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PaigeDWinter
04-21-2008, 04:31 PM
Yeah I honestly don't know if he gets them all, or if any get intercepted. He's only really responded to a handful of them.

xoxoGracexoxo
04-21-2008, 04:34 PM
I keep thinking that if he was face to face with me, he'd give in. Especially if his wife isn't there.

Well, he might. But he might not. You can't base your feelings about yourself on somebody else's feelings about you. You never really know how other people feel, anyway. Validation and forgiveness are going to have to come from inside you. I wish your dad could just hand them to you -- hell, I wish I could mail them to you in a letter, cause I think you deserve them. But they have to come from you.

Of course, the good part of that is that whenever you are ready to accept and forgive yourself, it will happen. You don't need anybody's permission but your own.

Lena
04-21-2008, 04:50 PM
^ Yeah, what Grace said.

Also, this is a time when your father needs all of his energies and attention focused on himself and getting better. It sucks that getting sick doesn't make you his number one priority, but since it hasn't maybe you should be respectful of that and send him a nice letter saying that you understand that he needs all his energies for himself right now and you are sending good energies (or whatever you send) and that you hope he contacts you when he has enough energy for himself and wants to reconcile.