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kaiarose
04-24-2008, 08:55 AM
I was just curious as to what you tell your SO when you go to the SC's? And how do you get that stripper smell off before you get home?

Chicagoeditor
04-24-2008, 09:03 AM
Dated a shrink--of all things--last year and told her, straight up, that I enjoyed going to SCs. She seemed Okay with it and even curious (in an abstract, academic way). But when we broke up in a friendly way, she admitted she had a problem with it.

To your OP, at this point in my life I'm not interested in keeping secrets from a SO. I will be as transparent as possible.

kaiarose
04-24-2008, 09:05 AM
Honestly as a girl I'd rather not know if he goes to a SC. I'm one of those horrific hypocritical girls who dance and don't let their bf's go to other SC's.

kaiarose
04-24-2008, 09:32 AM
^^ So you just walk out of the house and that's that?

SPLUT
04-24-2008, 09:57 AM
If the trust isn't there what use is the relationship?

kaiarose
04-24-2008, 10:00 AM
So you tell your SO where you're going?
I'm just curious as to the creative excuses you guys use.

SPLUT
04-24-2008, 10:25 AM
There's really no way to hide the SC smell so if you're going home to a SO you have to be truthful. Throwing your clothes in the washer and taking a shower before hitting the sack is just asking for trouble.

Chicagoeditor
04-24-2008, 10:40 AM
So you tell your SO where you're going?
I'm just curious as to the creative excuses you guys use.

"Honey, I'm going to be taking a tour of the new glitter and perfume factory tonight. See you later. Love you!"

hockeybobby
04-24-2008, 11:02 AM
Would you ever go to a SC with your husby K?

kaiarose
04-24-2008, 11:06 AM
Well he and I work in the same SC. He dances up and I dance downstairs. So technically...But I'm sure you mean a different SC. We have gone to one. Like I said I'm an ass when it comes to him getting dances from girls I don't know. I know the biz and yes it's ridiculous for me to be like that but I just don't like the idea of him getting hard for other women. I've let him get plenty of dances from my friends and hell I even let him fuck one of my friends in front of me!

GenWar
04-24-2008, 01:01 PM
I am an out-of-the-closet Junkie. It is a well known fact that I enjoy clubs and consider them one of my primary hobbies. It's actually kinda cool being open about it...I get invited to EVERY bachelor party that any friend of a friend of a friend is having. Often I will get random calls that are like, "Gen, We're in Minneapolis and we wanna go out. Where do we go?" (Answer: Shiek's or Rick's.)

Now, Mrs. Gen doesn't like it. But she accepts it. We agree not to discuss it. If she gets curious, she asks and I answer simply with as little detail as possible. And we've come to make that work for us.

I've actually gotten her to go a couple of times to Delilah's in Philly. That club is ultra classy so it usually proves ok...No open extras or the like...

I do believe that you can't hide anything from your SO. Deep down, they know. They may not face it but they know. So really, all the junkies are doing the same thing me and Mrs. Gen do...trying not to talk about it. They are just better at it then we are...

One man's opinion...

-gen

kaiarose
04-24-2008, 01:32 PM
Fair enough. So you're usually out of town when you go out. I always like the guys that are out of towners and on business :)

xdamage
04-24-2008, 02:09 PM
I'm one of those horrific hypocritical girls who dance and don't let their bf's go to other SC's.

Nothing horrific about it. Great question to ask I think.

Occasionally the question comes up on the pink side. Usually quite a number of dancers are honest that they are not okay with their men spending money on strippers. Really it's not hard to see why they would feel that way. Chances are a lot of guys wouldn't approve if it was their SO who was blowing several or hundreds or thousands on male strippers.

I really do wonder... if all SC customers only went with their SOs approval, how badly would the SC industry be hurt?

SportsWriter2
04-24-2008, 02:19 PM
I'm just curious as to the creative excuses you guys use.
You join a 24-hour gym and stay in shape. You have duplicate clothes and a second (pre-pay) cell phone. :-\


I'm one of those horrific hypocritical girls who dance and don't let their bf's go to other SC's.
It's all good. I've had a lot of fun helping dancers get even with BFs who went to other clubs. :)

PrettyCurlieQ
04-24-2008, 02:20 PM
Honestly as a girl I'd rather not know if he goes to a SC. I'm one of those horrific hypocritical girls who dance and don't let their bf's go to other SC's.
It's like I'm looking in a mirror!}:D

hockeybobby
04-24-2008, 02:32 PM
Well he and I work in the same SC. He dances up and I dance downstairs. So technically...But I'm sure you mean a different SC. We have gone to one. Like I said I'm an ass when it comes to him getting dances from girls I don't know. I know the biz and yes it's ridiculous for me to be like that but I just don't like the idea of him getting hard for other women. I've let him get plenty of dances from my friends and hell I even let him fuck one of my friends in front of me!

I need to find a girl like you.

yoda57us
04-24-2008, 02:35 PM
I am self-employed and work all hours of the day or night seven days a week.

Sometimes I am even actually working...

rippyd
04-25-2008, 08:30 AM
So you're usually out of town when you go out. I always like the guys that are out of towners and on business :)


Indulging in SCs has always been considered an out-of-town activity by me. If I were to start clubbing around where I live, I fear it would distract me too much from work, friends, hobbies, etc.

At least for me, strip clubbing is a garnish, not a meal (if that makes sense).

Taco Goblin
04-25-2008, 09:28 AM
I was just curious as to what you tell your SO when you go to the SC's? And how do you get that stripper smell off before you get home?

I don't have a SO at the moment, but if I did I guess I'm one of those weirdos that would stop going to clubs altogether if I had one. I've only been clubbing for about 3 years, and haven't had a SO during that time. Might be why I started up in the first place, using the clubs to fill a need on some level. Plus I can't imagine the fights that would result from the "Did any dancers touch your winky????" questions. Seems more simple to stop an activity that almost demands deception on some level.

Docido
04-25-2008, 04:51 PM
I don't go either if I have a significant other. I'm not very good at deception.


It's all good. I've had a lot of fun helping dancers get even with BFs who went to other clubs. :)

"I'm mad at my boyfriend" has always been an invitation to fun.

painintheworld
04-27-2008, 03:33 AM
My fiancee has went with me every time I have been for the last 7 years , the 8 years before that she was cool with me going.

Casual Observer
04-27-2008, 06:13 AM
I generally hit the clubs when I'm out of town, she's on the road, or I have some time to kill. Sometimes she accompanies, sometimes I'm solo.

It's not that big a deal..or at least it doesn't have to be.

Bob_Loblaw
04-27-2008, 09:53 AM
I've never lived with any of my SO's so it's never been an issue for me. I'm not much of a weekend SCJ either so it's not difficult to make a trip on a weekday evening.


"I'm mad at my boyfriend" has always been an invitation to fun.
Ain't that the truth!

UtahMike
04-27-2008, 09:33 PM
Now, Mrs. Gen doesn't like it. But she accepts it. We agree not to discuss it. If she gets curious, she asks and I answer simply with as little detail as possible. And we've come to make that work for us.


That's the way I operate, too. Except Mrs. UtahMike claims she doesn't mind, but then when she gets pissed off at me she uses it. So we are ina "Don't ask, don't tell" situation.

I never go to local clubs, and my favorite club happens to be in a town with an Indian casino, so I usually go there and lose $20, then go to the SC. I don't mention that I also go to a SC, and she doesn't ask.

UtahMike
04-27-2008, 09:36 PM
You join a 24-hour gym and stay in shape. You have duplicate clothes and a second (pre-pay) cell phone.

I've seen that before. Did you have a blog about visits to clubs?

jokerswild
04-29-2008, 06:51 AM
My wife goes with me. Sometimes I go by myself for lunch (if I'm off work). I grew up with the guy who runs the club, so that may have some bearing on why my wife does not care if I go without her. Hell, she knows more of the girls there than I do. NOTE: We've been married 31 years, so I guess we have gotten over the jealousy part.