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cherryripeboy
04-02-2008, 08:27 PM
I vaguely remember the last time I had good sex, I think in the vicinity of two years ago. I've had bad sex maybe two times in the past year. There is so little time, and well if I don't get the pre game, my during game is not so good either.

I can live without it for a while. Porn can be useful, imagination helps. The past six years have proven that. While I've never been pushed to my limit where I will buy sex or otherwise, I know that at some point I may do so. I would prefer not to though.

I do miss the better times. Once a day was standard, and it was always good and long, and fun...

I honestly think no sex is better than bad.

We have some friends, they don't want children, and don't care for sex, it was never fun for them... they go shopping together. That's their thing.

wasfatboy
04-03-2008, 06:08 AM
ok let me clear up a few things.
1) i dont pay for sex

2) my sex partner and i have a mutual aggreement that it is only for sex and that it is to be discreet and that there is no emotional or financial obligations.

3) its not every day , week, or month, its as timing allows.

like i said i love my wife, i do not want to lose her and i have come to the understanding that sex is not part of our relationship. but i have told her i will not be celebate, and since that discussion which was loud and emotional we have not spoken of it since. and she is very happy with her house, yard, convertable, crafts, and taking care of our kids and me.

we have done the councilling, she was told to stop mothering me, it made her miserable. so i told her to go ahead and start again.

am i concerned about old age, i have to say yes, our daughter is in tech school and is never home (she has a boyfriend with an apt) and our son has to take the brunt of my wife attention right now. which for an adolecent 16 yr old boy is actually tough.

i have a large motor home on a river i go to on weekends to tinker on stuff, she comes out when she wants or doesnt have plans. but she packs my bag and food to send me on my way every weekend.

is it a weird relationship? its as weird as any other one, she's happy so im happy!

like i tell my friends, i have a beautiful wife, that spoils me rotten. but in every relationship there is give and take. i have given up the sex for the other benifits.

also i want to make it clear i do not make her do this! i have tried to stop her and our biggest fight we had was when i told her to STOP washing our kids clothes and to give them household chores to do. her answer was "they dont do it well enough" can you imagine how silly it sounds to tell someone you fought with your wife over not letting the kids do chores?

ok tis was a bit long but i wanted to give some incite.