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hockeybobby
03-20-2008, 01:45 PM
Nice post Pan Dah.

BradC
03-20-2008, 01:47 PM
Nice post Pan Dah.

definitely, she got me there.

hockeybobby
03-20-2008, 02:21 PM
definitely, she got me there.

Well at least you've got somewhat of a sense of humour Brad. So you've got that going for you.

RoseLeigh
03-20-2008, 02:23 PM
So guys who go to upscale clubs are largely gentlemen, but guys who go to downscale ones are largely assholes? Interesting.

I would propose that the opposite is more likely true!

I'm a big ol Northerner, but I have dealt with some very nice Southern gentlemen-good manners, calling me ma'am, the whole works. Yes, even in an sc, land of no manners. ;D

Crow2
03-20-2008, 02:27 PM
Brad. I was always taught, if you don't have anything nice to say. Hush. So in your case...... I'm hushing ;)

doc-catfish
03-20-2008, 02:34 PM
i would say that it would be obvious that if you go to the bottom of the barrell club and expect anything special from either side of the table (girl or guy) that you'll likely be underwhelmed. what do you think?
I don't know dude. Not living in a large city, I don't have scads of options available within a reasonable drive, and within those options there's not that much elevation from the "bottom of the barrel" to the supposed "top". You'll see about the same mix of people, dancers and patrons alike, at most any of them.

But speaking from experience, I've encountered far snottier attitudes from dancers in million dollar Las Vegas palaces than any dive I've frequented around here.

velvet
03-20-2008, 03:08 PM
Bless your heart, are you just a touch confused sugar? I'm southern obviously. Its sort of obvious.

I'm not looking for a date, love or a long term relationship. Just that fella that I'M USED to dealing with.

He's a NICE guy. Not a suit and tie man but he looks nice. He smells good. He looks one in the eye and he dosent giggle like a twelve year old girl when I say ... well. Hello there.

He says please and , why thank you honey.
He also asks where his hands can go and he smiles a lot at my jokes, even if they are corny.

He tips my favorite waitress and invites my friends to come sit. He's a tease and he also says goodbye when its time to go and hugs my neck.

That in a few small paragraphs is my thoughts and experience about how a southern man behaves. THIS is what I miss.

There's just something magnetic about a man from the south. Perhaps its the drawl. Or perhaps its that little boy cheeky grin.

The scruffy I look good but I haven't shaved in two days oh my goodness sort of guy. Wishful thinking. As always.


i love those guys. even though i'm from florida. all my family is from GA, TN,AK and the Carolinas so i love the southern men.

of course i get the bless his heart comment!

Crow2
03-20-2008, 04:14 PM
There's another one that goes with bless your heart. How nice.

Tauries
03-20-2008, 10:31 PM
Where are all the southern gentlemen?
It seems like they are a dying breed.

Well mah dear Crow2...perhaps if you would be so kind as to point me out a true southern belle then it would be mah distinct pleasure to show her a real ball;) .

Crow2
03-20-2008, 11:43 PM
Well mah dear Crow2...perhaps if you would be so kind as to point me out a true southern belle then it would be mah distinct pleasure to show her a real ball;) .


Real ball? Oh sure, that sounds like lots of fun. * cough *

Southern LADIES are all around you if you look in the right place and if your of course southern.

Anyway, I'm just happy that my regional male counterpart is somewhat alive and kicking.

Tauries
03-20-2008, 11:50 PM
Real ball? Oh sure, that sounds like lots of fun. * cough *

Southern LADIES are all around you if you look in the right place and if your of course southern.

Anyway, I'm just happy that my regional male counterpart is somewhat alive and kicking.

I was hoping you would get the humor and not be a "snappy cooter"...but then again being "bent" has never bothered me:) .


*Makes Crow2 a "Mint Julep" and meself a "Kremlin Colonel"*;) Cheers Mah dear!!

GeorgeBailey
03-21-2008, 05:47 AM
First off, I have a hard time putting labels on myself; I leave that to others. I do endeavor to act courteously to both men and women. I open doors for both sexes, say please and thank you, yes ma'am and yes sir, and generally try to be helpful. I find that it doesn't cost much and most always pays back, though I don't act with that expectation.

I'm not sure where you come from Yek, but here in NC there are still plenty of men who engage in the behaviors that most classify as gentlemanly. Come visit us sometime! : )

Susan Wayward
03-21-2008, 09:16 AM
of course i get the bless his heart comment!

Caught that too. (http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showpost.php?p=1206355&postcount=2)

cameron_keys
03-21-2008, 09:34 AM
i'm a vip at the lodge in dallas, and i have to say that most of the guys upstairs are pretty good guys, along with most of them downstairs for that matter, but i think that it's an exception. .

Which is it? Is it most of them or are they the exception? You are contradicting yourself

crizgolfer
03-21-2008, 11:22 AM
Which is it? Is it most of them or are they the exception? You are contradicting yourself

Cam...I think he was referring to the clientele in The Lodge being an exception when compared to the clientele in most other clubs. I have been in this particular club several times and I understand what he is saying. It is real nice and the quality of customer is high and the standards and expectations in the club are real high.

It is a true Gentlemen's Club...IMO...

cameron_keys
03-21-2008, 12:07 PM
ah..ok,criz that makes more sense.

That said...I expect guys to trip over their tongues and be a bit awkward maybe in a club full of gorgeous naked women. I do NOT expect them to turn from nice upstanding gentleman into complete douchebags. MY intelligence doesnt fall out of my ass when my clothes come off...my lack of clothing shouldnt make yours fall out either.

crizgolfer
03-21-2008, 12:44 PM
ah..ok,criz that makes more sense.

That said...I expect guys to trip over their tongues and be a bit awkward maybe in a club full of gorgeous naked women. I do NOT expect them to turn from nice upstanding gentleman into complete douchebags. MY intelligence doesnt fall out of my ass when my clothes come off...my lack of clothing shouldnt make yours fall out either.

I would be a perfect gentleman as you drained every last dime out of my pocket...;)

stellaforstars
03-21-2008, 01:03 PM
Having spent some time working at the Lodge, I feel comfortable in saying...

No. The men are not true Southern gentlemen.

And may I just jump in on the "Bless you darling little heart, BradC!" train?

Bridgette
03-21-2008, 02:36 PM
K, apparently there was a bit of misunderstanding regarding me having a guy order for me. I tell him what I want and let him order it. I am NOT letting anyone choose for me unless I'm in that *rare* mood or we happen to be in a restaurant I know nothing about and he does. And then I just ask for suggestions or whatever.

The sidewalk thing. Round here (and some other places) it's customary for the man to walk on the outside of the sidewalk, nearest the street. I like it.

I am 100% positive the fact I enjoy such things does not detract even the tiniest bit from my personal independence or equality as a human being. I find it quite amusing when some women get all bent out of shape because a man wants to practice a little chivalry.


Oh, and coming from the south myself, I get the "bless your heart" line too. There's plenty of southerners round these parts ;)

TheTempest
03-21-2008, 10:57 PM
K, apparently there was a bit of misunderstanding regarding me having a guy order for me. I tell him what I want and let him order it. I am NOT letting anyone choose for me unless I'm in that *rare* mood or we happen to be in a restaurant I know nothing about and he does. And then I just ask for suggestions or whatever.

The sidewalk thing. Round here (and some other places) it's customary for the man to walk on the outside of the sidewalk, nearest the street. I like it.

I am 100% positive the fact I enjoy such things does not detract even the tiniest bit from my personal independence or equality as a human being. I find it quite amusing when some women get all bent out of shape because a man wants to practice a little chivalry.


Oh, and coming from the south myself, I get the "bless your heart" line too. There's plenty of southerners round these parts ;)

I don't think you personally see it as a detraction from your personal independence because the way you've described these chivalrous scenarios - you essentially TELL him to do these nice little things. Like, "be a dear and worship me". ;D

And I do get a little miffed when people open certain doors for me. If it's not a date situation, I don't like it if a man opens the car door for me. It strikes me as an attempt to move the association to the next level. Most of the time I won't get too mad at this, but I will jump in the car, lean across the driver seat and pop open the door from the inside. :)

(Odysseus - :P)

Nini Nieb
03-22-2008, 01:23 AM
I like it when men acting like a gentleman and I like being treated like a lady. It's no big deal to me. It's just fun. But it is good fun. My mom's generation somewhat spoiled that. But I think we are gaining that back. Boys and girls wanna be different !?

I don't mind when I'm leaving 7/11 a super/bum open the door for me. * Thanks !! Have a nice day *

When I'm out on a first/date I expect my date to order for me. That way he is indicated that he is paying the bill. Showing me that he is a generous guy that is cabeable taking care of me. Beyond we may go dutsch - depending ... But I still assume he to order for me ... It's a part of the game ...

Be generous !!!

Nini Nieb
03-22-2008, 01:24 AM
I like it when men acting like a gentleman and I like being treated like a lady. It's no big deal to me. It's just fun. But it is good fun. My mom's generation somewhat spoiled that. But I think we are gaining that back. Boys and girls wanna be different !?

I don't mind when I'm leaving 7/11 a super/bum open the door for me. * Thanks !! Have a nice day *

When I'm out on a first/date I expect my date to order for me. That way he is indicated that he is paying the bill. Showing me that he is a generous guy that is cabeable taking care of me. Beyond we may go dutsch - depending ... But I still assume he to order for me ... It's a part of the game ...

Be generous !!!

cameron_keys
03-22-2008, 11:11 AM
I never understand why anyone would be mad at someone doing something nice for you. If someone(male or female) opens a door or holds an elevator or whatever for me..I say thank you and appreciate the kindness.
I make it a point(or try to at least)to do the same. If someone is coming in a store (or out) right behind me, I hold the door open. If I see someone with an armful of bags(or like a woman a few weeks ago in LA...struggling with a twin stroller) I open the door for them. It irks me when people just walk on through without saying thank you. Its not my JOB to open the door for you(and even if it was...still say thank you)...I was being NICE. Is saying a simple thank you as you go on your way really that difficult? It should be automatic.

Unfortunately,neither common sense nor common courtesy are all that common anymore.

virgoamm
03-22-2008, 11:22 AM
I remember when I was living in Seattle, my bf at the time worked at Amazon.com. He saw two women walking up to the entrance and held the door open for them (he's a southerner too). They purposefully ignored him, gave him a snarky look and went through the door right beside him. >:(

virgoamm
03-22-2008, 11:35 AM
just out of curiosity, how was he manipulative? i'm not a "regular" anywhere, btw.

Hmmm, maybe you should read it again.

Bless your heart... :P

UtahMike
03-22-2008, 11:05 PM
I have always opened doors for everyone, because I have always felt that it is a bit arrogant to go ahead of someone through a door, like I think I am better than they are. Exceptions: when there is a line of people all going through the same door, and when I am rushing to the men's room and a few seconds means that I will make it in time.

But now I have reached the age where people want to open the door for me, out of respect. This makes it hard, because when I hold a door for a lady younger than I am, she often says, "After you." Then, I say, "No, after you. I don't want my grandmother turning over in her grave because I didn't hold the door for you." This usually works.

I do usually walk on the street side, but only to shield milady from being splashed by passing carriages.

But the only time I order for someone else is when I am at the drive through window.