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torchemily
03-25-2008, 11:28 AM
I didn't mean to offend you by giving it the label that I did. If you are all comfortable with the idea of doing what you are doing, what does it matter if I use the word webster dictionary would give? If you are comfortable doing what you are doing, then be proud of it. Getting angry between the two words of "escort" and "prostitute" (if we're going to agree they mean the same thing), is the same as me getting upset if someone says "stripper" instead of "dancer." Once again, I'm sorry if I sounded offensive; it's just that I've always known escorts who have made that money as being company only, not selling sex. I guess it's different in other places. But regardless, good luck, and do be safe. From my girlfriends that do do the "sassafrassing," safety is the main issue. Make sure they're people you can trust.
CollegeCutie21
03-25-2008, 12:13 PM
Well thanks for that. You make a valid point, it had just struck a chord that I felt I needed to respond to. I guess we always have to remind ourselves it's difficult to portray a tone when typing rather than speaking.
Mimi NY
03-26-2008, 08:33 AM
I could do with some sassaffrassing. After a disastrous date in january I've avoided all men like the plague. But fuck I'm horny now. Sassafrass away girl: I think the difference is you have carefully considered the options, you aren't doing it with any old john, you're being discreet about it and not offering services in the club that could upset dancers who don't off those services - and hell, if he turns you on, better to be paid for anything rather than do it free, whoever it's with. If my Mr Jewish Nice Guy was still around you'd be sure I'd still call him up when I ran low on cash and sassaffrass. Unfortunately we're on different continents now.
good luck and stay safe!
margo80
03-30-2008, 10:58 AM
Every reasonably good dancer has the possiblity of making a LOT of money off regulars if she just meets him and has sex. There are some very hot men who are regulars of mine, some I'd enjoy dating outside the club. I don't. It's part of dancing to sway the minds of guys to not need to have actual sex with us, to be part of our fantasy-play while in the club, and not to view us as prostitutes. A prostitute is a dime-a-dozen piece(check out internet sites, etc.) and the girls who lack in seduction talent and take the route of having sex in the as dancers are ruining the industry. Guys want fantasy, as much as they beg for sex. I make a lot of money doing what I do, I enjoy it, respect myself, and have a lot of STEADY regulars. The dancers I know of who are having sex with customers seem to be the same ones struggling half the time and not with the quality customers. Somehow, it seems everything goes downhill, don't know why, and honestly don't care. A moment of big bucks isn't worth it for me, but we can decide for ourselves (although illegal not really, cause it is illegal to have sex for $).
margo80
03-30-2008, 11:23 AM
I read over some of the posts after writing my opinion, and see that I'm in the minority in that I don't think you should meet your regular. I see it's a more personal thread, with getting to know and like your regular. Hey, as for that, we are all adults, and I'm all for following the leads that life gives you, even if they are given in a strip club.
At my club, the dancers who meet guys OTC get used to the habit of making money off one, then the next is easier, ...Money is getting harder to make in this industry (look at all the threads re competing with extras) and where this is going on California, South Florida, for ex., the money goes down and down. Guys begin to expect more. They want to have a special relationship and meet OTC. They've had it before, now it's difficult for them to appreciate (pay for) the club experience. And the dancers who do meet outside just lose their customers eventually (guys really do seem to like the chase-don't want to pay her as much down the line, and move on to someone else (what I see)). It's a lose-lose for EVERYONE in the bigger picture, and it makes me angry to see the momentary, seeminly innocent OTC flings turn into what it has for the industry.
Anyway, good luck with your experience.
AudreyLeigh
03-30-2008, 02:58 PM
I dont have much to add except it go for it. Ive often thought about meeting one customer OTC. I took 6 months off dancing and we still keep in contact not to mention he knows almost everything about me. Hell, if I wasnt married Id probably date him. He actually sent me a text a few days ago about escorting. Funny part is when I had him come up to Reno to see me and we hung out in the VIP room he was sooo shy - and thats when I was actually considering it but I think hes all talk... lol... if I called him out and said yea, lets do it I think hed run the other way!
CollegeCutie21
03-30-2008, 10:24 PM
margo80 - I totally understand your point of view and I appreciate you expressing it. I want to make one thing clear, however, this is not a random customer for me. Nor have I entertained the idea of doing this with other customers. When we discussed all of this on his previous visit, I made clear that club business is in the club and OTC business is strictly OTC.
He is the kind of guy that I can say with confidence me spending OTC time with him will NOT affect the money inside the club. Plus, he only comes in once a month, and it is only to see me, so I am not affecting any other girls' money.
I am trying to be careful about this endeavor. Making it a well-thought out plan rather than a whim "I need the money" kind of situation.
I understand your view of how this could affect in-club situations, but I truly don't believe this one customer could change my club's dynamic.
But like I said, I appreciate all input.
velvet
03-30-2008, 10:56 PM
sometimes there are those rare regulars that you can cross the line with. i'm married now but in the past i did consider a rare few.
i dont think, how you explained it you would be hurting anyone. i say go for it if you are comfortable with the big picture. why not?
yoda57us
03-31-2008, 01:21 AM
Dancers are people, customers are as well. We are all only human. While it is true that certain a dynamic may work best for most in-club customer/dancer interactions it is also quite possible for two clear-thinking individuals to explore other options that can be mutually beneficial for both parties. It happens more often than people might realize and there is no reason that anybody has to get hurt.
I guess there is an argument that the guy could be in the club spending money on dancers if somebody wasn't willing to sleep with him OTC but I don't see much merit in that argument. If he is willing to pay for sex he is going to pay SOMEBODY for it and that is money that is simply not going to get spent inside the club on dancers-any dancers.
I completely agree that a dancer trolling her club for potential escorting clients is not good. The higher contact levels and customer expectations get the more people seem to try and blur the line between what a dancer does and what an escort does. I happen to enjoy the company of both but I am a firm believer in keeping the two occupations in separate venues.
margo80
03-31-2008, 03:44 PM
I must be missing something. As I said, I see no harm in meeting someone neutrally, and creating a relationship with him OTC if business isn't being had. Also, if a girl wants to be an escort, though I don't think it's very emotionally or physically healthy for her, I'd support her decision and hope for her the best. It's just the part of being a dancer, the role I work so hard to maintain the fantasy and create a good base of customers who KNOW it's against the rules in every strip club in the country to meet up with me and have sex, that is frustrating. At the club where I work, you won't have one girl tell you her customer isn't special and unique when she meets him for sex. Everyone knows that the customer who got special treatment will always expect it, so don't even bother. It's just that if every dancer only had the one special exception for getting a few extra bucks after work, it affects a good number of guys. I hope not to offend you, you sound really nice and genuine, but I see where it's getting hard to compete with the dancers meeting OTC at my club. It sounds like this is a one-time thing for you, though, so hopefully it works out for whatever way you're looking for it to.
xoxoGracexoxo
04-05-2008, 02:56 PM
^^I see where Margo is coming from. It's not about this particular situation with CC and her regular...ostensibly, she's not hurting anybody, and she's being very mature and responsible in thinking over this decision. (Hell, it's not like I've never considered escorting with the one or two regulars who were both attractive to me and could have afforded my asking price.)
But Margo isn't thinking about this one interaction, or this one dancer, or this one customer. She's thinking about how it effects the overall climate of the club, and the industry, if it slowly becomes the norm for dancers to escort with their regulars. It's a concern for me, too.
All I can say is, dancers have probably been sleeping with customers for longer than you'd think. A certain number of dancers have probably always slept with a certain number of their customers. I think in CC's particular situation, it seems to be relatively clear in both her mind and her customer's mind that this is a rare thing. They already have an established relationship, so it's not like he's going to go into the club the next day and expect the next girl he buys a dance from to get on his jimmy.
I've had only personal experience with anything close to this, and it was with a customer to whom I was VERY attracted, and might have slept with if I'd met him in the normal world. He came in a few times, spent a lot of money, and then wanted to make me his mistress. He had a relationship like this, or claimed he had, with another dancer at a club I used to work with. (I actually knew her slightly.) When I made it clear, after some soul-searching, that I wasn't going to go for that, he got very upset with me. Actually the only time I've had a customer yell such hurtful things at me. It was drama. After that he didn't come back.
Malena69
06-07-2008, 08:48 PM
So what happened? Did you end up doing it? The average rate for escorting around here seems to be like around $200-$250.
CollegeCutie21
06-12-2008, 07:07 AM
Sorry for no update! I haven't been around lately, just been busy.
We met in April and May and had a little "meeting" both times. Everything with dinner before my shift was the same, everything in the club was the same, but after I got off work we hung out more.
And he did spend what he said he would. :) $1000. I think April I got about 1250 from him total and I think May was about 1200. (It's hard to know exactly since it was so long ago and some of it was in club, therefore combined with what I made from other custies.)
We were supposed to have the June meeting this last week but I had some things come up and couldn't do it. :( He seemed bothered but not horribly so. Hopefully I didn't ruin it for July!
VegasPrincess
06-12-2008, 11:28 AM
^^^
You go girl!! So you went to dinner, he gave you 200 at the club and then 1000 in his hotel room... and you didn't even have to take off work?? Wow! That's awesome. Just call him between now and July to chat and I'm sure you will be in like flynt again! Sweet!
Malena69
06-12-2008, 06:39 PM
That's awesome!!! Good job!!