View Full Version : What DON'T you like about being a stripper
nicole84
03-20-2008, 01:26 PM
oh wow, lets see...
1)drunk asshole customers
2)having to pretend the above mentioned asshole is actually interesting
3)having guys look at me like I have three heads when they find out i'm smart
4)the toll it takes physically
5)dealing with the few girls in every club who are drama queens and bitches
6)having to pretend I actually enjoy above mentioned assholes hands on me(two way contact is allowed in our CRs)
7)having a sore throat at the end of the night from yelling over the music
8)dancing to crappy music
that's all I can think for now, but I'm sure there is more
Picaresque
03-20-2008, 01:59 PM
6)having to pretend I actually enjoy above mentioned assholes hands on me(two way contact is allowed in our CRs)
ugh, come to PA. In most places two-way is expected for a lousy $15 lapdance! :-\ Definitely high on my list of things I don't like about this job. Two-way is one thing when I'm in the CR getting paid at least a hundred, but for $15? Talk about selling myself way short.
(side note: you're back! How've you been/where are you working these days? PM me? :) )
Brendita
03-20-2008, 02:20 PM
I HATE talking to customers and trying to get them to like you. HATE IT!
Zinaida
03-20-2008, 02:35 PM
Here's the thing that's ridiculous though. I made a lot of money for that club (I know this, because I was usually on their top list of people that sold the most couch dances), but they still gave me the "miscarriage fee." There were a few times that they didn't give me a late fee, but I noticed that the longer I worked there(which wasn't long at all), the more fees they'd try to sucker me with...perhaps they did this to see if they could get away with it, and when they saw they could, they kept doing it? Perhaps I should have threatened to quit. Then again, I doubt it would have mattered...yeah I was (hate to brag, just being honest) one of the best looking girls there, but who cares about a 9 when there's still at least several dozen 6s, 7s, and 8s on the dance floor. :-\
Nothing wrong with acknowledging your own hotness level! And yeah, they'll try to stick people with fees for anything. You should see how many signs there were hanging in the dressing room all with different reasons for getting fined on them. They liked me because I was very flexible and would work whenever they needed me, most girls were very argumentative about scheduling.
Zinaida
03-20-2008, 02:36 PM
I HATE talking to customers and trying to get them to like you. HATE IT!
Me too. I've heard about clubs where you just walk up to guys, introduce yourself and them ask them if they want a dance, and they just go with you. Where the hell is that?!
Victoryx0x0
03-20-2008, 03:31 PM
Me too. I've heard about clubs where you just walk up to guys, introduce yourself and them ask them if they want a dance, and they just go with you. Where the hell is that?!
lol in our dreams
Pretty_Penny
03-20-2008, 03:40 PM
-customers who come in to drink and watch a free show
-customers who come in looking for extras or dates
-girls willing to give extras or dates
-lack of focus on/appreciation of ENTERTAINMENT.
-customers who can't keep their hands/mouth off of me
-customers who think it's "funny" or that they're winning some sort of "game" by not spending money and/or being as handsy/rude as possible
-customers who get off on being mean to the girls
-management trying to fuck girls (though i havent dealt with this in a long time, thanx to my current club)
-girls who will sit with customers forEVER without making money, thusly encouraging them.
-girls who get obnoxiously wasted/pilled out/coked up every single shift
-customers who basically stare at you like "then what's the point" if they "can't grope you everywhere/get a bj"
basically it boils down to this:
i've worked very hard at having a good stage show, being able to give great (ALBEIT CLEAN) dances, and knowing how to keep an entertaining conversation alive. i try to look my best and i put a lot of time (and money) into my appearance.
i want to be treated with respect, be paid for those above reasons and NOTHING MORE, and i want to be appreciated. i intend to be respectful and appreciative in return.
anything that varies outside of the above scenario is a whole heaping lot of "do not want".
krchab99
03-20-2008, 10:08 PM
working on my peird
Nasty toung gesture dude (i honeslty hate this)
the fact that i am addictied to dancing and always go back to work
house fees lol
dressing room drama
shasta
03-20-2008, 10:23 PM
I am losing one of my best friends.
Difficult with the guys I date.
Not telling my family.
krystalpink
03-20-2008, 11:03 PM
I hate that you get fined for everything like taking days off and having to do a roster... them taking a percentage of your funny money and stage tips. Having to go on stage and get naked for a dollar.. even if you don't want to. paying a high house fee, having to ask to go home... being told off if you get grabbed on the ass or tits and attack the customer or swear at him. shit security.. girls getting away with extras.. guys tying to bargain you for the price of a lap dance (I am not a market) guys that touch you with out asking, guys that ask you out or a phone no. guys that ask you how much your boob job was or "are they real"... bitchy girls that walk up to a customer you are talking to.. hiding my job to everyone.. this job ages you very quickly.. the cost and time to maintain yourself ie. hair, makeup, costumes, pedicures etc.
the toll it takes on your relationship (boyfriend).. the stress of a quiet night at work.
the stress of too many girls working on the same night as you.. guys that get obsessed with you. guys that see you on the street and call out your dancer name (happens if you live in a small city or town) people that go to a strip club and just "window shop" guys that think you work in a brothel and keep saying "I will give you x amount for sex"
I could go on and on....
scarlett_vancouver
03-20-2008, 11:43 PM
agents
small talk
drunk people
iluvbjork
03-21-2008, 01:03 AM
Agreed. And I don't like the tons of customers we get that decide they're in love with you because you're 'special' or 'different' and won't get dances because they 'respect' you too much to get dances/be a customer. UGH! >:(
I also can't stand the calluses I'm getting on my hands and knees and all of my leg bruises. But my leg and thigh muscles are lookin' really good! :D
Calluses?? Is this common? :-(
I love the stage, I wish it still was like those days where strippers just worked the stage and actually made money from it.
I just started but I am guessing I am going to hate lap dances, I still find it icky to touch strange unattractive or unappealing men, and maybe sore feet from those heels!
Bridgette
03-21-2008, 01:29 AM
That clubs aren't held legally liable for what goes in inside THEIR businesses when it comes to lewd dancing / contact laws. This creates an environment where they have every incentive to encourage, either directly or indirectly (by looking the other way), illegal sexual activity in order to make more money for themselves. The clubs would be MUCH cleaner if the OWNERS were held legally responsible - as they were in many places not too many years ago.
That clubowners get away with enforcing "employee" rules when it benefits them (schedules, etc), and independent contractor rules when it benefits them (they take large cuts of our sales, charge us fees to work and fines, no insurance, etc). Just let us be independent contractors and don't charge us anything to work, OR make us legit employees with insurance and all that, and keep half the dance money. One or the other.
This business would be sooooooooooo much better for all of us if just these two issues were fixed. Everything else is pretty trivial shit.
ixela
03-21-2008, 04:32 AM
- Girls who do "extras" in their private dances
- Excessive fines for small transgressions
- Not throwing out drunk or disorderly customers as they are spending money
- Working all night then trying to re-adjust body clock
- Management playing on our fears in order to treat us badly and not have us quit
- Gropers
- Being asked the same things over and over - "Is that your real name?" "Do your parents know you work here?" "Are those real?" "What's your day job?""Do you like girls?" *eyeroll*
- Discrimination against girls who aren't the most beautiful or have the best body - it seems the prettiest ones are always allowed to go home early or start late, no questions asked, and whatever else they want they seem to get
- Not getting a flat fee or hourly rate, so no tips means you've gotten naked for nothing
- Management changing the rules all the time - suddenly deciding something stupid like "no black costumes" or "no more rock music", or deciding to extend the club's opening hours without giving us notice
Zinaida
03-21-2008, 07:26 AM
Calluses?? Is this common? :-(
I love the stage, I wish it still was like those days where strippers just worked the stage and actually made money from it.
The shoes never bother my feet. They feel like slippers compared to what I would wear at my last job, but I've got little calluses on the palms of my hands from where I grip the pole the hardest and I've got rough spots under my knees from floorwork. :( I wish I could work at a stage only club too.
cameron_keys
03-21-2008, 08:03 AM
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- Management changing the rules all the time - suddenly deciding something stupid like "no black costumes" or "no more rock music", or deciding to extend the club's opening hours without giving us notice
That drives me CRAZY! I printed out a "letter to management" and posted it in the dressing room at my one club. It basically stated that if they add new rules or change them they need to post them clearly in the DR since we are not mind readers. I got tired of girls being yelled at for violating rules they didnt even know existed. Its hard enough to get girls here to follow LAWS(like not having sex in the back for $$) so they cant expect them to follow rules they dont even know about.,
They left it up for a long time too..I expected the managers or owners to yank it down in a hot minute but they didnt. And at least I(even though I didnt sign it...but I think they know me enough after working for them on and off for 7+ years that I'm the only one who would do such a thing!LOL) never had a problem with it again.
alessandra
03-21-2008, 08:48 AM
Bruises on my knees from the stage.
Lack of control over when I'm working [scheduled club].
The fines if I'm late to work or call out (even if we're sick).
The fees to work and per dance.
The smoke that clings to my hair and clothes.
RoseLeigh
03-22-2008, 01:06 AM
My newest thing I hate: That guy who 'knows everyone, and they all tell me their real name'. The ability to kill this guy would make my job THAT much easier.
All the nonstop whining and bitching that goes on in the dressing room. Shut. The. Fuck. Up!
tinydancer9494
03-22-2008, 05:09 PM
I hate being fucking licked. A guy licked my nose the other night, and I could smell his slobber. *Puke
Ditto! Just thinking about it gave me the heebie jeebies /:O
AznExtasy
03-22-2008, 05:09 PM
The men. I like their money, just not them.
Picaresque
03-23-2008, 12:23 PM
The men. I like their money, just not them.
exactly. :yes:
Mimi NY
03-24-2008, 11:30 AM
The stigma. So sick of being seen as a slut, or a posh girl slumming it, a loser, a sex fiend, whatever. So bored of having identity projected onto me constantly. Over it.
kaiarose
03-24-2008, 12:03 PM
I too hate going on stage. Some of you may say that I shouldn't be dancing if I don't like the stage, but I don't like going up there because:
* We don't have a pole.
* We can't do any sort of floorwork so all the girls look alike dancing in a circle.
* I'm getting sick of my music.
* I hate being up there completely naked and the whole room is sitting in their seats watching me, not tipping, and I can hear crickets in the background.
* I'm bored up there!!!!
I hate how this job can build you up one day and knock you the fuck down the next.
I hate that some nights I have to convince men that I'm "good enough". Thus making me second guess my own self.
kaiarose
03-24-2008, 12:05 PM
Oh yea! And the guys who come in and claim they know the owner (riiight) so they tell me "It's okay, you can :give me a free dance, let me touch you, go home with me, etc..., because I know the owner." Fuck off!
CherryBomb954
03-24-2008, 02:04 PM
-Not knowing if you'll make a grand or a dollar.
-The personal pressures I face regarding drinking and drug use that I doubt I would find as prevalent (if at all) working a "9-5"
These are my top two.
The first one is more of just an annoyance. I usually bounce back pretty quickly from a bad night, but when you're in a cruch for bills, it can be nerve racking.
The second one is the biggest one for me. I would have to say, for me though it is less than of a "pressure" and more of a opportunity that I don't need 4 or 5 times a week. Since I have been dancing, I have picked up one hell of a pill habit and have drank enough alcohol that would kill some people. I am completely defenseless against a drink offer. I can't say no. I live in a drinking town, and can count on several of them every night.
And yes, I am one of those people that everyone on SW yells at for "being in the wrong business" because I have to at least have a few drinks to walk through the door and get dressed.
Dancing is my only option for work right now though (long story), so I just have to deal with it for the time being, until I am able to get another job.
GoldCoastGirl
03-25-2008, 03:22 AM
The lack of quality business-owners and management. The really good managers never seem to last in this business and are a rarity.
Schedules. I agree with those who have said that having to provide a schedule is a bit like being treated like an employee and not self-employed individuals (thus independent contractors) ....
Instead of having a cut off point for number of dancers each night.. taking on who-ever can afford to pay the fee and looks okay enough. Most clubs focus on quantity NOT quality. The clubs that do have cut off points are rare.
Lack of sales training for dancers.
The club extorting money out of us: fines, etc.
Having to be exclusive and work for one club and one club only per town/city. I understand why they enforce such a thing (either written or not) however .. honestly.. once again.. am I an employee or self-employed individual?
Clubs that take a percentage of each and every dance. I would much rather pay a REASONABLE fee and be provided a receipt so I can claim that fee (aka "rent") for tax purposes.
I actually can deal with all the above and the customers and the patorns and the other girls blah blah... however... the one thing I am finding that is making me want to get out of this business as soon as possible:
To be able to date and/or have a relationship with somebody ...... to be able to be seen as a human being and woman first instead of a sexual object with potential "suitors".
The stigma with working in the sex / adult entertainment industry.
Lysondra
03-25-2008, 07:57 AM
You will only be seen as a purely sexual object if you choose to.
hehehaha
03-25-2008, 09:18 AM
i hate ingrowing hair.