View Full Version : what makes a girl unapproachable to the customer?
sneaking_id
04-01-2008, 08:01 AM
Beyond the braindead obvious reasons (like smell) I can't tell you what makes a girl unapproachable. But, I know what makes her approachable to me.
One, and sorry for mentioning smell again, I like a subtle perfume. A nice lavender will get me interested real fast.
Two, some sense of conversation. I don't mean like talking Hillary vs Obama. I just mean something better than the straight bitch who wants cash approach. If I wanted to put up with that I could date or get a low-end escort.
Three, some sense that you know the business. It's a lot easier to deal with you if you're playing by the rulebook.
Four, some sense that you are going to be fun in VIP. I only come to clubs to let off steam. I love girls that can to the top of the stripper pole; it lets me know you've actually been trying.
You see the common thread in my view: I wanna know that you're trying to be good at what you do, while still having a sense of subtlety.
london
04-02-2008, 12:38 AM
Going back to an earlier post about a girl standing alone and smiling to herself looking insane. I've found that when I stand by myself somewhat near the lap dance room and nod my head or tap my foot to the music the dancer is playing for her set on stage, I will often have a guy come up and ask me for a dance. Much moreso than sitting by myself with a bored expression, drinking or not, at the bar, or anywhere else in the room. There are many customers I may not appeal to, but there is definitely something to appearing 'happy' and ...proximity to the lapdance/vip area while standing as opposed to sitting. At my club, there is a comfy short sofa seat directly in front of the stage and only slightly further away from the lap dance area, and I will sometimes have guys approach me out of the blue while seated there. But I will nearly always have a guy ask for a dance when standing, nodding to the music/mouthing the words, and acting like Im just hanging out at a fun party. So maybe not quite 'insane smile' but looking cheerful, even if you 'think' you look bat-shit mad, does indeed help outside of the goth niche.
chi_sam
04-02-2008, 03:18 AM
01. Too young or too good looking. I'm a typically ugly old 48 yo dude and figure most girls would not say no, but if they approach me they've made a personal decision.
02. Chewing gum. Nothing say's 'my mind is on anything but you' like a wad of gum. Total lack of class. Don't give me the bullshit about 'fresh breath' - that's why they make mints.
03. Cell phones. If I see a girl with a customer and she's on her phone, I make a mental note. Cell phones don't belong in a SC anymore than a movie theater.
04. BF's / pimps. Wanna' hang with your pimp? Fine, but you're not going to rub it in my face where half of my money is going.
05. Yelling. I want nothing to do with a girl that screams, whether to another dancer across the room or the bartender etc. Maybe they get more 'extras' by guys just wanting to shut them up.
06. That look. I want nothing to do with those girls I see mindlessly grinding another patron, all the while staring off into space with that 'I don't know who I hate more right now - myself, or this asshole I'm rubbing my clit on' look on their disinterested mugs.
07. Pimple popping. That ought to go without saying, but I actually did see a chick sitting at the bar, boots up on the bar with her legs spread, really working a pimple. And for added effect, she was bitching to another dancer how she 'hates the dry ones, where nothing comes out!' Nope, she's not for me - thank you.
07. Show me the money. It's a real turn-off to see a girl walking across the room, counting her bills. Looks cheap and drives home a fact I don't want to dwell on.
08. Black girls with wigs. Couple that with 'from out of town' and red flags pop up all over. 'Yes officer, she's here every other month, has platinum blond hair and her name is Ebonique. Do you think you'll be able to recover my wallet?'
09. Pregnant. If you can't afford to stop stripping in your third trimester, have an abortion, cause the kid's fucked anyway.
10. Tats. Comes with the territory, but if your so inked-up that one could wring you out and transcribe War and Peace, that is not a good look on anyone.
Lapaholic
04-02-2008, 05:33 AM
Subtle....
bem401
04-02-2008, 05:41 AM
Subtle....
Yes, he'll be well-received here in pink.
hockeybobby
04-02-2008, 06:36 AM
Some thoughts are best left unspoken. However, self-identification is a courtesy I do appreciate.
winterrose
04-02-2008, 01:59 PM
thank you for all the helpful advice....
inked up to write war and peace? hehehe lol I have got to remember that one...got someone in mind that will get a good giggle out of it.
charlie61
04-06-2008, 06:16 PM
It is so funny that you mention this, because I have only recently been noticing this phenomenon.
There are a few girls at my club (2 out of 30 or so), who can ROCK the bad mood. Some guys genuinely seem to enjoy the feeling that they are being ignored (a kind of reverse psychology phenomenon: they pay her, and she HAS to pay attention to them, even if she's in a bitchy mood), and others have a theory that the girls who seem bitchy are higher-class or are in higher demand.
I'm going to encourage that you work this! It doesn't work for me. If I'm in a bad mood, I stop earning money. But maybe this is just your 'thing.' It's like a gimmick, minus the whipped cream mess. :P
charlie61
04-06-2008, 06:21 PM
10. Tats. Comes with the territory, but if your so inked-up that one could wring you out and transcribe War and Peace, that is not a good look on anyone.
Haha...I'm sorry...but despite the fact that this is quite insensitive and a very subjective commentary (I know lots of guys who like tattoos, etc), this made me laugh. You should be a writer.
youngBUTbanking
04-06-2008, 08:13 PM
No girl really seems unapproachable.
But it just depends on whether I'll left my sack at home that nite and become a complete pussy.
Although there is one girl at my SC -
She is young/probably around my age. Very pretty and she has the whole brunette thing (i dont discriminate but i seem to prefer dark hair). In all the months I've gone, I've never seen her talk to anyone. She does her stage show and all that stuff. Then she gets off, and she will sit at the bar next to customers and not say one word to them like as if she was a customer enjoying a drink watching the show. Even on the 3 for 35 where all the dancers go on stage and them come off and ask if you want a lapdace - I've never seen her go up to someone (That or I just dont pay attention enough).
Moral of the story - I find that extremely intimidating and can't seem to grow a sack and talk to this one particular girl. I guess if I saw her talk to one other customer - I'd feel better but honestly have never seen her go up to someone.
It is actually kind like she comes to the SC to do her stage show. Odd
chi_sam
04-19-2008, 01:18 AM
OK - What have we got so far?
Two girls found some humor in the post. And three men (DNA-wise) felt the need to defend the sisterhood.
Not exactly a scientifc sampling, but it reinforces my suspicions that the average stripper has bigger balls than her customers.