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NinaDaisy
04-22-2008, 06:01 PM
It does make sense. That's kind of what my current siggy quote refers to.
I've been on this site for 4 1/2 years and some members do get more leeway than others, even getting billed by other members as "straight shooters" or whatever other polite synonym for "bitch" they want to choose. While other members get pounced on for pretty much saying the same shit.
Just stupid fucking internet politics.
Andygirl
04-22-2008, 06:03 PM
Again - you guys could be overestimating your "inside sources" and making a really big deal out of absolutely nothing.
Actually, I found out about it because a friend accidentally saw it when someone else was logged on (who was a member of the private forum) and saw some really nasty shit being said about herself and other members.
So, no, it didn't affect me directly and wasn't mentioned to me for any drama-starting reason. The only reason I am mentioning it now is because people are denying that it exists when they known damn well it does. And if it isn't a problem or a secret then what's the big deal about people knowing?
Jay Zeno
04-22-2008, 06:13 PM
The only reason I am mentioning it now is because people are denying that it exists when they known damn well it does. And if it isn't a problem or a secret then what's the big deal about people knowing?Maybe I'm missing something, but I don't see denials. I see, "It sounds exaggerated," which is as good an observation as any, because this background information isn't being fully disclosed except by allusion, either - which is just fine.
I consider any private forum or conversation, SW or anywhere else, as, well, private. The "big deal" about disclosing any private conversations is that they're private conversations. Jenny and FBR may talk about what a creepy guy I am. That's a private conversation. They're entitled to say that in a private conversation. And perhaps it's just me, but if someone were to gain access to that and show it to me, I'd take serious exception regarding their invasion of privacy.
britt244
04-22-2008, 06:14 PM
Maybe I'm missing something, but I don't see denials. I see, "It sounds exaggerated," which is as good an observation as any, because this background information isn't being fully disclosed except by allusion, either - which is just fine.
I consider any private forum, SW or anywhere else, as a private place. The "big deal" about disclosing any private conversations is that they're private conversations. Jenny and FBR may talk about what a creepy guy I am. That's a private conversation. They're entitled to say that in a private conversation. And perhaps it's just me, but if someone were to gain access to that and show it to me, I'd take serious exception regarding their invasion of privacy.
your example sounds more like a pm, though. discussing it in a group in the locker room or mod lounge is different.
Jenny
04-22-2008, 06:14 PM
Jenny and FBR may talk about what a creepy guy I am. That's a private conversation.Who told you about that? Everyone has a motherfucking inside source.
NinaDaisy
04-22-2008, 06:20 PM
You want a thread in which you are free to insult other members and discuss how dreadful they are? Sometimes I do too. But I don't think we're going to have that.
No.
Not in public view.
But that's already been addressed, right?
Nicolina
04-22-2008, 06:24 PM
Well, Miss L, I for one think it would be a good idea. I mean we're all adults, right? It's like maintaining a happy marriage. If you put your SO on ignore and don't discuss your feelings and don't want to hear his/her point of view, then shit usually blows up at some point (like it has here before).
I don't understand.
In a marriage, yes, it is very important to keep lines of communication open.
But this isn't a marriage. This is an anonymous internet message board, as luscious herself pointed out.
Call me crazy, but I turn to stripperweb for entertainment and certain kinds of information...It's an outlet for my hypergraphia and a way to procrastinate when I am under the gun at school. While I may feel affection for the online personae of many members here, I do not expect SW to fulfill any of my emotional needs. Therefore, I see absolutely no validity in the comparison between SW and a primary romantic relationship.
The appropriate way to deal with people who irk you on an anonymous message board is to simply ignore them. Gossip about them with your RL or online friends if you must. But really...It's just not that important.
If you feel that a member is so problematic that he or she cannot be ignored, raise your concerns with people who have the power to reprimand or ban the problem member. If you feel that the site is poorly managed or moderated, raise the issues with someone who has the power to make changes. If you are dissatisfied with the outcome, leave. Nobody is forcing you to spend your time here.
But...A thread just to bitch publicly about members you don't like? How could that possibly be constructive? /:O
Jay Zeno
04-22-2008, 06:25 PM
your example sounds more like a pm, though. discussing it in a group in the locker room or mod lounge is different.If you're in private conversation with one other person, or 10, or 50, in a room or a locked chat room or a private forum or a conference room, talking with a control group or a bunch of beer buddies, and you have an expectation of privacy, then I'll grant you that expectation of privacy.
Lysondra
04-22-2008, 06:30 PM
I thought being adults about something meant sucking it up, calming down and moving on?
Not starting bitchfests that we should handle because we're adults.
Or maybe I have the wrong dictionary for adult...
velvet
04-22-2008, 06:42 PM
I thought being adults about something meant sucking it up, calming down and moving on?
Not starting bitchfests that we should handle because we're adults.
Or maybe I have the wrong dictionary for adult...
nicely said. thanks!
TigersMilk
04-22-2008, 07:21 PM
I thought being adults about something meant sucking it up, calming down and moving on?
Can we all just do this? As ADULTS I'm sure we can.
I repeat myself if you have problems with a mod, member or anything else voice it to a different mod, Pryce or Stripperweb.
The survey was also an open venue in which you could have or did discuss in detail your concerns for the site.