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virgoamm
05-05-2008, 09:26 AM
If I were the op, I would give my man up until I was 30 to "do something about it", then I might pursue different options IF having children were that important to me. I know relationships are give and take, but denying your desire to have kids and get married and such is a HUUUUUGE compromise. It really does fall on you and how badly you want it.

I agree with this wholeheartedly. I unfortunately spent the vast majority of my dating life in bad relationships, the last of which lasted for nine years-from 20-29. All of my friends are either married or have kids, and I never thought that I would be the last one standing. :(

Now, I'm pushing 31 and I can't waste any more time. I want children, period and no matter how great a guy may be that I meet, if he doesn't want that as well it's an absolute deal breaker for me. Luckily, I met the absoluteltyfuckinggreatestmanontheplanet and we've been together for almost a year now and are headed in that direction. :)

Sindi
05-05-2008, 11:04 AM
seriously. this is going to come off as concieted but its not meant to be that way..

im 28. ive wanted to be married to a wonderful man and have a baby since i was 25. i feel so left out. i feel like if i were ugly that it would be sort of like an asshole filter because obviously whoever gets with you is going to have to love you for your personality and for who you really are not just the way you look. which face it ladies can be a huge downfall, even though most lesser attractive people will argue with you on that one.

i know beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all but still.

im just depressed. bleh.


Beauty is a curse baby doll , I know , I feel the same way ......I just posted a blog on myspace about needing a guy who is strong enough to believe that I love him .....just because I am cute on the outside doesnt mean that I want someone who is rich or wakes up doing crunches ......I want love too , I havent met a man strong enough to trust in my love and it sucks.....I think the guy I just met is already spooked and running .....

I wanted to write a damn book once , I was going to call it Beauty is ugly or the ugly side of beautiful , something like that ......

I wear an engagement ring out in public alot because I feel like it deflects some unwanted attention .......I feel for you , PM me anytime ....we can start a club !!!

msonyxorb
05-06-2008, 03:38 AM
Um assholes hit on ugly girls too because ugly girls "try harder" and so are easier to take advantage of.
Seriously you are insane. Being ugly isn't going to solve anything. In fact I wish I was loads prettier, life would be so much easier. Trust me ugly people have a much harder time in life than pretty people, and its a lot easier to find a good guy when you have loads of guys to pick from, so I don't know why you are complaining.
And if you don't want to be stared at, don't stand out. Go out without makeup and wear loose fitting clothing and no one is going to bother you, no matter how pretty you are

Lysondra
05-06-2008, 03:39 AM
Um assholes hit on ugly girls too because ugly girls "try harder" and so are easier to take advantage of.
Seriously you are insane. I'd rather die than be ugly. In fact I wish I was loads prettier, life would be so much easier.

Didn't you just say that men who like primped chicks are assholes?

A lot of men are assholes, aren't they?

msonyxorb
05-06-2008, 03:43 AM
^^No, but a lot of guys see hot girls as 'not the marrying kind'.
I think you are reffering to girls who dress up a lot and wear a lot of makeup, are high maintanence, etc.
"hot" is something you can change. Hot can be slutty and a turn off especially when it comes to marriage, but the OP isn't talking about hot she is talking about her god given beauty.
Every guy would love to be with a BEAUTIFUL girl.

msonyxorb
05-06-2008, 03:55 AM
Didn't you just say that men who like primped chicks are assholes?

A lot of men are assholes, aren't they?

Primped= fake beauty

being naturally beautiful though doesnt make you an asshole target
being a fake overly made up girl, might, but that has nothing to do with beauty and a lot to do with looking "hot" or "slutty" or "easy"

Lysondra
05-06-2008, 04:32 AM
That's really gotta suck if you're not a natural beauty, man. :/

jaizaine
05-06-2008, 04:56 AM
Primped= fake beauty

being naturally beautiful though doesnt make you an asshole target
being a fake overly made up girl, might, but that has nothing to do with beauty and a lot to do with looking "hot" or "slutty" or "easy"

I don't agree with this at all. I think being well groomed and wearing tasteful make-up (by tasteful i mean natural looking, minimal) and having your hair done is beautiful. There is nothing fake or tarty about it.

christian211
05-06-2008, 07:33 AM
If you don't have the natural beauty to begin w/, no amount of primping is going to make you look like a model. You ever see some of those makeover shows? Most of those people still aren't pretty after the makeover. They just look neater and better kept....

msonyxorb
05-06-2008, 11:22 AM
I don't agree with this at all. I think being well groomed and wearing tasteful make-up (by tasteful i mean natural looking, minimal) and having your hair done is beautiful. There is nothing fake or tarty about it.
but it should not be something that you are forced to do to keep your bf interested. a guy who isnt an ass will think you're beautiful even in your ugly moments
and for the most part i am talking about girls who wear makeup and hair as if they are going clubbing 24/7.

msonyxorb
05-06-2008, 11:23 AM
If you don't have the natural beauty to begin w/, no amount of primping is going to make you look like a model. You ever see some of those makeover shows? Most of those people still aren't pretty after the makeover. They just look neater and better kept....
You're right, but guys are less picky than girls and they seem to think- fit body with fake tan and tons of makeup= hot. I mean you should know this being a stripper and all, you probably are around tons of girls who have naturally ugly faces but are still considered pretty by the customers because of how made up they are.

RoseLeigh
05-06-2008, 11:26 AM
And if you don't want to be stared at, don't stand out. Go out without makeup and wear loose fitting clothing and no one is going to bother you, no matter how pretty you are

So not true for any woman. Now can we drop it? The OP has asked it to be dropped. Please, feel free to start your own thread if you want to continue with your arguing.

Vyanka
05-06-2008, 11:31 AM
I smell troll.

BalletBaby
05-06-2008, 02:47 PM
I wish I had the curse of beauty.

Luxurious1
05-06-2008, 03:11 PM
^ me to!

beauty21queen
05-06-2008, 03:59 PM
I want to see pics of msonyxorb

Dottie Rebel
05-06-2008, 05:16 PM
You're right, but guys are less picky than girls and they seem to think- fit body with fake tan and tons of makeup= hot. I mean you should know this being a stripper and all, you probably are around tons of girls who have naturally ugly faces but are still considered pretty by the customers because of how made up they are.

I gotta say I agree with this.

A chick with a busted face will never lack for attention as long as she has a too-dark fake tan, fried bleached or died hair, and too much makeup. I see it every night.

MixedBabe88
05-06-2008, 05:31 PM
it's ok sometimes i wish i was fat so i could eat whatever i want.}:D

Sorry you are depressed, do not be sad you have plenty of time for a family in the future.

But if you were fat and could eat whatever you wanted, you'd just get fatter.
I wish I was naturally skinny and could eat whatever I wanted lol

exotica17
05-06-2008, 11:19 PM
Gee, I must be super ugly--I was married twice and had a kid by 26, haha! Maybe that's why those guys married me--come to think of it, I don't recall them ever saying that I was pretty. Seriously, I do beg to differ regarding your theory. 'Pretty' people are usually married people with children. Denying that fact is like someone saying that women never get approached in bars because of being so 'good-looking' that they are intimidating. It doesn't happen. People tell me that that is the reason I don't get approached by women in bars. I don't believe one inkling of it. You will find your guy. :) And just as the others have said, don't wish such aweful things upon yourself. Best wishes. : )


Oops--didn't see the "drop it" post. Either way, good luck, doll!