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Lola Rose
03-01-2008, 01:21 PM
it's funny, when I seach for kangaroo toy, a lot of kawalas come up too.
britt244
03-01-2008, 01:26 PM
oh no oh no oh no. i am so sad for you. :( you know you can absolutely call me if you need anything!!!!
leilanicandy
03-01-2008, 03:46 PM
Hi Lola,
This type of pain, will never be dull. I believe you and I. We had a talk about babies and miscarriages. They now have a procedure to help carry the baby to term. Of course you might need a year to heal first. I dont want you to give up hope. I know you will be great mom. Your husband will be an awesome father! Maybe you just need proper planning and a little help! Hun, I know there are no words. That I can say to comfort or ease your pain. Please just hang in there and have hope. I dont think God is punishing you! You will get your bundle of joy!
:hug:
velvet
03-01-2008, 03:52 PM
so sorry to hear this.
AlexxaHex
03-01-2008, 03:59 PM
Oh sweetie! *choke* I got so filled up with sadness when I read this. You are a wonderful mommy to your spirit baby - she just hasn't settled in yet! I wonder if this means she'll be a rowdy teenager too?
Neither you nor Rob can blame yourself for any of this. Everything you've done together has been out of love. Your intentions are good and you did everything in your power (both of you) to create a good loving place for her to grow. I guess it just wasn't time yet.
Think of the positives though, if you can. You and Rob are quite young still. There will be plenty of time to have a family. Also think about how much love you're going to feel after waiting for so long. That baby is going to have the best kind of life - one that is wanted and loved. I am going o be ecstatic when you finally post pics on SW of your sweetheart. You are meant to be a mommy, and you are a devoted one, even now.
I wish for your heart to heal. I'm gonna PM you my # too in case you wanna talk.
:hug:
flickad
03-01-2008, 04:27 PM
Sorry to hear it, Lola. I don't think you're being punished- sometimes these things happen for natural reasons and if you want to, in time, I'm sure you can try again.
threlayer
03-01-2008, 04:34 PM
This is both heart-rending and heart-warming. The sadness is obvious. But your support of Lola is just wonderful. Thought I should just comment on that much.
And Lola, please continue to stay healthy now; your unfortunate situation will probably inspire others here. I hope you have a good doctor who will help you in your recovery and next pregnancy.
BrunetteGoddess
03-01-2008, 04:43 PM
Lola,
Please don't hesitate to pick up the phone and call me; I will give you my number if you need to talk!
doc-catfish
03-01-2008, 04:46 PM
:hug: Sorry to hear this LR.
Lola Rose
03-01-2008, 04:58 PM
Thank you everyone. I love you all so much, and am so glad you're here to listen to me, and support me.
I'm going to hold off on going to the doctor for now, I didn't need a procedure last time, and I doubt I will now either, it's so early. I was intending upon having an unattended pregnancy and an unnassisted homebirth, so if possible, I'll miscarry the same way. It's just what I feel is best for me.
if it gets worse, or isn't over in a few days, then I'll seek medical help. I will get a midwife to help if I need it.
TheSexKitten
03-01-2008, 05:07 PM
First of all, HUGE HUGS.
Third, and again, I think you know this, many women go through more miscarriages than that before carrying to term (and often carrying multiple pregnancies to term). That might not make it any less painful, particularly not now, but there may be some solace in knowing you are far from alone, and you have so much more time and so many more chances to come.
:hug: :hug: :hug:
Ditto on this!! :hug: I'm extremely sorry for you loss, and I extend my sympathies. :(
Crow2
03-01-2008, 05:17 PM
Poor baby. I am so sorry.
This going to sound terribly cheesy .... perhaps there was something was wrong with your little treasure. Womens bodies are amazing machines! It knows even before we do.
I can only offer you all of my girly love and support that you need. When its right it will work. Your going to make an amazing mommy! I just know it.
When I lost my son people told me, you'll have other babies. I did not care. I wanted MY BABY. Not another one. So I can totaly understand.
Non of this is your fault either. So don't for a minute think that it is. I wish you all the best and hope that your heart and body heals quickly.
Much love for you!!!!
Rhiannon
Xoxoxox
ClaireBear84
03-01-2008, 05:22 PM
I am so sorry for your loss hun, if you ever feel like talking, don't be a stranger.
Corgan
03-01-2008, 06:35 PM
:*( i'm so sorry.
kitty69
03-01-2008, 10:49 PM
I just wanted to say I am so sorry for you Lola, everyone else has already said everything so I just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you sweetheart. Big hugs. You are an amazing woman and I just know one day it will be your turn. Take care of yourself X
scarlet_is_yummy
03-02-2008, 12:07 PM
i'm really sorry, i know a woman who had 3 mc's and then went on to have 2 healthy, lovely babies, dont loose your inspiring hope - its amazing to read how well you are doing. i bet you're gonna make such a cool mum :) :)
Lysondra
03-02-2008, 12:10 PM
Hey... my mum had three miscarriages before me. And look... I turned out okay and *twitch* healthy...*spaz*
Keep those hopes up.
SexyJess
03-02-2008, 12:14 PM
I know it's been said, but.... I'm so sorry. :(
Lola Rose
03-02-2008, 12:25 PM
Thanks everyone.
I've been doing some research on concieving the first month after a loss, and it's pretty good odds. In an average cycle, with average fertility, there is a 20% chance of concieving. I have Pretty damn good fertility. So, I personally put my chances at 30% in an average cycle. So, women with average fertility have about a 50% chance of convieving after a m/c. So I think my chances this cycle will be around 65-70%.
so, hopefully this next baby will be here soon, and stick on tight!
SundayMorning
03-02-2008, 12:36 PM
^Now I'm picturing a little koala clinging to your uterus!
greenidlady1
03-02-2008, 01:22 PM
I am sorry to hear that. I had a miscarriage years ago with ex-husband's baby. I figured there was probably something wrong with the fetus like the doctor said. I look back now on it and think it was probably for the best. It would have been really hard on me to have a baby much less one that could have been handicapped or not complete in some way.
VegasPrincess
03-02-2008, 01:57 PM
I am so sorry Lola.
Just know this is not your fault or God punishing you and you will be a great momma one day when the time is right.
Jax
Vyanka
03-02-2008, 01:59 PM
I'm so sorry baby. :( Take good care. :-*
PhillyDancer1982
03-02-2008, 04:22 PM
I am very sorry to hear that this is happening to you. :'( I really wish you the best of luck with your next pregnancy, and I hope you have a very fertile month coming up.
This isn't the most optimistic but...I heard that when you already have one miscarriage in the past(and I read that you had an earlier miscarriage), it puts you at high risk of having another miscarriage in the future. Happened with me, my mom, and a girl that I knew of at one of the clubs I worked at. Also, miscarriages are most prone in the 1st trimester. (so I agree with Nina77 100% that it isn't your fault in any way) I am mentioning these things because it might be good to consult a doctor or possibly consider an extra treatment to help aide you through the early, most vulnerable part of the pregnancy. That's what the girl I worked with did.
Anyway, I really hope the best for you. You are somewhat young, but you seem very responsible and beyond your years in some way so I agree that you would be a great parent. I hope everything works out okay for you. :hug:
Lola Rose
03-02-2008, 04:24 PM
yes, there's an increased chance of me having more m/c, but honestly, there is really nothing a doctor can do for me, unfortunatly.
PhillyDancer1982
03-02-2008, 04:27 PM
Thanks everyone.
I've been doing some research on concieving the first month after a loss, and it's pretty good odds. In an average cycle, with average fertility, there is a 20% chance of concieving. I have Pretty damn good fertility. So, I personally put my chances at 30% in an average cycle. So, women with average fertility have about a 50% chance of convieving after a m/c. So I think my chances this cycle will be around 65-70%.
so, hopefully this next baby will be here soon, and stick on tight!
In that case, I hope you the best! :) Did you read my post about the girl I worked with who miscarried? Let me mention one more thing about her. Well although there was a chance she was at higher risk for miscarrying, she DID get pregnant again only a month or two after she miscarried...and that pregnancy was more successful. If she can do it, you can do it! And you did say that you are very fertile, so I wish you the best and I hope you have a very successful pregnancy very soon!
Bridgette
03-02-2008, 06:13 PM
You have to keep telling yourself that something must have been wrong. Your body knows when something isnt right. Its something you have no control over. Nobody is punishing you hun.
Take some time to cry. And just know that someday..you WILL have a beautiful baby in your arms. :) Take care of yourself.I second this. It's not something you've done wrong.
I'm sorry :hug:
Hot2Trot
03-03-2008, 09:20 AM
Oh Lola;
:'( .
I am so sorry for you and R. No, don't blame yourself- You loved this baby. Furthermore, that kind of thinking can throw a monkey wrench in your next attempt.
No fault, no blame...
Lola, do you, or R in particular, use your cell phones alot? May I suggest that you please read this (http://cms.clevelandclinic.org/body.cfm?xyzpdqabc=0&id=227&action=detail&ref=500) as I believe that it might offer some type of insight regarding modern reproductive health issues.
With the increased usage of wireless technology has come increased exposure to radiation levels which have not "officially" been observed for human health implications.
This is the technology that our society "Can't live without..."
Here is the study (http://www.clevelandclinic.org/reproductiveresearchcenter/docs/agradoc239.pdf) which goes into more detail.
I know that everything will work out for you two. Just continue to love each other and the rest will come.
:hug: .
:flirt: .
thickienikkie
03-03-2008, 10:21 AM
Oh girly, I meant to reply to this when I first saw the post.
I hope your alright...so sorry to hear this
***hugs kisses ***
nikki
Samba
03-03-2008, 10:43 AM
:hug: Oh honey I'm so sorry. Don't blame yourself. Don't lose hope. My close friend had three miscarriages, after the second one they found out it was due to a genetic defect. After her third lost pregnancy, she thought she'd never be able to have children. Last summer she gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.
You'll be in my prayers, Lola.
Lola Rose
03-03-2008, 11:55 AM
Hot2trot, we actually recently got a house phone partly for that reason. Rob goes out about 1-2x a week and has usually a total 4 drinks. I'm doing research on that, too.
I'm going to put myself on bedrest for my 1st trimester durring my next pregnancy. I really think stress is mostly to blame.
cameron_keys
03-03-2008, 11:59 AM
I'm going to put myself on bedrest for my 1st trimester durring my next pregnancy. I really think stress is mostly to blame.
Thats a great idea. Go to Dr's and make sure everything is ok with you both..but try not to stress too much(I know its hard when you want something so badly). The more stress and pressure you put on yourself the more it will become a self fulfilling prophecy of tragedy. I KNOW you are meant to be a mom...when your baby is ready to come to you..she will. Trust in that.
phillyvixen
03-03-2008, 11:06 PM
I'm so sorry LR
This totally broke my heart
I'm sending you more sticky dust!
Rest up and stay stress free!
flickad
03-04-2008, 04:10 PM
I can't help but believe you will have a baby, even if it isn't to be this time.
sparkleeyz
03-04-2008, 04:26 PM
Oh honey. I'm so sorry!:hug: We are always here for you love. There is nothing that you did wrong, these things happen and it's confusing at the time, but tomorrow is a brighter day.
KamrynAnne
03-04-2008, 06:25 PM
my thoughts and prayers are with you Lola.. stay strong.