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RoseLeigh
03-16-2008, 05:16 AM
So glad it's not just me! A lot of the people I grew up with are spawning and of course, I'll 'change my mind'. I told myself at about 25 that I'd think about it at 30. At 30, I was all EWWWW. Heh. Crazy cat lady time!

As for the Barbies, I had Jem dolls (no idea how those got past religious-mom!), so my dolls were rocking out, not having babies!

ellebelle
03-16-2008, 07:20 AM
Absolutely not. I can't even look after myself.

GoldCoastGirl
03-16-2008, 07:25 AM
I had "My Childs" and various other toys that I took care of like a baby. I do have nurturer tendencies however overall those tendencies are gladly given to animals. I will baby sit and/or play with my friends' children however ultimately.. no thank you.. not full time !

thechaosfairy
03-19-2008, 07:26 AM
If people are still haranguing me about it when I'm thirty, I'll lie and say I'm sterilized. =)

The penis-having individual in my life is, but explaining that confuses people for some reason....

jaizaine
03-19-2008, 07:39 AM
I have been thinking about this a lot lately. I have been trying to think of it in diff ways than just "ewwwwww no way". But I never seem to be able to think of me as a parent and being happy. I dont think I would be happy and I dont think I would be a good mother either.

My partner has no interest in children either.

In a way I wish I felt differently but I just don't.

I dont give a fuck what is socially acceptable or what society thinks I should do either.

I think it's far more socially acceptable to choose not to be a parent than to be a terrible one.

loveandluxury
03-19-2008, 07:46 AM
I want to commend the people that don't want children and aren't going to bring one into the world just because its the "normal" thing to do. I have an almost 2 year old, and he wasn't planned nor did I want to have a baby when I was 20 but shit happens. I certainly don't want anymore and while I get frustrated with my son sometimes, I still love him and he rocks :)

SexyJess
03-19-2008, 10:08 AM
My husband and I have decided that we do want one child.... only one. This was decided after a lot of talking and we feel that we could eventually comfortably provide for, love and care for one child. This took a lot of pressure off me. I do want to be a mother, but I want to wait (I'm 26 now, he's 29, I see it happening in two years) until we have done things we want to do- traveled, saved, etc. I also only want to go through pregnancy once. I want to make sure that child is well cared for financially, too- 'cause holy crap, kids are expensive. :)

The response to this has been overwhelming- and not in a good way. People call us selfish for depriving our future child of siblings. They swear we will change our minds and think it's cruel to only have one! It's ridiculous. My cousin is an only child and he had a great childhood. I swear, we get more lectures when we tell people we only want one than when we used to say we weren't sure we wanted any at all. Why can't people just butt out and let us decide for ourselves?

As for the biological clock.... yes and no. Most of the time, I don't feel any kind of pressure or desire to get knocked up. Every once in awhile I remind myself that I am 2-4 years older than most of my best friends and think, "Uh oh, I better get on it...." But I usually shut that stupid inner voice up with a martini, because 26 is still damn young and I've got plenty of time. :)

greenidlady1
03-19-2008, 11:36 AM
I don't want kids either but I still think as animals our bodies want to reproduce. I think that's why women who aren't on the pill get hornier than ever in their thirties. I also think we subconsciously or consciously even seek out sex or a mate when we are ovulating. The good news is while our bodies want it or minds know better (for those of that don't), therefore, we hopefully use some method of birth control. So, I do believe we still have a "biological clock" whether we want to have children or not, we just mute the ticking.

VaVaVoom
03-19-2008, 05:22 PM
I agree with pretty much everyone elses reasons for not wanting kids

1. Unachieved, non-mother friendly goals.
2. I like having disposable income/free time/spontaneity/loud, frequent sex
3. I just dont enjoy them in general

I can see how some aspects of being a parent are probably very rewarding and make all the sacrifices worth it in the end - but the reality of screaming/crying/shitting/vomiting babies, power struggles with bratty toddlers that only escalate more and more until they are selfish, moody teenagers who hate and/or are ashamed of you really makes it hard for me to crave.

I'm even in the relationship, and while I can see the romance of having a family I just dont think it will happen.

RoseLeigh
03-19-2008, 05:29 PM
I don't want kids either but I still think as animals our bodies want to reproduce. I think that's why women who aren't on the pill get hornier than ever in their thirties. I also think we subconsciously or consciously even seek out sex or a mate when we are ovulating. The good news is while our bodies want it or minds know better (for those of that don't), therefore, we hopefully use some method of birth control. So, I do believe we still have a "biological clock" whether we want to have children or not, we just mute the ticking.

Hmm. Well I'm not sure I muted it on purpose or anything. I do think some of us are less maternal than others, naturally. Or at least less maternal towards actual babies. I'll mother the hell out of a kitty, or a hurting friend, but I get all squicky around babies.

Do we really search out sex when ovulating? I thnk I read something about that. I suppose my mating call is "What the F**k do you WANT?" while stealing all the salt and chocolate. ;D I get wicked mini-PMS for a day or two in the middle of the month...

VaVaVoom
03-19-2008, 05:46 PM
I don't want kids either but I still think as animals our bodies want to reproduce. I think that's why women who aren't on the pill get hornier than ever in their thirties. I also think we subconsciously or consciously even seek out sex or a mate when we are ovulating. The good news is while our bodies want it or minds know better (for those of that don't), therefore, we hopefully use some method of birth control. So, I do believe we still have a "biological clock" whether we want to have children or not, we just mute the ticking.


I think about this as well, and I think I'm one of those women who feels instinctively inclined towards motherhood but rationally opposed to it.

greenidlady1
03-19-2008, 05:53 PM
^^Yeah, I usually start having PMS about a week before I start bleeding. Grandma and I fight over the chocolate and salt, lol.

Lola Rose
03-19-2008, 06:08 PM
Hmm. Well I'm not sure I muted it on purpose or anything. I do think some of us are less maternal than others, naturally. Or at least less maternal towards actual babies. I'll mother the hell out of a kitty, or a hurting friend, but I get all squicky around babies.

Do we really search out sex when ovulating? I thnk I read something about that. I suppose my mating call is "What the F**k do you WANT?" while stealing all the salt and chocolate. ;D I get wicked mini-PMS for a day or two in the middle of the month...

I certainly do!!! I seriously want it like, 10x a day the few days before I Ovulate. I never felt like that on the pill.

also, it is funny, but the same responce a lot of you get from people about your choices to not have kids are the ones I get too!!!!! When I say I want 6 or more children, people always say i'm crazy/selfish and that I'll change my mind! ::)

RoseLeigh
03-19-2008, 06:32 PM
also, it is funny, but the same responce a lot of you get from people about your choices to not have kids are the ones I get too!!!!! When I say I want 6 or more children, people always say i'm crazy/selfish and that I'll change my mind! ::)

Haha, people are just nosy bastards. When I was in western PA though, all the people had a million kids (no kidding, like 8. Or 14. FOURTEEN!), usually right out of school. Oh, they were all over me, because I wasn't married and childbearin' by then (27).

Lola Rose
03-19-2008, 07:08 PM
Haha, people are just nosy bastards. When I was in western PA though, all the people had a million kids (no kidding, like 8. Or 14. FOURTEEN!), usually right out of school. Oh, they were all over me, because I wasn't married and childbearin' by then (27).

yep!!!