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Indira
03-29-2008, 07:47 PM
So far men in my club have been far more respectful than men outside the club
Anyway the reason could also be that women arent into men who would never give them a chance outside the club giving them dances and lying to them? Could be that....but if you think women enjoy being seen as tricks and enjoy being made fun of behind their backs like male customers are, w/e. i personally would not feel comfortable getting a dance from a male stripper because id be wondering the whole time if he thought i was ugly and if he was disgusted dancing for me. then if i got turned on i would feel bad for getting turned on by a man who thinks nothing of me and only wanted my money. men seem to be able to cope with being ugly and unwanted way more than girls do. afterall a lot of men dont mind being used for only their money... i dont get why. thats why so many men flaunt it.

I don't know about others here, but I do not look at most men who come in the club as disgusting. I don't look down on them and make fun of them. I love men and try to see their good points and not their flaws. Dancing has taught me took seek out the positive in a person and focus on that. Now if they are assholes then ofcourse I'll think badly of them and warn the other dancers. Futhermore, 9 out of 10 times, I love doing table dances. The customer and I have a lot of fun. I also know many a dancer myself included who have dated and even married guys who have come in to a SC.

As to the original question, I think they like the sensuality and the seduction. Some just like the T n' A - straight up.

Lena
03-30-2008, 11:59 AM
^^So damn right. We live in a lonely world. Our gentle touch and friendly eye contact is craved by even the toughest guy out there... inside we're all human and need it. Everyone wants to be noticed and feel cherished. I started building fantastic organic connections with my customers and sold more VIP's when i got serious about making genuine eye contact and softly touched the guys hair, neck, hands etc during dances. We're not always selling overt, sexual intimacy. It's the I-see-you-and-only-you-right-now-in-this-moment kind of intimacy that I believe there's a real, genuine need for. I love providing it. I feel more like a mom than a stripper sometimes!

Exactly!

Also, I think that people are so seperated from themselves in this culture that it's really important to be in myself and sit in their laps and make them be in theirselves.

Starfire
03-30-2008, 09:14 PM
I like this topic. I have always thought we serve an important function in society but I've never really sat down and thought this topic through though. I think a lot of the girls are right on the money-humans are social animals, people need companionship. Or, sometimes men have needs that aren't being fulfilled in their lives- be it companionship or getting to look at a hot young woman naked!

Golden_Rule
04-03-2008, 09:39 AM
I think strippers serve a valuable purpose in society!


You won't get any argument from the likes of me on that notion.

Golden_Rule
04-03-2008, 09:45 AM
Morgan's right. There are fewer and fewer places nowadays where a man can be a man. We live in an emasculating culture and they're constantly being told not to do everything that their biological nature is telling them to do. It must be extremely frustrating and confusing for a lot of them. Even the good guys don't know how they're supposed to act half the time.

Quite probably true. Though I'd argue it's just easier to be yourself and let the chips fly where they may. If you are generally respectful toward others and they can't give you the latitude to be yourself, f*ck 'em. :)


A VIP makes them feel like successful, desired, powerful men for a little while. Every man wants to feel that way and most of them never get the opportunity outside of a strip club.

Here I would disagree though. The only way to feel like a successful [happy], desired [cared for by someone(s)], powerful [can be defined in many ways: money, physical strength, ability to get things done] man is to be one. BTW, that would apply to being a successful, desired and powerful woman as well. If you have to purchase the feeling then its "let's pretend", and that isn't the real deal at all. So its not the real feeling either. Just a weak approximation.

Just my opinion.

Golden_Rule
04-03-2008, 09:57 AM
^ Well..We are in the business of sales. The more we care about the product we sell, and how it can benefit the customer, the more the customer will buy. Unfortunatly, the customer doesn't give a rats ass how a lapdance or VIP room will benefit you.

You see, that simply isn't true sometimes. It depends on the customer.

I enter into a lapdance situation looking to have fun. Fun may mean different things on different days [and YES sometimes, on some days, it means extras] and I know damn well I can't expect something for nothing.

If only in vested self-interest I am compelled to think about how this dance benefits YOU. The question becomes one of how much benefiting, and in what ways, do I seek a level of quid-pro-quo that gets us BOTH what we want.

It comes down to friendly negotiation. And anyone who knows s*it about negotiation knows you better be thinking about what is in it for the other person or you aren't getting what you want either.

BTW, that is precisely the reason I think this thread is a great business thread for the Ladies to participate in. I just think it should be asked in BLUE where you are apt to get more input from men on it. Since it is from your customers I'd think you'd benefit getting the info on this question.