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_Avery_
06-05-2010, 12:15 PM
NEVER tried it. NEVER will.
Ever since seeing an ass tulip, I'll never have a desire....VERY graphic video if you click on that link....

alexa111
06-05-2010, 01:22 PM
You generally have to be doing a LOT of crazy anal with huge things and guys to have that happen....It is pretty gross though, I dont understand who gets off watching that!

pussyinboots
06-07-2010, 12:59 PM
NEVER tried it. NEVER will.
Ever since seeing an ass tulip, I'll never have a desire....VERY graphic video if you click on that link....
http://www.asstulip.net/

Oh For Goodness' Sake...that is just gross!!

WorkerBee
06-07-2010, 05:03 PM
If it ain't connected to his mouth then it ain't going up my butt!

prettysammie
06-08-2010, 11:39 PM
If it ain't connected to his mouth then it ain't going up my butt!

That's weird, I feel the opposite. I hate it when a guy puts his tongue up my butt, but I love it if he fucks me and I don't mind giving rim jobs. I just get weirded out by the idea of tasting my own butt when I kiss him. I know that sounds crazy.

jennsweet
06-09-2010, 07:42 PM
i love that taste. its the taste of nasty sex

prettysammie
06-09-2010, 11:47 PM
i love that taste. its the taste of nasty sex

I know what you mean, but I still don't like it when I kiss him. If it's on um... other parts of him I don't mind and it can even be kind of turn on. I know, I'm totally weird.

jennsweet
06-10-2010, 08:15 AM
HUGE turn on for me (bc it turns him on, sucking his dick right out of my ass...) lol, ur funny if you get turned on by that ~yet not the kiss. hey if one way works and the other doesn't... keep sucking that dick!!!

**Sincerely**
06-10-2010, 09:13 AM
Well i had the same problem @ first didnt like it @ all made me feel kind of :-\ the last time i did it me and my boyfriend where a lil wasted so it didnt hurt but when i got up the next day my azz hurt like hell>:( good luck honey!!!!

Jenn1981
06-10-2010, 01:44 PM
I still havent done the anal with the new(ish) boyfriend. We have been using toys and his fingers so far but im still not ready for the next step.
I know its gonna hurt but at the same time I do want to try it with him. Partially cause there is something "dirty" about it. And i love dirty sex. And cause I know he wants too soo bad so thats kinda a turn on as well.

photo_whore
06-11-2010, 04:22 PM
I enjoy anal, provided lots of lube is used and I'm in the mood.

My bf is good about using lube and not just shoving it in, which has happened before and ruins it. He actually got me to enjoy it, because prior to him I hated it, due in big part to the guys previously just acting like it's the same as my pussy which obviously is NOT true. I have been known to cum from him only fucking my ass, so ladies it is not a myth that women can cum from that without a prostate ;).

Also, DP is one of the most intense, in a good way, feelings in the world. Every girl should try DP at least once with the right guys involved lol

jennsweet
06-11-2010, 06:25 PM
^so true! (girls who hate it just had one guy ruin it for them)

mediocrity
06-21-2010, 01:23 PM
^^ I don't do anal but my guy has. I asked him and he says to use LOTS of lube. Huge emphasis on LOTS. Start with something small- I held up my pinkie and he agreed. Also go SLOWWW. You can go from something small to a penis if its done slowly and carefully, but inadvisable. I guess the idea is to do a few warm up sessions before going full blown.

And NO ALCOHOL because you won't feel if you're hurting yourself, and if you're partner has been drinking, he could be overzealous.

Kellydancer
06-21-2010, 01:28 PM
I think this was one of the main reasons I began to hate it. Fortunately my BF didn't see it, but when he pulled his dick out, there was a little poopsicle that flew onto the bed. I nearly became ill..immediately wrapped it up, cleaned it off and threw it into the wash.

But still I've been doing it for 10 years and that was the first accident. I've given myself enemas before, but not for the most part. I would just say no if my tummy wasn't feeling well. In the case of the accident, we were drunk, so I couldn't tell. I am not a squeemish person but still get the willies thinking about it.

No more anal for me. I'll just keep it in my fantasies. ;)

I've heard stories like this and it grosses me out. That's why I have no desire to do this again. The guy I am with even said this is something we wouldn't even consider because of the messy aspects (I agree).

xoAnnaBanana
06-21-2010, 01:32 PM
I tried it once...... but it just feels like the same sensation as pooping. It didn't feel good to me. Is this normal? Will it feel better after you consistently do it on many different occasions?

alexa111
06-21-2010, 02:32 PM
^yes! The more you get used to it and warm up the better it will feel...using a vibe on your clit works wonders too! Of course anal just isn't for some girls..but it is def possible to come very hard from anal/clit stimulation. :)

jennsweet
06-21-2010, 04:19 PM
yES! the orgasms are SOOOOO fucking intense during anal... i dont get that from pussy sex, just anal.

mickey10
06-27-2010, 08:43 AM
i love it although i have not had it in awhile...
i guess i got burnt out on it lol! i agree it does feel dirty and wrong and so good at the same time...i love it! especially when he pounds it really hard and talks really dirty to me and fingers me at the same time...my favorite!

princessjas
06-27-2010, 09:37 AM
How have I not posted in this thread yet? Anyway, I love it with the right partner. Gotta have someone who knows what they are doing and goes slow. Too many guys think they can just ram it up there like in porn. For several years I was terrified of it because of my drunken college bf accidentally ramming it up there. Owwwie, talk about insanely painful.

malayataylor
06-27-2010, 09:43 AM
I'm just scared of it. I don't want to have a big hole back there. I just don't think that part of the body was made for penetration. Exit only! I guess I'm just scurrrred lol

mediocrity
06-27-2010, 01:24 PM
I'm just scared of it. I don't want to have a big hole back there. I just don't think that part of the body was made for penetration. Exit only! I guess I'm just scurrrred lol

I'm right there with you Malaya. I don't have the guts. I also have this deep seated belief that the only reason men want to do it is because its a power trip, and I'm not into that.

jennsweet
06-28-2010, 07:34 AM
alexx .....i'm waiting for you! LOL

malayataylor
06-28-2010, 09:58 AM
I'm right there with you Malaya. I don't have the guts. I also have this deep seated belief that the only reason men want to do it is because its a power trip, and I'm not into that.

totally feel the exact same way!

jennsweet
06-28-2010, 10:05 AM
for him it is a powertrip, it makes him feel dominate (i like having that submissive dirty little slut feeling) he also says it just feels good (my ass, not the power trip) if he's turned on and feeling good, i know im doing my job. but a lot of you are missing the point i think about how good it feels when you have the right guy doing the job.... it feels good for the BOTH of you. its not supposed to be something you TOLERATE just for his powertrip, thats fucked up and not any fun for you!

malayataylor
06-28-2010, 10:11 AM
Anal sex is not for everyone. Glad you're having so much fun with it. I'm not "missing the point". I know what I want and it's not a cock in my booty.

alexa111
06-28-2010, 02:10 PM
I never saw it as a power trip..depends on the guy. My bf is not the domineering type at all, and we do it because I ask for it :) But yeah, a cock in the ass (or a fist, or toys Lol), is not for everyone. I've known girls that do it "properly" and try it again and again..and they just don't like it.
But that's ok, more butt sex for me and girls like Jenn LOL! Any luck in your ass stretching adventures BTW? :) hehe

photo_whore
06-29-2010, 04:49 AM
I'm just scared of it. I don't want to have a big hole back there. I just don't think that part of the body was made for penetration. Exit only! I guess I'm just scurrrred lol

That muscle naturally expands and contracts. Anal doesn't make you have a big hole (and depending on which doc you ask, light anal play to work that muscle can be good).

It's definitely got to be done right, and definitely is not for everybody though. Damn can it be one hell of an intense and amazing O though ;)

jennsweet
06-30-2010, 09:31 AM
I'm right there with you Malaya. I don't have the guts. I also have this deep seated belief that the only reason men want to do it is because its a power trip, and I'm not into that.

mediocrity... do you ever let your man cum in your mouth or on your face?

mediocrity
06-30-2010, 11:25 AM
mediocrity... do you ever let your man cum in your mouth or on your face?

Yup. Anal is my only no go. I know myself really well, and I think I would feel humiliated and it would damage me emotionally. Luckily my husband doesn't ask me.

jennsweet
06-30-2010, 07:47 PM
isn't a man cumming all over your face kinda a powertrip on his part too?

mediocrity
06-30-2010, 08:04 PM
isn't a man cumming all over your face kinda a powertrip on his part too?

No, I'm not cum shy at all. It's complex for me, but I'm going to try.

It's partially the pain factor. Pain from anal sex for me is likely very inevitable due to physiological reasons I don't feel like going into because a) they're complex and b) I don't feel like splashing them all over the internet. Therefore, I would have to concede to the fact that I would allow someone to inflict likely almost unbearable pain on me just for their pleasure. It's like if you coerced someone into letting you punch them in the face just because it turned you on. Never mind they would get a huge bruise or bleed from the face, it turns you on so they do it. So the power trip inherently lies there for me; they are overpowering me into accepting pain solely for their pleasure. There is also a HIGH probability I would get a serious infection.

That's a small portion of my reasons for refusal. I'm down for most anything else ( barring anything gross like peeing on someone or shitting on someone's chest ), I've been cuffed and blindfolded with the rest of them. Fact of the matter is also, my HUSBAND was the one who was skeptical of that ( I'm the only girl he's ever done that to, which is pretty impressive ). I told him if he wanted to try it, fine- if not it was no big loss. He wanted to try it and see how he felt about, so I conceded. He's ok with it, so if he wants to, then cool.

Another part of it is I was really affected by the recent rape of a friend of mine ( It was around 3 years ago, I consider that recent). This girl is like a sister to me, we've been through a lot together. The guy not only brutally beat her and raped her IN HER OWN APARTMENT, but he ONLY anally raped her, for pure humiliation factor. I think seeing what she went through, the sheer shame that she felt, sort of sealed the psychological connection for me. I mean being raped is bad enough but to have someone anally rape you purely to insult you further? I can't wrap my brain around it.

I also may point out the cum to the face doesn't inflict physical pain ( unless of course you don't prepare adequately and close your eyes- I digress ). But fundamentally, this is a perfect case of the old cliche: different strokes for different folks.

OH! And ( I keep thinking of things and expanding on this ) I don't like the feeling of being submissive. Not into that at all. I like feeling like he is maybe not WORSHIPPING me, but I guess that the closest word I can think of. Some people are into the "I'm his dirty slut puppy and I want to please", I'm more like "I'm a gorgeous sex goddess and you better believe you're lucky to be hittin' this" if that makes sense.

Harleigh HellKat
06-30-2010, 08:29 PM
Anal is my only no-go as well. Yes, men want to do it because it's humiliating toward women. I am with mediocrity 100 percent about not taking pain for someone else's pleasure.

I can understand anal sex between two gay men, because they don't have a vagina. I have dumped guys for pushing the anal thing, because it is insulting to me. I love my vagina and if they don't, they can learn to love their hand.

I've also read about some of the health risks involving anal and don't really want any of it.

pussyplayground
06-30-2010, 08:34 PM
booty sex please =)

Spankie55
06-30-2010, 09:55 PM
Me and my boyfriend had anal sex the other night. I don't think Ill be doing it again any time soon. Just wasn't for me. It wasn't our first time,but for some reason this time was worse than the first. I feel bad though,because he loves it.

Harleigh HellKat
06-30-2010, 09:59 PM
http://www.straightdope.com/columns/read/2858/what-are-the-risks-of-heterosexual-anal-sex

Dunno how accurate it is, but thought I'd post it anyway.

alexa111
07-01-2010, 10:51 AM
I don't think it's fair to say men only want to do it to humiliate women. Do some do? Totally. But to a lot of men it's just something different and taboo. Not every girl likes it, but for those that do (at least with me) it's not humiliating or painful....otherwise why would I do it? :)
As for the health risks, it mostly depends on how often you're doing it and what you're putting in there. I've been doing it for 4 years (not everyday or even every month), and I am still as tight as I was before.

PleasureVictim
07-01-2010, 08:18 PM
does anyone have any advice for the 1st time?

Use lots of lube. Put some on him, and put some in your butt. I love anal and still I take my time opening up. Most of the time I move myself back onto him, that way I am in control. Going too fast and getting the painful feeling will ruin the WHOLE experience. It should feel a little wierd or uncomfortable( not painful) for the first couple of strokes. After that, you should be enjoying it or at least getting used to the in and out motion.

While you are relaxing, don't just tell yourself to relax mentally, you also have to actually relax your anal sphincter. When that clenches up, which is what it is supposed to do to keep you from messing your panties on a normal day, it can hurt immensely. That is where lots of people mess up and some women refuse to try it again. That's why I always stress either moving back on him, or guiding him in with one hand and keeping your other hand on his pelvis in case he gets too excited.

Telling a guy to "Go slow!" won't always work because he won't feel what you are feeling. My first time I told the guy to go slow and the jerk got excited and didn't even do what I asked, it was an awful experience. My BFF asked me how did it feel, I told her it felt like I had no hole there and he made one. It's amazing that I even let another person anywhere near my ass again. Today I'm an aficionado:P

I doubt anyone gets a big hole from normal penetration. I've been at it for years and it hasn't changed. When weeks go by without me even doing anal, I still have to be cautious. A stretched out asshole comes from constant fisting and those jumbo dildos men and women use on themselves. If you're fucking your ass with something 3,4 inches across of course there will be some side effects.

PleasureVictim
07-01-2010, 08:26 PM
I tried it once...... but it just feels like the same sensation as pooping. It didn't feel good to me. Is this normal? Will it feel better after you consistently do it on many different occasions?

Yes, you will have that I have to poop feeling, but in my experience that goes away after a few minutes. I don't think it goes away completely though. I've found I still get that feeling even after all the practice I've had!




It's definitely got to be done right, and definitely is not for everybody though. Damn can it be one hell of an intense and amazing O though ;)

Yes! I had an orgasm just from anal and it was insane!!:O;D

jennsweet
07-01-2010, 09:12 PM
I don't think it's fair to say men only want to do it to humiliate women. Do some do? Totally. But to a lot of men it's just something different and taboo. Not every girl likes it, but for those that do (at least with me) it's not humiliating or painful....otherwise why would I do it? :)
As for the health risks, it mostly depends on how often you're doing it and what you're putting in there. I've been doing it for 4 years (not everyday or even every month), and I am still as tight as I was before.

this is my point exactly. i don't see the power trip thing in anal... i see it more in some girl kneeling on the floor as a guy blows his load all over her face (that sounds like a power trip to me) lol, i'm really starting to like you alexa:) and i have some more "asstalk" to share with you, but maybe we can discuss not in a public thread!

alexa111
07-04-2010, 01:51 PM
I think anything sexual can be turned into a power trip/dominence thing if you do it right. Especially if a girl doesn't like cum on her face/anal/whatever and does it only for the guys' pleasure. You can PM and we can talk anal some more!

Kellydancer
07-04-2010, 03:43 PM
Anal is my only no-go as well. Yes, men want to do it because it's humiliating toward women. I am with mediocrity 100 percent about not taking pain for someone else's pleasure.

I can understand anal sex between two gay men, because they don't have a vagina. I have dumped guys for pushing the anal thing, because it is insulting to me. I love my vagina and if they don't, they can learn to love their hand.

I've also read about some of the health risks involving anal and don't really want any of it.

I have been lucky because out of all my boyfriends and FWB, exactly one guy (I was living with him) asked for anal. Maybe this is a common thing with younger guys, but I don't have this problem often. Recently I told my guy that I wasn't too crazy about having anal sex unless he really desired it and he told me it doesn't appeal to him. He said he gets enough shit at work he doesn't need shit from me, lol. He's likely never even had anal sex (he really hasn't had oral sex either and hasn't had many sexual partners) and I am glad because as far as I'm concerned the front is better and what it's intended for. I don't get the appeal because to me it really is gross. It's meant to get rid of poop, not put a penis there.

mediocrity
07-04-2010, 07:43 PM
I think anything sexual can be turned into a power trip/dominence thing if you do it right. Especially if a girl doesn't like cum on her face/anal/whatever and does it only for the guys' pleasure. You can PM and we can talk anal some more!

Ok, no pun intended but I can get behind this, anything can be a power trip if the girl feels badly about it. Like I said earlier, my aversion to anal was largely cemented by the brutal rape of my friend.

alexa111
07-05-2010, 04:24 PM
Exactly ! I know there are some sexual things, that for various reasons, would make me feel degraded (and not in a sexy submissive way Lol)..I can understand if a girl feels the same way about anal or whatever else.

jennsweet
07-06-2010, 09:46 AM
^agreed!

jennsweet
07-06-2010, 09:58 AM
omg alex, im getting "anal fan mail" from SW members bc of our exchange in this thread!!! we should charge for this! hockey bobby owes me $20 by now.

wanderlust08
07-06-2010, 10:06 AM
omg alex, im getting "anal fan mail" from SW members bc of our exchange in this thread!!! we should charge for this! hockey bobby owes me $20 by now.

ewww....that's like when i wrote my rant about being single and started having random SW members sending me their phone numbers and other contact info.

Harleigh HellKat
07-06-2010, 10:24 AM
Hahaha nice.

jennsweet
07-06-2010, 10:24 PM
ewww....that's like when i wrote my rant about being single and started having random SW members sending me their phone numbers and other contact info.

i hear ya, i thought it was a ladies only....

Kellydancer
07-07-2010, 11:24 AM
ewww....that's like when i wrote my rant about being single and started having random SW members sending me their phone numbers and other contact info.

I've gotten that too. I had many men contact me, and a few couples (I am not bi, sorry). I've been getting a few guys asking if they could date me. Sorry, but there is someone I am interested in, and I am working on his issues. Oh and I've gotten so many bachelor party companies wanting to hire me, including one where I would have to pay a "start up fee". Yeah, like I am going to do that since I once started up my own agency.

flickad
07-10-2010, 06:21 AM
The one time I did it I found it horrific and never went back.