View Full Version : Where do you find sex partners?
Katrine
03-30-2008, 03:48 PM
Zinka, the online thing works very well. For friends, lovers, and fuckbuddies.
As I've posted countless times, I met the love of my life, my current BF, on www.Okcupid.com
Check out the site. Its free. And they have a ton of funny personality tests that help you match up with the guys on there. Give it a shot!
krchab99
03-30-2008, 07:32 PM
my goes to pleny of fish .com maybe try there
Zinaida
03-30-2008, 07:58 PM
I love the Russian nicknames you give me Katrine!
Katrine
03-30-2008, 08:07 PM
I love the Russian nicknames you give me Katrine!
Those are for real honey. Zinaida is a relatively common russian name. And russians are HUGE on nicknames and diminutives.
Example: Zinaida, Zina, Zinka, Zinachka, Zinkula, Zinkulik.....crazy I know.
Sophia: Sofa, Sofka, Sophichka, Sophik....
Russian is so much fun, its quite a versatile language.
But...cerously...Zin...get on www.okcupid.com RIGHT NOW! Fill out a profile and answer a bunch of the personality questions. I did about 100 of them, its really fun if you like personality tests. Then go searching for your matches. I have good faith you will find what you are looking for! I am madly in love thanks to that place!
Cassandra39
03-30-2008, 08:09 PM
Well if you can't find anyone the strip club is a no fail zone! lol with all the $$ proposititions in there I'm sure someone will do you for free. JK JK
I agree though I really need some man in my life, sex or relationship its def spring fever out there.
Zinaida
03-30-2008, 08:25 PM
Oh God, going by my matches I'm probably gonna end up with a serial killer. Well, better than nothing. At least rough sex is a good possibility.
Zinaida
03-30-2008, 08:27 PM
Example: Zinaida, Zina, Zinka, Zinachka, Zinkula, Zinkulik.....crazy I know.
Sophia: Sofa, Sofka, Sophichka, Sophik....
I love them. And I want to learn Russian so bad!
Okay, I went on your Cupid-site. I'm Zinaide. I hope I can remember that.
Bridgette
03-30-2008, 08:51 PM
Doood. Just pick up some random hottie at work. Preferably a customer - too much bullshit involved with fucking staff. It's not that hard, and really, I don't see the big deal about that. If you wanna fuck, the stripclub is a great place to go fishing. You can find out alot about whether a guy might be a good sexual match for you while selling lapdances ;) I would say that if you go this route, it's generally best to pick someone who's from out of town or at least someone who doesn't spend a lot of money in the club - fucking a good spender can cause the money to stop.
Also I've said this so many times, but I don't see what's the big hangup about meeting people online. WE are online. There are toads to be found online, just like IRL, and there are also some winners. At least in the US, there are so many people online it's just plain silly to assume every other person out there is a weirdo. Are YOU a weirdo?? sheesh
Zinaida
03-30-2008, 08:58 PM
Are YOU a weirdo??
Yes. You have no idea.
Zinaida
03-30-2008, 08:59 PM
There was only one customer I was ever attracted to, and I wasn't overly horny at the time. I was also new and I don't know if I would've had the gumption then to try and pick up a customer lol.
Zinaida
03-30-2008, 10:04 PM
This sucks. The kind of men that I am attracted to would most likely not(and don't seem to be) be putting themselves on online services.
Bridgette
03-31-2008, 05:00 AM
Well, I still suggest you might be a bit too strict with your standards. I'm most certainly not suggesting that you should go for someone you don't find attractive, but perhaps a little examination into what you DO find attractive and why there are SO FEW guys who meet your requirements is in order.
I mean, I am one picky bitch but I have NO trouble finding dudes I'd like to take for a spin or two ;)
fancygirl
03-31-2008, 12:01 PM
^ Bridgette I love you :D
I've been playing on okcupid and it seems like an entertaining enough program.
I keep getting people adding me onto their favorites and I want to be able to take myself off of their favorites because some of them are a little eww-ie.
Corey
03-31-2008, 12:46 PM
^^or the kind of car you fuck in? lol
Haven't done it in this one yet, but my poor beloved Saturn holds nice memories:'(
Corey
03-31-2008, 12:51 PM
Still gotta give him props for telling you!!
Yeah, but he could have told me before he charmed me and we made out!
I am fine, but I was quite paranoid for a long time after that incident. At least we hadn't had sex.
Katrine
03-31-2008, 02:04 PM
I met Bridgette off the internetz and she was PHENOMENAL in the sack!! Ok, ok, I made up the last part. Regardless, she has been a great friend to me since. Either way, you have very little to lose. Just meet in public and have a friend "drop in" just in case!
Zinaida
03-31-2008, 02:16 PM
Well, I still suggest you might be a bit too strict with your standards. I'm most certainly not suggesting that you should go for someone you don't find attractive, but perhaps a little examination into what you DO find attractive and why there are SO FEW guys who meet your requirements is in order.
I mean, I am one picky bitch but I have NO trouble finding dudes I'd like to take for a spin or two ;)
Everyone tells me I'm picky but I disagree! I don't care about looks at all. (Well, so long as the guy's not hugely obese or missing any limbs...)
I just like sarcastic misogynists. And I am having considerable trouble finding some of those on these sites lol!
fancygirl
03-31-2008, 02:29 PM
^ ah, Gregory House, why can't we clone you?
Katrine
03-31-2008, 04:34 PM
I just like sarcastic mysogynists. And I am having considerable trouble finding some of those on these sites lol!
Z0mg, you can totally find these at the SC on any given night. Why do you make things so difficult for yourself? Those losers are everywhere.....
Zinaida
03-31-2008, 04:41 PM
But I like smart ones.....
I'm digging myself deeper aren't I?
Who is Gregory House?
fancygirl
03-31-2008, 04:43 PM
^ House M.D.
Corey
03-31-2008, 05:29 PM
^ House M.D.
Just why do ladies find him hot??
Actually, my long, lanky FB in Vegas is starting to mess with my mind the way that House dude does. I'm not liking it. Haven't seen him in nearly two months.
Ok, one more time in the sack. This guy has me wrapped around his weiner.:-[
fancygirl
03-31-2008, 05:53 PM
DICKMATIZED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that's why I'm only dating my rabbit sexually.... well, my dog takes care of the cuddling on the couch so he's kind of 50% of my boyfriend also.
Corey
04-01-2008, 12:39 AM
DICKMATIZED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that's why I'm only dating my rabbit sexually.... well, my dog takes care of the cuddling on the couch so he's kind of 50% of my boyfriend also.
^ ^ ^ ^ ^
:laughing: :rotfl: :rotfl:
msonyxorb
04-01-2008, 01:15 AM
Seriously. I have a very small network of friends so it's not like I'm always meeting new people. The only people I have ever had 'relations' with are coworkers. Where I'm at now, I am not attracted to anyone.
I seriously have no idea about meeting men or whatever. How do you do it? Where do ya'll meet your fuckbuddies or boyfriends? /:O
What?? Are you serious? I can understand having a hard time finding a bf, but having a hard time finding a guy to fuck you? Seriously?
Zinaida
04-01-2008, 03:45 AM
I can find plenty of guys who would want to fuck me. But how many of them would I want to fuck?
jasmine
04-01-2008, 08:13 AM
Barnes and Noble and Starbucks seem to be the big meeting places to me. I see people flirting all the time and get hit on quite a bit as well while buying coffee or books. They seem to be the sucessful adult version of the college bar.
PhillyDancer1982
04-01-2008, 08:52 AM
No clue, but this is proof that its just as hard for women. So many of my guy friends say, "man, its so easy for chicks to find d*ck" or whatever. And its not.
AMEN TO THAT!
It peeves me to no end when guys ASSume that it's so much easier for a girl to get laid...both availability wise(i.e., finding guys) and being attractive enough to convince a guy to put out. >:( I honestly think that a lot of guys claim "but girls can get laid anytime they want" as a scapegoat to make their loser selves feel better about not getting laid. It's generally the stereotypical "nice guys who finish last" or other types that have a somewhat difficult time attracting girls, who say this the most. And then if I bitch on forums or in-person to guys about how hard it is to get laid sometimes, their first immediate reponse is, "Maybe you're not very good looking? ANY half decent girl can get a guy." It's so angering!
Step one: Go to ANY bar
Step two: Have a drink or ten
Step three: "Who wants to come home with me!!!"
DONE and DONE.
WRONG! I literally tried this a few yrs ago...didn't work. Yeah sometimes I'd find someone interested who wasn't total ick, but in general I really do not think it is that easy. Read the response I posted above in this same post. Also, this method can look desperate and therefore be a big turnoff to a lot of guys too(most of the actual "worthwhile" guys).
GoldCoastGirl
04-01-2008, 09:06 AM
Can I just add that it is NOT worth pursuing friends as sex toys. The end.
fancygirl
04-01-2008, 09:30 AM
^ aw, hugs. I'm sorry!
Katrine
04-01-2008, 10:27 AM
Do you like musicians? They tend to be sarcastic and misogynistic. They also tend to be pretty sexy, although not necess. any good in bed. Go out to see some local bands, and find one you like. Then hang out with them afterwards. It worked for me for years. Just don't expect any committment whatsoever.
Zinaida
04-01-2008, 11:14 AM
Do you like musicians? They tend to be sarcastic and misogynistic. They also tend to be pretty sexy, although not necess. any good in bed. Go out to see some local bands, and find one you like. Then hang out with them afterwards. It worked for me for years. Just don't expect any committment whatsoever.
I do! So long as they like the same music I do. What a good idea!! ;D
CinammonGirl
04-01-2008, 07:07 PM
And then if I bitch on forums or in-person to guys about how hard it is to get laid sometimes, their first immediate reponse is, "Maybe you're not very good looking? ANY half decent girl can get a guy." It's so angering!
Amen. I also get conscious talking about this stuff online, because I don't want to be assumed to be ugly.
I can find plenty of guys who would want to fuck me. But how many of them would I want to fuck?
Exactly.
Andygirl
04-01-2008, 08:39 PM
I can find plenty of guys who would want to fuck me. But how many of them would I want to fuck?
Well, that's true, but if you were to go out to a bar and spot a guy you wanted to take home, it would pretty much be a sure thing. That's what I used to do when I was single. Lol, I was such a slut!
PhillyDancer1982
04-02-2008, 09:11 AM
Well, that's true, but if you were to go out to a bar and spot a guy you wanted to take home, it would pretty much be a sure thing. That's what I used to do when I was single. Lol, I was such a slut!
Just curious, why the hell do people think it's just that easy? This approach worked for me a number of times when I was looking for hook-ups too, but then again there were a LOT of times where I would leave the bar at the end of the night empty handed. :( I found that the very things that generally increase earnings at a strip club, were the things that increased the frequency of this bar hook-up approach actually working...e.g., I got more guys after a boob job and a better hair dye job. And AndyGirl is way hotter than the average girl, so I could see where it would be easy for her. But seriously, I sometimes wonder if I'm really that "incompetent" if everyone else thinks it's so "easy." I mean, I *think* I'm attractive, intelligent, and friendly, but honestly on some nights(e.g., unofficial "Asshole Nights" at bars) I really start to doubt myself.
PhillyDancer1982
04-02-2008, 09:17 AM
LOL at the expense of getting flamed...while we're still on this topic of finding sex partners, any ideas for M--k? He experiences "Asshole Night" from the bitches at the bars more than I do from some of the jerkoff condescending guys there. He's had girls sarcastically comment that they'd rather kill their firstborn child than let him buy them a drink. He's had sluts tell him "puh-lease, even I have standards" then flounce away. Ideas? By the way, he's NOT a "church boy" so meeting girls at church will not work for him!
Katrine
04-02-2008, 10:23 AM
Making Zinaida can fuck M--K?
I've done it, solved two major SW problems in one fell swoop. Please, please, please, don't all offer me gifts and money yet. ;)
Oh wait, I don't think he's her type. Wait again, I don't think he's ANYBODY'S type. There is absolutely fucking nothing we can do for M--K until he does something for himself. Quit asking!
Zinaida
04-02-2008, 11:16 AM
I sometimes wonder if I'm really that "incompetent" if everyone else thinks it's so "easy." I mean, I *think* I'm attractive, intelligent, and friendly, but honestly on some nights(e.g., unofficial "Asshole Nights" at bars) I really start to doubt myself.
Maybe that's your problem, that you only *think* these things. You have to KNOW it. What is your approach like btw? :)
Zinaida
04-02-2008, 11:19 AM
Well, that's true, but if you were to go out to a bar and spot a guy you wanted to take home, it would pretty much be a sure thing.
See, this is what I don't understand. Girls see a guy they want and go for him. Do you choose by how 'hot' he is? I mean, do you pick by looks? I think this is where I might be getting caught. Looks are one of the last things that make me attracted to a guy. It's not a priority. That's why I can't just pick potential hook-ups out left and right.
And nothing wrong with being a slut. ;)
Katrine
04-02-2008, 11:42 AM
See, this is what I don't understand. Girls see a guy they want and go for him. Do you choose by how 'hot' he is? I mean, do you pick by looks? I think this is where I might be getting caught. Looks are one of the last things that make me attracted to a guy. It's not a priority. That's why I can't just pick potential hook-ups out left and right.
And nothing wrong with being a slut. ;)
I agree. Whilst looks are important to me, a great guy can become even cuter once you get to know him. So, just by looking around a bar, I am unlikely to see a guy who is cute enough for me to want to fuck, just by looks.
That's why musicians are good, you get to know a bit about the way they move from their performance.
CinammonGirl
04-02-2008, 05:22 PM
Just curious, why the hell do people think it's just that easy? This approach worked for me a number of times when I was looking for hook-ups too, but then again there were a LOT of times where I would leave the bar at the end of the night empty handed. :( I found that the very things that generally increase earnings at a strip club, were the things that increased the frequency of this bar hook-up approach actually working...e.g., I got more guys after a boob job and a better hair dye job. And AndyGirl is way hotter than the average girl, so I could see where it would be easy for her. But seriously, I sometimes wonder if I'm really that "incompetent" if everyone else thinks it's so "easy." I mean, I *think* I'm attractive, intelligent, and friendly, but honestly on some nights(e.g., unofficial "Asshole Nights" at bars) I really start to doubt myself.
Are the people who think it's "easy" actually girls who initiate hook-ups?
All of the people I know who say that are guys, or girls who wait for guys to approach them or only have sex in established relationships. They think it's easy, because they haven't experienced the reality or put themselves in that position! Only the girls in our position know that it's not that easy, and we know that some males do find it intimidating.
Didn't you have a chest picture in your avatar? I don't know any guy that would reject that unless he's gay, lol.
Jenny
04-03-2008, 06:30 AM
Like... no. If you walk up to a guy and say "Hey I think you should fuck me tonight" chances are excellent he'll be a) intimidated and b).... um.... well, would you fuck someone who used that approach? Nothing like treating a guys like a penis on a stick to make him feel desired. I mean, for crying out loud, maybe you could start with "I like your shoes" and buy the dude a drink?
CinammonGirl
04-03-2008, 12:19 PM
Like... no. If you walk up to a guy and say "Hey I think you should fuck me tonight" chances are excellent he'll be a) intimidated and b).... um.... well, would you fuck someone who used that approach? Nothing like treating a guys like a penis on a stick to make him feel desired. I mean, for crying out loud, maybe you could start with "I like your shoes" and buy the dude a drink?
Of course, you would have to make conversation first lol.
I think she's talking about making the first move after knowing a guy for awhile, or maybe even talking to him for a few hours. I'm not sure.
XxAmber89xX
04-03-2008, 08:43 PM
I met recently met college student/pornstar Casey Parker (shane's world/jules jordan) and she said she had to do a real life pickup thing job where she walked a beach and tried to find guys to do a porn shoot with her... i was shocked when she said she couldn't find a guy that didn't chicken out!
so, yeah, d*ck can be hard to find- and not because it's small... lol..:P
peanutbutter007
04-06-2008, 12:06 AM
Sex!! Ha Ha. I'm in a dry spell. My last lay lives 500 miles from me.
However...though cliche, I've had the most potential at specialty grocery stores.
The only guys I've met lately is one guy who likened me to a rib w/ sauce and this other guy who about got drop kicked by coming up behind me a little to swiftly as I'm getting in the car. Good lawd!
msonyxorb
04-06-2008, 02:39 PM
Eh there is no shortage of good looking guys who would want to fuck me. I mean seriously most guys will not say no. Perhaps you just assume they do not want you but you do not take the chance to ask them?
Problem is a lot of them are jerks, cocky, and very incapable of monogomy, but that's fine if you're not looking for a bf. You can't expect a sweet guy to want to be just fuck buddies.
msonyxorb
04-06-2008, 02:44 PM
Just curious, why the hell do people think it's just that easy? This approach worked for me a number of times when I was looking for hook-ups too, but then again there were a LOT of times where I would leave the bar at the end of the night empty handed. :( I found that the very things that generally increase earnings at a strip club, were the things that increased the frequency of this bar hook-up approach actually working...e.g., I got more guys after a boob job and a better hair dye job. And AndyGirl is way hotter than the average girl, so I could see where it would be easy for her. But seriously, I sometimes wonder if I'm really that "incompetent" if everyone else thinks it's so "easy." I mean, I *think* I'm attractive, intelligent, and friendly, but honestly on some nights(e.g., unofficial "Asshole Nights" at bars) I really start to doubt myself.
Because it IS that easy. Most guys will sleep with a girl no strings attached. The hard part is getting them to commit to you and become bf and gf. Many guys are willing to be fuck buddies because it takes no commitment on their part and they can still fool around with other girls. They have nothing to lose except their health. I have tiny boobs and I can easily find a good looking guy to fuck. Of course I am not interested in having casual sex. Maybe you just need to be more assertive? Perhaps you are afraid of asking them to come home with you? Just because THEY do not bring it up does not mean they are not willing.
CinammonGirl
04-06-2008, 04:47 PM
Because it IS that easy. Most guys will sleep with a girl no strings attached. The hard part is getting them to commit to you and become bf and gf. Many guys are willing to be fuck buddies because it takes no commitment on their part and they can still fool around with other girls. They have nothing to lose except their health. I have tiny boobs and I can easily find a good looking guy to fuck. Of course I am not interested in having casual sex. Maybe you just need to be more assertive? Perhaps you are afraid of asking them to come home with you? Just because THEY do not bring it up does not mean they are not willing.
In your opinion...if a good-looking guy does reject you (when most guys say yes), is there a good chance that he's gay? :)
I know for sure that the first guy who rejected me in highschool was gay (I found out from others years later that he was a closet homosexual). The second guy that recently rejected me IS showing some signs of being gay, but he also made some flirtatious comments towards me..so I thought he was into girls! But now that I think about it, he did do some stereotypically gay things.
Some of my guy friends also say a guy is most likely gay if he turns down free pussy..I don't know.
msonyxorb
04-06-2008, 05:02 PM
In your opinion...if a good-looking guy does reject you (when most guys say yes), is there a good chance that he's gay? :)
I know for sure that the first guy who rejected me in highschool was gay (I found out from others years later that he was a closet homosexual). The second guy that recently rejected me IS showing some signs of being gay, but he also made some flirtatious comments towards me..so I thought he was into girls! But now that I think about it, he did do some stereotypically gay things.
Some of my guy friends also say a guy is most likely gay if he turns down free pussy..I don't know.
Not necessarily. It might mean he isnt into casual sex, or you are just not his type. If he is into casual sex though, which many guys are, i think he will for the most part not care what you look like as long as you aren't hideous. If he's really good looking he is probably gay though :P
Oh yeah, or he could be taken, but that's not the case in your situation. I'd say gay.
Zinaida
06-05-2008, 07:56 PM
UPDATE!
I finally found one sort of. I met him on here actually, he's a former SWer! Who knew? :D He lives on the other side of the country, he came here for a few and we did quite a bit....except intercourse, his cock was gorgeous but it was a little too big for me, but we made up for it in plenty of other ways and we're going to give it another try on his next visit here. We are determined now! ;D