View Full Version : Men and Female Office Fashions?
Zinaida
03-16-2008, 11:09 AM
lol...you think going to work without a bra is appropriate? anyway, to answer your question. no
I don't have big breats, it's not like they'd be all over the place.
Zinaida
03-16-2008, 11:10 AM
Still, she was never looked at the same way again by
most of the people in that office.
She needed a few lessons on discreteness.
BrunetteGoddess
03-16-2008, 11:26 AM
Erm...the way you're talking about dressing doesn't scream 'discrete' to me in a business setting :-\
yoda57us
03-16-2008, 01:10 PM
She needed a few lessons on discreteness.
Um....what she needed was an alarm clock.
The moral of yoda's little parable seems to have shot right past you...ah well, best of luck with your wardrobe dilemma...
Zinaida
03-16-2008, 01:51 PM
Erm...the way you're talking about dressing doesn't scream 'discrete' to me in a business setting :-\
Dressing slutty doesn't mean you've been banging people at work.
Besides, when I was banging that guy at the bank and I dressed slutty, no one suspected a thing. My other female coworker dressed sluttier than me at times and no one would have thought she was banging anybody there because of it. (She wasn't.) No one suspected anything at the dealership either.
BrunetteGoddess
03-16-2008, 01:54 PM
Discrete can apply to dress attire as well. Why create more attention to yourself than necessary? Even if you don't do it for attention, you WILL get it. Wanted or not. And that can lead to some undesirable consequences.
Like someone else said, I think the problem here is you need an outlet, ie a social life.
xdamage
03-16-2008, 03:45 PM
Discrete can apply to dress attire as well. Why create more attention to yourself than necessary? Even if you don't do it for attention, you WILL get it. Wanted or not. And that can lead to some undesirable consequences.
One things I have observed...
People tend to be competitive, especially in the work place where they are, in some ways, competing for the security of their own future. Outside of the sex worker business, in many businesses they tend not to take kindly then to "unfair" advantage, in this case, using sexuality to get ahead. The problem with sexuality is that not everyone can compete equally. It can definitely be an advantage if you got it, but for the rest of the workers, they compete based on their skills, work ethic, experience, etc. Those who dress in a provocative way mark themselves in the eyes of the rest of the workers, sometimes for the worse.
And of course as a woman's career advances in her 40s, 50s, 60s, her sex appeal will probably decrease. It is possible to get ahead without use of excess sex appeal. It is also possible to be left behind by peers who didn't have it or depend on it all along.
There are exceptions of course, like modeling, but those tend to be short-term careers to begin with, and few plan to keep on working in those industries in their 40s-60s.
Jenny
03-16-2008, 04:05 PM
Dressing slutty doesn't mean you've been banging people at work. No. It just means that you look like you are trying to bang people at work. And that just doesn't look nice. Although - really at this point you either understand that or you don't.
Katrine
03-16-2008, 04:06 PM
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We often hear people say they dress strictly for themselves, but when you read between the lines, including the lines above, I'll be totally honest... it's a zen thing... dressing to be sexually provocative when there is no other sex is like a tree falling in a forest making no sound.
Exactly. When I dress for myself, I am naked, or in a robe/sweats if its cold. The only reason to wear clothing and care for our appearance aside from basic hygiene is for the benefit of others. And that benefit isn't sexual per say, its social norm.
doc-catfish
03-18-2008, 04:31 PM
That's the thing. I don't dress like this for a reaction or so guys will think I'm hot. I'm not a flirt either, unless I'm going after the guy lol. I dress the way I dress because I like it. I have liked the same type of clothes since I have been a kid(ever since that En Vogue video), it has nothing to do with trying to get a rise out of guys.
I'm all for self-expression too, but there's a time and a place. Even guys you meet at motorcycle rallies understand that.
Save your "fun" clothes for when you're having fun.
I think it's in the guy's head regardless of the clothing. I have this fantasy thing going on regarding a woman that works at my bank. She dresses professionally but couldn't be hotter even if she wore "sexy" clothes to work. My radar is pretty weak nowadays and I think I blew an opportunity with her a few months ago. Blah.
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