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jessica_rabbit
03-13-2008, 03:02 AM
<hugs> I've been both a cheater, and cheated on, and both sides of the situation suck equally. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish I could give you some advice, but I'm really at a loss right now when it comes to relationships. All you can really do is have faith that things will work out for the best no matter how bad it seems right now.

Vyanka
03-13-2008, 07:02 AM
Oh God, I totally read this story at first wrong. Dur dur. I thought it was a friend of the cousin. But yeah, the cousin did it worse...he's family. He's a douche.

Anyway Hannah, i'm so sorry you're feeling like that. You are a good woman bc you came clean. You have a good heart. Bc I were in your shoes, i'd keep my mouth shut, ignore him, and move my punk ass out the city. lol. You were brave!

I hope things work out for you honey, feel better. :-*

Lola Rose
03-13-2008, 08:29 PM
I just wanted to send you a :hug:, and tell you you're in my thoughts, and I'm hoping for the best for you.

Dottie Rebel
03-14-2008, 12:51 AM
^^Me too!! :)

hannah83
03-15-2008, 03:20 AM
Thanks girls, I had a weak moment earlier in the night. I texted him.

Got no response. ::) Should've known better.

MixedBabe88
03-15-2008, 01:13 PM
Eh, you learned and made a big mistake.
I am sure there won't be a next time. As much as it hurts now, you learn from making mistakes.

AlexxaHex
03-16-2008, 06:18 PM
I honestly think you did everything you could to remedy the situation, and it sounds like he is not mature enough to be decent about it. I know how much it sucks to be cheated on, but that doesn't give him a free license to be verbally abusive. Sure, you made a mistake but he is losing out on a good person.
I hope you find strength to help you move on.

hannah83
03-17-2008, 11:08 PM
Just wanted to thank you all again. It really meant alot and put the whole situation into perspective for me. I agree that he shouldn't have said some of the things that he did, but then again...I shouldn't have done some of the things I did. He was just trying to hurt me because of all the hurt I did to him.

Doesn't make it right, but I understand why he did it. I did recieve a text back, and he said he needed his tax stuff mailed asap and to not text him ever again. Harsh. But I'll respect his wishes.

I did write that letter, it's currently sitting on my bed. I'm not sure if/when I'll send it. I'm kind of afraid that it would make things worse. I just wish I could do something to make it better, or at least let him know how horrible I feel.

It's getting easier each day to not speak to him, to not have him be a part of my life. But it still hurts alot. I lost not only a boyfriend, but my best friend. I feel kind of, well, numb. Like I'm here, but not really, more like I'm in limbo. I just can't wait until I'm back to "normal" and can start to heal.

Life teaches you lessons every single day, I just hope I never have to relearn this one again.

Dottie Rebel
03-17-2008, 11:26 PM
Wow. As diffcult as it seems right now, he is probably doing you a favor by making such a decisive, clean break. He obviously isn't cut out to make it with you for the long haul. At best he'd probably always hold it over your head and never let you forget it.

You're going to move on and grow and get over what ever it is within you that caused this situation in the first place and you're going to find someone to suit you at that point in your life.

Ugh. I should just stop. I'm not going to say anything that will make you feel any better right now. But I've been thinking about you through this whole thing and I really wish you the best.

Lola Rose
03-18-2008, 10:27 AM
Ugh. I should just stop. I'm not going to say anything that will make you feel any better right now. But I've been thinking about you through this whole thing and I really wish you the best.

That's pretty much how I feel.

Even if you never send the letter, the work and growth it took to write is very healing. I wish you all the best.

thechaosfairy
03-19-2008, 07:37 AM
Send the letter with the tax stuff. You'll get a clean break that way, not have to draw it out -- either he responds, or he doesn't.

jaizaine
03-19-2008, 08:00 AM
I did this to my very first boyfriend. I was only 19 and a half but I had been with him for 3 and a half years. I didn't sleep with the other guy, just fooled around but when i got home i threw up i was so sick with guilt. I wasn't drunk or anything, just got carried away. The next day I told him and he cried and I felt like the lowest piece of crap ever.

But the thing is, we are only human, we do sometimes give in to temptation even when we love someone dearly. You are not a terrible person.

It's prob for the best that you are not together babe, I know it hurts now but it's hard for a relationship to recover from cheating. Esp in your situation coz it's his cousin so he is gonna have to see him and then it will just keep reminding him of it.