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StrawberrySwitchblade
05-04-2008, 06:43 PM
I went through a dry spell with Boyfriend not too long ago. On his part. He preferred to jack off and be done with it. I work a tiny outfit with slutty panties for him and he didn't notice. One day, as he was walking past, I grabbed his hand and slid it up my skirt to the slutty panties...never been laid so fast in my life.

kitana
05-05-2008, 06:50 AM
^^
that's a bit over the top. she has not described him as an asshole. he might just not have much of a sex drive right now. that doesn't make him an asshole and doesn't mean she has to leave him!!

Exactly!

Sounds like he is depressed, which will KILL a sex drive faster than imagining a 3 way with Condi Rice, George Bush Jr, and Hillary Clinton! =D

Maybe just TALK to him and find out what the deal is 1st before you throw the baby out with the bathwater.

kitana
05-05-2008, 07:16 AM
We worked for years to free ourselves from slavery and you bring it on yourself. It just makes no sense to me.

Sorry but I call riding on coat tails!

You did NOTHING. Our grandparents and great-grandparents did. Sorry, but that pisses me off.

kitana
05-05-2008, 07:21 AM
when did i ever ever say that someone being attracted to someone because of their looks makes them an asshole?


Um....right here?


You do know that these men who wont date a girl who isnt primped are all assholes and abusive right?

Toki
05-05-2008, 11:24 AM
[quote=kitana;1530311]Exactly!

Sounds like he is depressed, which will KILL a sex drive faster than imagining a 3 way with Condi Rice, George Bush Jr, and Hillary Clinton! =D

quote]

LMAO!!!:D

msonyxorb
05-05-2008, 12:53 PM
Um....right here?
I said that guys who only date girls who are always DOLLED up are assholes. Never did I say that guys who only date girls who are naturally pretty are assholes. Its the guys who want their girls to be high maintenence and cant stand how they look without makeup that are assholes. I supposed you think all girls need to be fully made up to look pretty, but they don't.

Peanut_Butter
05-05-2008, 01:32 PM
I just talked to my boyfriend abtuo this thread. Our sex life is in the shitter as well. Stress and just laziness has taken it's toll.
My boyfriend said that he doesn't think I need to wear full makeup and get dressed up cute for him to be more turned on, but he said that he would appriciate some effort on my part because I have let myself go "to disgusting porportions" in his own words "You tell me about nipple leakage. That makes me really want to suck on them...umm, never!"

What he said is that he would be a lot more inclined to be affectionate or have sex more often if I kept girly stuff to myself. No period talk, no talk abotu the latet vag infection. Keep girly issues quiet. Also, he woudl appriciate it if I stopped burpign and farting so much and tried to be a little more discreet. ( he burps and farts ll the time, so I thought it was ok if I did to. We've lived together for 6 years now. I thought I didnt have to hide anything.)

He also said he doesn't care if I wore makeup around the hosue or not, but he would prefer not. he said I dont even need makeup cause Im atrtract9ive as it is, but he would appriciate some cute around the hosue clothes like tank tops and shorts, as opposed to ratty teeshirts with holes and stained sweatpants.

I don't think that what he asked was outrageous, and I can appriciate what he was sayign. When I thought abotu it..I wouldnt be attracted to me either. The only time he gets to see me with makeup on lookign cute is when I am going out the door for work. As soon as I coem home, I go straight to the bathroom to wipe it all off. So he never gets to see me pretty. We never go out anymore cause we cant afford it, so I cant even get cuet for him for dates, cause we cant have them. So it makes sence to me.

SO I decided to try to put more effort into our relationship as well. You gotta give somethign to get something, right?

kaiarose
05-05-2008, 01:36 PM
^^ Exactly. I really don't mind dressing up for him. It not only makes him more appreciative but it makes me feel good.

msonyxorb
05-05-2008, 11:33 PM
I just talked to my boyfriend abtuo this thread. Our sex life is in the shitter as well. Stress and just laziness has taken it's toll.
My boyfriend said that he doesn't think I need to wear full makeup and get dressed up cute for him to be more turned on, but he said that he would appriciate some effort on my part because I have let myself go "to disgusting porportions" in his own words "You tell me about nipple leakage. That makes me really want to suck on them...umm, never!"

What he said is that he would be a lot more inclined to be affectionate or have sex more often if I kept girly stuff to myself. No period talk, no talk abotu the latet vag infection. Keep girly issues quiet. Also, he woudl appriciate it if I stopped burpign and farting so much and tried to be a little more discreet. ( he burps and farts ll the time, so I thought it was ok if I did to. We've lived together for 6 years now. I thought I didnt have to hide anything.)

He also said he doesn't care if I wore makeup around the hosue or not, but he would prefer not. he said I dont even need makeup cause Im atrtract9ive as it is, but he would appriciate some cute around the hosue clothes like tank tops and shorts, as opposed to ratty teeshirts with holes and stained sweatpants.

I don't think that what he asked was outrageous, and I can appriciate what he was sayign. When I thought abotu it..I wouldnt be attracted to me either. The only time he gets to see me with makeup on lookign cute is when I am going out the door for work. As soon as I coem home, I go straight to the bathroom to wipe it all off. So he never gets to see me pretty. We never go out anymore cause we cant afford it, so I cant even get cuet for him for dates, cause we cant have them. So it makes sence to me.

SO I decided to try to put more effort into our relationship as well. You gotta give somethign to get something, right?
This is exactly what I was referring to when I said "asshole"
A guy who really loves you wont give a shit if youre leaking out of your nipples or fart in front of him. An asshole will expect you to be prim and proper while he burps and farts and smells all day long.

Andygirl
05-06-2008, 03:45 AM
I just talked to my boyfriend abtuo this thread. Our sex life is in the shitter as well. Stress and just laziness has taken it's toll.
My boyfriend said that he doesn't think I need to wear full makeup and get dressed up cute for him to be more turned on, but he said that he would appriciate some effort on my part because I have let myself go "to disgusting porportions" in his own words "You tell me about nipple leakage. That makes me really want to suck on them...umm, never!"

What he said is that he would be a lot more inclined to be affectionate or have sex more often if I kept girly stuff to myself. No period talk, no talk abotu the latet vag infection. Keep girly issues quiet. Also, he woudl appriciate it if I stopped burpign and farting so much and tried to be a little more discreet. ( he burps and farts ll the time, so I thought it was ok if I did to. We've lived together for 6 years now. I thought I didnt have to hide anything.)

Wow, I can't believe he had to say something for you to realize that you were turning him off with your crude behavior. I can't imagine acting that way in front of anyone, but especially not in front of my man. He's not a jerk for not wanting to hear about your infections and periods and shit. And burping and farting? How old are you? I'm sorry, but I just can't fathom behaving that way. Of course, he shouldn't be doing it either. That's just a matter of respect (or lack thereof).

pookie
05-06-2008, 03:47 AM
I have made a decision. Instead of dressing up for my boyfriend everyday i really feel undressing would be the the better option here. ITs to the point. :)

Andygirl
05-06-2008, 03:49 AM
This is exactly what I was referring to when I said "asshole"
A guy who really loves you wont give a shit if youre leaking out of your nipples or fart in front of him. An asshole will expect you to be prim and proper while he burps and farts and smells all day long.


Bullshit. He's not an asshole for not wanting to hear about that shit. Most normal people aren't going to be turned on hearing every crass detail of their partner's bodily functions. Would you say the same thing if it was her complaining about him acting that way? There's nothing normal about sharing every little detail with your partner, or giving up basic manners just because you are comfortable with someone. You can't have it both ways.

Lysondra
05-06-2008, 04:39 AM
I have made a decision. Instead of dressing up for my boyfriend everyday i really feel undressing would be the the better option here. ITs to the point. :)



What was the oldskool idea? Oh yeah. Saran wrap and heels.

Nini Nieb
05-06-2008, 06:09 AM
Wow, I can't believe he had to say something for you to realize that you were turning him off with your crude behavior. I can't imagine acting that way in front of anyone, but especially not in front of my man. He's not a jerk for not wanting to hear about your infections and periods and shit. And burping and farting? How old are you? I'm sorry, but I just can't fathom behaving that way. Of course, he shouldn't be doing it either. That's just a matter of respect (or lack thereof).

Lucky me !! I don't walk around farting. I don't even go toilet !? It is so no lady like !! I'm a lady. I don't do that. It would be so disrepectfull !!

I like my BF going down on me !! I really like when his paying attention to me anus. But he/me has to feel clean and safe about it !!

It is feeling so good !!! Am I the only one ???

It is also making me feel good !! Feeling appreciated, desired and feminine ...

jaizaine
05-06-2008, 06:18 AM
Realistically how can u not burp or fart in front of someone u live with? I mean u dont have to go around making a big fuss about it. But she says she has lived with her man for 6 years, it would be hard for a fart not to slip out here and there.

Lysondra
05-06-2008, 06:20 AM
Realistically how can u not burp or fart in front of someone u live with? I mean u dont have to go around making a big fuss about it. But she says she has lived with her man for 6 years, it would be hard for a fart not to slip out here and there.

Dude. I even run up to my man, let one go and run away giggling.

Andygirl
05-06-2008, 06:21 AM
Realistically how can u not burp or fart in front of someone u live with? I mean u dont have to go around making a big fuss about it. But she says she has lived with her man for 6 years, it would be hard for a fart not to slip out here and there.

I have never done it in front of my husband, not in five years. It's not that difficult.

Plus, it's not like she's just letting one slip out here and there, it sounds like it's a major problem for him. I just can't imagine what kind of people think it's ok to go around farting and belching like it's no big deal. I would find it disrespectful, and frankly, disgusting, to live with someone who did that on a regular basis.

jaizaine
05-06-2008, 06:32 AM
Dude. I even run up to my man, let one go and run away giggling.

LOL my bf farted in my face tonight. I wasn't impressed and I didn't find it funny. Of course when I fart it's funny but never when he does. Yes double standards here hehe.

jaizaine
05-06-2008, 06:33 AM
I have never done it in front of my husband, not in five years. It's not that difficult.

Plus, it's not like she's just letting one slip out here and there, it sounds like it's a major problem for him. I just can't imagine what kind of people think it's ok to go around farting and belching like it's no big deal. I would find it disrespectful, and frankly, disgusting, to live with someone who did that on a regular basis.

Yes from the post that's true. I have tried to tell my bf that his constant farting is putting me off him sexually but he thinks its funny and still does it. then he complains that he never gets action /:O

dangerousdiva
05-06-2008, 07:02 AM
I have to agree burping and farting in front of anyone is uncouth, IMO, and definitely not conducive to romance.

I've actually hung out with couples who did this in front of each other and giggled like it was the cutest thing. It made me feel very uncomfortable; it was like their "secret language".

I don't care how long I've lived with someone, that would never be acceptable.

My personal grooming and hygiene are not dependent on whether I'm alone or not. Being well maintained makes me feel better about myself as person and has nothing to do with having a partner.

Granted, I won't be whipping out my La Perla for a night alone on the couch...well, maybe;)

carmen_b
05-06-2008, 09:30 AM
^^ I can't beleive couples actually do stuff like burp and fart in front of each other. I would never do this and I'm not comfortable with it. I feel like it's hard enough to keep sexiness alive. Occasionally on accident ? Sure. On purpose ... no way.

msonyxorb
05-06-2008, 11:26 AM
Wow, I can't believe he had to say something for you to realize that you were turning him off with your crude behavior. I can't imagine acting that way in front of anyone, but especially not in front of my man. He's not a jerk for not wanting to hear about your infections and periods and shit. And burping and farting? How old are you? I'm sorry, but I just can't fathom behaving that way. Of course, he shouldn't be doing it either. That's just a matter of respect (or lack thereof).
Wow that is so sad that you are so ashamed of your natural state.
It must suck to feel like you have to be perfect all the time.

msonyxorb
05-06-2008, 11:30 AM
Bullshit. He's not an asshole for not wanting to hear about that shit. Most normal people aren't going to be turned on hearing every crass detail of their partner's bodily functions. Would you say the same thing if it was her complaining about him acting that way? There's nothing normal about sharing every little detail with your partner, or giving up basic manners just because you are comfortable with someone. You can't have it both ways.
My bf likes the fact that I do gross stuff around him, but then again he actually loves me, so obviously its not going to turn on a guy who is only using you for your looks and wants you to be a perfect woman sexbot. I dont feel grossed out when my bf farts or burps either. the only time i ever feel grossed out when my bf does that is when i am dating a guy who i am not all that attracted to. I know it used to annoy the hell out of me when my ex burped, because 1- he did it a lot. and 2- i wasnt attracted to him. When you truly are attracted to someone, it's actually cute, and if you find a great guy he will feel honored that such a wonderful girl is comfortabe enough to fart and talk about her period with him.

msonyxorb
05-06-2008, 11:33 AM
^^ I can't beleive couples actually do stuff like burp and fart in front of each other. I would never do this and I'm not comfortable with it. I feel like it's hard enough to keep sexiness alive. Occasionally on accident ? Sure. On purpose ... no way.
I doubt they do it on "purpose" unless they are so talented that they can actually burp and fart on cue, but i know i can't.

Andygirl
05-06-2008, 11:38 AM
Wow that is so sad that you are so ashamed of your natural state.
It must suck to feel like you have to be perfect all the time.

Letting my bodily functions fly isn't my natural state. And I'm far from perfect. I was raised to have manners, and that is how I am comfortable. To do anything else would be to go against my "natural state."

Why is it that you think your way is the only natural way? Aren't we all individuals capable of making our own choices and living our lives the way we see fit? I would no more encourage my child to belch and fart at the dinner table than I would have her eat with her hands and chew with her mouth open.

We live in a society and there are certain social norms that most of us follow to be a part of that society. If you choose to flaunt your bodily functions, then that is your choice, but don't look down on others just because they don't feel comfortable doing the same. Your way isn't the only way. And it isn't the only "right way."

Andygirl
05-06-2008, 11:46 AM
My bf likes the fact that I do gross stuff around him, but then again he actually loves me, so obviously its not going to turn on a guy who is only using you for your looks and wants you to be a perfect woman sexbot. I dont feel grossed out when my bf farts or burps either. the only time i ever feel grossed out when my bf does that is when i am dating a guy who i am not all that attracted to. I know it used to annoy the hell out of me when my ex burped, because 1- he did it a lot. and 2- i wasnt attracted to him. When you truly are attracted to someone, it's actually cute, and if you find a great guy he will feel honored that such a wonderful girl is comfortabe enough to fart and talk about her period with him.

Not acting like a pig wasn't a rule set by my husband. I have never farted, belched, chewed with my mouth open, gone without bathing, or any other disgusting thing around any man I've dated. Nor have I done it around female friends. And that's a personal choice that has nothing to do with any man I'm with, but with how I was raised.

It's a matter of respect not to act like a pig in front of others, whether that be your boyfriend or your best friend. If these are your habits, then I'd imagine you weed out a lot of potential friends and men who would be around you. Again, that's your choice. I choose differently.

I'll never find farting or belching "cute." It's piggish and disgusting, and my mama raised me better than than. There is a time and a place for your bodily functions, and it isn't in the middle of public or in front of someone you want to find you sexy. Sure, it happens sometimes, but that's far different from doing it purposely and constantly.

I don't want to talk about my female issues with my man. That's what girlfriends are for. It's not repressive unless I would have that desire and stifle it because I was afraid of what he'd think. It's just normal for me not to talk about that stuff unless I'm with someone I feel comfortable discussing it with. Different strokes for different folks, msonyxorb. It doesn't have anything to do with whether he loves me or not. I'm sure he'd still love me the same if I mentioned my yeast infection, but that's just not the kind of thing I'd bring up to a man. It doesn't make me better or worse than you, and it certainly isn't a statement about my relationship.

Some men prefer to be with a lady. And some women prefer to behave like one. Others do not, and that is their prerogative. You need to drop the judgmental bullshit and stop acting like you know what's best for anyone but yourself. Get it?

Emily
05-06-2008, 12:59 PM
This thread went totally in the toilet. I just want to delete the whole thing but I'm closing it instead so it'll go away quietly.