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The Boob
04-07-2008, 12:18 PM
You don't have to spend lots of time with me, like the ones who put in 10 minutes before they ask. I'll be decided by minute 3 on the ones that peak my interest, and if it's not working for me I'll be letting you know by the end of minute 1 with subtle hints like less energetic responses. And the one I want will actually have had a great shot at me by the end of minute 1, but the fact that she stayed and put in another couple minutes displaying a high level of interest is what turns it into me asking for the sale instead of her. And it's not interest in any particular details about me, it's simply INTEREST coming from the kind of person who normally doesn't show me that. The looking and the leaning in energy. Taking a "Hey baby!" and turning it into body language, not necessarily with anything sleazy even.
Come armed with something* though. What makes me want to poo is having to go through another repitition of the "where are you from?" basic interview (which you must hate too). Or when the first words out of your mouth are "Wanna dance?" to which my honest response would be "I have absolutely no idea because you've given me NOTHING on which to base my answer. I wish I knew, because that would be more helpful for both of us at this point." I mean, she must reeeeeeely believe in love at first sight or something to assume that I'll know instantly before my eyes have even had a chance to fully adjust to her standing there. Maybe she's an instant shopper herself and that's where her confusion comes from: sees a handbag, wants it, decides to buy it all in 2 seconds. But not everyone is an instant shopper like that.
* And when I asked above that you come armed with something, it doesn't have to be something amazing. It doesn't have to be based on correctly profiling me and making it sound all perfect like you already know me and have the same soul. I'm talking about something wildly imperfect. If you're goofy and inclusive and you've got random content to share, that lets me know that it's okay for me to immediately feel comfortable without going through the basic interview stuff which I'd rather not tell and you'd rather not hear anyway. For example, say I'm a stripper and I'm finishing my lunch and walking back out onto the floor. I'll use my last few French Fries as a prop, sit next to someone, chewing, and absurdly say "Hi. It's important that I know: curly fries or crosscut? [Waving a fry in their face to see if they'll grab for it.] Which? Answer, damn it! Which is best?" [Customer offers up "Curly?"] I switch to an erotically charged voice and put a hand on his chest and continue: "Really!?! Okay, true or false, chili fries are an abomination and a betrayal of what the Founding Fathers intended for the French Fry. What say you?" And then, "Well, based on your responses, I'm incredibly horny." [Press up against him and make the pitch.]
The point of this example was that it can be ANYTHING, as long as it's something. Some kind of content that says I'm a person You're a person Let's Interact. I'll always go for that over "I'm willing to slum it If you'll let me Extract."
(Sorry about the novel. "Your post! It's so big!" )
chi_sam
04-12-2008, 01:11 PM
why EXACTLY do you go to a strip club?
Here's a first - to smoke.
Of course, it's much more involved than that, but it's what first got me into the clubs.
I travel M-F and for years my usual MO has been to lay low in the hotel and go out to the bars at home on Fri and Sat. Now you can't smoke in my home state, and until the beer gardens open up, I can't drink w/o lighting up. Sadly, it's not possible...
So, I've reversed my habits and now go out to bars during the week. Unfortunately, I work in mostly rural areas. Ever seen a Holiday Inn bar or an Applebees on a Tuesday in February? But in a strip bar, it's almost guaranteed a good time. Music, women, party atmosphere - it's the only type of bar where you generally can have a 'weekend' experience mid-week.
Sounds trite, but it's true. When in an area that prohibits smoking, I don't go to any indoor bars. Hopefully, they'll ban smoking nationwide soon, and I can find a more productive hobby.
holiday
04-29-2008, 10:46 PM
TheBoob, this is actually good advice:
And when I asked above that you come armed with something, it doesn't have to be something amazing. It doesn't have to be based on correctly profiling me and making it sound all perfect like you already know me and have the same soul.
And, I (almost) always sell a dance or two by doing things very similar to your french fry example. I use a prop a lot; a goofy picture on my cell phone, a wardrobe malfunction, jewelry anything - they're conversation starters and fun flirty, bar stuff that stands out from the regular dancer stuff.
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The ideal strip club experience is one where my interactions with each dancer make me feel better, and not worse. My self-esteem is far too low to accept most SS, but some dancers are far better than others at acting. Some do very little to hide their disdain, boredom, or repulsion. Others are warm and affectionate. Combine that with very soft and slow lap dances with lots of initmacy and I'm damned happy! I go for one other reason, but you'll have to post on the blue side for it.
Why do I go to a strip club instead of a bar. Wow. A bar is a place where I pay a lot of money for alcohol and play darts with my friends. Being shy and of low self-confidence, there is no part of a bar visit, aside from eye-candy, that in any way shape or form has anything to do with me meeting, talking to, or having some interaction with, a female. None. At all.
What makes me want to keep coming back? The pain returns. The restorative effects of a good strip club visit are short lived. Perhaps a day or two at best. Then I hold out for a few weeks until the pain becomes unbearable and I go back.
What makes me a regular is a dancer who provides the soft, affectionate, sensual style of lap dances I like, without excessive SS, hussle, or anything that makes me feel bad about myself. I'm too smart for my own good. I like believable compliments and being treated fairly. I need to leave the club feeling better than when I walked in. I like being a regular too. I like predictability, and knowing what to expect. It makes things less stressful.
My best SC experience was a VIP from the only dancer whom I've ever taken into the VIP room. After the very hot dances were over with, we spent the rest of the time chatting. She opened up and I had my first and only enjoyable conversation in a SC (shy, remember?). The SS was heavy, and as it turned out later, even heavier than I thought, but I had a brief few moments where I actually managed to believe that my life could be something more, something better than it has always been. I dreamed.
My ideal lapdance experience, and why I do or do not like them. Well, I'm inexperienced, a romantic, and a bit sensual. I don't like robotic or hard grinding. I don't like bored/unenthusiastic dances; they make me feel really bad about myself. I do like soft & sensual. I love affectionate dances. I love femininity, and when a dancer knows how to use it. Long, wonderfully girly-smelling hair in my face can be immensely erotic. So can the all-over feeling of a dancer draped across my lap, writhing oh so softly against me, like two lovers as opposed to the "your penis is all that matters" approach of heavy grinding. I love attention to my ears and neck. I love to get caught up in the moment and feel like I'm with a girlfriend, not someone who hates being near me. I like extremely mild and believable compliments. I like a casual attitude that doesn't make me feel bad or guilty for being there or enjoying the dance. I like leaving the club happy, feeling better about myself and not feeling cheated, taken advantage of, or merely "tolerated." Ask on blue side for a little bit more.
What am I thinking about when I decide to get a LD? Well, I've already watched the dancers on stage and around the club. I have an idea of who is my type physically, now it's all about who dances in the style I like. I accept a lap dance (at my clubs, this means the brief lap dance out on the floor done to collect tips, while "private dance" means back in the booths and where y'all make your money) from all dancers. I'm looking for sensuality and contact. Air dances make me feel like a leper. I know rationally that's not the case, and that contact varies from locale to locale and dancer to dancer, but I don't have the self-esteem to not take low contact personally when it occurs at a medium-contact club. So, physical attraction + sensual affectionate style + friendly enough to not make me feel awkward = sold.
When I'm getting a LD, I'm not thinking about much at all. I'm thinking about how soft her skin feels, or how silky her hair is, or how wonderfully girly she smells. I'm just enjoying all of the sensations and pleasure of having something oozing of femininity in my lap and in my arms. I feel a peace I never feel otherwise. A lack of angst and unfulfilled lust. I'm feeling slightly nervous too; are my hands where they should be, did my mouth open as I gasped for air at the wrong time when certain parts of her where too close, am I making her feel uncomfortable, is it okay if I gently brush her hair, will she think it's weird if I ask her to slow down, do I sound PL-ish when I start panting, etc. For the most part though, I'm just thinking about what I'm feeling. It can be overwhelming; like feeling really drunk. I don't think I've ever really thought of sex during a lap dance, the experience itself is erotic enough. I don't need or want to think about anything more than the present and what's happening.
I love this! I want to post it in the dressing room at work.
the truth
05-08-2008, 09:47 PM
So this might be the dumbest question ever, but...why EXACTLY do you go to a strip club? What is the ideal SC experience? What brings you to a SC instead of your local bar? What makes you want to keep coming back? What ideally makes a regular? What would make YOU a regular? What is your best SC memory/experience? What is your worst? What is your ideal lap dance experience? Why do you like/not like them? What are you thinking when you decide to get an LD? What are you thinking while you are getting an LD? What is the best part of the visit?
Of course there are the obvious answers.. but i want to dig a little deeper..something other than "nekkid ladies"! lol! tell me what YOU think! tell me what YOU want! Tell me YOUR ideal customer experience!! What do YOU like? What do YOU want?:)
I like the attention, even though I know it is artificial. Most of the girls I have met seem to be pretty laid back, and easy to talk to. I have also been in and out of relationships for the past few years, and I am on vacation. If I go to the club I get to chill with a woman without the drama attached to it that I have had in the past.
I just started going in February, and it was just to see what it was like.
The ideal SC experience is one where I do not experience stress, and I get to relax. One rule I made for myself was that if I ever found myself getting/wanting to get involved with a dancer I would leave the club. I am not a jealous guy, but I know I could not deal with it, but at the same time I know I could not replace a dancer's income, and if I can she needs to stop dancing anyway, but that is another story.
As long as the management/girls dont give me a difficult time I would keep coming back. I know that was ambiguous but this goes along with my 2nd paragraph.
I have not been to the club long enough to have a best/worst experience.
I really like contact even if it is only one way. If I ever get an air dance it is time for me to find another girl to spend money on.
One particular dancer is a good conversationist(sp?), and the last time I got a dance from her I ended up talking to her, and was ignoring the dance. It was kind of weird.
I was not really ignoring her. I guess it would be better to say her dances were not getting the attention they normally get.
After edit
I hate mechanical lap dances. One of the better dancers did that nonsense once.
I also had a girl answer her cell phone in VIP. If it would have been an emergency I would have understood. Sometimes things just happen, but if she can tell whoever it was she will call them back, then it is not important enough to interrupt the dance.
pfunkdenver
05-10-2008, 06:16 AM
What is the ideal SC experience?
2 hours of pleasant converstion, a few dances, and a few drinks.
What brings you to a SC instead of your local bar?
I'm married, not looking for a date.
What makes you want to keep coming back?
Pleasant, good looking ladies, who can hold a conversation.
What ideally makes a regular? What would make YOU a regular?
I have to be actually interested in the dancer as a friend, sex partner, or confidant. You have to share something, even it's it's jokes.
What is your best SC memory/experience?
5 year friendship with a dancer, which was also a pay for play OTC arrangement.
What is your worst?
Sitting for an hour, talking with no one, watching the dancers talk to each other, instead of customers.
What is your ideal lap dance experience?
Some grind, some boob and butt touching, a few light kisses, and sex talk.
Why do you like/not like them?
I like most, I dislike the promise of something hot with no delivery.
What are you thinking when you decide to get an LD?
She's attractive and a good conversationalist, let's do it!
What are you thinking while you are getting an LD?
Fantasizing about sex with her.
What is the best part of the visit?
Good conversation.
3-Legged Man
05-10-2008, 08:12 AM
Why EXACTLY do you go to a strip club?
To relax around beautiful women, forget real-life stress for a while.
What is the ideal SC experience? What brings you to a SC instead of your local bar?
I don't go to local bars often, alcohol is not the prime reason for my going out. The ideal SC experience is when the girls will take notice of me and sit to talk before going straight to "wannadance?" Good lapdances, described below, are also a must.
What makes you want to keep coming back?
Receiving the ideal experience.
What ideally makes a regular?
Having a dancer remember me from previous visits, picking up a conversation without retracing everything said in prior visits. Satisfying dances.
What would make YOU a regular?
See last answer. On top of that, my real-life experiences have all been with white girls. In the clubs, I tend to gravitate to non-whites. My current favorite is Filipino. I also enjoy spending time with black, hispanic, and other asian dancers. I can't say I qualify as too much of a regular, because I only come to the club once or twice a month.
What is your best SC memory/experience?
My best experience was probably the afternoon I met my current favorite. I came to the club looking for my fave at the time, a long leggy Russian. Not seeing her, I sat at my table watching the show. This petite Filipino comes to my table asking if I'd like some company. I told her no thanks, I was looking for XYZ. She smiled and said "Wait here, I'll see if I can find her for you". 5 minutes later she comes back, having gone around the club, and informs me XYZ was not working that day. I say OK, and decide to buy a dance from her to compensate her for her trouble. That dance was one of the most erotic experiences I ever had in a club featuring the right balance of sensuality and hard-core grinding.
What is your worst?
Never had a really awful experience. I'd say my worst was going to the club, looking for either of my two favorites from that time. Neither was there. So instead I bought dances from three other girls that appealed to my eye. Although my eye was satisfied, nothing about any of their dances pleased any other parts of me.
What is your ideal lap dance experience?
The most important component to a lapdance for me is the sensuality. Some cuddling and having attention paid to my ears, neck, and chest get me purring. A kiss on the lips makes my day, as does when the girl rubs her boobs across my face, gently. No, not suffocating, gentle. Add to that a decent amount of contact to my friend down south, and it's pretty much the ideal experience. A pleasant perfume is great for me, too.
Why do you like/not like them?
I do like everything in the last answer. I don't like lame, phony compliments (low-quality SS). Fake moaning is quite a distraction. Girls that slap their own ass.... I'll never understand how that's supposed to be sexy. Mindless, automatic grinding without the sensuality is a turnoff, as is cigarette breath or B.O. Glitter is EVIL!
What are you thinking while you are getting an LD?
"Wow!" "Oh, wow!" "How many more of these can I afford today?"
What is the best part of the visit?
When a total stranger can make me feel loved, I feel I've gotten my money's worth.
hasnosweatpants
05-10-2008, 09:23 PM
why EXACTLY do you go to a strip club?
I'm not positive, but think its probably a combination of mid life crisis and temporary slower sex life due to a young child. But when I find out, I may stop. Until then, its for the simulated elevated sexual life and the illusion of relationships, transitory that they are.
What is the ideal SC experience? What brings you to a SC instead of your local bar?
Our local SC is a bit skanky, but then so is our local bar. Ideally, I like to find a girl who is physically interesting, socially skilled enough to draw me into a conversation and then can lie well enough to make me feel like she likes me. Then a good LD experience is for something that makes me feel moderately aroused and believably intimate and safe or healthy.
What makes you want to keep coming back?
Instant gratification (not sexual fulfillment, please), a girl successfully making me feel desirable, lovely naked ladies, beer, unresolved issues.
What ideally makes a regular?
This is an question for the dancers, not custies.
What would make YOU a regular?
I'm hoping not to become one. Anything too regular would take out the excitement, or portent to not being able to deal with my life. Occasional visits I don't think would bother me, but being a regular would be too expensive and too much a distraction.
What is your best SC memory/experience?
There's a petite black dancer at a local who climbed all over me, laughing and smiling in way that was disarming both for her obvious enjoyment and its odd sexiness. She wasn't beautiful, didn't have a perfect body, but she was direct, sharp and interesting.
What is your worst? What is your ideal lap dance experience?
The one time with an extras girl. Didn't know what I was getting into, wasn't smart enough to stop. Went for testing, vowed never again.
Why do you like/not like them?
I like it if I believe the girl is enjoying herself. Nothing makes me feel more like a cad then paying for a girl to do something she doesn't want to.
What are you thinking when you decide to get an LD?
I think 'she looks interesting', 'she seems interested', I have money in my pocket.
What are you thinking while you are getting an LD?
Why would I think then? I want to just enjoy the contact (SC's are very full contact around here).
What is the best part of the visit?
usually the LD, sometimes the conversation, sometimes the gawking.
Biggieman
05-13-2008, 01:31 AM
So this might be the dumbest question ever, but...why EXACTLY do you go to a strip club? What is the ideal SC experience? What brings you to a SC instead of your local bar? What makes you want to keep coming back? What ideally makes a regular? What would make YOU a regular? What is your best SC memory/experience? What is your worst? What is your ideal lap dance experience? Why do you like/not like them? What are you thinking when you decide to get an LD? What are you thinking while you are getting an LD? What is the best part of the visit?
Of course there are the obvious answers.. but i want to dig a little deeper..something other than "nekkid ladies"! lol! tell me what YOU think! tell me what YOU want! Tell me YOUR ideal customer experience!! What do YOU like? What do YOU want?:)
This response will probably make me sound pretty pathetic, but whatevs. Right now, I live in Myrtle Beach, SC, far away from all my friends and family, and prior to coming here I wasn't actually a strip club type of guy. I think I'd been twice before coming here almost a year ago. As it happens, there about 18,000 strip clubs here, so it's hard to avoid if you're just out looking for something to do. It's even harder when you're a single guy without any friends in the area. I started going to a club that's near where I live and had a good time, so now I go every couple of weeks, always by myself.
I go to the same club every time (I don't care enough to scout all the other places), I have 5 or 6 girls that I really like, and any night I choose to go, there's a good chance at least 3 or 4 of them will be working, so there's a certain comfort level. None of them know me by name (I've told them, but I can understand why it's easy to forget), but they know my face, and I can usually have a friendly, hustle-free conversation with them while I build up the mood to get some dances (I can't just walk in and get dances immediately).
Basically, I know I'm not going to be living here for that much longer, so I go to the club when I need my "fix". I don't have a girlfriend and I'm not really looking to get into a relationship, so when I want/need female company, I end up at the club. Sad or not, it is what it is. I don't feel sad or pathetic doing it, but I don't do the "hitting on girls at the bar" thing very well, so it's convenient to be in a place where the girls are going to come and talk to me, even though I know most of them are just trying to get money out of me. That's why I try to find my favorite girls and I can just have a normal conversation while I put a few drinks in me and loosen up for some dances. I always tip frequently at the stage and I always get dances.
When I get my dances, I get them from the girls that I know will give me what I like. I basically use the stage as a lapdance audition. If it's a girl I don't know, but she's moving the way I like on stage, then I'll give her a shot on the couch. I like to expand my roster of favorites, but otherwise, I always go for my regular girls. I don't go looking for extras or any of that. If something happens, then so be it, but I don't ask for it and I don't expect it. I like to think I treat the girls with due respect, and I don't look down on them for what they do. Really, anyone who does and still goes out to a strip club is the worst kind of hypocrite.
Also, Myrtle Beach is a huge tourist town, so I always end up finding and meeting people from Boston, which is where I'm originally from. That's always fun. Obviously, I don't go there specifically to meet other customers, but it always ends up happening that I chat with my fellow New Englanders while I'm sitting at the stage. I've got New Englander radar. It also helps when they're wearing Red Sox hats.
I got lucky in that the first club I went to here was pretty much exactly what I was looking for. I'm cool with the general manager, a couple of the bouncers, and the regular bartender has my drink ready before I can open my mouth to order it. I go often enough for people to recognize my face, but I've also got enough anonymity that I hopefully don't have a reputation (good or bad). I just want to go in, relax, and have a good time, and I've been able to do that every time thus far. It's too expensive a hobby not to 8).
That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
toskala
05-21-2008, 11:20 AM
all these questions have different answers for every guy...i go to strip clubs because i like to see a lot of naked girls. simple as that...i dont get attached emotionally.