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twisterinAZ
03-01-2008, 01:13 PM
I would like to point out that once things go this way, they never get back to normal. How many times have you heard someone say, "Oh Johnny used to beat the crap out of me and call me names but now we're all good and have been happily married for years. "
You're doing the right thing even though it seems scary.
Pretty_Penny
03-01-2008, 01:36 PM
i'm glad you're leaving. i hope you update us soon and let us know how it's going. i'd like to add (and i hope this doesn't come across wrong)....
once you're completely out of the situation, it might be a good idea to seek out therapy. even if it's just reading some informative books or joining some support groups online (although a doctor is best). you need to figure out why you were in this situation in the first place and why you stayed after the first time he hit you. if you don't find out what it is about YOU that makes you ok with, or makes you desire these types of relationships.. you are doomed to keep repeating them.
please don't attempt another relationship until you've done some soul-searching. even if the next guy is a really good guy, it's still in your best interest to work on yourself before partnering up again. it's your best bet for a healthy relationship. that's coming from experience.
i want to note, just in case what i'm saying is misunderstood, that i IN NO WAY mean that you "deserved" what happened to you. i'm just saying that we choose our partners for many reasons, and some of them tend to not be quite healthy.
if you have a healthy self esteem, healthy outlook, and most importantly are ok ALONE before getting into a relationship... you will not let this happen again. you will notice warning signs much quicker and probably not even get past a "first date" with men like this.
Sunshine73
03-01-2008, 04:32 PM
^^ That is some good advice Penny.
StellarGirl5792
03-01-2008, 04:55 PM
LEAVE HIM!!!
I know you've heard it a million times, but its the best thing. As one who has been in your shoes I know how hard it is. Mine hit/choked/pushed me repeatedly. Once when he knew I was 2 months pregnant. The "ill never do it again" line is bs. They ALWAYS do it again. No man who loves you would put his hands on u that way. And as much as I loved my ex and it broke my heart making a clean break was the best thing I ever did.
I never had to be degraded by his remarks again and I didn't have to worry about him going off the deep again.
If u need any support, please PM me.
Ferret
03-01-2008, 05:23 PM
Get out of that relationship now, not later. Dammit, this is a second time and it should not have happened a first time.
TigersMilk
03-01-2008, 05:26 PM
She already left for a shelter. I wish people would read the thread before answering.
I hope you're safe and taking care of yourself TN.
MsLayne
03-01-2008, 08:32 PM
After reading all the responses, Im glad that she finally took action and got the hell out of there. From her previous threads on SW, she seemed so hard and so bad ass. Women can always tell when someone is wrong for them but we are so damn compassionate that we cant see past everything that is flawed. I cant believe she stayed after the first time he laid his hands on her. I hope everything is ok and she leaves this loser alone and that her animals are safe. Damn 34 year old (so called) man, mooching off a 20 year old female. I'd be damned.
xdamage
03-01-2008, 09:43 PM
Hi all,
I'm feeling so sad and degraded right now. For the second time my bf, has put his hands on me. Straight up smacking me, pressing my face in the mattress, tossed me off the bed, proceeded to hit me and twist my neck and rubbing my face in the carpet. Then he went off the deep end insulting me, saying horrible, horrible things to me. He said he didn't mean them he was just saying them to make me want to break up with him. Mind you he said this while still saying these horrible things. We had just went to a bar and he got me a hot dog. He told me that's all I was worth was a fucking hot dog meal.
A couple thoughts.
1.) Simplified, some people prefer a big, dangerous dog like a Pit Bull to "feel safe", which is all well and good, until/if they turn on you. Some guys are like that, and being around them is a double edged sword. When they love you they love you, but when they are angry, watch out because they will often turn on you too. Good luck taming them. It probably won't happen though.
2.) Regarding "... to make me want to break up with him." Could be. Some people "test" to find out of their lover will really stick around, or push their lover away for various reasons (e.g., could be he doesn't feel worthy of you, or expects you to leave him so he is hurting you first). Hard to say from from what little you wrote. Then again he could just be a man who is a player, and saying what he thinks you want to hear after he lost it.
scarlet_is_yummy
03-02-2008, 12:28 PM
well done for making that choice! you just saved your own life, you are your own knight in shining armour!! pennys advice is good, soul searching is never a bad thing. you need to take time now to heal and love your self
change your number, your adress ie. do everything most people have told you to do on this thread!!
please lets us know how you are getting on - you'll be in my posotive thoughts
keep telling yourself that you rock! stay strong missy - i'm so gad you've got a great mum to support you
I'm so proud of Stripperweb right now.
gothicgoddesstx
03-02-2008, 01:08 PM
Im not going to tell you what to do or anything like that...most everyone else has done that for me...i am going to say that i know its scary and tough... and that you need all the support you can get in this endeavor..
*BIG HUG*
if you need/want a sounding board PM me or you can email me at
[email protected]
thickienikkie
03-03-2008, 08:17 AM
Hi Ladies
I'm doing fine. My mom came and got my chinnies and my cats and some of my stuff so I wouldn't have to come back to my apt. quite yet to get more of my things.
I drove myself to the shelter. I went a really random route, I didn't want him to see my car just in case he was coming home early. When I got to the shelter the women there were EXTREMELY nice and understanding. I looked and felt lost and they could tell. They got my belongings out of my car and I waited for a little bit to speak to a case manager. We talked for about two hours about my bf, discription, temperment, ect, and about what happened.
She explained about the center, it's not listed anywhere, they have codes for the safety level of the center. When I came, they put the code in red, because I had left without his knowledge, protocol they said.
I have a seven o'clock curfew. I explained to them that I am a exotic dancer and that I might have to leave at seven a couple of days out the week. She advised me against this strongly. They would allow it but for theses circumstances I would be totally liable. So I've decided to break from dancing until I straighten out my living situation and my bf. I still have my daytime job but I go in whenever I want.
My bf called me at least 40 plus times. First he thought I had stepped out of the house for a bit, then he must of notice my pets gone and some of my things and he became very upset crying, begging, telling me he's worried, feels broken, ect.
Goddess( fellow stripper) called me and told me he had dropped by my club everyday this weekend. Tony wouldn't let him sit down or anything she said.
The shelter is pretty decent, I have a roomate named Carla. She's been there for 4 months. She told me once I get settled in, I have to attend 5 classes a week to stay there longer than the allotted 30 days. The classes are about self love, domestic violence, co-dependecy, ect. I read a post on here about counseling and no, I do not feel offended by that advice. My relationships have never been the best and a self-evaluation is needed. I do not want to go through this again.
I'm confused and discombobulated. I have a lot to straighten out and it's very very overwhelming. I was crying and so tempted to call my bf, but as low as I'm feeling now it still does not compare on how I felt friday, that's what's stopping me. I miss my home, my bed, my pets and sadly even my bf. I haven't stepped out these wall since Friday when I checked in and really, I don't even feel like seeing daylight right now you know?
Lola Rose
03-03-2008, 08:30 AM
I am so glad you're doing this for yourself. Keep it up, and good luck!
If you do choose to go back to dancing, go to a different club, where he and his pals wouldn't go.
thechaosfairy
03-03-2008, 08:40 AM
The classes are about self love, domestic violence, co-dependecy, ect. I read a post on here about counseling and no, I do not feel offended by that advice. My relationships have never been the best and a self-evaluation is needed. I do not want to go through this again.
I'm confused and discombobulated. I have a lot to straighten out and it's very very overwhelming. I was crying and so tempted to call my bf, but as low as I'm feeling now it still does not compare on how I felt friday, that's what's stopping me. I miss my home, my bed, my pets and sadly even my bf. I haven't stepped out these wall since Friday when I checked in and really, I don't even feel like seeing daylight right now you know?
You are awesome and strong.
You are doing a good thing for yourself, and possibly -- likely -- have just saved your own life. And you've certainly saved your pets' lives.
Calling 40 times is a serious danger sign.
I am also glad you're in a place that's not judgmental about dancing. It sounds like they're on top of things and ready to help, and also treating you as an adult, which is really important with these things.
If I were you, I might call the building management and ask if you can switch to another apartment next month, thus avoiding breaking the lease. Be very careful if you do this, though. Abusers WILL try to get your new address. Make certain, if you do that, that you ABSOLUTELY trust the management to never give out your information to anyone, no matter what they claim or how they plead. Ask the DV center counselors' advice on this. If they say it's a bad idea, don't. Another thing you could do would simply be to explain the situation, if you thought the management would be sympathetic. How many months are left on the lease?
Again -- you're awesome. You deserve to be super-proud of yourself. You did something that it takes some people ten years or twenty years of hell to manage. Hang in there. We're all rooting for you.
Polekitten
03-03-2008, 08:42 AM
Well done, your doing great hon. Thanks for letting us know how you are, I was only thinking about you today and wondering whats going on. Its natural to miss your bf, he was a big part of your life but keep thinking about how shitty he made you feel and it will keep you strong. I'm glad you decided to stay off work, your in no emotional state to be dancing right now and I had a feeling he would turn up at the club. Keep us updated with how your doing, x
jaizaine
03-03-2008, 08:45 AM
Don't ever go back to this violent fucking cunt! Why should you love a person who treats you like a piece of shit? I know it's easy to say leave him and it's harder to do because I was in an abusive relationship for 6 years. No matter how much you do for him, no matter how you try to be the most perfect girlfriend in the world, this will not change him. It's something within him that's been around a lot longer than you have babe. You cannot change him and why bother? Go find someone who would never lay a hand on you. That's what I did.
I will NEVER be in an abusive relationship again in my life. I was 11 years younger than him and would have done anything for him, I loved him so much. But I deserved better and I realised it eventually.
Is this what you envisaged for yourself to be someone's punching bag?
I know this may sound harsh but i've been there so i think i have the right to say it how it is to you.
Find yourself a good man. Don't hide his disgusting behaviour from your mother and sister either - you know you are doing this because YOU KNOW what he does is wrong and fucked up. Don't cover up for him, he deserves to be exposed for the abuser that he is.
Im glad you got away but no matter what he says or does please do not go back.
Hot2Trot
03-03-2008, 08:50 AM
oh thickienikkie, I had been wondering when you were going to update...
:hug: .
I am sorry that you have to go through this, but I am happy to see that you have the support that you need.
Maybe you can post here, on the board, the next time you feel an urge to call him, so that a phone call to him never materializes. It would be regressive to get in contact with him now, at this point, after everything you have accomplished to successfully move yourself away from him.
I am glad to read that you are doing better.
Please remember thickie, there may be valleys and peaks, but things continue to get better, day by day.
Day by day is that we shed our pain and our fears.
Day by day is that we get stronger and heal.
Day by day is that we discover who we are and what exactly we are capable of.
One day at a time, strength emerges and evolves...
Day by day we become better than we were or thought we could ever be.
Take note of what you have been through and give yourself credit for how far you have come from it, making it to this point!
Just try to take it day by day and remember that everybody falls, everybody cries, and everybody feels lonely, but the Strong are strengthened by their bruises.
Take care thickienikkie and please continue updating.
:flirt: .
thickienikkie
03-03-2008, 09:44 AM
oh thickienikkie, I had been wondering when you were going to update...
:hug: .
I am sorry that you have to go through this, but I am happy to see that you have the support that you need.
Maybe you can post here, on the board, the next time you feel an urge to call him, so that a phone call to him never materializes. It would be regressive to get in contact with him now, at this point, after everything you have accomplished to successfully move yourself away from him.
I am glad to read that you are doing better.
Please remember thickie, there may be valleys and peaks, but things continue to get better, day by day.
Day by day is that we shed our pain and our fears.
Day by day is that we get stronger and heal.
Day by day is that we discover who we are and what exactly we are capable of.
One day at a time, strength emerges and evolves...
Day by day we become better than we were or thought we could ever be.
Take note of what you have been through and give yourself credit for how far you have come from it, making it to this point!
Just try to take it day by day and remember that everybody falls, everybody cries, and everybody feels lonely, but the Strong are strengthened by their bruises.
Take care thickienikkie and please continue updating.
:flirt: .
Thank You so much for this and everyone else... I should put that as my siggy...
I'm not sure what I want to do about my apartment. In a way I hope my manager will allow me to break my lease, Ihave about a 5 months left I believe ...On the contrary moving away to a new place would be a whole new start for me, new scenery, new area. No memories of him...
I'm angry because I took pride in my place, happy I could afford such a place and just my own special touches that had made it mine. I feel he's contaminated it with the abuse, his mooching, everything. I'm angry at myself for allowing him to do it.
I have not intent or desire to return to him because I do deserve better. I'm not just some girl who strips. Stripping has given me the finances that I needed to live comfortably and better my education. I have my an associates in applied sciences, I want to be nurse, I do have goals. Sometimes he would make me feel like I was a useless, brainless, whore who had nothing better to do than strip, but of course that was never said when he needed something or money.
I used to argue with him, almost trying to convince him that I have more to me than a big ass and tits, wanting his approval. That was so stupid!
I'm just looking back at our relationship and I'm like damn I wasted so much time and energy into this man, deep down knowing our relationship was dysfuntional but I let it come to this. He's chased me out of my home and I'm totally off track right now. I'm so infuriated at myself! I'm just so angry ladies! I'm to the point where I want to run to Mommy and cry and cry and cry!
TheTempest
03-03-2008, 09:46 AM
Thank goodness you're safe. You're being so strong, and I for one am super proud of you!
This move might end up being the best thing for you because you say that you've noticed you haven't always been in the best relationships before. This may completely change your life and help you to find someone who truly respects and loves you.
I agree with the suggestions above, that you should try to get into another apartment in your complex if you don't want to break your lease, make sure that everyone knows he is not welcome around you, and look into getting a domestic violence or other type of restraining order. You might not have to get a different club if all of the staff knows he is not welcome anywhere near you and that he is to be roughly removed if he arrives.
Stay strong! Delete his phone number if you're tempted to call him! Or save it as "DO NOT ANSWER" so you know when he's calling.
RoseLeigh
03-03-2008, 10:24 AM
I'm so glad you're doing well, TN! And the animals too. I know what you mean about being angry you wasted your time! I've felt that way before! But you can use it as a learning experience now and not repeat it. Keep us updated, hang in there.
TigersMilk
03-03-2008, 10:42 AM
You did a tough thing. I'm so proud of you for sticking with the shelter and knowing whats best for you. Its also really great you are going to seek their counseling services. You have all of us here so cry and vent as much as you want. I hope you keep up this strength to stay away from him. :grouphug:
sun child
03-03-2008, 11:32 AM
I think you have immense courage, Nikkie. It's not easy for someone to interrupt their whole life and leave their comfort zone (in this case your own apartment) to get help. A lot of women silently allow themselves to become abused. Not you. I know your life seems crazy right now, but it will get better, and as long as you stay away from Asshole this too will pass. I'm so glad that your pets are safe, too. And I'm really glad that your mom is there to help you and support you. You're not just a stripper. At the very least you are a daughter to your mother, and I know she cares about you so much.
As each day passes things will get easier and you will get stronger and stronger. You are already strong, as you were supporting yourself and another person all on your own.
Each time you imagine calling him or contacting him, think about what your dad, brothers, or thug male friends would do to someone that abused you. It took my younger brother threatening to kill my abusive ex for me to finally realize wow, what he did to me was insanely wrong. This guy deserves to get his ass beat, and he is only crying to get sympathy from you.
I know it's hard to just turn your emotions off, but you deserve a man that will treat you like a queen. There are literally billions of them out there in the world, and most don't have issues with violence and rage. Any man would be lucky to be with a self-sufficient, goal-oriented woman like yourself.
BrunetteGoddess
03-03-2008, 11:41 AM
Dunno if you still have me on ignore, but if not, glad you're OK!
AznExtasy
03-03-2008, 12:10 PM
Omg, this totally reminds me of when I escaped from my pimp when I first started dancing. The nonstop calling, the stalking, and everything just seems exactly like what I went through. Some guys just don't give up that easily. I hope you keep your head up through all this, you CAN get through this!! Don't give in to his calls no matter what! It sucks that you have this lease holding you down for now. Your safety is #1!! In my experience, I was threatened and it got violent and I hope you never have to go through that. You could carry mace on your keychain or something.
Things will be different without the bf but you have to remember why you left him in the first place. Men don't change and if he didn't treat you right this whole time, that's the way he'll be. Stay strong and continue to keep us updated, I really wish the best for you!
thickienikkie
03-03-2008, 12:13 PM
Dunno if you still have me on ignore, but if not, glad you're OK!
No your not on ignore anymore :hug:
I'm fine :)
PhillyDancer1982
03-03-2008, 12:19 PM
I agree with the others...I am glad you are turning your back on that guy for good. I am also happy that your mom was able to pick up your pets before he got home. You are very brave and strong! Don't worry, everything will work out okay! And it's probably a good idea that you're taking some time off dancing anyway, since it would probably be hard for you to hustle when you have a lot on your mind. I hope everything works out good for you!
Sunshine73
03-03-2008, 12:34 PM
I'm really proud of you TN. Stay strong and do what you have to do. I think you are heading in a very positive direction and we are here for you. :highfive:
BrunetteGoddess
03-03-2008, 01:17 PM
No your not on ignore anymore :hug:
I'm fine :)
Awesomeness. :hug:
thechaosfairy
03-03-2008, 10:15 PM
Yay nursing... I'm thinking of going back to school for a nursing degree, if I can.
As far as the apartment thing, I meant... see if the management company has another complex across town / preferably in a whole separate suburb and ask if you can transfer your lease there. Still a little risky because stalkers pry, but it might be a good solution.
Best of luck. Don't call, don't write. I've heard too many stories that ended in "she called him once and wound up dead."
thickienikkie
03-05-2008, 08:02 AM
:O My god! My bf has gone way off the deep in now. My mom calls me and is like I saw your boyfriend getting off the bus when I was leaving for work yesterday morning...
I'm like what!? She said I don't know but he headed toward my condo and I doubled back to ask him where he was going. He must of saw her because the next moment he had dissappeared.
She circled her complex but she couldn't find him, so she just left for work. When she comes home she going up her steps and there he is...( i don't know if that crazy waited there for 10 hours all day ....) She's like what the fuck are you doing here, Nikki isn't here. ( I guess he was waiting for me to come out or something... slick bastard) He's like she just dissappears on me, everyone is acting like it's my fault, I only pushed her and she fell, blah blah LIES!
So my mom tells him he's got two seconds to get off her property or she's calling the cops. So he says FUCK YOU to my mom!>:( .... and leaves.
He calls me, leaves a message ( I need to change my number ) telling me my mom had harrassed him and starts begging and pleading again same ol same ol
Yesterday I wanted to leave out this shelter so bad to get some air, now she calls me with this so I'll remain in hiding for a while longer before I venture out.
I'm getting a little bit more settled in here. I've decided to stay her for another week.
Good news! My management said I can switch my lease over to a different property, however I will have to acquire a ro to prove endangerment or something. So, I will do that Friday on the DL. I kind of like it here I feel safe and cared for.
Moving will be hard and risky, I'm going to have to double o seven it foreall :detective I think I will call some of the homies to come help me move. The presence of several large hoods will probably scare him off. However, I don't want him to follow me...
random...but I miss my stripper heels....
TigersMilk
03-05-2008, 08:51 AM
Yea call on your friends and move in a few hours. You'll be outta there in no time. I'm so proud of you for continuing to stay away from that asshole. He has no respect for your mother caller her names and sitting outside her house. Have you thought about a restraining order against him? That would also show proof of endangerment to your complex.
Stay strong like you've been doing! :hug:
SundayMorning
03-05-2008, 09:01 AM
SO glad you're safe and keeping us updated, TN!
You're smart and you're strong; taking it one step at a time, like you're doing, is exactly right. And I hear ya about missing your stripper heels! Nothing like going back to your job where you have the power because you're sexy, rather than it being used against you! I'd feel the exact same way. Glad you have support from your family and friends right now. (And I laughed at the "double o seven" line!) Good luck, keep us posted!
thickienikkie
03-05-2008, 10:26 AM
Man is it that f-in hard to change a number! sprint sucks! I've been trying for about an hour and a half and these people.....
BrunetteGoddess
03-05-2008, 10:28 AM
Wow, really? That sucks! I remember when I was with Verizon I had to change it about 3 times and it only took about 5 minutes each time!
sun child
03-05-2008, 11:19 AM
So proud of you Nikkie. Good job on changing your number. Get that motherfucker out of your life and out of your head! And yes, invite the homies over to help you move. Sometimes you have to be a little stealthy.
WillStrip4Shoes
03-05-2008, 11:27 AM
I'm so sorry. That's terrible. I know it's hard to care about someone with anger problems, but it's never okay to put your hands on your lover like that. And I know it's scary thinking of what they might do if you try to leave. There is some great advice above^, and links where you can find help. Good luck and take care.
Polekitten
03-05-2008, 11:55 AM
Your doing great. Stay strong and do not give in!
I can't believe he told your mum to fuck off, what an asshole, your so much better off without him.
Thats great news about your appartment. Good luck with the move, this is a great oppertunity for a new start and don't worry, I'm sure you'll be back in those plastic shoes in no time.:)
sun child
03-05-2008, 12:01 PM
Yeah, after all he's done, he then goes on to disrespect your MOTHER! What a dick.
Sunshine73
03-05-2008, 02:23 PM
Keep going TN!! Get an r/o against the guy. Can your mother do the same?
Stay stong and don't worry, you'll be back in your heels soon.
sun child
03-06-2008, 06:28 PM
Hey Nikkie, what's going on with you? Have you been working on restraining orders? I am thinking about you.
Bella21
03-06-2008, 06:47 PM
I'm SO glad you left that guy and I hope he stops fucking with your mom! Please tell her to call the cops immediately if he shows up again for whatever reason. No threats, warnings, or second (tenth, fiftyith?) chances.
jhuka
03-06-2008, 09:16 PM
I'm so glad you've taken these steps to protect yourself, and I think you are wise to follow the advice of the shelter closely. They have been through this many times and will know how to guide you, and the more you listen to their wisdom the sooner you will be out of the storm that this man created around you. I wanted to pitch in here from a male point of view, to back up something Paris said many posts ago. Even if you find yourself missing this guy, remember that he WILL NOT CHANGE. Not, as Paris said, at 34. I found out that a woman I loved was being beaten by her husband, and took her to a women's shelter. I was amazed at how deep the feeling was in my friend that the beatings were HER fault--this was, the counselor told us, the hostage mentality, and it took a LONG time for my friend to recover her self-worth. I watched as her husband did everything under the sun to manipulate her back into his clutches. She divorced him, and never went back. For a long time, she had trouble believing in herself. Now she is strong and thriving. So there is daylight. But you must now concentrate on making the split final, on never being lured back, no matter what happens. This man cares only about himself, not you, and not anyone else, and that will never, never change.
The counselor who met me and my friend at the women's center told us that she'd had a woman in just before us who had been married to a wife-beater for 44 years. Imagine, so much life taken by a selfish, violent man. The counselor asked my friend, very directly, is that what you want for yourself? That was the moment of change, my friend told me later--when she finally stopped thinking of her husband and began to realistically see her own situation.
I just want to emphasize, from a male point of view. He will not change. If he can do this to you it would get much worse, soon, if you went back. Stay firm now and listen to those who are guiding you and who have your best interests at heart. The very best of luck to you.
hu$tlebunny
03-07-2008, 12:18 AM
I just want to say that you made the right choices..all of them. I was in the same situation when i was 19. I was the hardest woman alive, but then i let a man who was 13 years older than me RUN me. He didn't hit me until i was pregnant with his son. But it just got worse from there, only i wasn't as smart as you.. i beleived him everytime he said he was sooo sorry blah blah blah. Fastforward eight years, and he cost me my family, my friends, several jobs, a ton of money (LAMES), my good credit..just to name a few, so here i am, almost 28, with a 5year old son who saw his dad throw dog food & water in my face & drag me down the concrete driveway by my heels & when i blacked out from my head bumping the curb, he walked back in the house & shut the door.... so i'm glad you did the right thing NOW because even though you might miss him... it won't get better. I wish i had left when i was 20. Now i feel displaced in life, and used up. I'm so glad you are handling your bizness! You will emerge from it a better person, i promise. Please update! If you need to PM me in regards to resources, i will do all i can for you. I dealt with it for 8years..and on Christmas day, 2007, when he opted to talk to another girl on the phone upstairs rather than watch my son open the gifts (that he didnt pay for) I said, thats enough, and no car, no money, nothing..got my shit; took my baby; and got the fuck out! Its tough in the beginning. But a support system like this helps tons! My heart and my prayers go out to you!:hug:
scarlet_is_yummy
03-07-2008, 08:27 AM
wow, i'm so delighted to hear how incredibly well you're doing! Congratulations, you are so strong and your mum sounds like she rocks! yup, get a restraining order for both you and your mum.
hang in there: he WILL go away soon, you just need to keep doing what you're doing. it must be so scary but just keep us updated and you can vent on us as much as you like! i'm well happy your pets are safe. Go you!! :) :)
Corey
03-07-2008, 11:09 AM
Man is it that f-in hard to change a number! sprint sucks! I've been trying for about an hour and a half and these people.....
I was doing the same thing yesterday with Sprint! They once gave me another phone line with an area code in a city 500 miles away;)
But that's trivial.
I am so glad you looked to SW for support and sought to get out of your situation.
For some reason, after I graduated college, I made friends with quite a few girls in abusive relationships. I was always there for support. I've stood up to their abusive boyfriends, (not the smartest move on my part, but I was determined). I think the dudes were just shocked because I am such a little woman. I also worked as a coucelor in training for a shelter.
The sad thing was, every one of those girls chose to stay in their relationships and were told they couldn't have me as a friend anymore. I never heard from any of them again.
You have made the smartest move for your life, sanity and future. Kudos to you.
RoseLeigh
03-07-2008, 12:34 PM
I was doing the same thing yesterday with Sprint! They once gave me another phone line with an area code in a city 500 miles away;)
But that's trivial.
I am so glad you looked to SW for support and sought to get out of your situation.
For some reason, after I graduated college, I made friends with quite a few girls in abusive relationships. I was always there for support. I've stood up to their abusive boyfriends, (not the smartest move on my part, but I was determined). I think the dudes were just shocked because I am such a little woman. I also worked as a coucelor in training for a shelter.
The sad thing was, every one of those girls chose to stay in their relationships and were told they couldn't have me as a friend anymore. I never heard from any of them again.
You have made the smartest move for your life, sanity and future. Kudos to you.
Sprint totally sucks for phone changing. I opted to give them their damn cancellation money and switched to Verizon. You'd think 'He's a stalker who blows up my phone everyday' would kick them into motion. ::)
I hope you're doing well Nikki. It'll get better, because you've made that step.
Corey, I feel you about your friends. I had a friend we actually snuck out of a window (because her bf key-locked her in the house while he was at work) and bought her a ticket to go home to her sister in Cali. Yep, she went back to door-locking dude. I always hope she's okay.
kitty69
03-07-2008, 01:05 PM
Well Nickkie I cannot believe how much you have matured and grown since you first posted on this site.
I am so sorry that you have had to put up with all this shit and my fingers are crossed that everything works out. The main reason I posted was just to say that I am so proud of you, you seem to have handled this with dignity and self respect.
I wish you so much luck and keep us posted.
:hug:
defiance
11-02-2008, 09:34 PM
This thread is very inspirational and although I've never personally been in this situation, I think everyone can benefit from seeing a woman step up and take action to better her life.
Thickienikkie, I'd love to know how you're doing now! Much respect to you girl.:heartbeat
Xiomara
11-03-2008, 09:19 AM
check this out. Be strong. Be a WOMAN. Leave his ass.
Ive been here before and I got out. It feels so good. U may miss the good times but trust me you move on and forget once you get your power back. I work with abused women everyday at Favor House and one of my ladies is just getting over the "love of her life" who beat her. U know what she said? "IM SO HAPPY" You can do it babe.. I have not followed this thread all the way through, so I dont know if Im late. But good luck
Xiomara
11-03-2008, 09:20 AM
Holy crap Im late now that I see my post landing on page 4. Well,Im happy you left...now I have to go back and read. :)