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youngBUTbanking
04-30-2008, 12:53 AM
Sorry that happened to you.

If you aren't feeling the cops thing (which you definitely should) ..get one of your guy friends to slap him around so he gets the point to never do that again..Nothing beats having the ass be put in jail, but him getting his ass beat won't hurt either..

seraya
04-30-2008, 12:55 AM
Wow twister how awful! I am so sorry you had to exp that hun.

I hope that once you press charges that fucker is thrown in jail.

Please be careful!

twisterinAZ
04-30-2008, 02:11 AM
I don't know what to say about my experience . I am conflicted. It is painful, isolating, confusing and disturbung to the core.

Did I ask for this ? Am I the whore he says I am ? Did I bring this on myself ?

I am covered in bruises and everyone wants to know what I did. Jesus.......

francescadubois
04-30-2008, 03:20 AM
I don't know what to say about my experience . I am conflicted. It is painful, isolating, confusing and disturbung to the core.

Did I ask for this ? Am I the whore he says I am ? Did I bring this on myself ?

I am covered in bruises and everyone wants to know what I did. Jesus.......

What do you mean everyone wants to know what you did? You mean people are askin what you did to get assaulted by a big ass fucking man?!!>:( Geezus!!

Press charges, like everyone else says. If nothing happens call the men in your family to pistol whip him.


And no, I'm not fucking joking. You didn't deserve this. I'm so sorry. :hug: Maybe get outta town for a while?

twisterinAZ
04-30-2008, 04:19 AM
^^^ People just want to know what happened. As in, what set him off. See that's what I thought. What did I do ? I refuse to date someone so he beats me ????

I just took a bunch of photos of my own injuries. They are disturbing and sad . I feel so alone.

twisterinAZ
04-30-2008, 04:21 AM
And taking photos of yourself is not easy. The bruises look worse on camera..or maybe I am talking myself out of the severity of the attack....:-[ /:O

twisterinAZ
04-30-2008, 04:53 AM
I'm having a really difficult time with this and I'm embarrassed to admit that because normally I am pretty strong and I hate that I feel weak now.

pixiepower329
04-30-2008, 05:55 AM
People always wonder why battered women stay with their tormentors.... this is one reason why.

We as females seem to always blame ourselves when bad things happen, almost as though its part of our psyche.... Twister, you did NOTHING... NOTHING... N-O-T-H-I-N-G to deserve this. Don't let some fucking douche-cunt make you feel you are worth any less than the best.

Don't sweat feeling weak... its a lot to go through. I remember when my ex pushed me down a flight of steps, took me a long time to see that it was not my fault. Although you were not dating him or in a relationship with him, you are still going through the thoughts and feelings that a battered woman tends to go through. I'd advise you talk to a counselor... going through an assault commited by a once trusted friend is akin to going through a rape.... don't try to get through all the feelings on your own.

saphire123456
04-30-2008, 12:34 PM
We as females seem to always blame ourselves when bad things happen, almost as though its part of our psyche.... Twister, you did NOTHING... NOTHING... N-O-T-H-I-N-G to deserve this. Don't let some fucking douche-cunt make you feel you are worth any less than the best.

I'd advise you talk to a counselor... going through an assault commited by a once trusted friend is akin to going through a rape.... don't try to get through all the feelings on your own.

yes i agree completely, and make that fucker pay, so he has it on his record and can't do it to anyone else

VegasPrincess
04-30-2008, 12:43 PM
^^^ People just want to know what happened. As in, what set him off. See that's what I thought. What did I do ? I refuse to date someone so he beats me ????

I just took a bunch of photos of my own injuries. They are disturbing and sad . I feel so alone.

Aw :(

That is really really crappie. I'm sorry girl....


:cow: :cow: :cow:

(Maybe its just bc I'm from WI, but cows always cheer me up. More than puppies)

Optimist
04-30-2008, 12:58 PM
You need to get to the hospital to get treatment and further documentation of this. I'm so sorry this shit happened. You Have the RIGHT to decided who you will or won't date. Get a lawyer's advice too so you'll know how to handle everything that's coming up with the case and you'll have more support in the coming weeks. DON'T WAIT! Waiting makes your claims look weaker.

Assaults by men against women do spike during hard economic times so we're all at greater risk but you did the right thing in being honest with him. I wish you had done it over the phone and cut his crazy ass out of your life but who knew!

virgoamm
04-30-2008, 02:45 PM
I'm so sorry that happened to you. :hug: But, I'm confused as to why the police didn't arrest him? I thought that most police departments nowadays automatically arrested someone when domestic violence calls are placed. I looked at some info on Arizona here. (http://phoenix.gov/POLICE/dvlear1.html) Just some of what the site said:

There are provisions in the domestic violence law which permit police officers to arrest the offender based on evidence that an offense has occurred. The officer does not have to witness the offense. This law also provides that an offender may be arrested even if the victim is unwilling to press charges. These are important factors in protecting the victims from repeated violence and helps to break the cycle of abuse.

TheSexKitten
04-30-2008, 04:05 PM
That's horrible!! I'm glad you're okay! Holy shit...

You deserved negative infinity percent of this, so PLEASE DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF AT ALL.

I'm glad to hear you're pressing charges, and I hope that worthless piece of shit gets what's coming to him. :hug:

Stay strong!

twisterinAZ
04-30-2008, 05:35 PM
So he told a mutual friend of ours that I was on Ambien and drinking and he was really worried about me and he is so sad that I would say that he did those things to me. I think she believes him ! I don't even have any Ambien ! I quit taking that a while ago.

Ugh. I can see where this is going. I guess the fact that he has a criminal history and a history of abusing women will work in my favor.

God, what a psycho fuck.

AND WHY HASN'T HE BEEN ARRESTED ?????????????????

RoseLeigh
04-30-2008, 06:20 PM
So he told a mutual friend of ours that I was on Ambien and drinking and he was really worried about me and he is so sad that I would say that he did those things to me. I think she believes him ! I don't even have any Ambien ! I quit taking that a while ago.

Ugh. I can see where this is going. I guess the fact that he has a criminal history and a history of abusing women will work in my favor.

God, what a psycho fuck.

AND WHY HASN'T HE BEEN ARRESTED ?????????????????

Maybe you need to call the police and find out why? I don't get it either.

hardkandee
04-30-2008, 06:42 PM
OMG this is terrible. :'(

Please don't let up on the police and make sure you stand your ground. With a history of this abusive behavior they should have him behind bars now.

None of this was your fault and you can't blame yourself for any of it. And if any mutual friends choose to believe his bullshit that you're on Ambien and drinking and making this shit up, you need to protect yourself from them too. >:(

twisterinAZ
04-30-2008, 08:38 PM
They are supposed to be on their way over here but I've been waiting for hours now.

Chrissy68
05-01-2008, 11:34 AM
Update us. I hope you're feeling a wee bit better. After my ex beat me up I had the same thought as you, feeling so weak when I'm normally so strong.
:hug:

what a douche that guy is. My ex did the same shit, making stuff up like I made it up, and like I embellished shit. Fuck that, stand your ground girl!

Luxurious1
05-01-2008, 11:37 AM
Im sorry this happened and I hope it gets cleared up asap.

Optimist
05-01-2008, 11:53 AM
I've found it's best to call them as soon as something like this happens. When you can't it's best to go to the local precinct/station/district in person. I've gotten very fast results that way. The cops see a pretty, distraught woman and the macho motivates them. Stay on 'em girl! They WILL respond. Also, if you happpen to be on his block and see that he s home you can call right then from your cell and tell them this guy who did this is back in town right now....

twisterinAZ
05-01-2008, 04:32 PM
So they came and took more pictures of me since everything is starting to really bruise. I can't work like this . It's embarrasing. I suppose I could tell customers that I fell in the shower or someething lame like that but I don't feel sexy and outgoing at all. I went to bed at midnight last night and I had to force myself out of bed just now at 4 30pm. I can't stop thinking about the whole incident and the thought of his nasty face just makes me feel sick to my stomach...

Hello_Kitty27
05-01-2008, 04:45 PM
Oh wow ... first of all, I'm glad you're OK, relatively speaking of course. What a disgusting fucktard. That is a sorry and pathetic excuse of a man. Can you imagine what he'd do in the future if you guys dated?

Look, you did NOT bring this on yourself. You are NOT defeated. You have NOTHING to be embarassed of (although I could see where you're coming from on these points and others). Really though, just know that you did nothing wrong, you're not alone. Sadly, this happens to a lot of women. I truly can't imagine what you are feeling, perhaps you can see a therapist to figure out how to cope with such an experience and move on from it?

:hugs:

Stay strong, definitely pursue this in court....do whatever it takes to land his scummy ass in jail. And to your friend that might believe him ... I almost wanna say fuck her. Even if there was ambien involved or whatever else, that gives him ZERO right to lay a hand on you, and I would find it hard to believe you would do that to yourself.

Oh - and document document document. Every phone call, every attempt of contact....every detail. Dates, times, everything.

greenidlady1
05-01-2008, 06:12 PM
Time to get rid of him. Friends don't punch you in the face. And are you okay?

Please don't accept any calls or visits from him. It'll get worse if you continue with it. He needs serious help if he can't handle rejection any better than that.

I so sorry to hear about this though. Feel better...:hug:

snoopy
05-01-2008, 08:18 PM
it's not your fault by any stretch of the imagination. he's responsible for his own actions. it's not your fault that guy is a waste of human genetic material.

did you tell the cops he's been calling and calling? they should really be a little more proactive here. how difficult is it to pick this guy up for assault and battery? sheesh.

be safe!

LoveSexMoney
05-01-2008, 08:56 PM
:hug:

Lena
05-01-2008, 10:19 PM
Is he arrested? You can go straight to the DA, at this point, fuck the police.

Did the police give you any info about support that's available? If not, they suck. If you're in Tucson there's a sliding scale fee support group and I think there's a victims of violent crimes compensation fund that pays for counseling.

You definitely didn't deserve this. Everything you're talking about feeling is totally normal - you're supposed to be really traumatized.

twisterinAZ
05-01-2008, 11:31 PM
I know I keep posting and posting but I dont really have any other outlet for what I am feelilng. I was at a little spot by my house and a girl I knew saw my bruises and was like, " What in the fuck happened to you ?" The only thing I could come up with for strangers in the winebar is, "I fell ."

What then, never leave the house ? Fuck that. I'm so frustrated.

Bellona
05-01-2008, 11:58 PM
That really sucks.. I would just be honest, maybe thats what you need? Just tell people what happened..that some psycho freak couldn't handle that you rejected him and flipped on you.
You shouldn't feel ashamed, you didn't do anything wrong.

fancygirl
05-02-2008, 01:24 AM
I was punched in the face full force with a closed fist by a grown man. He then proceeded to pull a TV off the wall and started tearing glass framed pictures off the wall . There were dishes in the sink and he threw a bottle of pasta sauce in them shattering all my plates and the bottle of sauce. He even threw a bottle of vodka in to add to the destruction all the time calling me a whore , bitch slut ,cunt

I called 911 in tears and he peeled out of the driveway before the police arrived. So basically he hit me as hard as he could and then trashed my house.

All of this because I don't want a relationship with him. I explained that he isn't my type and I don't have feelings for him that way . He told me to "get humble and stop dating rich dudes and athletes "

Fuck . Just becuse im not interested, is it necessary to knock me out and trash my possesions ? I'm so freaked out right now......This guy has been a friend for 15 years.>:(

he was never a friend. he was that disgusting lying-in-wait (and yes I use that spelling on purpose) turds who's hoping if he plays nice long enough he can friend you into a fuck or a relationship.

twisterinAZ
05-02-2008, 01:29 AM
^^^ You're right. It hurts in more ways than one. I'm looking at all my guy friends thinking, "could he do that ?"

It's weird.