that I wouldn't be faithful to. The reason I wouldn't be faithful would be because most guys are not faithful, so most likely "pseudo boyfriend" wouldn't be either. And I do NOT believe in being loyal to someone that is disloyal to me. MY LOYALTY'S NOT CHEAP YA KNOW!! LOL.
PhillyDancer1982
02-26-2008, 02:07 PM
I think Philly is a guy
LOL! :)
I actually take that as a compliment. I'm a tomboy and I really wish I was born a guy. It would make a lot of things easier in this world, such as sluttin' around without being called a "slut" and the whole double standard that women get, for starters. There's been plenty of people that say that my way of thinking is like a guy...ESPECIALLY when it comes to my attitudes on dating/sex/relationships. I tend to boast about my sex partners in the strip club dressing room the same way guys brag about their sex lives in lockerrooms. So I actually take your comment with praise. :D
hockeybobby
02-26-2008, 03:22 PM
Well Philly, I feel like you would be cheating yourself out of the good parts of a normal boy/girl relationship...the first kiss, courting and learning about each other, falling in love and planning things etc...by going straight to the pseudo boyfriend. It's as if you are counting on every single guy being a cheating bastard so you may as well just get a cheating bastard to start with?
There's probably a few guys lurking around here who are:
jerk player types
have lots of tattoos or piercings
have just divorced due to cheating
have left behind some children in their broken relationship
sexually prolific and clean of all std's
willing to pay for movies/dinners/datesWhat would you like the guy to look like...as in general appearance? and interests?
hb
PhillyDancer1982
02-26-2008, 03:32 PM
Tall, thin, slightly muscular, tattoos, piercings, spikey hair, gorgeous but innocent-looking face, blue or green eyes, nice smile, minimum 8". :) What can I say, looks DO matter and I never go for an unattractive guy. Does that answer your question?
Katrine
02-26-2008, 03:38 PM
You can't plan for a pseudo-boyfriend, it pretty much has to be right and open for both of you. Otherwise, someone is going to fall in love and get cheated and cheated on. Its no different than a traditional relationship.
Put an ad on Craig's List.
When chicks say they think like guys, they are in denial. Not to mention very few guys are player-like anyway. Most just want love. Bragging about sexual conquests is common to both sexes. Women just don't often talk to MEN about it, but they talk to other women about it. See Stripperweb, where half the pink-pink posts are about the new/old cock in their lives.
Thinking like a guy also involves a whole lot more than dating/sex/relationships and it all interrelates.
Most guys are faithful. That same bunch of "most" might not be so attractive, however.
Most guys have little expectation of loyalty from women anyway, so your whole loyalty point was a waste of typing.
minimum 8"
You're a guy.
xdamage
02-26-2008, 05:44 PM
Most guys have little expectation of loyalty from women anyway...
There are a handful of books I wish everyone would read, not because they are necessarily 100% fact, but because they are thought provoking and buck the popular think, social flavor of the year beliefs. One of those books on my list now is "Sperm Wars" (danke to Sh0t for tipping me off to this one). It will definitely open up guy's eyes to female cheating behaviors.
I reread it weekly to counter my idealism with women
Casual Observer
02-28-2008, 09:06 PM
Do you think that maybe you should extrapolate from these facts that you shouldn't have any relationship right now?
Now Jenny, that's just silly... ;)
PhillyDancer1982
02-29-2008, 09:19 AM
Do you think that maybe you should extrapolate from these facts that you shouldn't have any relationship right now?
Really? Wow that's funny you have no faith in me because...I'm in a relationship right now. I seem to be doing quite fine with it. Again something (just like having a kid vs. getting an abortion) where people underestimated me but they were wrong. ::)
Now Jenny, that's just silly...
Oh and CasualObserver, did you ever get those naked pics of me in your PM inbox last week (or so) when it was your birthday? ::)
Katrine
02-29-2008, 10:35 AM
So you found a pseudo boyfriend? Or a real one? Update please.
Jenny
02-29-2008, 12:21 PM
Really? Wow that's funny you have no faith in me because...I'm in a relationship right now. I seem to be doing quite fine with it. Again something (just like having a kid vs. getting an abortion) where people underestimated me but they were wrong. ::)Oh for crying out loud. No wonder you think everyone is always out to get you. If you go around saying things like "I want to lie and use people" and "I don't like anyone and would not want to be in a relationship with any guy because I think they suck" it is not underestimating you to say that you probably shouldn't be in a relationship. It is reasonably extrapolating from your own damn feelings. Since we're making comparisons, like, if you were having a kid you said "I really hate children and I plan to shake the hell out of it when it's born" maybe "you're not ready to have children" is not a personally denigrating response, but one pretty much based on your own rather extreme yet clearly verbalized feelings? You are just so paranoid about how you look to people and how they are perceiving you - it seems like that is all you know about yourself. It is not nice to use people. It is not nice to lie to people. If you've found a relationship in which that is a regular part - I'm sorry. It is doing nothing for your development as a person. If you have found a relationship in which you don't do that, and you have changed your mind from what you previously wrote - fantastic. I'm happy for you.
Casual Observer
02-29-2008, 07:55 PM
Oh and CasualObserver, did you ever get those naked pics of me in your PM inbox last week (or so) when it was your birthday?
Sorry, but there just wasn't room in the PM box, what with all the other naked pic-PMs I get, even when it's not my birthday.
Better luck next time?
sander8son
03-01-2008, 08:56 AM
What would you like the guy to look like...as in general appearance? and interests?
hb
Tall, thin, slightly muscular, tattoos, piercings, spikey hair, gorgeous but innocent-looking face, blue or green eyes, nice smile, minimum 8"
Minimum 8 inches tall? Wow, I'm 68 inches tall so I guess I qualify there. But I really think you're selling yourself short looking for a guy who's only 8inches tall.
SeppeSai
03-02-2008, 12:37 AM
I could do what Philly is asking for since I've been familiar with this kind of relationship throughout my life.