View Full Version : So it happened to me...
head turner
04-28-2008, 12:48 PM
DON'T take my words out of context and read the whole thread......
NEVER WOULD EVER SAY IT IS HER FAULT. by asking her if she was drunk, i meant maybe part of her story is missing details or her reaction time was thrown off. NOT THAT SHE WAS SOMEHOW ASKING FOR IT OR WHATEVER.. FUCK, even if she was drunk it would never make her situation different.. rape is rape..
I was just trying to make sense of how that situation could happen as i stated many many times before.
VegasPrincess
04-29-2008, 09:49 AM
^^
Right...the guy grabbed her underwear and moved it....How hard is that to understand???
Starfire
04-29-2008, 10:30 AM
Some of the things being said in this thread are ridiculous. I have never been raped, but I have been assaulted, and the least helpful thing a person can do for a crime victim is "well....I would have <insert blank>....that could NEVER happen to me." Telling crime victims what they should have done, or how unlikely whatever it is that happened is, is not helpful. People saying this kind of stuff just makes it worse. No matter how unlikely it is, it happened to the OP and she needs support!
zxcire
04-29-2008, 10:42 AM
ShellyBelly I'm so sorry this happened to you.
You know what? To anyone who thinks it couldn't happen to them? It happened to me too. Luckily his penis didn't make it into my body, but let me tell you, things can happen fast fast fast and you never know how you will react in a situation until it actually happens to you.
A hard swift thrust of an erect penis can and will penetrate a woman's vagina, lubricated or not, with or without tearing, blood and pain. Don't think that it's not possible---because it absolutely is.
In my case, I was giving a dance, and I was turned around with my back to him and going to settle onto his lap, and he had undone his pants while I was turned around and pulled my thongs off to the side as I was bending down. I was not drunk. I was also not expecting to be the victim of an attempted rape at that very second. I do know it was NOT my fault that he took advantage of my nearness and my nudity.
I don't approach every man at work with the mindset that he could take advantage of me. It would be too emotionally exhausting and I would not be effective at my job. Being off my guard for a second almost cost me dearly. Still...it wasn't my fault, just as it wasn't Shelly's.
I also didn't file charges. It was a personal choice I made in the midst of a personal trauma.
VegasPrincess
04-29-2008, 10:43 AM
^^^
I am really sorry that happened to you, but thank you for sharing your story.....
zxcire
04-29-2008, 10:58 AM
^^^
I am really sorry that happened to you, but thank you for sharing your story.....
Word, of course, I hope it helps other people. I'm not ashamed of what happened to me anymore and I want other women to know the risk, and that it isn't their fault, ever.
To anyone who judges my actions, to anyone who thinks there's something that could have been done differently to prevent it, that's fine. You honestly will never know unless it happens to you, and I really really hope it doesn't, and you will never have to find out. It's not fun to realize your vulnerability. It really shakes up your world.
Electrum
04-29-2008, 11:00 AM
ShellyBelly I'm so sorry this happened to you.
You know what? To anyone who thinks it couldn't happen to them? It happened to me too. Luckily his penis didn't make it into my body, but let me tell you, things can happen fast fast fast and you never know how you will react in a situation until it actually happens to you.
A hard swift thrust of an erect penis can and will penetrate a woman's vagina, lubricated or not, with or without tearing, blood and pain. Don't think that it's not possible---because it absolutely is.
In my case, I was giving a dance, and I was turned around with my back to him and going to settle onto his lap, and he had undone his pants while I was turned around and pulled my thongs off to the side as I was bending down. I was not drunk. I was also not expecting to be the victim of an attempted rape at that very second. I do know it was NOT my fault that he took advantage of my nearness and my nudity.
I don't approach every man at work with the mindset that he could take advantage of me. It would be too emotionally exhausting and I would not be effective at my job. Being off my guard for a second almost cost me dearly. Still...it wasn't my fault, just as it wasn't Shelly's.
I also didn't file charges. It was a personal choice I made in the midst of a personal trauma.
I just want to emphasize one of your excelent points. It's SO true that you don't know how you will react in a situation until you experience it. You can theorize, scheme, and prepare all you want, but when it actually happens all of those ideas and assumptions can fly right out the fucking window. You have no idea until it actually happens. And even then, thanks to the flight or fight response, you still may not have as much control over the situation as you normally would without your body freaking out.
Anyhoo, I really hope the OP is ok. We haven't heard from her in awhile and something as horrifying as this can destroy a person if they don't get the support they need and deserve. OP- please let us know if you're ok? Even though there has been some "drama" on this thread I'm sure that everybody here is genuinely concerned about your well-being. Hang in there!
zxcire
04-29-2008, 11:04 AM
I just want to emphasize one of your excelent points. It's SO true that you don't know how you will react in a situation until you experience it. You can theorize, scheme, and prepare all you want, but when it actually happens all of those ideas and assumptions can fly right out the fucking window. You have no idea until it actually happens. And even then, thanks to the flight or fight response, you still may not have as much control over the situation as you normally would without your body freaking out.
QFT. I remember all I could think when I felt, and then looked down and saw his cock was "oh my god that's his cock. oh my god" it barely registered what was happening, like I couldn't take it all in at that moment. It was all I could do to tell myself, yes literally I had to tell myself to get up off of him. I actually didn't realize how close I was to being raped until he was gone.
Alia_of_the_Knife
04-29-2008, 11:09 AM
:hug: So sorry that happened to you dear. Remember it was NOT your fault at all. It could have happened to any of us.
You know what? To anyone who thinks it couldn't happen to them? It happened to me too. Luckily his penis didn't make it into my body, but let me tell you, things can happen fast fast fast and you never know how you will react in a situation until it actually happens to you.
QFT!!!
head turner
04-29-2008, 01:06 PM
^^
Right...the guy grabbed her underwear and moved it....How hard is that to understand???
really easy once it is explained futher down in the thread .::)
Pretty_Penny
04-29-2008, 01:18 PM
holy fuck. :(
i would have beaten him relentlessly, had someone detain him, and called the police.
of course.... that's what i THINK i would have done. no one can say unless they are in the situation. :(
i had a guy pull his out once when i had my back turned to him.. i went down to sit in his lap and he stuck it right on my inner thigh. i was fucking -mortified-.
that's exactly when i stopped working in full contact clubs.
AlexxaHex
04-29-2008, 02:15 PM
In my case, I was giving a dance, and I was turned around with my back to him and going to settle onto his lap, and he had undone his pants while I was turned around and pulled my thongs off to the side as I was bending down. I was not drunk. I was also not expecting to be the victim of an attempted rape at that very second. I do know it was NOT my fault that he took advantage of my nearness and my nudity.
This happened to me too, except I was giving a nude dance. Dude waited til I was turned around and had his naked dick out and waiting for me to sit on it. I'm thankful I caught myself before that happened.