View Full Version : When is "too old" to live at home?
dollyrocker
03-13-2008, 07:08 PM
I don't think theres such thing as being too old to live at home - as long as you're pulling your own weight (or if you're in college, at least contributing to the household in some way)! A lot of cultures have multiple generations living under the same roof. Anyone over 18 is way too old to be freeloading off ANYONE though. Unemployed musicians pushing 30 and freeloading off their girlfriends for example.... thats way worse than living at home, imo!
NikiS23
04-11-2008, 08:56 PM
I didn't read everyones comments but I read most and felt kinda bummed. I am unemployed (have been for a while...been considering seriously stripping to fix this issue for almost 2 years now). I have a slight learning disability have since I was very young...I have worked in the past but for some reason I just dont have common sense for numbers/math stuff...I know that sounds stupid but it's true so I decided to comment to this so you guys can consider that some people are better off at home. It's something with change and percentages that I just go blank on....I understand the concept but when I'm working at a cash register or somethign simliar...I always make mistakes...walmart almost fired me because of it (I quit though because instead of firing me for the reason they wanted to --*me messing up al ot with having too much or too little in the register-most that was gone was 20--im suprised they ddint accuse me of stealing but i guess they would have nkown if i did cuz of the cameras...anywhoo they decided to say I didn't come into work for a few days which was untrue but I had no real proof)....I also worked at a nursing home twice...THAT job was going well, but it was mentally taxing on me...the abuse in nursing homes is sickening is all I will say...plus the manager was my mother in law.... it was not a good combo.
It took me until I was 18 for me to look at a clock with hands and understand what time it is...I'm not exactly sure what my problem IS or if theres even a true name for my problem other then im dumb with numbers (i can add, subtract, multiply and divide....so im not dumb dumb but still). I was in "special" maths from elementary school until I graduated...it was really imbarassing but I couldn't help it.
Anywhoo, tried getting hired at places as a stock girl but no one would hire me for that...every job I ended up being thrown on the cash register while warning them I seriously do abad job at it....and then them coming to me weeks later and showing me all the mistakes I had made...it's like I KNOW I would i told you so! People seem to not beleive that it's a real prbolem with me and it has nothing to do with being lazy my brains just slow with stuff like that.
So now that I explained that issue...THATs why i'm unemployed...however, i am married and my wonderful husband works a full time job....we pay rent (250 a month which isn't much but it pays for the water and electricity that we use, we pay for pizza some weekends, and buy odds and ends that my mom needs while we're out at the store and dont ahve her pay us back because it's just the nice thing to do). We buy our own groceries, I do all the house work....husband and I do all the yard work- snow shoveling, mowing etc the only thing I dont do that my mom does is her own laundry she just perfers to do her own.
Another jaw dropper for you guys about me is I dont have my license yet..never did the test yet..so yes ofcoures i dont drive. I'm excited though because im renewing my permit either tomorrow or sometime this week I cannot wait...at almost 24 years old im ready to drive my own ass around. Curious why I haven't gotten my license yet? Fear issues from a really bad wreck I was in when I was 18....I got my permit when I was 17 but my mom wouldnt let me get my license because she wouldnt take me out driving enough *because it paranoid her...go figure...*...so when the wreck happened at 18...taht fear stayed with me for a while...i still cannot go in a vehicle with someone i am not used to being a passenger with because it...and my heart about jumps through my throat if I feel we're too close to another vehicle etc...but anywho...im biting the bullet and doing what I should be doing...working on getting my license. My husband and my mom both didnt want me to get it...but i did.
By the way...I moved out of my parents house when I was 18 to live with my then boyfriend (same guy who is my hubby now) but for financial reasons moved back in with my parents at the age of 22.
License, getting a stripping job....may eventually be able to fly the coop and be atleast a little bit away from home. My mom has lupus...so she apprecaites us being here to help her...sometimes she is in so much pain i have ot help her put or take off her clothes....but most days she can deal on her own...but I'd like to be near by just incase she still needs help.
Kay...soo hopefully you guys realize now everyone is lazy who is still at home with their parents some have deep issues that keep them at home....i consider myself a "late bloomer" mentally and otherwise... I think im finnally ready to stop being so dependant tho...thank God.
Paris
04-11-2008, 09:57 PM
Many people live with their parents. I have a friend who is 28. She used to live on her own, but moved back in with her parents when they were having difficulty paying the bills. She as able to "rent" a room in their house to help with the family finances.
I've seen this a lot with people in their late 20-40's. The parents really need the financial help as much as the kids need it. I have another friend that lived with her parents for similar reasons. She only moved into her own place for the last couple of years, and she's 38. She is actually shopping for a house right now because her father recently passed away, and she is going to move her mom in with her.
I think as long a parent stop "raising" their kids when the kids become adults, this should work just fine. Unfortunately, in western culture, parents seem to think that they need to keep controlling their off-spring forever.
CinammonGirl
04-11-2008, 10:06 PM
Unfortunately, in western culture, parents seem to think that they need to keep controlling their off-spring forever.
I thought it was the other way around. :-[ People tell me that you're supposed to do whatever you want once you hit 18 in Western culture.
I remember when I was 18 and a senior in highschool, I had to call my mom to tell her where I was at and I had to be home by 12. Everyone was like "You're 18..what the fuck?"