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virgoamm
04-21-2008, 01:13 AM
Ideally, no. Love is the most important thing to me. However, if I just happened to meet a guy that I was head over heels for AND he happened to be rich-well, that would be a completely different story.
cutey5032
04-21-2008, 07:58 AM
No, I would probably not consider it if I were single. I have a super-independent mindset, and wouldn't be able to have someone dangle all that crap above me. I also take a lot of pride in the fact that everything I own, was bought by ME. Ideally, I would like my partner to around the same income as me.
Aside from that, I don't really value "rich." Theres only so much stuff I need, or want for that matter. Why the fuck do rich people have to have bowling alleys and movie theaters and shit in their house? Rich is not even on my list of attractive qualities.
Sophia_Starina
04-21-2008, 08:10 AM
It depends on how much money we're talking about....
Vyanka
04-21-2008, 08:22 AM
If I ever get married, I want it to be for love. I couldn't fuck someone i'm not into (except his bank account), i'd be miserable having bad sex i'm not enjoying. lol.
But then again IDK. If it were a billionaire & depending on the situation...who knows, I prob. would!
Money really does talks.
xoxoGracexoxo
04-21-2008, 09:05 AM
Nah. Sounds like a pain in the ass. My whole fantasy about having lots of money is the absolute freedome I like to imagine it would provide. If the money comes with a whole bunch of strings, like where I have to live, who I have to live with, and what I can and can't do with my time, then it's not really worth it.
What I want is not a rich husband, but a patron. Somebody who gives me money to pursue my work because they beleive I'm a genius and my opus will benefit mankind. It could happen, right? In the mean-time, I write grants. There's paperwork involved, but I imagine there'd be paperwork in marrying a rich dude, too. Plus, my grantors never bitch to me about their day or ask for a blowjob.
Miss Jessica
04-21-2008, 01:17 PM
It depends on the situation in whole. If it met certain expectations I'd have. I'd consider it. But alot would depend on the person too. So, in all actuality I wouldn't marry just for the money. But sure, it could be a huge influence. I would still want to pursue my own business ventures and make my OWN money as well. Also, I MAKE THE RULES. No ifs, ands or buts about it.
Lonelily
04-21-2008, 01:20 PM
No. I can make my own money. True love is way more precious to me.
QFT. Wise words.
miabella
04-21-2008, 02:13 PM
y'all should watch the documentary Born Rich. extreme wealth ALWAYS has strings attached, whether you marry it or come by it some other way.
money provides some useful things, but freedom is not one of them by default.
Aubreyyy
04-21-2008, 04:56 PM
How much? I dont think I could. If it came to that I'd rather just be the rich man's kept mistress so I could still pursue a life of my own.
Thats my plan :)
Wouldn't marry for money though... couldn't live with the guy.
hardkandee
04-21-2008, 04:59 PM
I would. Barring physical abuse and extreme psychological abuse... I could deal.
}:D
Date for money, maybe, but marry? Thats why marriages are so fucked up now. What happens if something happens and the money's gone?? You are stuck with someone you never really loved in the first place. People build lives,have kids, start families with a messed up foundation.Maybe I'm old fashioned but I say, play around ,date rich guys and get as much out of it when you can, but when you are ready to get married and take a vow before God,and the rest of the world it should be because you love that person. Period.
Kalligirl
04-21-2008, 08:00 PM
i'd rather be broke and happy, then miserable stuck in a marriage based on lies. unless u could take half his shit! }:D jk.
twisterinAZ
04-21-2008, 08:58 PM
Man I just must be meeting all the decent rich men. :O
Girl, you are charmed ! I'm convinced now....
Anyways ladies, the man in question is bordering on billionaire. He is OK looking but not hot . I think my GF would have to fake it and just suck it up. The wine buzzz wears off.
I'm seriously on the fence with this one. i think about my family....
ahmeerah
04-21-2008, 09:12 PM
I wouldn't marry for money. But I intend to marry a man with money. There's no sense in struggling. I can make my own money but I'll still expect my husband to make more. Even Beyonce married "up." Jay-Z has double what she has. Am i off-topic?
twisterinAZ
04-21-2008, 09:15 PM
^^^ no girl. You are right on topic. I want to know what you think.
Sophia_Starina
04-22-2008, 08:01 AM
I wouldn't marry for money. But I intend to marry a man with money. There's no sense in struggling. I can make my own money but I'll still expect my husband to make more. Even Beyonce married "up." Jay-Z has double what she has. Am i off-topic?
Thats actually a very good point. I wholeheartedly want a husband that is better off than I am. Maybe I am too old fashioned but I cannot see myself in a marriage where I would be the breadwinner. It just makes me uncomfortable.
Jenny
04-22-2008, 08:05 AM
I see a growing trend of high-powered corporate wives and husbands opting for lower paying careers in politics, charity, non-profit, pro bono and other kinds of public interest; which they probably wouldn't do if someone else wasn't making up the lost income.
jaizaine
04-22-2008, 08:27 AM
I wouldn't marry for money. But I intend to marry a man with money. There's no sense in struggling. I can make my own money but I'll still expect my husband to make more. Even Beyonce married "up." Jay-Z has double what she has. Am i off-topic?
I really agree with this. I would not consider marrying a person who wasn't at the very least financially comfortable. why would i want to go thru life struggling? my friend married a guy who earns very little money, they live from paycheck to paycheck and she is at home with their 2 kids. I would not want that life personally.
VegasPrincess
04-22-2008, 09:09 AM
I think it's pretty easy to love somebody that takes care of you and always provide for you and you never had to worry about anything.
Unfortunately, I will not be marrying for money because I love my boyfriend very much and am just hoping that we win the lottery or something....
But, before I met him I was happily trolling sugar daddy websites, so....I am fine with the idea!
Sunshine73
04-22-2008, 12:05 PM
Thats why marriages are so fucked up now. What happens if something happens and the money's gone?? You are stuck with someone you never really loved in the first place. People build lives,have kids, start families with a messed up foundation... when you are ready to get married and take a vow before God,and the rest of the world it should be because you love that person. Period.
Totally.
saphire123456
04-22-2008, 02:27 PM
Thats actually a very good point. I wholeheartedly want a husband that is better off than I am. Maybe I am too old fashioned but I cannot see myself in a marriage where I would be the breadwinner. It just makes me uncomfortable.
yup i feel the same way, i bring in the big bucks, and am accustomed to a certain lifestyle,so a guy should ideally be making more or at least pulling his own weight. so i would probably not marry someone who at least didn't have potential in his career choice to make as much as me
red red red
04-22-2008, 03:03 PM
There are plenty of young, cute, ambitious guys floating around who, with a little bit of encouragement, will end up wealthy. I think they're a better bet overall. I want to build my life with someone, not jump on a bargain train because it's easy.
I don't think that all rich men suck by nature. Rich kids are another story. Yeeuuuck. If I had any, I think I'd have to eat them.
Nicolina
04-22-2008, 03:16 PM
I'm loving the assumption that all rich men are disrespectful toads. O_o I've met some cute ones. And nice ones. And both.
Of course, there are some incredibly desirable rich men out there--hot, handsome, brilliant, charismatic guys who just happen to have resources up the ying-yang (or who acquired those resources precisely because they are hot, handsome, brilliant, and charismatic). I don't think anyone disputes that.
But the question was about "marrying for money." I think most of us assumed that in the case of the OP's friend, her suitor's money was his most attractive quality. I assumed that she did not love the guy. It sounds like she thinks she might be able to tolerate him if it means she'll be financially set for life (or at least for the duration of the marriage.)
By definition, if you marry a fabulous guy with whom you are madly in love....who just so happens to be filthy rich, well, then, you're not "marrying for money." In that case, by definition, you're just a "Lucky Bitch", plain and simple. :P ;)
But. I still maintain that guys like that--handsome, successful, brilliant men of very high social and economic status--will seek qualities beyond youth, beauty and hot sex in a wife. Especially a first wife.
Aubreyyy
04-22-2008, 03:25 PM
There are plenty of young, cute, ambitious guys floating around who, with a little bit of encouragement, will end up wealthy.
This is my current bf. He's 2 years out of college, working at a bank in finance. Just a couple more years til the market evens out and we're rollin' in it :)
XxAmber89xX
04-26-2008, 04:18 PM
i gotta guy that is rediculously rich... he runs rings of online casinos out of Costa Rica and Honduras... anyways, he said his fantasy is to marry a girl like me and spoil her and let her (me) have her own lovers... boy, this career exposes me to everything! lol...
he also offered to hire me that porn star Julian (if anyone knows him) or one of my choice... i asked him if he wanted to watch, he said no, it's not his thing... he just likes making people happy.
takes all kinds to fill the gene pool
phillyvixen
04-26-2008, 06:01 PM
Ideally, no. Love is the most important thing to me. However, if I just happened to meet a guy that I was head over heels for AND he happened to be rich-well, that would be a completely different story.
I second this
phillyvixen
04-26-2008, 06:05 PM
I also wanted a husband that would be the bread winner
Call me old fashion but i want to be a stay at home mom and i don't want to struggle.
I'm lucky i found what i was looking for.... Super smart, good looking, great taste ( in some stuff lol), motivated and rich with a big cock and a vivacious sex drive and a hell of a kinky side.
Thank you Jesus!