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italianbeauty
03-06-2008, 09:26 PM
I can relate to not having any friends. Epecially a best friend, or as someone once said to me, a dead-hooker-friend. Someone who you can call when you wake up next to a dead hooker, who will come to help, no questions asked. Haha.

For me, I've always had single-serving friends. I've moved every three to four years since I've been born. A total of only 4 states, 9 cities and countless houses. I was always the new kid. I had time to be the new kid, find a group, make a couple friends, find a few good ones, and then on to the next town. I would try to write before the days of the internet, but that didn't last!

Now that I'm on my own and older, I find it a little easier to make a 'friend' whom I would call a friend; not just an acquaintance, classmate, or whatever. It is much easier with the internet to keep in touch with people now. Since I am graduating this semester, I am excited to move on but sad about leaving all of my new recent 'friends.' Its been four years here in this town. I have some good friends so it will be hard to leave, but... I am an expert at being the new kid!

Darcy Foxx
03-06-2008, 09:36 PM
i have a lot of friends. i only have a few very close friends who i know i can rely on no matter what, but i guess i have a lot of friends. i wish i had more though. i like to be surrounded by lots and lots of people. i'm a social critter, i suppose.

TheSexKitten
03-06-2008, 09:39 PM
I have friends. They're all different. Some are flaky, some are solid. Some I see all of the time, others not so much. Some I can be honest with about everything, others I have to watch it with. Some are my party friends, some are my work-out friends, some are my video game friends, some are my laid-back friends, and a couple are everything friends... I likez my friends... I just wish that more were girls!

How alike you and I are! ;D

I'm willing to bet though that I have less friends.

CinammonGirl
03-06-2008, 10:03 PM
because I dont .At least not friends that I call on the phone and go out and stuff like that.I've always wondered if im the only one that's like this or what.I've always been a loner so I dont really know "how" to have friends .Does that make sense?Sometimes I would like to have them just to know what it feels like or what.



Yeah, I've been like this before.

The few friends I've made were the "wrong people", and I ended up getting attached to them. I stayed with a friend that was verbally abusive and manipulative, because he was one of the few that I could party with and talk to everyday.


It's hard for me to make friends and ask people to "hang out." I get paranoid that people are sensing weird vibes about me or are talking about me behind my back, lol.

CinammonGirl
03-06-2008, 10:23 PM
Woah! way too big! sorry ! .....I dont know how to make it smaller though. I was always popular with guys but I dont really view tham as friends because I think they all want to get in my pants .In highschool I would always hear a bunch of things like "oh I know her!" or some other crap .They were kinda like groupies or something . I guess I was popular in highschool in the "standing out" kinda thing but never made much conversation with anyone.


lol it's easier for me to make friends with guys too, but I think it's because they want to get some too. My most faithful friend has been a guy, while I've been back-stabbed or cut off from my female friends.

austinatalie
03-06-2008, 10:42 PM
I'm the same way. I've got a few best friends but 1 lives in AZ one in Dallas, and the other 2 have very young kids and live 1 hr away from me (since I moved for school). The rest are just aquaintences whom I don't really find all that interesting.


I don't. I want people to do stuff with or real people to talk to.


Awww. I hope you guys both know that I would be nothing but honored if y'all would be my friends. I'm a very low maintenance friend, I don't call every day, I don't really like to talk on the phone, and I'm extremely fucking busy so I wouldn't take up much of your time. But I do love to go to movies, have people over for dinner/drinks, etc! And I just got a pole in my new house so I could teach if you're interested!

BalletBaby
03-06-2008, 10:43 PM
And I just got a pole in my new house so I could teach if you're interested!

O rly?

austinatalie
03-06-2008, 10:49 PM
ya rly! You can come too! How often are you in the area?

BalletBaby
03-06-2008, 10:51 PM
I should be back in Houston this summer. I will most definitely get my ass up there!

austinatalie
03-06-2008, 11:01 PM
yesssssss. I get balletbaby love!

*dances*

BalletBaby
03-06-2008, 11:17 PM
yesssssss. I get balletbaby love!

*dances*

Is it summer yet? *taps foot impatiently*

/threadjack

TBE
03-06-2008, 11:37 PM
Short asnwer : No.
Long answer : The less time I spend with someone, the more I like them.
Not a fan of "hanging out".
Not a fan of partying.
Don't care for talking on the phone.
Add that all up and no I don't have friends. It's by choice. When I have them I can't say that I am a good friend. I like having "me time". Only real company I need on a daily basis is my dog. I don't have any social issues, I just like spending time by myself.

X Evan X
03-07-2008, 12:16 AM
At this point in my life true friends are worth more to me than anything I've managed to accumulate over the years. I am lucky enough to have quite a few very close friends. They mean the world to me and I would be terribly sad if I ever had to move away from any of them although we would remain just as close despite the distance. They share my happiness, they share my pain, and very importantly they keep my sometimes-retarded ass in check when I need it.

I would gladly give up every last thing I own before I would ever abandon the people who genuinely care about me and my well being. I hope that each one always knows just how much they mean to me.

-E

Paris
03-07-2008, 12:35 AM
This depends on your defination of friends. If you mean people that you like and trust, then, yes I have many.

If you mean people who are like family, then I only have a few.

Brendita
03-07-2008, 01:29 AM
I have one friend, and we don't really do things, go places....every great once in a while we'll venture out together, but it works for us.

Ditto. ;)

echomadison
03-07-2008, 04:34 AM
I dont really have friends either...I have people I hang out with and I have my roommates but I dont have a "best friend" per se. Not too long ago this was not the case, I had a best friend actually a couple...now they just kinda went away.
One due to the fact that I now have a boyfriend and he was "in love" with me which I knew but thought was a non-issue.
The other is just fucking crazy and bipolar so she has no clue what she wants or needs and I was an easy scapegoat to her problems.
The last and most recent started getting heavily back into drugs and I dont want anything to do with it. I tried to talk to her, to no avail, so I wont enable her any longer....

kisskiss
03-07-2008, 10:31 AM
Unfortunately once I tarted dancing all my "friends" didn't approve and stopped calling me or were "too busy" when I called ::) My bestest friend is my bf too! That's okay we don't mind :) My social life is basically at my club anyways. The girls there, we're all in the same boat socially also.

LiveFree
03-07-2008, 10:36 AM
Friendships are depressing..

Daisa
03-07-2008, 11:33 AM
When I was younger, I had tons of friends. Now I definitely go for quality over quantity. It is very hard for me to make new friends due to the fact that I tend to bail at the first sign of flakiness. The two things I can't stand in a person are flaking and being two-faced.

Mare
03-07-2008, 03:24 PM
I have acquaintances but no true friend(s) at the moment. i am always looking, but I don't "party" and I'm older. So that zeros out my potential at work. And the last chick I worked with and hung out with for 2 years turned out to be a scumbag. She lost our friendship over asking my ex husdband for $. If she had ever met him in person she would have slept with him just to get whatever she could and move on. I started to realize this was her m.o. and dumped her when she attempted that shit.
So at least i like myself and I love my bf so I'm ok for now. It does suck that most people are flakes.

velvet
03-07-2008, 03:44 PM
timely topic for me. since i lost my best friend almost 4 years ago i havent had a close female friend since. i'm really starved for female companionship.
i have one other close friend (18 years worth!) but she lives across the state so we dont see each other. one other that is an ex that i'm close with but she has a psycho girlfriend so that gets in the way.
i just want a BFF that i can hang with ect and i just havent found her yet. it sucks

pookie
03-07-2008, 05:08 PM
im a sad panda. 4 of my friends deleted me on myspace. They were real friends too. one of them has it so only ppl she is friends with can message her.
she broke up with her bf.
and i sent her messages asking how she is. and i thought everything is fine. now im not on her list. i would not be such a deal if i lived near her or had her phone number. but i dont. i dunno what to do.

VegasPrincess
03-07-2008, 06:09 PM
I would like to add that I consider you guys on here friends, even tho I haven't met most of you IRL.

In my real life I have a lot of friends. Im very lucky to have a tight knit group of friends that I have known 4ever. And I live with my bf so he is usually around too...

That said, I sometimes wish I was more of a loner. I have NO idea how I moved to Vegas by myself....well actually, I guess I made some friends quickly...anyway I hate to be alone. Hate it. I feel so much better just knowing somebody else is around they dont have to be talking to me or anything. I think thats why I like this site so much. I feel like you guys are in my living room kicking it with me :)

VegasPrincess
03-07-2008, 06:10 PM
i i dunno what to do.

maybe myspace one of her really good friends to pass along word that youre wprried??

BrunetteGoddess
03-07-2008, 07:30 PM
I'm a loner. Most of the time I think it's by choice, but I do get lonely periods.

stellaforstars
03-07-2008, 07:53 PM
Ya know...I really DON'T have friends. I have, maybe 2 that I see on even a semi-regular basis (at least once every few weeks). I also have plenty of people I'm friendly with. But just not that many friends...excepting you ladies and gents, of course.

Pretty_Penny
03-07-2008, 09:51 PM
my "best friend" lives in another state. i have a couple other close friends who live in other states. as far as people who live in my city.. i have a group of maybe 10 friends. i'm really close to say, 1/2 of them and the other 1/2 i'm still good friends with. then i have maybe 10 more friends i only see out at clubs/concerts/parties.

but all in all... i mostly hang out with the same 4 or 5 people.

BrunetteGoddess
03-07-2008, 10:23 PM
Honestly I actually wish I had more girlfriends. I have 2, and then 2 good guy friends.....and that's about it.

Does any girl on here feel weird around other women? Like, I feel less girly and like I'm constantly being judged and thought I'm weird by other women. That's why I don't have many girlfriends :(

sunnie
03-08-2008, 02:09 AM
I don't have alot of girlfriends because I don't go out alot outside of work or do the typical friend stuff like go shopping etc. I go alone. I do have my best friend ever who lives in CA. One Baltimore and a few here that are on the path but not 100% there yet. I would also say that Cameron is moving into the dangerous friend territory as well.

I have a few random guy friends but most of them are more like acquaintances. When you think about it it's hard to draw the line between the two.

I miss you :(

I have a few close friends spread out throughout the states. I would say I have like one or two friends from each life stage that I am really tight with. 3 from HS, 2 or 3 from college, scattered friends I met in other countries, and a couple in Florida including yours truly above.

It takes me a while to warm up to people...I like to stick to a small group of hardcore friends that a big group of flaky ones.

CinammonGirl
03-08-2008, 07:36 AM
Honestly I actually wish I had more girlfriends. I have 2, and then 2 good guy friends.....and that's about it.

Does any girl on here feel weird around other women? Like, I feel less girly and like I'm constantly being judged and thought I'm weird by other women. That's why I don't have many girlfriends :(



Yeah, because I've had bad experience with past female friends. Every girl I got close to has gotten jealous, or plays tricks behind my back. I feel like I'm constantly being judged too.


I recently met a new girl, and she seems pretty cool. Let's see how that goes. My most faithful friend is a guy.

hockeybobby
03-08-2008, 08:25 AM
My younger brother is my best friend. We talk on the phone a few times a week, sometimes every day, and we have no secrets. Of course we've been friends for 40 years, and will be likely for the rest of our lives. If that was it for friends, I think I'd be satisfied as I do enjoy solitude as well.

My neighbour buddy is someone I see almost every day. We play hockey together three times a week and make maple syrup together every year. I do lots of different things with him, lots of guy mischief. After that, I talk to my father every two weeks (he's in Florida), we're close...and I do random things with all my hockey teammates, meet at a bar, watch games, play pool, play in hockey tournaments. I have a co-worker I have lunch with a couple of times a month, and we belong to a hockey pool and get together with those guys a couple times a year. And there is a certain special stripper.

Like all of you, I have many acquaintances that enrich my life randomly in small ways. And I include all of you in that group. I have a wonderful life and I love to share and help others.:)
hb

BrunetteGoddess
03-08-2008, 10:01 AM
Sometimes I feel lame because my mom really IS my best friend. She's like the coolest woman ever, and even though she's older, we mesh well together hanging out because she doesn't want to just talk about bar hopping or parties. I myself am a bit mature for my age, and grew up more around my parents and their friends than kids my age. So talking to mom is easy and fun, and she has a way of acting like 'one of the girls' that's comforting. She even has a perverted sense of humor, and gives great advice.


See why I'm so sad that she's in the hospital right now? :(

veronicavale
03-08-2008, 11:25 AM
I have one best friend who I've known for 12 years! I also have a few acquaintances, but not many true friends. I've always been a loner myself as well. I think it has to do with moving around a lot as a kid.