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*Raquel*
10-13-2008, 03:17 PM
Charlie, I would disagree with you and say that most Daddies don\'t want to hear about your money issues.

Desparation isn\'t a good look- and it\'ll make them think you\'ll do anything for money, and get more bang for your buck.

Obviously they know the name of the game- time is money, money is time. BUT I\'ve always been an advocate of taking care of business first, then doing NOTHING on the \"date\" to remind them that you\'re hired- preserves your longevity and to be honest will make you more money. When they forget they\'re paying you is when the money really flows- thats how to get someone to actually care for you like a friend, instead of being a stripper they\'re trying to bang.

The ultimate SD/SB relationship is close- you want to feel comfortable enough with them that you don\'t feel like its a chore, and you want them to like you enough to WANT to help you, even if that means you aren\'t having sex.

I know, its a somewhat Utopian dream, but its attainable.

Well, now wait a sec... it can work either way. I've hustled dudes with the I'm-so-broke- method as well as the other method, and to be honest, the broke method works VERY WELL and in most cases BETTER than the independent way. Men love a damsel in distress... I've gotten so much more playing the damsel in distress than I have as an independent woman. Independent women tend to frustrate and intimidate the majority of men. Playing the damsel in distress doesn't make them think you'll do anything for money, it just makes them realize you HAVE to work unless they want to PAY you for your time. It makes them think that if they don't pay you or help you out, you won't spend any time with them. SO... they either end up coming to the club to pay you for your time or paying you to stay out of the club. :) Trust me, damsel in distress WORKS.

Tell them your rent is overdue, your car needs work, your phone is going to get shut off... or whatever... just make sure you get that money, girl!

knp001
10-13-2008, 03:39 PM
Well, now wait a sec... it can work either way. I've hustled dudes with the I'm-so-broke- method as well as the other method, and to be honest, the broke method works VERY WELL and in most cases BETTER than the independent way. Men love a damsel in distress... I've gotten so much more playing the damsel in distress than I have as an independent woman. Independent women tend to frustrate and intimidate the majority of men. Playing the damsel in distress doesn't make them think you'll do anything for money, it just makes them realize you HAVE to work unless they want to PAY you for your time. It makes them think that if they don't pay you or help you out, you won't spend any time with them. SO... they either end up coming to the club to pay you for your time or paying you to stay out of the club. :) Trust me, damsel in distress WORKS.

Tell them your rent is overdue, your car needs work, your phone is going to get shut off... or whatever... just make sure you get that money, girl!

haha ok- thanks for all of this advice, ladies! I think imma go w/ damsel in distress- he seems like the type to go for that. higher-up businessman, I think pretty ignored by women, eager to please...
what do you all think?
also, I think this approach is better for me, cos I'm leaving in a few months, so I only have a few months to work this guy, and "damsel" might be a litter faster.

knp001
10-13-2008, 04:10 PM
ok like I said before, I have no effin idea how to do this!!
he wants to take me somewhere where he wouldn't be known (he's married...) and he didn't pick a very great restaurant. indicative of something?
also, he keeps mentioning or alluding to sex!! should i tell him "i just want to get to know you first" now or on the 'date'??
also, i met him ITC, so i lied to him (i have a fake persona as a stripper) including my age and what I do for a living. should i tell him the truth about that?
help!! i am so confused!

Tylenol Jones
10-13-2008, 05:54 PM
^^^^

Eh, Racquel and knp- Whatever you think works for you, works for you.

The damsel in distress scratches the surface. A stranger isn\'t going to go above and beyond to \"rescue\" another stranger. You have to build some kind of rapport with them to be bailed out of some problem. Its just like to Strip Club- they don\'t want to hear constantly about your problems, they could hire a nasty hooker for that. There are two jobs in an arrangement. Yours is to entertain him. His is to pay you- but its an ARRANGEMENT, and RELATIONSHIP, not a transaction. Treat it as such or just get the whole SB idea out of your head- you\'ll never be able to make it work enough to make real money, and trying to find a new guy every month will get old.

SD/SB isn\'t really about instant gratification, which is I guess a point that should have been made in the first post of this thread (ahem, get a hint yet of who I am?). If you want to get straight cash for dates, be a call girl. Seriously. Thats how many guys will look at it.

Knp- Never tell him you\'re a stripper. This puts you in the \"pro\" catagory with escorts, call girls and hookers. Which is SB death.

And if he\'s taking you somewhere like Chilis- bail!

knp001
10-13-2008, 06:43 PM
^^^^

Eh, Racquel and knp- Whatever you think works for you, works for you.

The damsel in distress scratches the surface. A stranger isn\'t going to go above and beyond to \"rescue\" another stranger. You have to build some kind of rapport with them to be bailed out of some problem. Its just like to Strip Club- they don\'t want to hear constantly about your problems, they could hire a nasty hooker for that. There are two jobs in an arrangement. Yours is to entertain him. His is to pay you- but its an ARRANGEMENT, and RELATIONSHIP, not a transaction. Treat it as such or just get the whole SB idea out of your head- you\'ll never be able to make it work enough to make real money, and trying to find a new guy every month will get old.

SD/SB isn\'t really about instant gratification, which is I guess a point that should have been made in the first post of this thread (ahem, get a hint yet of who I am?). If you want to get straight cash for dates, be a call girl. Seriously. Thats how many guys will look at it.

Knp- Never tell him you\'re a stripper. This puts you in the \"pro\" catagory with escorts, call girls and hookers. Which is SB death.

And if he\'s taking you somewhere like Chilis- bail!


I KNEW IT! I hope you're doing well! ;D
I should have explained myself better- i def know that I will be an entertainer, but I did want to mix a lil "damsel" in with that. I kinda think of myself as a geisha...
also, ummmm, i met him in the club, so he already knows...whoops:-\

as for the restaurant- higher caliber than chili's, not nice enough to omit prices on their menus.

Tylenol Jones
10-13-2008, 09:10 PM
^^^

Whats the area that you\'re in? If Mcdonalds is $, and the nicest NYC/LA/Vegas restaurants are $$$$$, where does it rate? I think $$$ is still ok for a first date.

knp001
10-13-2008, 09:15 PM
hmmm...prolly $$-$$$
I've never been there, but I'm pretty sure this is an accurate rating. maybe $$.5 dollar bills?

also, is it bad that he knows i strip??
how should i handle that?

Tylenol Jones
10-14-2008, 12:11 AM
Most guys that are looking for an arrangement want a real girl- but since he met you in the club, it obviously means no difference to him.

I would go to the dinner, but make SOME mention of wondering what his financial expectations are- and say its to make sure NEITHER of you are wasting your time with numbers that don\'t match.

*Raquel*
10-14-2008, 02:06 AM
You had mentioned already that he met you at the club, hence my agreement with the damsel in distress. I had a dude that I strung along for 5 years, no sex, no kissing, NADA. It started out like this: he would pay me to dance for him in a cheap hotel. (So yes, I agree with Tylenol on the waiting thing... make him really NEED your time first) I would dance, he would say how much he liked me, it was $300-$500 every Saturday for an hour or so. Eventually, he decided he wanted to start taking me out, buying me clothes, etc.. .so he would still pay me, but I wouldn't dance for him. It was after like, 2-3 months that I stopped dancing for him. He started to think of me as girlfriend material... SO... the dinner deal... $$-$$$$$ doesn't matter. This dude was totally blue collar, he took me to like, TGIF's, Friendly's, etc... BUT... he SPENT... clothes shopping, a Chrysler Sebring (back in the days, those were really cool in my area, lol), $2000 cash (I told him I was stuck in Guam with no way home, but really I was dancing down there and just wanted to leave early because I missed home) for a plane ticket (the ticket was only about 1k-- I told him it was 2k-- always make things more expensive than they are, that way you can save some money as well!!), cash every time we went out, etc... you get the idea. I still know the dude, but one day I made the mistake of telling him that I have money... now I gets NOTHING... and I hate it. PS... After the 5 years string along song, I told him 7k for one sugar... he kept begging and begging and I had no problem with it. SO... obviously, we both went for it. 5 minutes of my time, 7k in my pocket. Moral of the story is just what everyone else is telling you, get as much as you can, as quick as you can, string 'em along, and if you are comfortable with a happy ending... welp.... ya know.

I also have to say: poor guys are soooo willing to give you everything they have when they fall for you but you can't be a softie (I really wanted to say pussy but I hate that word!!)... when they offer, TAKE IT. I've gotten more from that dude than some dudes that make triple his income. Just remember, I met him in the club.... not on a site. Completely different deal. Club meets are VERY easy to transition to sugar (non sexual or sexual). Sugar guys on sites are work work work whereas club dudes already know your deal... you want the money for your time... if they want to see you outside of the club, they've got to pay. :)

knp001
10-14-2008, 11:57 AM
oh ladies, what would I do without you?? thanx for all your help- Ill keep you all updated!

honey55
10-14-2008, 09:59 PM
^^^^

Eh, Racquel and knp- Whatever you think works for you, works for you.

The damsel in distress scratches the surface. A stranger isn\'t going to go above and beyond to \"rescue\" another stranger. You have to build some kind of rapport with them to be bailed out of some problem. Its just like to Strip Club- they don\'t want to hear constantly about your problems, they could hire a nasty hooker for that. There are two jobs in an arrangement. Yours is to entertain him. His is to pay you- but its an ARRANGEMENT, and RELATIONSHIP, not a transaction. Treat it as such or just get the whole SB idea out of your head- you\'ll never be able to make it work enough to make real money, and trying to find a new guy every month will get old.

SD/SB isn\'t really about instant gratification, which is I guess a point that should have been made in the first post of this thread (ahem, get a hint yet of who I am?). If you want to get straight cash for dates, be a call girl. Seriously. Thats how many guys will look at it.

Knp- Never tell him you\'re a stripper. This puts you in the \"pro\" catagory with escorts, call girls and hookers. Which is SB death.

And if he\'s taking you somewhere like Chilis- bail!


YAY :) (I finally got it)
This thread could not exist without you! plz staaaaay with us.

*Raquel*
10-14-2008, 10:47 PM
i so agree with raquel that meeting a guy in person, in the club, is so much easier to turn into sd deal than the site stuff. i've been trying for several months now and i have to say it's a waste of time compare with just going to the club and making money. i'm still new to it and still learning, it has potential especially during down times, when i don't feel like going into the club scene to work. but so far i haven't found anyone worth my time online yet, i still browse the sites and check my emails when i'm bored and have nothing to do.. btw anyone here using sugardaddie.com, i just signed up yesterday and got like 82 emails, what the hell, is it a scam or something?

The other plus side to turning club guys into SD's is that you get paid while you search whereas, when you sit at home on the internet, you don't get paid for all that time you are searching, creating profiles, etc... NOW... if you enjoy doing that in your spare time, do it as well, but if you don't have time for it, club guys are the way to go.

Tylenol Jones
10-15-2008, 07:33 PM
YAY http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/ (I finally got it)
This thread could not exist without you! plz staaaaay with us.

Honey, you should join the yahoo group!Email [email protected] for the link, I\'d PM it but I\'m not sure if it would make it. Hopefully this SN will last :)

Tylenol Jones
10-15-2008, 07:34 PM
i have to share with you girls about my experience with a potential sd i met of sugardaddie.com ..

how to tell if he is serious:
first off this guy sent me all his info, such as his how number, work number, website with his credential and biography on there, in the first email. and he sent it multiple times because otherwise it\'ll be lost in my inbox, <--this is one way you can screen out to see who is serious and that they are a real person not an automated message. I think a lot of those emails they sent out from that website are fakes, because i would respond to a lot of them and get no response back, and it\'s very tiresome.

in his email, he offered to be my &quot;scholarship&quot; thereby hinting that he will help me financially. i emailed him back and agreed to meet up with him but i didn\'t ask for money or anything like that, he immediately said that he will bring some cash for me tomorrow. he also expressed that he is interested in giving monthly allowances.

he asked me where i want to meet and allow me to pick the location. i said starbucks but changed location to a nice restaraunt 20 minutes before we were suppose to meet and he had no problem with that.

we were at the restaraunt from 1-2:30. he was like 40 something years older than me, and i was kinda uncomfortable to be seen with him in public. he came up to hug me and i turned red,lol! the whole situation was really uncomfortable and he asked me to go to the hotel with him which i declined. he flashed the 500 he had with him and said he wasn\'t prepared today..i had to convinced him to give it to me just for showing up to see him. the whole ordeal was akward...

Now you get to decide what to do :) If it was too weird to do again, $500 for a dinner date is pretty good!Were you very upfront about not wanting it to be sexual? I would be angry with him for springing that on you if you had been.

Dixie_Vancouver
10-15-2008, 07:51 PM
Its just like to Strip Club- they don\'t want to hear constantly about your problems, they could hire a nasty hooker for that.


Or a girlfriend? :eyebrow:

honey55
10-16-2008, 08:19 AM
>> Tylenol Jones,

Is that the anonymous one mentioned in this thread ages ago? then I'm a member already :) Or are you talking of new one??

Delvina
10-16-2008, 01:25 PM
why was this thread deleted? I want to know how to get a no strings attached sugar daddy!!!! why was the girl who started this thread banned?

knp001
10-19-2008, 03:04 PM
ok my SD came in and got 20 dances - w00t! we made actual, concrete plans to get together, so I'm a lil more comfortable with plans.

BUUUUT I may get a second s.g.!! this guy has gotten 20 vip's, bought me an outfit, comes in to visit me, etc. so, what i'm thinking is that i'm going shopping tomorrow with our makeup artist, and it's going to cost me a shit-ton of $$$.

what if i told s.g. #2 "oh baby i'd love to go on a date with you, but i have to take care of these errands...unless you want to come. I'd love to see you" and get him to buy me the makeup!
how would i convince him to get it for me? he's super sweet, and I feel like if i just ask his opinion on everything, and then say "oh i can't buy THIS, it's so expensive" etc. he'd pick up the tab.
he's pretty well-off (i hope! otherwise i'd feel bad!) and generous, so i'm not too worried. i just don't know how obvious to be about wanting him to buy me the makeup, you know?
i was thinking of going to dinner with him after, so he won't just feel like a walking credit card.
concerns? criticisms? comments? suggestions?

knp001
10-23-2008, 11:09 PM
UPDATE!
makeup - $300, he paid for!! :o we're going out again this weekend
(he also bought me red roses!!)

s.d. #2: when out I mentioned i didn't have a coat. he told me to make a wishlist on victoriassecret.com, he'd buy me one!! (i also added some lingerie to be flirty, and he's buying me some of that too!!!!!) paid my $80 cab fare home, also

WOOOOOOOO-HOOOO!! how do i keep this up girls? (without sexing them or getting into a relationship?)
yayayay am so happy!

LittleMissy
10-26-2008, 01:39 AM
^^ well when you have an SD/SB relationship it's kind of already a relationship except they pay for your time hon. I see my sd once or twice a week. We chat through out the days when we don't see each other. It's pretty much full time & a 2 way relationship. He pays my bills pretty much & we have an awesome time every time we see each other.

My other sd I see him two times a month seeing how he's from another state but travels here on business. This one is the one that showers me with presents & is the one with all the brains that I enjoy oh so much. :D

I don't sex either of them but I can tell you, w/ my first SD I think about sexing all the time since he's so freaking hot.

Roxie101
10-27-2008, 04:18 PM
Ok girls, I don't know if this has been bought up already, but how do you set up an account for your sd to send money. Obviously I don't want to reveal my name/bank details etc. and the stuff covered on here was specific to US sugarbabes, but if there are any aussies on here, what do you guys do? I'm thinking of something like paypal, but is it safe?
if the sd gets cold feet, can he dispute the payments made? I don't wanna have to pay back a s*&^load of money lol.

Luxurious1
10-28-2008, 12:09 AM
Man, im so over sugardaddys. this guy this weekend totally pissed me off! Ive been talking to him for 2 years and he was all fly out to see me...I paid for it! When I got to the airport, they said there was no ticket. So...I paid for it since I was already there and going to stay with family anyways. He was on the phone with me saying im so sorry, i promise i'll give u the money for it when u get here..never showed up for 8 days. Never got any money. Wasted $500 outta my own pocket...

These guys just want to talk and never pay up! Im sticking to regulars now on... :(

misspthesweetesttaboo
10-28-2008, 07:05 AM
^^^
bummer!

LittleMissy
10-28-2008, 11:41 AM
Man, im so over sugardaddys. this guy this weekend totally pissed me off! Ive been talking to him for 2 years and he was all fly out to see me...I paid for it! When I got to the airport, they said there was no ticket. So...I paid for it since I was already there and going to stay with family anyways. He was on the phone with me saying im so sorry, i promise i'll give u the money for it when u get here..never showed up for 8 days. Never got any money. Wasted $500 outta my own pocket...

These guys just want to talk and never pay up! Im sticking to regulars now on... :(

Honey, I'm sorry. I'd never go somewhere if nothing was paid for. He could have easily did a credit card over the phone while you're at the airport. So many things could have been done before you had to pay out of your own pocket. When you do these kind of things you have to be careful. Tread light heartedly but also watch out for the retards wasting your time! You're not still talking to him are you?

knp001
10-28-2008, 03:39 PM
^^ well when you have an SD/SB relationship it's kind of already a relationship except they pay for your time hon. I see my sd once or twice a week. We chat through out the days when we don't see each other. It's pretty much full time & a 2 way relationship. He pays my bills pretty much & we have an awesome time every time we see each other.

My other sd I see him two times a month seeing how he's from another state but travels here on business. This one is the one that showers me with presents & is the one with all the brains that I enjoy oh so much. :D

I don't sex either of them but I can tell you, w/ my first SD I think about sexing all the time since he's so freaking hot.

how much time would you reccommend we spend together? we're both rather busy people, and see each other about 1x/week.

also, how should I bring up the topic of him buying me stuff? A girl I worked with told me to say "It's $300 to go to dinner with me" (for example). But I just feel so bad!! I prefer a more subtle route...

LittleMissy
10-29-2008, 01:41 AM
how much time would you reccommend we spend together? we're both rather busy people, and see each other about 1x/week.

also, how should I bring up the topic of him buying me stuff? A girl I worked with told me to say "It's $300 to go to dinner with me" (for example). But I just feel so bad!! I prefer a more subtle route...

I don't think theres a certain recommendation.. I spend time with my SD when I please and when our schedules allow us to. I have a friend who sees her SD 5x a week! (like they're dating)

I don't think you should go with "it's X amount of $ to do X of this with me" That makes it sound like you're some kind of escort/pro which is what SDs don't want (from what I've seen anyway). They could get an escort somewhere else if they wanted.

You're suppose to be forming some sort of connection/relationship with them and just let him know that you'd like a little incentive to spend on such & such. Thats how I go about it. I let my SDs know that I want/ or have my eye on this new blah blah & wanna go get it or my phone bill is over due or some kind of bill is coming up.

knp001
10-29-2008, 09:45 AM
ok, thanks for the advice!! (I've never done this before- I'm pretty lost!!)

I'm seeing him tonight, so I'll let you know how it goes!!

charlie61
10-29-2008, 02:06 PM
ok, thanks for the advice!! (I've never done this before- I'm pretty lost!!)

I'm seeing him tonight, so I'll let you know how it goes!!

Seriously, if you haven't already, then read through this entire thread. A lot of the questions getting asked recently (not just yours) are questions that have been answered in depth somewhere in the thread.

xsomnambulist
11-11-2008, 04:51 PM
from my experience with the online encounters, is that these guys want to pay as little as possible and take up as much of your time as they can.

Ugh. Tell me about it.

LittleMissy
11-19-2008, 01:51 AM
No one as any good stories? I've been around my SD for about 5 months now.. we just got back from south beach FL for the weekend. Girls, there ARE good SD(s) you just have to beware and choose wisely.

My 2nd SD only comes down to the area about twice a month or so.. he's my presents daddy.. & I've only given this guy a peck on the cheek.

BUT... it did take me a good half a year before I found either of them.. I'm really picky on who I will meet with and also what the circumstances are and draw the boundaries very clearly in the beginning.

Dottie Rebel
11-19-2008, 07:10 PM
I cannot emphasize enough to remember the importance of SAFETY! I was a very free-spirited, trusting, laid back chick for a long time until I was hurt. I realized I had not made my safety top priority.

When you meet with these guys, you must INSIST that everything be your way, including separate hotel rooms. If they aren't willing to shell out the extra bucks for another room then they are too broke ass to be long term SD potential anyway.

INSIST on first class treatment. If he is pressuring you, invading your personal space, saying things that make you uncomfortable or upsetting you in any way, GET OUT. I really can't say that enough. If your inner voice is telling you the guy is a creep, bail.

I once thought a guy was gross and creepy but harmless and it got me raped.

shameless
11-20-2008, 02:05 AM
Having been on sugardaddie.com for a few weeks I can safely say most men are old enough to be your dad, married and asking you to be their 'one and only'. If you want a young, rich guy to look after you, you might as well seek those qualities in your next boyfriend. I've heard some great SD stories from some dancers but these are very few and afar. A bit like great one-off customers that just rock up and have a three hour VIP with you, don't pester you for your number and so...

One last thing - IF IT SOUNDS TO GOOD TO BE TRUE - IN 99% OF CASES IT IS!!!

Dottie Rebel
11-20-2008, 02:24 AM
^^^So true. The vast majority of them are 50 pretending to be 37, sporting a bad orange tan, halitosis, and a fried toupee. And they are ALL looking for sex. I don't care what they say.

SassyPants
11-20-2008, 02:27 AM
^^ .... for example



:)

JRdancer
11-21-2008, 10:58 PM
I think it would be really hard to dispute a bank wire.


Ok girls, I don't know if this has been bought up already, but how do you set up an account for your sd to send money. Obviously I don't want to reveal my name/bank details etc. and the stuff covered on here was specific to US sugarbabes, but if there are any aussies on here, what do you guys do? I'm thinking of something like paypal, but is it safe?
if the sd gets cold feet, can he dispute the payments made? I don't wanna have to pay back a s*&^load of money lol.

Union Jackie
01-09-2009, 07:42 PM
I want to revive this thread and ask if anyone has had any experience with sugarparents, or any sound advice in dealing with them?

To be brief, I've been contacted by an attractive rich couple who say they are looking for a sugarbaby to add to their family and basically shower in gifts. We've corresponded and everything seems genuine as nothing has suggested otherwise. They sound like heaps of fun!

I just wanted to ask if anyone has any tips as to what special considerations I should take for when we meet soon? I am dealing with two people here and want to make the best impression on both of them, but also be safe. I am recounting how I am in the SC with couples (in that I always concentrate on the woman first, flirt with her, etc), but this isn't the contrived environment of the SC.

Any stories? Ideas?


ETA: OK, that meeting 'soon' now means tonight. I'll keep you posted.

Miss_McKenna
01-10-2009, 01:44 AM
Union Jackie, let us know how that goes! I've never heard of sugarparents before but it sounds good - no creepy single guys! I'd love to have sugarparents!

Union Jackie
01-11-2009, 08:41 AM
OK, the update on last night: those sugarparents are really cool - I know it's early days but I so want them to adopt me! We were just supposed to go for dinner last night to get to know each other, but we ended up hitting the nightclub and going on a hilarious champagne bender. I genuinely like them - they're interesting, down to earth and incredibly fun-loving. The lady asked if she could take me shopping so we've pencilled in a date this week. Oh yeah - and I also got a financial gift when we parted ways. Nice!

I'm happy so far, fingers crossed it continues as such! :)

atlmorgan
01-11-2009, 07:14 PM
This is scary business 4 sure.Seeing someone o.t.c. is way different than in the club 4 sure.I've always believed in a controlled enviroment,anywhere there's people around you should be o.k. I finally posted on a few s.d. sites.I've had a few responces but it is really creepy to think of being alone with a guy so I say very many dinner and shopping dates,learn all you can about him from,his tag,his # there are lots of ways to check him out a little.I had a guy ask me one time to agree to go out on his boat with him in an e.m. just the thought of that creeps me out,so not a controlled enviroment!I've always taken my own car to meet custys I saw o.t.c. Follow your instincts,if your sences tell you somethings wrong go with that.Through the years I've had regular custy's that would pay me just to spend time with them,a lot of times they just want to be seen with a pretty girl,it's not what they are getting(or not,ha ha) it's what the people that see you with them are thinking that he's got it going on-ewww I know.I had a 70 year old guy that used to sport me around for 400 bucks a day,12ish til around 8ish breakfast,tanning,lunch,shopping,dinnner.Igot fat he got broke in a hurry or atleast close to it.He still spends time in the s.c. I couldn't take being around him sooo much 2-4 days a week for 6 mo. He couldn't have sex but that was ALL he talked about all the time!!!Ewwwwww

firemaiden04
01-12-2009, 12:00 AM
I have a huge thing about not seeing people otc. The thought of it just makes me so uncomfortable, and it really has nothing to do with the individual guy--just the idea in general. And meeting up with people I met online also makes me wicked uncomfortable because of a past experience that got really bad and could have been a hell of a lot worse if I didn't know how to knee in the balls. Just for shits and giggles, I opened a profile on seekingarrangment.com basically advertising for INNOCENT company at work, just to see where it goes. Not my real name or email, so if it goes badly, I think I'll be able to clean house pretty well. So I'll keep you updated.

Union Jackie
01-12-2009, 03:42 PM
^^ Good luck firemaiden. I agree that the whole online thing is a territory that should never be taken lightly. I read through this thread and paid close attention to the bad as well as the good stories. With all that information I still took my time to weight it up before putting up a profile on those sites. You will be approached by trolls, and you have to be very discriminating with whom you choose to meet. Don't be blinded by the cash (even now, I'm still sure most people lie about their incomes to try and bait us) and never rely on the sites (or anyone for that matter) if you are desperate for money (it could let your defences down). I know in my case the couple I met were completely transparent with me; they volunteered their full names, backgrounds, numbers and photos (and I checked them out). I spoke to them on the phone beforehand, we met in a public place that I was happy with and we parted publicly too. If you do meet someone for the first time, ALWAYS let someone else know where you'll be. The whole thing can be fun if done right, expectations are clear and you understand that these things have a shelf-life. Don't take unnecessary risks and never compromise your safety.

charlie61
01-13-2009, 03:36 AM
^^ Yes. And always, ALWAYS trust your instincts...especially that little voice that says "...no..." Even if everything else checks out, if part of you is telling you that something isn't right, then go with that! No amount of money is worth your safety.

SydneyII
01-15-2009, 09:22 AM
OK, the update on last night: those sugarparents are really cool - I know it's early days but I so want them to adopt me! We were just supposed to go for dinner last night to get to know each other, but we ended up hitting the nightclub and going on a hilarious champagne bender. I genuinely like them - they're interesting, down to earth and incredibly fun-loving. The lady asked if she could take me shopping so we've pencilled in a date this week. Oh yeah - and I also got a financial gift when we parted ways. Nice!

I'm happy so far, fingers crossed it continues as such! :)

Wow, that sounds great ! I want to get "adopted" too ;D

StevieStar7
03-09-2009, 11:13 AM
Aubreyyy!!!! Can you come back and post a sample profile? I have 0 clue as to what to write. :( Or PM me?!

Would love to see one too!

StevieStar7
03-09-2009, 11:30 AM
So I re signed up for seekingarrangement.com (it's FREE to see their profiles & read the emails).
I have a pot SD I'm talking too, he just asked for my number, don't want to do that...so I asked for his...waiting for response...will *67 if he gives me his.

StevieStar7
03-09-2009, 11:42 AM
email from pot SD, "A true SB/SD relationshipa, NSA, no games, no BS, no drama, life is to short to waste it.."

what is a NSA?

non sexual arrangement?

vivianbear
03-09-2009, 12:57 PM
^^

NSA = No Strings Attached. This is usually a euphemism for casual sex. Pass on this one.

AngelWithHorns
03-09-2009, 01:01 PM
NSA might have a different meaning on sugar daddy sites, but on most dating sites I've ever seen, NSA=no strings attached, implying that they don't want a relationship. So it sounds like this potential sugar daddy wouldn't be willing to put in any time/effort or gifts/cash for a non-sexual relationship. Just my $0.02. :)

Good luck to all looking for an SD.

StevieStar7
03-09-2009, 02:10 PM
LOL...well NSA = No Strings Attached def makes more sense! Thanks for the heads up girls =)

she sells sanctuary
03-10-2009, 05:53 AM
lol. i think some guys need to be schooled in what a sugar daddy/baby relationship is...if they want a prostitute, they need to look for a prostitute. a sd/sb is totally strings attached. duh.

dudes like that are why i haven't bothered trying this whole thing yet.