View Full Version : Why turn down money?
AvanaLaya
04-14-2008, 01:36 PM
IMO
I think he refuses to see it any other way because subconsciously it boosts his precious male ego to think she really was just being "NICE" to him!
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HA You are NOT that special sweetheart
she is either dumb
or
trying to set u up as a reg by HUSTLING YOU
OR
you really are that repuslive
either way (sorry if this hurts your ego) shes not "nice"
Paris
04-14-2008, 01:49 PM
And no regular strip club customer thinks he is a cheapskate, everyone talks about how they spend soooo much money ::) .
QFT! I usually run in the other direction when I heard the line "I'm gonna tip you BIG, Baby!" Aaaaarrrrggggghhhhh! Run! Run! This guy is going to waste my time and then slip a fiver for the hour he kept promising me that "big" tip::).
AudreyLeigh
04-14-2008, 02:23 PM
OK, to the OP (who wasnt youngBUTbanking incase anyone forgot) . Shes either dumb or nieve or trying to make you think shes different by refusing the tip. OR she wanted you to take her home later so she could ride you. Who the hell really cares? Why dont you go back and ASK here. Report back. Thank you.
youngBUTbanking
04-14-2008, 04:43 PM
^ COUGHthankyouaudreyleigh!COUGH
TheTempest
04-14-2008, 09:38 PM
^You're still wrong, YBB - specifically that facts are merely supported by logically. My opinions are quite logical - but still just my opinions. Facts are supported by hard data and are STILL technically not absolutes.
Just had to throw that in there. :)
youngBUTbanking
04-14-2008, 09:40 PM
Thank you Temp.
head turner
04-15-2008, 03:43 AM
She could be new or naive.
DUMBSHIT? WTF? why even say that?
Everyman
04-16-2008, 06:35 AM
OK, to the OP (who wasnt youngBUTbanking incase anyone forgot) . Shes either dumb or nieve or trying to make you think shes different by refusing the tip. OR she wanted you to take her home later so she could ride you. Who the hell really cares? Why dont you go back and ASK here. Report back. Thank you.
Go back and ask what? "Were you hustling me"? Right. Anyway, not my regular club, and not the kind of dancer I would go back to seek out again, so this is not likely to happen. Thanks for all the input, and I think the basic thing that happened is a combination of these two things, which may seem mutually exclusive but they're really not:
(1) After "performing" for the first song (and getting tiped), but just sitting and chatting for the next two, she may have felt instinctively she didn't "earn" another stage tip;
AND
(2) Since we were having a nice little chat, she probably wanted to make it seem like "just a chat" that we could continue off-stage, and eventually turn into much bigger $$.
I think probably some of both.
AudreyLeigh
04-16-2008, 08:45 AM
Yea, Im gonna guess #2. Thats how I work. Chat chat chat then "Wanna have some fun in the lounge?"
I feel honored that Im the only person you quoted :D hehe
xoxoGracexoxo
04-16-2008, 12:51 PM
The only reason why you think it's nice is so that you can keep your money and you wish more women would do it so you can keep your money. That's the only benefit you get from a woman refusing a tip: the fact that you keep your money!
QFT. I really don't see anything inherently "nice" about refusing a tip. As far as I know, the only reason to refuse a tip is (a) you don't like the person giving it to you, or the condition that may appear to be attached to the acceptance of the gift or (b) you don't feel like you've earned it.
I've walked away from money because I was really repulsed by what I was being asked to do for the money. Like, I've stopped dancing for guys who grabbed me by the waist and attempted to use me as a masturbatory aid. Doesn't sound like that was the situation here.
As for the "didn't earn it" thing, well, I feel like I earn every penny at the club. Everything I do there takes effort and constitutes work. I NEVER feel like I don't deserve it. :D
All in all, I don't like this whole idea that it's nicer or more genuine for dancers not to take your money. I'm damn nice, and that doesn't mean I don't wanna get paid. Dancers who turn down tips, sit for free, etc., are just cementing the notion in certain customers minds that what we do isn't a job and doesn't require compensation. Hence the "dumbshit" comments and other hostility in this thread. Imagine if you were in sales somewhere and another salesperson was giving shit away right and left...essentially, it drives down the price of what you can sell.